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Catalin:
I'm an introvert and I love my quiet time.

Honestly, we need more persons like you

I just have to stay alone because of space (in school) people call it weird,i call it enjoyment,i fell happy,good when am alone,i find going out boring, if am at home I can at least talk, laugh,but once I'm been forced to go out,i'll just change like no smiles anymore till am home,even if am bored, going out will be my last option sometimes I asked myself Why am i like this,why can't i come out of my hole, and just explore,up till this moment i have not been able to answer that......
Back in my 100level days, I had a roommate,i love her but seeing her around sometimes makes me angry,or sad, cos it's like somebody is disturbing me, but unfortunately she goes home every weekend,let say from Saturday to Sunday (when i have to go to church) you w'nt see me outside,A time came you w'nt even know if am inside or have travelled,it when they see me going to school,monday morning "they'll be like have you been inside,i say yea,then reply with okay....
Some even tried,to at least get me to come out,i just told them, This is ME, I prefer been alone........Among all i was a different breed........but i appear when necessary or important,even my friends ain't helping matters,on my first NO they are all gone.....


But I like it...i enjoy my company.

LaClicKLaBenDin:
Hi people, it's really nice being here.
I'm an introvert, and I have come to embrace it, fine tune it and keep it balanced as much as I can.

But to be honest, my major challenge is meeting new people, especially making new friends: I have tried so much but it's always difficult. It's not like I don't have people's skills, I do, I even led a couple of groups back in school.

It could take me a whole year or more to make friends after moving to a new neighborhood, and that's because I hardly come out: I'm always indoors reading, learning new stuff, and sometimes just engaging in creative thinking.

I would honestly say that being introverted has brought more advantages than disadvantages, it has enabled me learn more, read more, know more, and has helped me discover the many talents and potentials in me, but I still need to improve on being outgoing, even though I know I'm receptive.

I would appreciate any advice.

We tend to overthink somethings. I'm quite introverted, but i like to be impulsive and spontaneous on occassion. Once i think about doing something, i know i'm going to overthink it. So on occassion, i CONSCIOUSLY do away with thinking about it. I just go ahead and do it.

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We are all introverts. But in this our world, no man is an island. We will need people. If not now, later. So i'll encourage you today, to go out of your way to know people. Not just on a ' hi' ' hello ' basis. Know them. You will need their help. Maybe with schoolwork, maybe with finances...Make a conscious effort to do so. If possible, make a to do list, or set a goal for yourself per day. e.g today, i will sit beside tosin in class and talk about his haircut, or i will visit the clinic to see uche today. Let it be a conscious decision. Join a few groups. You don't have to be an extrovert to make friends and communicate with people. We're all trying to move up in this world, and we need people to go far. Have a smooth sailing, people.

steph0:
We tend to overthink somethings. I'm quite introverted, but i like to be impulsive and spontaneous on occassion. Once i think about doing something, i know i'm going to overthink it. So on occassion, i CONSCIOUSLY do away with thinking about it. I just go ahead and do it.

This is quite true. The bolded is what I am learning to do, because when I think about a certain course of action too much, I tend to lose interest in it, so, I'm learning to be impulsive sometimes, but honestly, it's difficult.

Loneliness is my best friend. loneliness never hates, never taught you bad. never fake smiles. always on the right part of your life, tells you the capability of standing alone should you falter. loneliness is the best thing man could have. And that's what bridge an introverted person.

steph0:
We tend to overthink somethings. I'm quite introverted, but i like to be impulsive and spontaneous on occassion. Once i think about doing something, i know i'm going to overthink it. So on occassion, i CONSCIOUSLY do away with thinking about it. I just go ahead and do it.

Overthinking is one of my flaws. But right now, sometimes I just let spontaneity take over. But if the decision goes south, I blame myself for not thinking enough.

Guess it arises from the fact that I hate to be embarrassed.

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misterh:
Overthinking is one of my flaws. But right now, sometimes I just let spontaneity take over. But if the decision goes south, I blame myself for not thinking enough.

Guess it arises from the fact that I hate to be embarrassed.

You're right! Introvert are natural perfectionist. We hate embarrassment and can't afford to fail, sometimes this makes us to be pessimistic . We must therefore thrive to have a healthy perspective about life.

Lawal1470:
Loneliness is my best friend. loneliness never hates, never taught you bad. never fake smiles. always on the right part of your life, tells you the capability of standing alone should you falter. loneliness is the best thing man could have. And that's what bridge an introverted person.

Bro are you sure? They say loneliness kills. It is psychologically not healthy to be lonely i think.

Really glad to see this thread, glad to know I am not the only one like this.
I am an introvert who presently wish to be an extrovert but it's not easy at all. I could stay a month indoor without thinking of leaving the house as long as I have my novels, power supply and movies to watch. I talk more with my mind than with my mouth. I feel so uncomfortable whenever I see much people in the house ( 2 and above), always have the urge to lock myself in the room and enjoy my privacy and so many more things that feels odd. My physical calm appearance is not helping issue.
Gradually I start finding myself wishing to be an extrovert.Tried learning how to talk more than my usual but while or after doing that, I feel as if I have said much making me a talkativ even though I didn't say much when compared to others.
I realized being an introvert made me have few friends, infact I find it hard making friends though I am really trying my best now but not yielding much. Joining a conversation is difficult for me especially online groups own. Being an introvert made me hardly noticed, I don't usually care before but now I do. I read books, observe how the extrovert act and I try to put them in practice but sometimes while doing that I feel as if I am pretending and not being my real self.
Sometimes I follow long route in order to avoid exchanging much pleasantries with people and I can't just give myself reason for doing that I hen it wouldn't have cost me anything to do that. Some think I am a snob or feeling proud.
I really wish to be an extrovert, I want to make new friends, talk more, make presence noticed but still keep to myself when I want to.
Being an introvert has its fun but I really wish for more than that now

@mylove4God, take some time to read some pages of this thread as some issues you raised must have received some attention. Now you know you have others like you, you should be confident about your personality and this should guide how you choose your friends.

You should not bother yourself about changing to an extrovert, you only have to work on your ability to speak and make meaningful conversations. You are a female, search for female friends as I understand relationship is often a difficult contemplation. Above all let your interest guide you. Football and some other interest has given me friends, so I urge you to connect on this level. Don't push yourself, pray and act.

Olarewajub:


Bro are you sure? They say loneliness kills. It is psychologically not healthy to be lonely i think.

You're very right to say loneliness is psychologically unhealthy. And there are so many disadvantages. Although the very idea of loneliness and its degree vary from one introvert to another.

All introverts like Lawal1470 enjoy and crave solitude especially if they are in a company of people for too long. However, it will be wrong to say introverts want solitude all the time.

The truth is, as time goes on, introverts too stylishly desire company of people they have common interests with. Although, the introvert may soon get tired of the company once it's made available. Funny beings, yeah?

mylove4God, trust me, you don't want to struggle to be an extrovert. It will wear you out. Everything that happens to you happens to most introverts. But some have successfully adjusted to social balance and so must you.

Challenge yourself to take that normal route and greet people. Step out of your room and chat with that neighbour for 5 minutes. Laugh out loud once in a while. Once you start consciously, it becomes a part of your social skills. Just don't try hard; ease into it. Reading some of the comments in the last 15pages of this thread can also be helpful.

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well I'm one introvert that loves being an extrovert at times .... it all depends on my current mood ..but most times, I just love being indoor chilling, watching movies, listening to music,cooking, eating nd just chatting with my friends on the phone.

my friends try to bring me out by inviting me to parties and other outings but they always fail... the only time one would see me outside is when I have something important to take care of. I became fully aware of my introvert nature when I got to the university. I really don't hang with people that much nd when people try to hang out with me, I feel like I'm being disturbed! Lol

on the Internet I can be a talkative nd look like a cool person but in real life I'm so quiet,shy, nd strict i live by rules and regulations.

I'm actually a kind easy going, crazy, fun loving person but I'm only free nd crazy around people I share the same kinda personality with. or I'm naturally cool and connected with.

I'm this mind your business kinda person! nd I don't like forcing friendship or relationship

yes it might seem like I'm living a very boring complicated life but, when I become cool with people I'm one nasty silly ass annoying crazy cool guy


the Internet nd my Internet hommies only know things I want them to know which is just 20% of the real me. only few people know the other 80%

this is me nd I ain't ashamed of who I'm
I'm an introvert nd I love it that way.
life is chill nd easy... no stress.. no trouble... no enemies even tho some people think I'm one arrogant nigga truth be told tho I can be arrogant, but still I'm chill! Lol

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ayodiya:
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I just sent it to it bro

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Check your mail Bro

tosyne2much:
Check your mail Bro

Thanks seen it. No longer interested

mylove4God:
Really glad to see this thread, glad to know I am not the only one like this.
I am an introvert who presently wish to be an extrovert but it's not easy at all. I could stay a month indoor without thinking of leaving the house as long as I have my novels, power supply and movies to watch. I talk more with my mind than with my mouth. I feel so uncomfortable whenever I see much people in the house ( 2 and above), always have the urge to lock myself in the room and enjoy my privacy and so many more things that feels odd. My physical calm appearance is not helping issue.
Gradually I start finding myself wishing to be an extrovert.Tried learning how to talk more than my usual but while or after doing that, I feel as if I have said much making me a talkativ even though I didn't say much when compared to others.
I realized being an introvert made me have few friends, infact I find it hard making friends though I am really trying my best now but not yielding much. Joining a conversation is difficult for me especially online groups own. Being an introvert made me hardly noticed, I don't usually care before but now I do. I read books, observe how the extrovert act and I try to put them in practice but sometimes while doing that I feel as if I am pretending and not being my real self.
Sometimes I follow long route in order to avoid exchanging much pleasantries with people and I can't just give myself reason for doing that I hen it wouldn't have cost me anything to do that. Some think I am a snob or feeling proud.
I really wish to be an extrovert, I want to make new friends, talk more, make presence noticed but still keep to myself when I want to.
Being an introvert has its fun but I really wish for more than that now

we can be friends. but you are far from me..

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GloryIsaac:
Merry Christmas guys!!!

Cc Olarewajub
Akposb
Mumben
DonOms
And other intros here ...

Same to you

Merry Christmas.

GloryIsaac:
Merry Christmas guys!!!

Cc Olarewajub
Akposb
Mumben
DonOms
And other intros here ...

same to u oh. Av a wonderful celebration

Thanks, I will try them out

quote author=Akposb post=51972735]@mylove4God, take some time to read some pages of this thread as some issues you raised must have received some attention. Now you know you have others like you, you should be confident about your personality and this should guide how you choose your friends.

You should not bother yourself about changing to an extrovert, you only have to work on your ability to speak and make meaningful conversations. You are a female, search for female friends as I understand relationship is often a difficult contemplation. Above all let your interest guide you. Football and some other interest has given me friends, so I urge you to connect on this level. Don't push yourself, pray and act.[/quote]

GloryIsaac:
Merry Christmas guys!!!

Cc Olarewajub
Akposb
Mumben
DonOms
And other intros here ...

Season's greetings to you GloryIsaac and every introvert on this thread. I can only hope some of us tried to have fun with family and friends (Although I must confess I spent the chunk of the day in my room seeing a series film. )

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