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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 3:11am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by fortunechy(m): 3:26am On Dec 24, 2016 |
I've learned that trust is like glass.
Once broken, no matter how you put it back together, you
can still see the cracks. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Livefreeordieha(m): 4:18am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Toks2008:oga toks u tried but whatever inspired u..did that very late BUT the courage to share I salute..cuz it spells out ur honesty...this is a fact as old as the 70s generation union as a result of love died and was buried with our parents generation...those who care to disagree can I will not fault them cuz I know reality isn't not for everyone..and not everyone has the courage to accept the truth neither has the wisdom to spot one ..finally bro toks..next question you should ask is why do we have union of convenience instead of unconditional love..what you will hear or read might be tagged for FOR YOUR EYES AND EARS ONLY..!!!!meanwhile check my pics below.
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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by galantjoe(m): 4:21am On Dec 24, 2016 |
love is material. we love somebody because he/she exhibits some qualities we feel we like. we can not love empty vacuum. that is why we love different sets of people. so marriage is borne out of love. thus it is based on things the other patner sees that will make him to get married. who will like to marry madman. no body. so op is very correct by saying we all have our selfish interest before getting married. let me say this. love attract marriage but committment keeps the marriage 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Immorttal: 5:11am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Toks2008:you talk nonsense all the time. |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Laredojohn(m): 5:21am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Yea....quite true,everyone has a hidden motive why they got married to that special person they got married to, that motive might not even b expressed to anyone, the only thing we all hear is he or she is loving caring, supportive, etc, you never hear anyone say he or she has has a US Citizenship or any other cool country, you never hear his or her dad has an inheritance to leave behind, you never hear he is very good at the other room and many more... |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by opribo(m): 5:56am On Dec 24, 2016 |
OP you are partially correct, in the sense that your points are applicable only to nowadays endtime marriages where selfish and vested interest is the overriding deciding factor. In the days of our fathers when true love reigned there was nothing like what can you bring on the table rather it was unconditional love. In fact a popular ibo saying summarizes it all it says thus: 'I na eme oyi, meete onye di mma enyi, maka olulu' translated it means when yiu are making friends make good ones because of marriage. You will not see an ugly, broke ass girl or boy and marry such and suffer, nobody uses poverty to pose, you will not see a person from a poverty stricken home with a football team number of sibblings all struggling to enter secondary school and put your head there thereby mortgaging your own happiness. When you are not the one that caused the problem you will now allow another person baggage of trouble affect you. Neither will you see a person suffering from a disease or has a health condition that may affect your happiness and children and put your head. The truth is that people are now very very aware they look very well before taking any life long decision. For example nowadays a black guy peers up with a fair lady and produce 'ajebutter' colored children unlike before black charcoal versus black charcoal I dont know what to call the product of such union or a struggling guy need to use his exposure to leap frog into a waelthy mans home and marry the daugther like that rubbin mnd guy did to chase poverty far away. Ok, assuming the person that married bubu daughter was a hustling man, do you expect bubu no matter how wicked he is to allow such a man to be disgracing him, no way he will command NNPC to employ him anyhow it is. Look poverty is a terrible disease and it is highly contagious therefore anything that has the coloration of semblance must be resisted even in marriage. If they have nothing to offer leave them alone 'jeje' with their problems dont allow them to use their family problems to affect yours. 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 6:20am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Marriage Is a union between persons who are determined to stay together, it was never meant to be perfect and isnt expected to be. it still remains the most sought after relationship by adults despite stories of divorce and infidelity. People still fly by air despite plane crashes. Marriage Is No Different. Some Of The Problems We Have In Society Today Is As A Result Of The Attack On Marriage As An Institution. |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Genea(f): 6:36am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Hahahahaha, I lafta u op |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by RealityShot: 6:42am On Dec 24, 2016 |
lefulefu:I concur 4x |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by RealityShot: 6:50am On Dec 24, 2016 |
fortunechy:I keep trying make people understand this But it seems people don't care about that.. As long as they get what they want.. Selfish generations.. Smh |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by greenermodels: 7:05am On Dec 24, 2016 |
the selfish reasons os why modern marriages are failing because you're supposed to love whom you're compatible with, love flows because you share the same ideals not because she's beautiful or rich. i almost married an older working class lady but as time was passing, i realised when co~habiting with her that we're not compatible but are only getting married for selfish reasons, she's desperate to marry due to her old age and I'm willing to marry her because she's gainfully employed unlike many present day ladies that don't seem to have a direction in their lives, apart from that, we're both unhappy with each other since we have different ideas about life. so i walked away from the relationship, i don't want to spend the rest of my life with a wealthy woman i really hate her character. 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 7:06am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Toks2008:Your heart needs some healing, you could use a soul massage . The lady/ladies who did this to you must have really hit it hard and deep at the deepest part of the bottom of your heart. From your tone, you must have been a good boy gone bad, karma is a relentless biatch, take heart broh, I hope you find the solace you're looking for by running around n.ak.ed around the internet, looking for 1 Like
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Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by greenermodels: 7:12am On Dec 24, 2016 |
RealityShot:the modern generation don't care about trust, honour, good name etc all they care about is wealth and the funny thing is that most good things in life are free or very affordable to the hustler on the street, you don't need a 16million naira handbag,8million naira wrist watch or 1.2 million naira t~shirt to be happy but this generation don't want to hear that sermon. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by JeffreyJamez(m): 7:36am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Toks2008: 99%? ......the way una dey churn out statistics ehn, person go dey wonder if una don enter everywhere for this world. Bros say what you know with out churning out rubbish statistics..... 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 8:05am On Dec 24, 2016 |
greenermodels: Well some of us do actually care about trust, honor and a good name. Character is another thing we all really have to look out for. A lot of the men will tell you it's a woman that guided him places yet sometimes you will see men gather and bash the same woman for entertainment. When I think of Marraige scam is far from my mind it's not a fairytale but it's not just a label as well. You can't misrepresent yourself and the truth not come out one day. Won't rush it...but if I am tying my name to yours forever you have got to be someone who sees better days ahead Scams are elaborate but the eye clears one day and the brunt of the trauma gets deflected to the children if there are any. Trust ....a 5 letter word but a risk if God didn't ordain that Marraige I agree the best things in life are free. |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by greenermodels: 8:14am On Dec 24, 2016 |
solasoulmusic:life have taught me that Nigerians with the sweetest words like you are often the worst in character. average Nigerians don't care about trust and good name. 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 8:20am On Dec 24, 2016 |
greenermodels: I honestly love your sincerity. Now do you know that those selfish reasons you mentioned are actually mutually beneficial for both of you? Do you know that in addition to those conditions if her character was cool by you there won't be any need to leave her and both of you will be happy together despite the selfish reasons? this is the summary of my write up.... 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 8:23am On Dec 24, 2016 |
JeffreyJamez: It is expedient to note that this is nairaland and not euro or dollar land so whatever I write applies to Nigeria. |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 8:29am On Dec 24, 2016 |
sapiosexual1: Do you know that it is a sign of intellectual stundedness when you juxtapose a write up with the persona or personal life of the writer? In my life no woman has ever broken heart but whenever I write stuffs I do from a pragmatic angle and not about what is ideal....I write outside the box and what I write has no correlation with who I am or what goes on in my life. I have seen sweet ladies..calm honest and a wife material in all respect but because I'm very visual I just look away if such lady does not appeal to me sexually. So if I marry a lady that is sexually pleasing to my eyes will that be called selfish? If a lady says she does not want to marry a broke guy and she decides to marry a rich man even if she becomes a second wife please how does that sound selfish? it's individual choices that matter. 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 8:32am On Dec 24, 2016 |
opribo: Very hilarious comment but also very insightful. |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by JeffreyJamez(m): 8:44am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Toks2008: Even at that, have you interviewed all the married people in Nigeria?.. ..heck, have you interviewed all the married people on your street!... Abi your stats is based on what you see in the movies? |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 8:48am On Dec 24, 2016 |
JeffreyJamez: Whatever rocks your boat. |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Stbottle(m): 9:09am On Dec 24, 2016 |
I strongly believe this op is right. Attraction to the opposite gender starts with a crush which starts from what you see...e.g her beauty, money, stature, political and social influence etc... and whether we like it or not everyone wants what is best for them...that is the selfish part....only few marriages are borne out of pure love....and also note...marriagei s political...you have what i want anf i also have what you want...so lets get married..thats the idea 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by greenermodels: 9:15am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Toks2008:i guess you're right, but if her character was cool by me,then it would have been a case of loving for the sake of love which would have proved you wrong, i really loved her with or without her money but i couldn't take the daily quarrelling any more. |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Stbottle(m): 9:19am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Come to think of it...the very beautiful daughrers of this politicians and thise in government...is it that they dont havr any younger ambitious guy chasing after them?? Why do they have to become second wives and even third of fourth in an old mans other room... 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Nobody: 9:34am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Marriage is a mystery .... |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by Toks2008(m): 9:34am On Dec 24, 2016 |
greenermodels: we are exactly on the same page. This thread was created to explain some vital points to a certain moniker by name fortuneTeller who from no where came out strong on me accusing me of a "possible" scam marriage just because I considered an option of marrying a foreigner and till this moment I still can't wrap my head around the fact that some people can be so myopic to ever think that way. In this present day,guys scam people of good money while some ladies see a green card as a reason for scam..then I ask her.."are there not Nigerians who are still keeping their marital vow to a foreign lady even years after getting their green card through the lady they married?" There is something fundamentally wrong with the psyche of many people and they are always quick to read baseless sinister meaning to seemingly innocuous moves. Why do foreign ladies mostly marry black guys? OF COURSE FOR GOOD SX and does that not sound selfish to see a man as a potential intimacy gadget? then the guy marries the lady for nationality but along the line they could get on well and decide to grow old together but it does not change the fact that the condition that brought them together in the first place was selfish....this is the case with 9 out of 10 marital unions. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by greenermodels: 9:41am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Toks2008:true words but I'm afraid of you o. |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by kaboninc(m): 10:02am On Dec 24, 2016 |
FortuneTeller: You know these live-in couples arrangements....where the fiancee is assumed to be the wife 1 Like |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by kaboninc(m): 10:04am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Toks2008: That's true.. . We're all greedy and selfish to some extent. However, being greedy and selfish are relative terms, interpreted differently by different people |
Re: Why Marriage is a scam. by kaboninc(m): 10:08am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Toks2008: So it that why you are yet to marry? |
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