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sweetcocoa:
You didn't answer my question sukkot, don't evade.

Can one laugh at a dumb statement while calling it dumb, both in speech and writing? This is not about how I write.

There is no controversy whatsoever in that post, if I was taking a jab at cococandy, wouldn't it be beyond stupid to defend the baby in the manner I did while calling the OP a hater and stupid in the 'plainest' of words?

Ofcourse not everyone will agree, people are disagreeing on rape, how much more a post about a baby's looks, you forget that majority of the world is daft, pity you fall into that lot today.

Sukkot, you disappoint me terribly.

My weekend is going swell, yours?

come on. stop playing dumb. you know what you did. just admit to it. you took a passive aggressive jab at cococandy. in fact cococandy we need you here to tell us how you felt when you saw sweetcocoas post. that ought to clear this right up.

my weekend going mighty fine mademoiselle sweetcocoa

OP...so you got there before the rape happened, patiently watched it happen( because I don't believe this co-ck and bull crap of you not knowing what was going on while you waited, you might even have jerked off watching the insanity of your friend ). WHY DIDNT YOU STOP YOUR FRIEND THE MINUTE YOU WALKED IN ON HIS MADNESS? YOU WAITED FOR HIM TO FINISH MANIFESTING HIS DEPRAVITY ON THE GIRL BEFORE YOU CALLED OUT TO HIM THAT YOU WERE AROUND. You and your friend are siiiiiick!! I can't even imagine..how much did your friend spend on the girl? How much?! So spending on a girl automatically translates to having sex with her? Sick sick siiiiiiiick!!

CrazyQuinn:
take a chill pill please, I'm just saying my mind. If my comment offend you, I'm sorry all I'm saying is, she shouldn't have taken the gift because she should know when guys give out something, they will always want something in return. At least now she will learn her lesson

Not everybody reason this way and not every guy want something in return when they buy a girl something

joseph1832ng:
Not everybody reason this way and not every guy want something in return when they buy a girl something

okay, my sincere apologies for generalizing

Well i read most replies here and smiled...either way i only have two comments"

1. If i had a sister and she came home to tell me because a dude spent some quid on her and she didnt drop her undies then the guy did this? well i would detach his body from his soul, then i would let my Rotts defile his brothers anvs.

2. You shoulda done something when you first noticed what was happening, its called emotional intelligence, al you had to do was diplomatically stop him from raping her then even make him apologise and pay for her damaged clothes, irrespective of what you think you are an accomplice in this.

You messed up man, you are a disgrace to real men. We all know most Nigerian women are greedy and manipulative but, that is no excuse for rape.

Now to all of you saying she had it coming you all are probably gonna have daughters some day or you may have sisters, becareful the words you spew even when joking.

I do not condone rape or violence against women of any kind, if you are tough step up to a man like me.

Weak men everywhere in this country

whizcartel:
Yeah I understand. I was was actually talking about prosecuting the case. his post would be used as an evidence against his friend and him. I'm already speaking to a human right lawyer and my dad, he is police officer and also a human right activist. he was very wrong not stopping the illegal act.

Can you find OP? If there is no complainant, how will he be prosecuted? Someone has to admit that she has been raped before they can be charged to court right? Hopefully the girl will see these posts and supply all the information needed.

CrazyQuinn:
okay, my sincere apologies for generalizing

Apology not required as your opinion, which you're entitled to, didn't offend me.

My day has been so messed up. I went to see a friend of mine in his house. I was surprised the door wasn't locked and even the gate wasn't locked. I decided to help myself to a drink from his bar as soon as I entered the living room. As I was about serving myself, something told me to check on him in his room to see if he's there. As I approached his room I started hearing sounds. I decided to know what the noise was all about without making a sound.

Only for me to see a girl begging my friend to please have mercy on her and my friend was telling her to shut-up and comply. He was even beating the girl and have even torn her clothes. The girl was weeping bitterly and after about 20mins I decided to pretend I was just coming in by calling his name. He then told me to please wait for him in the living room. He joined me in the living room after about 10mins. I asked why he was breathing heavily and he told me that he just finished having sex with a girl. I confronted him with the truth and he opened up. He said he has been dating this girl for and that he has been spending money on her but she refused him sex. He said he used today's incident to recover all the money he has spent on her.

I'm really stuck between the devil and deep blue sea right now. The girl in question wants me to help report the issue to the police cos she's scared of being stigmatized. On the otherhand, the guy in question is my childhood friend. I can't imagine snitching on my homie and brother. I know it's wrong for him to have raped her but why would a girl be demanding for stuffs from a guy when she knows she's not willing to play ball.

Oga free that Nigga the babe deserves it

how's it my business? When she was busy eating free money did she remember that awoof set turn belle?

YOU ARE EVIL

thekingisback:
From the Op's write-up, no crime whatsoever was committed here. I also noticed some of you here screaming NGOS and Human Rights activists should be contacted. Contacted over what? Was her hands or legs tied and taken to the guy's house? Why would she be collecting money and gifts if she knew she wasn't willing to return the favour? As for his friend, he committed no crime. He decided not to meddle in their business and the last time I checked that wasn't a crime under the Nigerian constitution.

What a logic...Rape is a Crime and the OP watched it all go down!! There's nothing like minding his business, why didn't he walk out of the house? He stayed there comfortably and waited or even watched his friend rape a woman and you're talking about minding "his business"?

CrazyQuinn:
take a chill pill please, I'm just saying my mind. If my comment offend you, I'm sorry all I'm saying is, she shouldn't have taken the gift because she should know when guys give out something, they will always want something in return. At least now she will learn her lesson

What you still fail to realise, is that your comment gives rapists/ potential rapists an edge over their victims, in fact you endorsed rape and that is highly offensive.

You or anyone else have no place to say whether she should take gifts or not, that decision is hers and hers alone to make and there should be no consequences whatsoever for accepting a gift, fvcking key word here is "gift".

Gifts are free, unless otherwise stated, it is very fallacious to assume that any man that gives you a gift expects something in return, and in an event where they expect, there is no onus on you to give something back, while one good turn deserves another, committing a crime to get your supposed deserved favour is unjustifiable, reason it's called a crime in the first place.

The fact that the world crawls with useless/evil people, is no reason to try to make excuses for crimes committed.

Y'all should get some education please.

seriously, where is it written in the Nigerian constitution that if I see something and I choose to turn my face away become a crime?

my guy don't mind these puccis

Pascalville:
really... Don't start this here pls...why will u collect money from someone...is he her father

And why will he spend on a woman he is not married to? Is he a father Christmas?
Be careful with your utterances young man.

Rape should be condemned and discouraged in its entirety. I often imagine the pleasure derived during this forced intercourse, since it's not mutual.
OP your friend deserves nothing but being nailed. The best he could have done was to walk away or stop the spending on this babe.
Men should learn how to govern their emotions. It could be terribly appealing but temporarily satisfying. The misdirected anger could land him in jail next time if he escapes this.
For you OP,let the lady report the case.

My day has been so messed up. I went to see a friend of mine in his house. I was surprised the door wasn't locked and even the gate wasn't locked. I decided to help myself to a drink from his bar as soon as I entered the living room. As I was about serving myself, something told me to check on him in his room to see if he's there. As I approached his room I started hearing sounds. I decided to know what the noise was all about without making a sound.

Only for me to see a girl begging my friend to please have mercy on her and my friend was telling her to shut-up and comply. He was even beating the girl and have even torn her clothes. The girl was weeping bitterly and after about 20mins I decided to pretend I was just coming in by calling his name. He then told me to please wait for him in the living room. He joined me in the living room after about 10mins. I asked why he was breathing heavily and he told me that he just finished having sex with a girl. I confronted him with the truth and he opened up. He said he has been dating this girl for and that he has been spending money on her but she refused him sex. He said he used today's incident to recover all the money he has spent on her.

I'm really stuck between the devil and deep blue sea right now. The girl in question wants me to help report the issue to the police cos she's scared of being stigmatized. On the otherhand, the guy in question is my childhood friend. I can't imagine snitching on my homie and brother. I know it's wrong for him to have raped her but why would a girl be demanding for stuffs from a guy when she knows she's not willing to play ball.

They are dating and the girl has been eating the guy's money. There is never any issue of "gift" here.

That's why I will always maintain that relationships should be defined. Plain and simple. You see a girl you like, you ask her out, then she tells you she doesn't want a no sex relationship, then it's up to you to tell her you too don't want a no money relationship.

Then you guys can reach a compromise.

My day has been so messed up. I went to see a friend of mine in his house. I was surprised the door wasn't locked and even the gate wasn't locked. I decided to help myself to a drink from his bar as soon as I entered the living room. As I was about serving myself, something told me to check on him in his room to see if he's there. As I approached his room I started hearing sounds. I decided to know what the noise was all about without making a sound.

Only for me to see a girl begging my friend to please have mercy on her and my friend was telling her to shut-up and comply. He was even beating the girl and have even torn her clothes. The girl was weeping bitterly and after about 20mins I decided to pretend I was just coming in by calling his name. He then told me to please wait for him in the living room. He joined me in the living room after about 10mins. I asked why he was breathing heavily and he told me that he just finished having sex with a girl. I confronted him with the truth and he opened up. He said he has been dating this girl for and that he has been spending money on her but she refused him sex. He said he used today's incident to recover all the money he has spent on her.

I'm really stuck between the devil and deep blue sea right now. The girl in question wants me to help report the issue to the police cos she's scared of being stigmatized. On the otherhand, the guy in question is my childhood friend. I can't imagine snitching on my homie and brother. I know it's wrong for him to have raped her but why would a girl be demanding for stuffs from a guy when she knows she's not willing to play ball.

I have one simple question; did your homie kidnap the girl to his house? If the answer is no then the girl got served. The only reason she went visiting was to milk your guy as usual.

Just negodu You waited a full 20minutes before you interrupted your rapist friend in his act.... Woe betide you two and the females that come from you.

Most of you telling this dude to snitch on his friend doesn't understand the bond that exist between friendship, that makes people want to protect and defend their friends at all cost.

I bet none of you would've taken the same step suggested by you. Of course it's easy to throw judgements around without trying to understand the OP's point of view. The truth is you won't understand and can never understand, since you're not and have never been in his shoes.

For opening this thread in the first place shows that the OP is hurt by the act, just like everyone of us. But for the loyalty that exist between them, he can't possibly tell on his friend, hence, this is the only avenue he can dust his mind and free his conscience....

I'm tired of all these rape stories.
If you've been going out with someone but don't trust him, please don't go to his house. That's just common sense.

My cousin once told me when a girl agrees to come to your house, she's already made up her mind for the inevitable.
I guess she must have weighed all the consequences but still threw caution to the wind.

Now that this have occurred, everyone is on the guy's jugular. Leaving the girl to play the victim.

raayah:
How sad that accepting a gift can cause physical, sexual and emotional abuse.

Dear sister, you yourself know this. That is why I specifically said from toasters.

Some gifts are like Trojan Horse gifts. I am a guy, I know how many times other guys say, After spending money and collecting things from me she can't go scot free. .

Some guys can give and free the things but while some will feel used and cheated but, rape is not the answer.

My advice, let the girl do the report first if she want, u become a witness.
Reason : u may do the report & the girl may not be ready to follow up.

cococandy:
did you type that so that one dude on this thread will like you and send you pm? Maybe marry you?

Because I've seen stupid women like you do and say stupid things to win male approval. But this is way up there.

You're a girl. Has no one ever given you a gift? Do you deserve to be raped for accepting something you thought was given in good spirit? One day your daughter or grand daughter will suffer for that your comment up there. It's not a curse or a bad wish. It's merely me stating the obvious. Your type contribute to this nightmare we are seeing now. Excusing, encouraging and praising rapists only makes them more daring and perpetuates the practice. One day one guy who was directly or indirectly influenced by that your comment will think it's okay to rape a female somewhere because he gave her gifts in the process of wooing her. Let's hope that girl is not yours or mine even.

Yes It could even be mine. That's why I'm concerned:

Oh, she's the kind of woman who would support her husband even if he sleeps with their daughter or rapes her friend. Some women are just programmed to worship men. #disgusting

I blame u 4 not stopping the action when u 1st came in! Had u chastised hom then it wud ve been attempted rape...
To me u r either an accessory to the crime. Or an accomplice for a corrupt policeman wey want chop u

guy no level. I have no intention reporting the matter to the police. If she wants to report it to the police, she should do it herself. As for my friend I have chastised him.

joseph1832ng:
See anything bad coming. Not just rape, cos sometimes this guys end of beating the girls or doing something else.

Are you aware girls have also been raped and even killed for not accepting gifts from men?

joseph1832ng:
They are dating and the girl has been eating the guy's money. There is never any issue of "gift" here.

That's why I will always maintain that relationships should be defined. Plain and simple. You see a girl you like, you ask her out, then she tells you she doesn't want a no sex relationship, then it's up to you to tell her you too don't want a no money relationship.

Then you guys can reach a compromise.

There's no justification for rape and the guy in question needs to be dealt with

I swear, it's just disheartening to see how people view the issue of rape in nigeria. Even if the guy spent all his money on her, he wasn't forced to, and likewise, the girl shouldn't be forced to give her body. @op it seems like you already made your decision not to report the case going by the way you've been responding, so why bother with the fake pretence?
People like you and your friend give men bad reputation

VolTOxic:
My post wasn't meant to be interpreted literally.

And No. It wasn't your fault.

So drop the pretence and black concern since you didn't do a shìt to prevent that from happening when you had the chance. Who are you deceiving here by seeking advise whether to report or not? You never care at all.

Exactly. The post is do damn annoying! He could have prevented the rape simply by walking into the bedroom!

cococandy:
did you type that so that one dude on this thread will like you and send you pm? Maybe marry you?

Because I've seen stupid women like you do and say stupid things to win male approval. But this is way up there.

You're a girl. Has no one ever given you a gift? Do you deserve to be raped for accepting something you thought was given in good spirit? One day your daughter or grand daughter will suffer for that your comment up there. It's not a curse or a bad wish. It's merely me stating the obvious. Your type contribute to this nightmare we are seeing now. Excusing, encouraging and praising rapists only makes them more daring and perpetuates the practice. One day one guy who was directly or indirectly influenced by that your comment will think it's okay to rape a female somewhere because he gave her gifts in the process of wooing her. Let's hope that girl is not yours or mine even.

Yes It could even be mine. That's why I'm concerned:

You have spoken well indeed.

sukkot:
come on. stop playing dumb. you know what you did. just admit to it. you took a passive aggressive jab at cococandy. in fact cococandy we need you here to tell us how you felt when you saw sweetcocoas post. that ought to clear this right up.

my weekend going mighty fine mademoiselle sweetcocoa

You can't answer a simple question and I'm the one playing dumb? Sukkot really? Smh seriously at you right now.

I am too blunt to take a jab at someone in that manner, certainly too smart to side with someone insulting a baby.

Do you even know that as a response to that post, the person it was directed at can just type only "hahaha" with smileys, laughing at the poster's f00lishness? No need for too much talk cos she's sure her baby's cute. I even bothered typing plenty after laughing mockingly at the hater's stupidity, because I do believe all I said about the lil girl to be true.

Cococandy and I have no issues, we aren't buddies or anything either but I'm not petty to take a jab at her with her kid, have I something I want to say to her. like I don't believe you right now, you really think that little of me?

I'm only responding in this manner because it's you tbh, if it were someone else, I'd have gotten another ban like I did while responding to ireneony, I don't take kindly to such ridiculousness .

Ishilove:
Are you aware girls have also been raped and even killed for not accepting gifts from men?

Yes, i'm aware. Even at that. There's no set parameter for one being raped.

But the focus here is this girl, not any other. She was raped for being too greedy and God damn demanding.

Dating a guy, eating his money, and still deny him sex? Why on earth did she even agree to date him when she knows she doesn't want to please him with her pussy_?

If greed and avarice isn't the reason, then I wouldn't know of other...

This op is a rapist! You had every chance to stop it from happening while she was still begging, but you didnt. You are as guilty as your friend is. For the fact that you were present while the crime was being committed and did nothing to stop it makes you an accomplice.
Typical Nigerians be blaming the victim, not the criminal. All of you saying that if she wasnt ready for premarital sex she shouldnt have indulged in premarital chop chop do not know what you are saying. It is just like saying that if a rich man is not ready for armed robbers then he shouldnt buy expensive cars. Very flawed reasoning.

Trendin:
You always demand money from a guy but when he asks you to pay with your toto, you give excuses. Not really because you're a virgin but because you take him for a fool, because him dey wear suit and ties. And there's some thrash, street nigga chopping your ponmo in uncompleted buildings free of charge.
Now you dress seductively and visit your mugu again to make your weekly demands. And your mugu says "Ponmo first or nothing". You start arguing with him; he gets angry and tears your clothes. You run into the streets and scream 'Rape!'.


Na God go punish some girls sha.

You are unbelievably naive and insane. You talk like someone who has no education atall. If a guy wants sex from a girl,why not tell her explicitly so she knows when money is given to her,their are strings attached? Did she forced him to give her money? Did he tell her that the basis of him giving her money is so he can have sex with her? Are they not in a relationship? There is no justification for rape. I am disappointed in some people really. And we are the leaders of tomorrow? You will give your daughter this kind of reply when something like this happens to her?

sweetcocoa:
What you still fail to realise, is that your comment gives rapists/ potential rapists an edge over their victims, in fact you endorsed rape and that is highly offensive.

You or anyone else have no place to say whether she should take gifts or not, that decision is hers and hers alone to make and there should be no consequences whatsoever for accepting a gift, fvcking key word here is "gift".

Gifts are free, unless otherwise stated, it is very fallacious to assume that any man that gives you a gift expects something in return, and in an event where they expect, there is no onus on you to give something back, while one good turn deserves another, committing a crime to get your supposed deserved favour is unjustifiable, reason it's called a crime in the first place.

The fact that the world crawls with useless/evil people, is no reason to try to make excuses for crimes committed.

Y'all should get some education please.

Honestly, I can't quantify how infuriated I am right now. Just imagine the OP and all the stupid comments people are making!