Tega4B:
Ok.Tx for Reading.

Av been in a relationship with my so called bf for about a year nw. Heaven knws I love him, about a month ago I got pregnant and he insisted dat I kip d pregnancy.

My problem is,after much questioning on y he's finding it so difficult to tell his parents,he opened up to me dat he got bck with his x nd dey are planning on getting married in December shocked .

Am frm a very responsible home,if my mum gets to find out she would insist dat we get married(I dnt want it to look like am forcing him on me).
Am jst few months old in my first job after school,still tryin to settle.If my boss gets to find out its a 50/50 chance of me loosing my job.

Being a baby mama is nt an option for me. Do I keep dis baby n go to his parents or Get rid of it n move on with my life.

cyrilamx:
you are heartless n evil. If the devil has more honour than you. What has gone wrong with us human? Is it not bad enough to sin against God by having pre-marital sex? Must we continue to spurn him by brutally killing a child simply because we want to live as we please? What do we expect when we indulge in the very act that leads to pro-creation and yet turn around to destroy the fruit of such act? Ain't we worse than animals? Do animals destroy it's own kind in the womb? You smartly called the Baby in the womb 'thing' just to mitigate the evil you pushing her to commit. What a shame you are to womanhood. Mind you, there is no escape...you just shared in her murderous sin...intent to murder in the eyes of our loving Creator. May your kind never know the beauty and joy of motherhood if you so callous to advise another to kill her own unborn child. Shame to our generation for this "culture of death" we promote despite calling ourselves Christians.

cyrilamx:
There is virtually no reason a woman and man should commit abortion. Abortion is not just sin against God, but it has grave emotional trauma on those who carry out this evil. Am not a saint in this regard...in 2002, my sister successfully crossed into Spain from Morroco with pregnancy. On getting to Barcelona, she wanted to go for abortion which we all advised. But God so kind, the evil couldn't be perpetrated because the doctor warned that not only does his Catholic Faith forbids such but the way the Baby is attached to her womb, she can't get pregnant anymore should she destroy this one. Well since she knew the bini guy involved who also crossed into Italy. Having lost our mom so early in fatal road accident, and since my dad would hear nothing about her pregnancy, we (my aunt, younger sister and I) went to her lover's family here in Benin based on the info she gave us. The family though admitted that their son told them he got a gurl pregnant were not in anyway ratifying the union nor taking responsibility for the Unborn baby...there was no progress in the talk. So it was really tough for her raising the child as single mum. I could count several times I have to encourage her as she complained to me on phone that she was tired of life and going to abandoned the child. However, reason prevailed.
Well fast tracked to 2013 when she visited with the boy now turned eleven years and with another baby girl she now carrying as a married woman. When I held the boy in my hand, hot tears ran than my cheek. I could not believe I was almost party to the decision to destroy this young and bountiful life simply because he was a 'stumbling' block to our anticipatory enjoyment of euro. I wept and asked God to forgive me. The little boy was surprised and asked uncle, 'why are you crying?'...only her mum understood. Today he is 14yrs already playing football for an amateur side in Spain. If not for the mercy of God that sweet life would have been wasted. I brought this up so we all...guys and babes to learn that abortion is evil. Having committed sexual Sins, should we compound our woeful situation before God by killing?

CrazyQuinn:
and please tell me what crime did Jesus commit to warrant such gruesome brutish death as sacrifice for peace and prosperity?

CrazyQuinn:
So? sometimes in life you just have to sacrifice something for the benefit of many, it's called logic it will result to peace and prosperity

CrazyQuinn:
Get rid ASAP if you know what is Good for your life

CrazyQuinn:
how many have I what?

Tega4B:
Ok.Tx for Reading.

Av been in a relationship with my so called bf for about a year nw. Heaven knws I love him, about a month ago I got pregnant and he insisted dat I kip d pregnancy.

My problem is,after much questioning on y he's finding it so difficult to tell his parents,he opened up to me dat he got bck with his x nd dey are planning on getting married in December shocked .

Am frm a very responsible home,if my mum gets to find out she would insist dat we get married(I dnt want it to look like am forcing him on me).
Am jst few months old in my first job after school,still tryin to settle.If my boss gets to find out its a 50/50 chance of me loosing my job.

Being a baby mama is nt an option for me. Do I keep dis baby n go to his parents or Get rid of it n move on with my life.

femi4:
how many abortions have you done?

Horsesmouth:
If you got pregnant by having unprotected sex, that's cause and effect.

It is amazing how you are making the innocent boyfriend out to be the villain. He was open and honest to tell you he is getting married to his ex. This means that you were aware of his ex to start with.

Then u r a Hoe. Go and abort the baby you are trying to force on the guy, don't break up a happy home. If he saw you as no Hoe, trust me, he wouldn't get back with his ex without telling you.

bennyrazz:
why did you have to write "Yoruba deemon" and include no offense when you actually intended the offense. I can relate to reasons why he did not deem you fit to be his wife. This may just be part of the reasons. Coming from a responsible home doesn't make you responsible. Responsibility is a personal decision. I'm not scolding you but you are certainly going to leave with this scar if you abort for the rest of your life. You would have killed a full humanbeing. Now you pregnant with no hubby, that's bring shame to your family and stigma to yourself. You can pray to God to make you lose the pregnancy or get your mother involved while you chase after who got you pregnant. Marrying him though doesn't guarantee a happy marriage cuz he might not be happy with you. From the look of things, you were not a baby, how you got pregnant shows your carelessness. You engage in premarital sex and you get caught in the hook. I wish you luck sha cuz your only saving grace now is if you loose the pregnancy naturally, if not, welcome to the world of single mothers.

tbliss22:


Hello, baby mama to be!!
Don't be surprised because that's just what u will be in 8months time. The wise ones here have spoken, abort the child and become a MURDERER or keep the child and become a happy mother with perfect care from this same baby.

Don't tell me this took you as a shock because you got bleeped without protection, it's obviously not your first time so why shivering to face the consequence. You also knew this guy never truly loved you in the first place because he only came to use you to service his joystick pending when he will settle his differences with his real girl friend.

I also suggest you let the supposed new wife be aware that her man has a baby inside you already, if she must go ahead getting married to him, at least she should be aware he has a child outside the marriage.

As per your parent, let them know every detailed truth, I'm sure they want the best for you even when you've committed an error.

I wish you all the best and this should be a lesson to all the ladies in the house, if you must have sex with him make sure u use condom and I advice you conduct so many test of love on your man and also ask plenty of questions about him from everybody you know connected to him (his church, friends, his mum, his ex, his childhood friends & his neighbors)

Horsesmouth:


Why the foul language? What makes him a modaforker?

When all you girls are screaming: yes! yes!! Yes!!! fork me!!! yes!!!! ahhhhh!!!! Uhmmmm!!!
The guys arent modaforkers then right?

sambisa5:


we all kept, accusing and blaming the girl.....no one is talking about the guy who still got in touch with his ex and then was having unprotected sex with another girl,,,what was he expecting, a miracle, that she will never get pregnant......? I think the guy is more to be blamed......this is how this worthless guys roam about putting some mu.mu girls into serious trouble.

Raymarkable:
People are so quick to giving advices ba. If you as a female where in her shoes do you think it will be so easy to say KEEP IT. You are pregnant for a guy getting married to another female in December. How do you think people will view her. What happens to her after the child is born. If she looses her job because of the pregnancy. How will she care for herself and her child. No one has the right to advice you on keeping or removing. My advice. Weigh your options. If there is more loss for you. Than possible gain then remove it. The country is hard enough. But if you are strong enough for what comes then keep the baby. You should know exactly what you getting into. But be rational and be sensitive too. All this people shouting keep it keep it. Are not going to give you a penny or face the struggle with you. Best of luck.

CrazyQuinn:
If I were in her shoes, it won't be worth it to me ..... and you are actually being selfish because the child will be traumatized emotionally for the rest of his/her life because he/she doesn't have a dad

Jay542:

Nice One Sir. Good morning

CrazyQuinn:
Get rid ASAP if you know what is Good for your life

yvelchstores:
its amazing how quick u are to tell her to" get rid of..." in order words, u are saying "kill that baby fast...." u shld really be careful. on behalf of d unborn child, receive forgiveness and pls no more

Tega4B:
Ok.Tx for Reading.

Av been in a relationship with my so called bf for about a year nw. Heaven knws I love him, about a month ago I got pregnant and he insisted dat I kip d pregnancy.

My problem is,after much questioning on y he's finding it so difficult to tell his parents,he opened up to me dat he got bck with his x nd dey are planning on getting married in December shocked .

Am frm a very responsible home,if my mum gets to find out she would insist dat we get married(I dnt want it to look like am forcing him on me).
Am jst few months old in my first job after school,still tryin to settle.If my boss gets to find out its a 50/50 chance of me loosing my job.

Being a baby mama is nt an option for me. Do I keep dis baby n go to his parents or Get rid of it n move on with my life.

Tega4B:
Ok.Tx for Reading.

Av been in a relationship with my so called bf for about a year nw. Heaven knws I love him, about a month ago I got pregnant and he insisted dat I kip d pregnancy.

My problem is,after much questioning on y he's finding it so difficult to tell his parents,he opened up to me dat he got bck with his x nd dey are planning on getting married in December shocked .

Am frm a very responsible home,if my mum gets to find out she would insist dat we get married(I dnt want it to look like am forcing him on me).
Am jst few months old in my first job after school,still tryin to settle.If my boss gets to find out its a 50/50 chance of me loosing my job.

Being a baby mama is nt an option for me. Do I keep dis baby n go to his parents or Get rid of it n move on with my life.