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Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 7:53pm On Dec 17, 2016
This piece is written as a result of the misconception many people have when it comes to tagging a marital union a scam or potential scam.

Many guys and ladies are still single at very ripe age because they still believe that their intending spouse should love them for "real"(whatever that means) so they always want to be too careful and in the process fall into worse hands..

The stark truth is that there will always be a reason for anyone to be with another regardless of how selfish,lame or wicked it may sound but at the end it is still a legitimate union and the couple could be together till death if the conditions remain favorable so what is the fuss about?

In essence,whatever reason you choose to marry that person is your choice..whether it is because of parental pressure,beauty,sex,money,nationality,fame,power and so on,it remains a valid reason and the other party should either take the risk or back out.

- An unassuming guy woos a rich lady and she says he only wants her money.

-A rich guy sees a lady who wants him and he says it's about his money.

-A Nigerian guy or lady chooses to marry an European or American and they say it's for a green card.

-Even a broke cocky guy will say a lady does not really want him but just love his bedmatics.

Conclusively I will say there is really nothing like scam marriage because most marriages are as a result of selfish interest from both party.

My opinion.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Sexxkillz: 7:59pm On Dec 17, 2016
Truer words have never been spoken.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by falconey(m): 8:00pm On Dec 17, 2016
......So what should we do about it? Cus we know this.

Is like saying I told my dad I love him not because I really do but because he credited my account, there must be a reason for doing something,that's how things work.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 8:02pm On Dec 17, 2016
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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 8:05pm On Dec 17, 2016
falconey:
......So what should we do about it? Cus we know this.

You do but some don't.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 8:26pm On Dec 17, 2016
falconey:
......So what should we do about it? Cus we know this.

Is like saying I told my dad I love him not because I really do but because he credited my account.

Not in a father and child union.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by yomi007k(m): 9:05pm On Dec 17, 2016
undecided

Bros we know this.
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 9:12pm On Dec 17, 2016
yomi007k:
undecided

Bros we know this.

And you think everyone does?

You neva jam some people who are hell bent on looking for pure reasons.

Tell a rich lady you want her and she will say you want her money

Tell a janded lady you want to marry her and she will say you only want a green card.

A rich guy sees a lady who desires him and he says it's because of his money and even a broke cocky guy will say a lady only wants his schlong.

So in essence some people still want to believe that a marriage proposal must be hinged on pure desire but unfortunately it is not.

At least that person wants to be with you for whatever reason so you either accept and put efforts to make it work or continue to wait for a "genuine reason"

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Silentscreamer(f): 9:17pm On Dec 17, 2016
true. lots of peeps get married for selfish reasons..

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by falconey(m): 9:31pm On Dec 17, 2016
Toks2008:


Not in a father and child union.


yeah the union maybe a bit heterogeneous but doesn't change the fact that your premise is one sided, a basic knowledge and non-debatable.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 9:53pm On Dec 17, 2016
Sexxkillz:
Truer words have never been spoken.


Is that so?? Interesting. Figures! You would know..... i guess this means you wont be asking or requiring any body to help, love and care for you for just because , right? One day, you will soon eat those words.


So, assuming i entertain the possibility of a future with you, it would be because of ?? Your physical attributes? Your questionable personality? Or your wealth? Cause i can tell ya right now, its none of that.


That said i disagree with the premise of this statement because there are still few but people out there who love purely and find themselves drawn to others for no explainable reason.

It exits. And i intend to find that kind of love and marriage cause it will be God ordained.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 9:56pm On Dec 17, 2016
Xiadnat:



Is that so?? Interesting. Figures! You would know..... i guess this means you wont be asking or requiring any body to help, love and care for you for just because , right? One day, you will soon eat those words.


So, assuming i entertain the possibility of a future with you, it would be because of ?? Your physical attributes? Your questionable personality? Or your wealth? Cause i can tell ya right now, its none of that.


That said i disagree with the premise of this statement because there are still few but people out there who love purely and find themselves drawn to others for no explainable reason.

It exits. And i intend to find that kind of love and marriage cause it will be God ordained.

That is why i used the word most and not all.

This thread was created as a result of a funny attack from a lady with ID FortuneTeller

I have an open book policy about my life cos i have absolutely nothing to hide and i have no skeleton in my closet. Now thjs is the gist.

I once made up my mind to look outside the country for a spousal union after a failed union and i must have come across a friend of hers who is likely an American.

Now the annoying part is that if a Nigerian meets an American lady and they start talking about romance,it is automatically assumed that the guy is a potential scammer and this is so so appalling,foolish and outrightly dumb for anyone to imagine.

Is it out of place for a guy to try a marriage outside his country?
Could it be that the guy in question made that choice not to marry and dump the foreign lady but in order to take his business to a better height while faithfully keeping his marital vow?

Can you see my point? This is how some dumb ladies miss out on good guys because they imagine shits and at the end they still fall for the real scam.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 11:28pm On Dec 17, 2016
Toks2008:


That is why i used the word most and not all.

This thread was created as a result of a funny attack from a lady with ID FortuneTeller

I have an open book policy about my life cos i have absolutely nothing to hide and i have no skeleton in my closet. Now thjs is the gist.

I once made up my mind to look outside the country for a spousal union after a failed union and i must have come across a friend of hers who is likely an American.

Now the annoying part is that if a Nigerian meets an American lady and they start talking about romance,it is automatically assumed that the guy is a potential scammer and this is so so appalling,foolish and outrightly dumb for anyone to imagine.

Is it out of place for a guy to try a marriage outside his country?
Could it be that the guy in question made that choice not to marry and dump the foreign lady but in order to take his business to a better height while faithfully keeping his marital vow?

Can you see my point? This is how some dumb ladies miss out on good guys because they imagine shits and at the end they still fall for the real scam.
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by vicstar(m): 11:33pm On Dec 17, 2016
• stale!! •°•
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 6:54am On Dec 18, 2016
[quote author=FortuneTeller post=52026783][/quote]

I was expecting you to make remarks...

I still don't know your friend but tell her to work on her mindset...we still have clean minded Nigerian guys who are focused, down to earth and 100% legit.

Her loss.

Happy sunday

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by eyinjuege: 7:15am On Dec 18, 2016
Toks2008:


Could it be that the guy in question made that choice not to marry and dump the foreign lady but in order to take his business to a better height while faithfully keeping his marital vows.

Your reason is still selfish whether you decide to stick to your vows or not.
You want to marry her to take your business to greater heights?
That's one of the commonest, most selfish reasons for marriage. What's the difference between that and marrying your child off to secure your political or financial dynasty? There's even no difference between that and those who marry for green card, because some are faithful to their vows.
You see a lot of the children of the rich or royalty marry each other without coercion for this same reasons, and of course they always intend to stay faithful.
The guys/women that marry others for money do so with the intention of staying faithful else they lose the butter for their bread.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 7:47am On Dec 18, 2016
eyinjuege:


Your reason is still selfish whether you decide to stick to your vows or not.
You want to marry her to take your business to greater heights?
That's one of the commonest, most selfish reasons for marriage. What's the difference between that and marrying your child off to secure your political or financial dynasty? There's even no difference between that and those who marry for green card, because some are faithful to their vows.
You see a lot of the children of the rich or royalty marry each other without coercion for this same reasons, and of course they always intend to stay faithful.
The guys/women that marry others for money do so with the intention of staying faithful else they lose the butter for their bread.

My point exactly...99% of marriages are borne out of selfish reasons and even you are not exempted so the bottom line is to keep to your marital vow regardless of any selfosh reason...simple logic

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by firstking01(m): 11:19am On Dec 18, 2016
Hmmn, for once i gotta agree with toks2008 eventhough he's a divorcee.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 11:36am On Dec 18, 2016
firstking01:
Hmmn, for once i gotta agree with toks2008 eventhough he's a divorcee.

Nah you marry wife for me abi?

Nairalanders and Ameboism be like...

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by dee02(m): 11:41am On Dec 18, 2016
falconey:
......So what should we do about it? Cus we know this.

Is like saying I told my dad I love him not because I really do but because he credited my account.

What is this one talking about?

Are you fuc....king insane?!!! undecided
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by firstking01(m): 11:43am On Dec 18, 2016
Toks2008:


Nah you marry wife for me abi?

Nairalanders and Ameboism be like...
Thought you said you are married before??
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by falconey(m): 11:47am On Dec 18, 2016
dee02:


What is this one talking about?

Are you fuc....king insane?!!! undecided

dyslexic mofo, I am not responsible for your mental retardation so lurch off my prestigious mention!

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 11:47am On Dec 18, 2016
firstking01:
Thought you said you are married before??

Nairalanders married a lady for me and also dissolved the union with their speculations and I'm loving it.
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by dee02(m): 11:48am On Dec 18, 2016
falconey:

I am Falconey and i am a certified stinking cun...t!
[color=#990000][/color]

Go fu...ck your mum, you raasclat! cheesy
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by falconey(m): 11:51am On Dec 18, 2016
dee02:


Go fu...ck your mum, you raasclat! cheesy


not everyone does that, you and your dipsomaniac father can keep drilling your mum's goal post hole till kingdom come. frustrated vecordious piece of shit!!!

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 5:52pm On Dec 20, 2016
firstking01:
Thought you said you are married before??

Yes he has been married before and the lady ran away. He admitted to it in the other thread, so I don't understand why he would deny it here.
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 5:56pm On Dec 20, 2016
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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 7:20pm On Dec 20, 2016
FortuneTeller:


Yes he has been married before and the lady ran away. He admitted to it in the other thread, so I don't understand why he would deny it here.

I destroy every monitoring spirit on and offline following me upandan by fire in the name of yeshua.

Just no die on top my matter.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 7:27pm On Dec 20, 2016
It's not a scam we think that way.Human beings are alteristic it's encoded in our genes ..First it's about self preservation.Once we preserve "self" we think about others,well some people never do they remain in alteristic mode. Perhaps they have defective genes maybe?

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 7:40pm On Dec 20, 2016
Raine80:
It's not a scam we think that way.Human beings are alteristic it's encoded in our genes ..First it's about self preservation.Once we preserve "self" we think about others,well some people never do they remain in alteristic mode. Perhaps they have defective genes maybe?

Brilliant submission.
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 7:41pm On Dec 20, 2016
And that's why when Africans get married to western foreigners for green card and papers dey dump such partners as soon as they get abroad.That's why ladies who get married to rich old men still cheat on them with younger men.No sane individual would want a partner who wants to be with him or her cos of his/her money or the political connections the individual has.i do believe in our hearts of hearts we want someone who has genuine love for us even if we don't want to admit it here.We are humans afterall.

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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by firstking01(m): 7:42pm On Dec 20, 2016
FortuneTeller:


Yes he has been married before and the lady ran away. He admitted to it in the other thread, so I don't understand why he would deny it here.
My bad shocked...


Cc toks2008.

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