joseph1832ng:
Yes, i'm aware. Even at that. There's no set parameter for one being raped.

But the focus here is this girl, not any other. She was raped for being too greedy and God damn demanding.

Dating a guy, eating his money, and still deny him sex? Why on earth did she even agree to date him when she knows she doesn't want to please him with her pussy_?

If greed and avarice isn't the reason, then I wouldn't know of other...

Very warped thinking. People date without sex. The fact that you spend money on someone doesnt give you the right to defile them. She did not force the guy to spend on her, he did it willingly to impress her. When you meet a greedy person, it is your prerogative to discontinue relationship with the person or continue. Rape is never excusable. Gosh! How do you people reason sef?

Oliviaarims:


Honestly, I can't quantify how infuriated I am right now. Just imagine the OP and all the stupid comments people are making!

Goes to show you the level of wickedness, f00lishess, hypocrisy and ignorance in the hearts of many Nigerians, yet tomorrow they will disturb the whole neighbourhood with their noise, claiming to worship God.

Such disgusting people.

sweetcocoa:
You can't answer a simple question and I'm the one playing dumb? Sukkot really? Smh seriously at you right now.

I am too blunt to take a jab at someone in that manner, certainly too smart to side with someone insulting a baby.

Do you even know that as a response to that post, the person it was directed at can just type only "hahaha" with smileys, laughing at the poster's f00lishness? No need for too much talk cos she's sure her baby's cute. I even bothered typing plenty after laughing mockingly at the hater's stupidity, because I do believe all I said about the lil girl to be true.

Cococandy and I have no issues, we aren't buddies or anything either but I'm not petty to take a jab at her with her kid, have I something I want to say to her. like I don't believe you right now, you really think that little of me?

I'm only responding in this manner because it's you tbh, if it were someone else, I'd have gotten another ban like I did while responding to ireneony, I don't take kindly to such ridiculousness .

ok its not that big a deal anyway. dunno why we carry the matter for head sef lolzzz. speaking of shymmexx, that crazy nigga being acting weird lately lolzzz

Oliviaarims:


Honestly, I can't quantify how infuriated I am right now. Just imagine the OP and all the stupid comments people are making!

Honestly, if the rapist was my friend and I walked into that situation, we will definitely fight. I can't stand the thought of rape, I won't stand that...at all.

Fawklicant:


Very warped thinking. People date without sex. The fact that you spend money on someone doesnt give you the right to defile them. She did not force the guy to spend on her, he did it willingly to impress her. When you meet a greedy person, it is your prerogative to discontinue relationship with the person or continue. Rape is never excusable. Gosh! How do you people reason sef?

Lol, you ain't seen nothing yet.

Stupidity is their forte.

Dumb mofos everywhere! Justifying rape! Did she ask to be raped? Did she force the guy to give her gifts? A gift is a gift! Favours must not be returned! Yes, that's the truth. It's no business venture. Each man should be left to his own conscience. And the very annoying part of it is that a lot of times when guys scream they've been spending money on a girl, it's actually some measly amount in total...and then want a person's life, sanity and dignity in return.

Incorrigible fools!

Fawklicant:


Honestly, if the rapist was my friend and I walked into that situation, we will definitely fight. I can't stand the thought of rape, I won't stand that...at all.

Mtcheww!

Fawklicant:


Honestly, if the rapist was my friend and I walked into that situation, we will definitely fight. I can't stand the thought of rape, I won't stand that...at all.

Mtcheww! Distasteful things happening everyday!

sweetcocoa:
Goes to show you the level of wickedness, f00lishess, hypocrisy and ignorance in the hearts of many Nigerians, yet tomorrow they will disturb the whole neighbourhood with their noise, claiming to worship God.

Such disgusting people.

Karma had better be real. No values, no sense, no empathy! Nothing!

But you know that he could have walked into the room immediately when he heard her screaming when his "friend" was beating her up. What excuse did he have then? What's even worse is the op's replies here, saying that the girl shouldn't have collected gifts if she didn't want to have sex, justifying his friend's actions. I'm not talking about snitching now,but he could have prevented the guy from going further

herald9:
Most of you telling this dude to snitch on his friend doesn't understand the bond that exist between friendship, that makes people want to protect and defend their friends at all cost.

I bet none of you would've taken the same step suggested by you. Of course it's easy to throw judgements around without trying to understand the OP's point of view. The truth is you won't understand and can never understand, since you're not and have never been in his shoes.

For opening this thread in the first place shows that the OP is hurt by the act, just like everyone of us. But for the loyalty that exist between them, he can't possibly tell on his friend, hence, this is the only avenue he can dust his mind and free his conscience....

I'm tired of all these rape stories.
If you've been going out with someone but don't trust him, please don't go to his house. That's just common sense.

My cousin once told me when a girl agrees to come to your house, she's already made up her mind for the inevitable.
I guess she must have weighed all the consequences but still threw caution to the wind.

Now that this have occurred, everyone is on the guy's jugular. Leaving the girl to play the victim.

sukkot:
ok its not that big a deal anyway. dunno why we carry the matter for head sef lolzzz. speaking of shymmexx, that crazy nigga being acting weird lately lolzzz

It is a big deal and you insulted me if you don't know, even telling be about western countries bla bla like you talkin to someone living under a rock in the thick forests of cameroun, da hell!

Nyggah before I speak to you, you gotta apologise.

herald9:
Most of you telling this dude to snitch on his friend doesn't understand the bond that exist between friendship, that makes people want to protect and defend their friends at all cost.

I bet none of you would've taken the same step suggested by you. Of course it's easy to throw judgements around without trying to understand the OP's point of view. The truth is you won't understand and can never understand, since you're not and have never been in his shoes.

For opening this thread in the first place shows that the OP is hurt by the act, just like everyone of us. But for the loyalty that exist between them, he can't possibly tell on his friend, hence, this is the only avenue he can dust his mind and free his conscience....

I'm tired of all these rape stories.
If you've been going out with someone but don't trust him, please don't go to his house. That's just common sense.

My cousin once told me when a girl agrees to come to your house, she's already made up her mind for the inevitable.
I guess she must have weighed all the consequences but still threw caution to the wind.

Now that this have occurred, everyone is on the guy's jugular. Leaving the girl to play the victim.

you speak only truth

joseph1832ng:
Yes, i'm aware. Even at that. There's no set parameter for one being raped.

But the focus here is this girl, not any other. She was raped for being too greedy and God damn demanding.

Dating a guy, eating his money, and still deny him sex? Why on earth did she even agree to date him when she knows she doesn't want to please him with her pussy_?

If greed and avarice isn't the reason, then I wouldn't know of other...

There's no greed here. Was the guy forced to give out the money? If she refuse you sex and you can't hold yourself then you stop spending, shikena. Go your separate ways! Spending money on a woman is no justification at all.

The way Nigerians think is very disturbing.

1) Girl receives gifts from a guy (note: she receives gifts from the guy. She didn't rip his pockets and grab money, she didn't steal his wallet, she didn't break into his house. She received money), but refuses to sleep with him = she deserves to be raped.

2) Girl refuses to receive any gift from guy = she is stuck up, feels to proud and that she is superior to everybody, so she deserves to be raped to show her that she is not superior to anybody.

It's unbelievable the kind of stupid excuses that weak guys give. Nobody forced you to give any girl a dime! If you are stupid enough to give, then you need to own your stupidity and stop looking for someone to blame!

There is no excuse for rape!

schumastic:


let me say this to you so u will understand.

I read the story I was angry n my mood change u know why.

1.rape n molestation was committed
2.the op had the chance to stop it but didn't

everyone seem to be condemning the op but fail to give him the advice he seeks. not everyone here is matured so i expect to see childish comments as well.

even the op himself said he condemned his friend act n made it clear to him, if this was not bothering him, would he have typed it here in the first place?

he can't report to the police cus our Nigerian police can go as far as locking him up as well and things will get even worse.

if is for him to snitch on his friend that's not possible as well cus according to him they have been friends since chilhood.all he can do is cut of the friendship, meet the girl one on one and apologize to her for not coming to her rescue n pray she forgives him. nobody on this forum, I repeat nobody on this forum is a SAINT..let's learn not to judge but bring solutions to a problem..

we hear cases of ladies who a guy will train them to school n when is time to settle down she will turn him down with diff excuses, but bear in mind that her friends who are close to her will never snitch on their female friend or give her out..

so not snitching on your friend n a close friend at that works on both gender.

I condemn rape n molestation of both genders n will never b in support of it or defend it.

whether he snitches on his friend or not if the girls dares report to the police he's already an accomplice......if you say you condemn rape then your advice to the op should be to let the girl report and he should assure her that he'll stand as a witness,that's the only human advice cause who know who the said friend might rape in the future all in the name he spent on her


The op is a very disgusting human being,he saw his friend committing such act and he just turned a blind a eye saying he would offer the girl money and justifying his friends action,truly birds a feather flock together.

naptu2:
1) Girl receives gifts from a guy (note: she receives gifts from the guy. She didn't rip his pockets and grab money, she didn't steal his wallet, she didn't break into his house. She received money), but refuses to sleep with him = she deserves to be raped.

2) Girl refuses to receive any gift from guy = she is stuck up, feels to proud and that she is superior to everybody, so she deserves to be raped to show her that she is not superior to anybody.

It's unbelievable the kind of stupid excuses that weak guys give. Nobody forced you to give any girl a dime! If you are stupid enough to give, then you need to own your stupidity and stop looking for someone to blame!

There is no excuse for rape!

You are filled with wisdom.

What I have been reading so far on this thread has ruined my appetite

Oliviaarims:


Karma had better be real. No values, no sense, no empathy! Nothing!

Don't we all wish the same. @ Emboldened.

It is sad.

Fawklicant:


Very warped thinking. People date without sex. The fact that you spend money on someone doesnt give you the right to defile them. She did not force the guy to spend on her, he did it willingly to impress her. When you meet a greedy person, it is your prerogative to discontinue relationship with the person or continue. Rape is never excusable. Gosh! How do you people reason sef?

Where you there to know he did it willingly? Where you around when the guy was spending money on the said girl?

If people date without sex, surely there must have been an agreement to come to that conclusion, don't you think so?.

Ishilove:

You are filled with wisdom.

What I have been reading so far on this thread has ruined my appetite

Shebi he is your friend, good thing you are seeing it with your own eyes now, make e no be say freecocoa too do.

You see am? Ishilove you see am?

dickhead01:


Show me ur friend and I will tell u who u are
#RAPIST

thank you

Oliviaarims:


Karma had better be real. No values, no sense, no empathy! Nothing!

Indeed! Karma had better be real.

UjSizzle:
But why didn't you stop your friend when you knew what was happening?

Why are you here acting like you care when you had the opportunity to help her out of a sticky situation, and you did nothing?

You men think that because you spent money on a girl, then her body is yours to do as you please. But you're wrong. Whatever you choose to justify your action, rape is still rape.

You have a choice to make here: Keeping friendship with that person you call a friend (which should say something about your person btw), or helping that girl corroborate her story if you're asked.

I'll advice you distance yourself from that fellow and let him know exactly why you're doing it, unless of course you don't believe he's done anything wrong.



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And women, you need to understand that you are in this world alone. There are very few people who have a moral compass, and fewer who use theirs. It might well be in your best interest to assume every man you meet is a beast, waiting to be unleashed.
If you won't go the mile, don't even take the first step with him.
If you're not into sex with the dude, don't lead him on. So many people out there want sex first, everything else they do for you is simply leading you there.
Always make your position clear from the start--
If you don't want to date him, say so.
If you don't want sex, say so.
If you simply want to have fun with his money, say so.
He is not a saint, and sin is way easier to perpetrate than practising self-control.
Put a leash on greed-- it'll kill you before it lets you have anything.

Well said and to the ladies please if you don't trust a guy don't go to his house alone because some guys can't control what they have inbetween their legs.

For fuck_ sake men! Was there any place where the OP said "the guy gave the girl gift"?

This thread just messed me up completely.
What is this? I'm not surprised though from some comments especially from the guys who supported op. I know for a fact that there are many rapists here on Nl, so me no see am as surprise at all . For the ladies that supports this; I must confess, you all are really silly.


A rapist is a rapist! You don't need to take anything from him.
It's a deadly perversion, and going to ANY guys house one isn't dating should be discouraged no matter how gentle or nice he seems. Nigeria unfortunately has become a breeding ground for rapists, ritualism, domestic battering, women torturing, girl-child molest, and several other vices with women as the major victims. Now our fathers now rape us! Now our brothers now find us sexually attractive. Jesus Christ!

I have had several encounter with guys who can't take no for an answer. Some guys don't like it when you reject their gifts. They see it as a pride. They feel you're trying to belittle their efforts. Guy don splash me mould water because I refused his lift .Thats how rapists roll. You don't need to take anything from them.

If a guy can report me to a superior that I'm so full of myself because I turned his offer to pay for my stuffs in a supermarket, definitely if given the opportunity, that guy will rape me.

So to all those stupid girls wey dey here dey support op, you're not smart. A friend of mine while in secondary school got raped by a corporate banker. I also had a classmate back in Jss 2 that was raped by a 56 years old neighbour who is a police man.

A pervert is a pervert. He will do anything to get SEX . What say you about men who lure kids with sweets and biscuits just to take away their innocence. All the people we support this op, THUNDER WE DEY HEAVEN FIRE UNA, ANIMALS!

joseph1832ng:
For fuck_ sake men! Was there any place where the OP said "the guy gave the girl gift"?

He implied it in his comments. Check the first page

Lolx..... Nairaland no go kill me with laf
felt bad reading the post, but some comments here are more of joke,
but op, ur friend no try o

rape?
Not cool

Ishilove:

There's no greed here. Was the guy forced to give out the money? If she refuse you sex and you can't hold yourself then you stop spending, shikena. Go your separate ways! Spending money on a woman is no justification at all.

The way Nigerians think is very disturbing.

Now we've arrived at last at my mantra. "My money is not free".

For men like us who state the deal and tell it as it is, what do you people call us?

For men who go about patronising friends with benefits, etc what do you people call us?

The society is warped as it already is. It didn't start now, neither will it end now.

joseph1832ng:
Where you there to know he did it willingly? Where you around when the guy was spending money on the said girl?

If people date without sex, surely there must have been an agreement to come to that conclusion, don't you think so?.

Were you around when the guy and the said girl came to an agreement to exchange money for sex?

My day has been so messed up. I went to see a friend of mine in his house. I was surprised the door wasn't locked and even the gate wasn't locked. I decided to help myself to a drink from his bar as soon as I entered the living room. As I was about serving myself, something told me to check on him in his room to see if he's there. As I approached his room I started hearing sounds. I decided to know what the noise was all about without making a sound.

Only for me to see a girl begging my friend to please have mercy on her and my friend was telling her to shut-up and comply. He was even beating the girl and have even torn her clothes. The girl was weeping bitterly and after about 20mins I decided to pretend I was just coming in by calling his name. He then told me to please wait for him in the living room. He joined me in the living room after about 10mins. I asked why he was breathing heavily and he told me that he just finished having sex with a girl. I confronted him with the truth and he opened up. He said he has been dating this girl for and that he has been spending money on her but she refused him sex. He said he used today's incident to recover all the money he has spent on her.

I'm really stuck between the devil and deep blue sea right now. The girl in question wants me to help report the issue to the police cos she's scared of being stigmatized. On the otherhand, the guy in question is my childhood friend. I can't imagine snitching on my homie and brother. I know it's wrong for him to have raped her but why would a girl be demanding for stuffs from a guy when she knows she's not willing to play ball.

I still can't find where it's said here that the guy gave the girl "gifts".

elektra:


Were you around when the guy and the said girl came to an agreement to exchange money for sex?

Did you read the OP at all?

KvngE:

He implied it in his comments. Check the first page

Already did, there's no such thing there.

payment after service, why were u receiving all the services before when u know DAT u aren't ready to pay for any services yet.Anyway, pls take d two of them to court.