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let me recommend this to this guy...maybe he can get his babe back



https://www.nairaland.com/3557374/girlfriend-broke-up-guy-because

importexpert:
Bro, Experiencing a break up is not a pleasant feeling. It can even be more terrible if after the initial flood of emotions, you discover how valuable Ngozi/Aysha has been. Now you wonder if there is a way of getting her back because you know your life is better with her than without her.

First of all, I must admit that getting your ex-girlfriend back is not an easy task. Getting her back is a process that would take time and a little strategy on your part. You need to understand that there is no short cut to it. This is not the usual case of misunderstanding in a relationship, but one where the relationship supposedly has ended.

For all the "chop and clean mouth guys" please this is not your thread , this is for people who still have that humanly feeling of love in them.

What can you do to get her back?

1. Give yourselves a break:

You both need some time for yourselves. Do not go begging her to reconsider the relationship. Do not send her text messages or make silly Facebook posts. During this time, do not make any contact with her. Ignore that urge to make her see you. Remember, the scarcer a thing is, the more desirable it becomes. Make no contact at least for three weeks. Don’t fret if she goes in to a new relationship. If you really had a strong relationship, there is nothing to worry about. The new guy is just a rebound and the relationship will most likely crash before you know it.

2. Analyze your break up:

What was it that was not working about the relationship? Did you do all the hard work to make the relationship work? Did you apologize every time she did something wrong? Did you compliment her too much? Did you tell her affirm your love more than she did? Were you insecure? Who initiated the break up; was it you or her? What was the reason? These are important questions that you need to find answers to.

3. Work on yourself:

Instead of letting your emotions run haywire, invest your time on yourself. If you will stand any chance at getting her back, you need to improve yourself. Hit the gym, get new clothes, earn more money, get a new haircut, give your apartment a facelift, improve on your sense of humor etc. Just make sure there is a better you.

4. Be on good terms with her close friends:

In this part of the world, hardly can your relationship work if her friends are against you. Right now, her friends wield considerable influence over her decisions. It is better they are on your side than not. Keep in touch with them occasionally via phone calls or chats. Remember, it should be occasional! if that Amina/chioma is not by your side sometimes you are only wasting your time. girls have their own way of thinking. her friends will most of the time succeed in sabotaging your efforts. Be on good terms with them.

5. Re-establish rapport:

After you have taken time to work on yourself, establish rapport with her. This is not the time to bring up relationship matters. At this point, you have an advantage over other guys trying to date her because you know her likes and dislikes which can aid you in conversing with her. Your aim is to douse the tension between the two of you and get her to relax. The best topic to discuss with a woman is herself. Keep your chats interesting by talking about her. Employ your sense of humor as often as you can.

6. Engage her emotions:

This is your best shot at getting her back. Women are not really wired to make decisions basically on logic. A woman builds connection with a guy based on how he makes her feel. One way of doing this is to engage her discussions that gets her to talk about her deepest feelings about various topics. If she can feel the emotions for you again, you have an eighty percent chance if having her back. She will work her way around logic when she sees that you have worked on yourself.

7. Set the stage for your reunion:

This is the moment you have waited for: to ask her out again. Not yet, it will take a moment. Don’t rush to apologize and ask for a make-up. Doing so will give her the chance to tell you no. Don’t allow that opportunity. At this point, you need to act as though you are boyfriend again. Relate with her as on an intimate basis. Naturally, she knows what you are up to. If she raises it up, then, you can make your apology speech. If she plays along, then flow with the tide. She most likely wants it that way already.

Nice but , all these na stories that touch

AND ON THAT DAY, NOBODY GIVES A F_UCK

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Gbam, but I don't do ex joor ( single or married).

Toks2008:
I totally agree with all your points but on the condition that her leaving was not hinged on your financial status...if a Naija lady leaves you because you are broke, the only sure way to get her back is to make good money.

I don't give a Bleep

i told me Ex hi on watsapp she quickly change her status to NO TRU LOVE I quickly replied her I don't want u back I only want to tell u that I saw ur brother yesterday putting on my T-shirt

Na only f.ucck we go fit do afterwards ooo

Guy u are right

You hv never Received OKOKOBIOKO SLAP B4? TRY IT

Who come back epp

If I hear...

ajalawole:
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Why will you want to get Ur ex back??


What did you leave there that is so important you have to go back??

If it didn't work out the first time, what's the possibility of it working out the second time??

am always in good relationship with ex, I rarely quarrel with a girl even those that said no to me.

the only ex I would want back are those that humiliated me. and it'll be for revenge. I don't forgive easily

What started all this IDGAF? Just coming on NL for the first time in weeks. Very funny

Dis is 2017, I need to work on how to make money not wasting time trying to get someone ( that had probably moved on ) back. Uh mtchew

on behalf of idgaf crew... we actually dont

going back to my ex lols Wat for I gat drill odas na I wish der was number 8

[color=#000000]nice riteup bro, u are gud[/color]

♥ ~"“I wish I could go back to the day I met you and just walk away. Because honestly, it would’ve saved me so much hurt and pain.” "~ ♥

Nice write up I like this post
I want to emphasize on no4 wat if it is her friends dat u thought will help u out in talking to her was even the architect of ur divorce, then wat can one do about that?Nice write up I like this post
I want to emphasize on no4 wat if it is her friends dat u thought will help u out in talking to her was even the architect of ur divorce, then wat can one do about that?Nice write up I like this post
I want to emphasize on no4 wat if it is her friends dat u thought will help u out in talking to her was even the architect of ur divorce, then wat can one do about that?

Sorry!

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U have exposed the whole secret to the ladies, they wouldn't answer any more o

importexpert:
why exactly are you not asleep ?

From Importation to Love advises, oga no confuse us o, which one you dey sef ?

...and if she's married nko?

Why tha fvck would you want your ex back??

An ex is suppose to be an ex, thats why its an ex bro!

importexpert:
Bro, Experiencing a break up is not a pleasant feeling. It can even be more terrible if after the initial flood of emotions, you discover how valuable Ngozi/Aysha has been. Now you wonder if there is a way of getting her back because you know your life is better with her than without her.

First of all, I must admit that getting your ex-girlfriend back is not an easy task. Getting her back is a process that would take time and a little strategy on your part. You need to understand that there is no short cut to it. This is not the usual case of misunderstanding in a relationship, but one where the relationship supposedly has ended.

For all the "chop and clean mouth guys" please this is not your thread , this is for people who still have that humanly feeling of love in them.

What can you do to get her back?

1. Give yourselves a break:

You both need some time for yourselves. Do not go begging her to reconsider the relationship. Do not send her text messages or make silly Facebook posts. During this time, do not make any contact with her. Ignore that urge to make her see you. Remember, the scarcer a thing is, the more desirable it becomes. Make no contact at least for three weeks. Don’t fret if she goes in to a new relationship. If you really had a strong relationship, there is nothing to worry about. The new guy is just a rebound and the relationship will most likely crash before you know it.

2. Analyze your break up:

What was it that was not working about the relationship? Did you do all the hard work to make the relationship work? Did you apologize every time she did something wrong? Did you compliment her too much? Did you tell her affirm your love more than she did? Were you insecure? Who initiated the break up; was it you or her? What was the reason? These are important questions that you need to find answers to.

3. Work on yourself:

Instead of letting your emotions run haywire, invest your time on yourself. If you will stand any chance at getting her back, you need to improve yourself. Hit the gym, get new clothes, earn more money, get a new haircut, give your apartment a facelift, improve on your sense of humor etc. Just make sure there is a better you.

4. Be on good terms with her close friends:

In this part of the world, hardly can your relationship work if her friends are against you. Right now, her friends wield considerable influence over her decisions. It is better they are on your side than not. Keep in touch with them occasionally via phone calls or chats. Remember, it should be occasional! if that Amina/chioma is not by your side sometimes you are only wasting your time. girls have their own way of thinking. her friends will most of the time succeed in sabotaging your efforts. Be on good terms with them.

5. Re-establish rapport:

After you have taken time to work on yourself, establish rapport with her. This is not the time to bring up relationship matters. At this point, you have an advantage over other guys trying to date her because you know her likes and dislikes which can aid you in conversing with her. Your aim is to douse the tension between the two of you and get her to relax. The best topic to discuss with a woman is herself. Keep your chats interesting by talking about her. Employ your sense of humor as often as you can.

6. Engage her emotions:

This is your best shot at getting her back. Women are not really wired to make decisions basically on logic. A woman builds connection with a guy based on how he makes her feel. One way of doing this is to engage her discussions that gets her to talk about her deepest feelings about various topics. If she can feel the emotions for you again, you have an eighty percent chance if having her back. She will work her way around logic when she sees that you have worked on yourself.

7. Set the stage for your reunion:

This is the moment you have waited for: to ask her out again. Not yet, it will take a moment. Don’t rush to apologize and ask for a make-up. Doing so will give her the chance to tell you no. Don’t allow that opportunity. At this point, you need to act as though you are boyfriend again. Relate with her as on an intimate basis. Naturally, she knows what you are up to. If she raises it up, then, you can make your apology speech. If she plays along, then flow with the tide. She most likely wants it that way already.
And who says I want the bitch back

And who says I want the Bítch back ...I don't go back to my vomit bro!!!

Send her more money. Surprise her with expensive gifts. What money cannot do. MORE money can do it