sisisioge:


Biko, na my 100% daddy Ejima I dey find jor. But you try...well done you fit redirect your enthusiasm towards finding my baba Ejima biko thanks babes

Dyt:


Heaves heavily

ibx1976:

Thanks for the advice.
I can confirm I played the above card once and the person involved refused. That was back in the day when "ground never level". To this day I still wonder if it was the truth I spoke or that I was not handsome enough
Nevertheless I still trust my missing rib is in naija

ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

Dnt Listen to some of dez badbelle.Com to Naija,pray dat God shd lead u to ur soulmate.Bliev and see hw itz gonna wrk Trust me.Do yuh mean to tell me dat 100 percent of naija ladyz r bhad?Naaa! Dnt delude ur sef in such thinkin.

sisisioge:


Hmmmm...draws her close in a warm embrace I love twins. I think they are super adorable...yeah I know that's not why you are heaving. I'm heaving too...its an herculean task searching babes. You have no idea of how lucky you are to find him like that...even with your weird requirements...guy still passed! Hallelujah!

Dyt:


We want twins too
He's actually one


He's been my friend since we were in secondary school
I hooked him up with his first gf


How things turned around
Well
I dunno

sisisioge:


Wowzerful! So you've been matchmaking since you were in the cradle! Thank God things didn't work out between him and the gf. I think I kinda like how yours metamorphosized from childhood friendship into what its today...na God do am for you o. I can imagine you looking at him and being able to read the time accurately on his face...you are lucky girl. May God continue to help you two keep it together

Dyt:


Well
We still have our issues
Makes me feel like a nag

Yeah I know I nag

Should I say amen to your prayer

God knows best
I
Oya amen

Boyooosa:

i KNOW THE POUND YOU MEAN, U DIDNT MAKE A MISTAKE!

chrisj2:


What guest list?

I will be in Nja on gardening leave from January 2016 - for a few months at the start then may be more if I do not get too bored or fed up of the family and the village life in Ogun State. But I am definitely going native and am looking forward... Like I said, just to get the Nja vibes back.

Now time for bed - early start for me... Good night all!

LuvU2:
Fantastic! yes i am a role model

Richy4:
OP I understand you perfectly well... But one month is basically a very tiny time-frame to get to know whom you want to marry...
Surely all of the girls you will approach will agree to what ever nonsense you gonna tell them...

They will love you for what you are and not whom you are....

What you are
<<< You are a guy leaving in UK
<<<you got a job in UK
<<< Better life in UK
<<< The hype about Abroad husband, some girls will worship the ground you worked on...
<<<Her Parent Occasional visit abroad for Medical check up... and "mouth Makings" in the community ie my daughter is in UK..

These are all the benefit you will give But what about Love?

What about who you are?
>>> The fact that maybe you are a quite, Not so flamboyant as they thought over there , not a party person, etc.... They will not even care to know until both of you enter into it and find out you guys are not compatible...Then the beginning of miserable marriage will start

Richy4:
OP I understand you perfectly well... But one month is basically a very tiny time-frame to get to know whom you want to marry...
Surely all of the girls you will approach will agree to what ever nonsense you gonna tell them...

They will love you for what you are and not whom you are....

What you are
<<< You are a guy leaving in UK
<<<you got a job in UK
<<< Better life in UK
<<< The hype about Abroad husband, some girls will worship the ground you worked on...
<<<Her Parent Occasional visit abroad for Medical check up... and "mouth Makings" in the community ie my daughter is in UK..

These are all the benefit you will give But what about Love?

What about who you are?
>>> The fact that maybe you are a quite, Not so flamboyant as they thought over there , not a party person, etc.... They will not even care to know until both of you enter into it and find out you guys are not compatible...Then the beginning of miserable marriage will start

grandstar:


My best advise is don't make these mistakes:

1. Live a fake life

Do not pretend to be what you're not. If you are cleaning toilets in the UK, let her know. If you're a doctor, let her know. If you live in a poor part of town, let her know. If it's Mayfair let her know.

If there's high crime in your place, let her know. If low, let her know. Come open!

2. Let her know what to expect. Don't leave any stone unturned.

For instance, tell her what £2.000 a month salary will get you there. That is May be 1.1m here, but much over there.

Tell her how much rent is. What it can get. Inform her the cost of doing her hair etc. Inform her what kind of job will be available for her. Her potential earnings. Also, inform her if your job will keep you from home a lot.

Come clean.

The reason why I am saying this is that most Nigerians going abroad don't know what to expect especially when they see how Nigerian returnees blow cash. So when she gets there, she will be expect you're staying in a 3 bedroom flat in a posh part of town. Some don't even know poverty exist in Europe amongst whites.

If she gets there and become disillusioned and feels betrayed because you did not open up, your marriage is half dead already. That's one reason many guys who come home to Pick their wives have difficulties. They loose the respect of their wives

Please don't make the same mistake. it's better you're blunt and honest than suffer the consequences later.

tiwiex:


Good points. Like I said, all of us na actor. She will agree to everything. Tell am say u dey beg sef. She fit dey calculate springboard for better life sef. If u ask me, oyunbo don blend well now. and they like blacks. They are not even opportunists since na dem country.

chrisj2:


I don't understand! The post is full of holes... Why have low expectations? What is that bit about carrying house chores on her head And as for taking nursing course or holding part or full time jobs - what is wrong with that? In the UK and probably in Nigeria, it will be hard to be one-salary family unless the breadwinner is mega loaded.

It should be about partnership and having more or less the same vision - a good strong and tight family and very good prospects and future for their offsprings; not showing off, keeping up with the Jones and worrying too much about satisfying relatives in Nja and elsewhere.

If he finds the person for himself then he also has to work hard at making the whole thing work because you cannot bring someone from Nja and expect that person not to live like most people do in the UK - as long as it is sensible and not antagonistic then it should all be fine. In the Uk, the man cannot get away with abusing the woman or expecting her to work as a quasi-housegirl or baby making machine as you put it; she will soon leave or throw the man out...

EkoErrands:


Pls if the girls there didn't cheat on you kuku marry them...and endure their luggage.the ones here will cheat on you and still give you luggage to carry. All of them except those that will not bash me for saying this secret of theirs are olosho.

I'm inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along.

KingAdegoke:
we know. but when you are bad and still pretend. I can't just take it.

oyinbo girls can tell you their past(i suppose) but naija? they go lie

I only have sex once

my uncle took my Virginity

I fell from second floor and landed with my pussycat in a big stick and lost my virginity.

I can't take it... what of all the girls wey and my friends fvck for school? not once not twice. what of all the campus kpanshing? nysc kpanshing?

later they'll join church group and pretend them never see djck before.

I just can't take it

be real

sweatlana:

I guess your relationship is like that of forest gump and Jenny. You're a ret@rd and she's a w.hore.. Perfect match!

1stCitizen:


Tell him... Naija girls and olosho tinz are like......you know the pic

Ewuro4:


Hehehe this Amy sef, wetin dem dey look for native girls before?
Glorified housemaid- go nursing school-ATM don cook

I don't take those kinda men serious atall. What they don't understand is home based chicks eye tear pass that 'independent' sister in diaspora. Obo n gbobo gope

EkoErrands:


Pls if the girls there didn't cheat on you kuku marry them...and endure their luggage.the ones here will cheat on you and still give you luggage to carry. All of them except those that will not bash me for saying this secret of theirs are olosho.

I'm inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along.

hopeforcharles:

Hahahahhahahahahhaha ' iam inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along
Lol these days it's hard find a good girl don't know what went wrong

reminiscing:
No pinchure sef..........Abi you wowo ni

chrisj2:

what is olosho? or an olosho relationship?