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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by multikolour(m): 7:38am On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel:
multikolour post=: OP, which work do you do for a living?
which work do your wife do for a living?
who provide for the house the more?

I asked this question because from your narration you do most of the house chore, like washing her clothes, sweeping and bathing the baby.

you also agreed to cook the soup but you declined because you have forgotten how to, if not you will have.
from the look of things she control you and every thing in the house, sorry I don't know what to say to bring solution to your problem because you gave us little information.




I am a Civil servant but she is not working thou she has a Masters Degree.
then the truth is you are allowing her to control you too much, having a masters is nothing but a certificate.
how can she be doing nothing but you will be the one to wash her cloth and cook when you come back from work, you have to man up and change the way some things go on in your married life.
am not saying don't give her helping hand but she should do most of the work since she not doing anything rather than sleep and wait for you too do everything for her.

BUT PLEASE NO DIVORCE, LOVE YOUR WIFE AND HER BABY AND MAKE YOUR FAMILY YOUR PRIORITY

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by johnson232: 7:55am On Jan 26, 2017
SirAweezy:
This is unbelievable! whattttttt? Ooooh see as this guy dey make me dey vex sef... haaaaa for reallll you do took this shiit and call it loveeee?

I am even lost for words, I dey vex angry
Man remember you are the driver of the home... you are obviously sleeping on the steering. Please man up abeg... you have taken this bull shiit too far. With time your wife will be looking at you as a weakling and she might go out to be with the man with Authority.
@bold That is what the op already is bro...A woman who isn't working can't cook or do simple house chores...i really sorry for the op...

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Richy4(m): 11:06am On Jan 26, 2017
krauss:
Finally, I can now agree that some people can go any length to fabricate stories here on nairaland, but my question is, why do that? smh disappointed.

Why did you think the story was fabricated?
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by MamaTej(f): 11:14am On Jan 26, 2017
No one is allow to judge until we've heard the two sides of the story.
Thank you.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 11:51am On Jan 26, 2017
pocohantas:
As at April 4, 2015, you said you guys play like babies.

July 19, 2015...she was pressurising you for marriage

Fast forward to few weeks later, you proposed a little before Aug 26, 2015.

You said you're a teacher and she's a part time worker in a hospital.

You got married Jan 2, 2016.

This is Jan 26,2017, a little over 1yr and it has gone this sour.

I had to confirm this isn't fiction.

Inspector general pocohantas cool

I'm at your service Ma ! Welldone

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by delishpot: 12:25pm On Jan 26, 2017
multikolour:
then the truth is you are allowing her to control you too much, having a masters is nothing but a certificate.
how can she be doing nothing but you will be the one to wash her cloth and cook when you come back from work, you have to man up and change the way some things go on in your married life.
am not saying don't give her helping hand but she should do most of the work since she not doing anything rather than sleep and wait for you too do everything for her.

BUT PLEASE NO DIVORCE, LOVE YOUR WIFE AND HER BABY AND MAKE YOUR FAMILY YOUR PRIORITY

Have you cared for a new born baby before? You cant even sleep at night talk less of during the day. If you think a nursing mother is just sitting and doing nothing, then you are very wrong. I believe he doesn't wash every single cloth of hers.maybe he did when she just gave birth which is understandable if she has only him around her. Typically women who just put to birth need a lot of help. Back in the day her mom and/or younger female family member would come to help until the woman can stand on her two feet again. But these days, husband's may have to put in time if they can't go the old route.
But yes, she needs to calm the Bleep down and work hand in hand with the nice man she has married to help the family work as a single unit. Some women don't get to enjoy half of what this brother is doing for her. Some would even top it with slaps and kicks. She needs to appreciate what she has.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Richy4(m): 3:54pm On Jan 26, 2017
delishpot:


Have you cared for a new born baby before? You cant even sleep at night talk less of during the day. If you think a nursing mother is just sitting and doing nothing, then you are very wrong. I believe he doesn't was every single cloth of hers.maybe he did when she just gave birth which is understandable if she has only him around her. Typically women who just put to birth need a lot of help. Back in the day her mom and/or younger female family member would come to help until the woman can stand on her two feet again. But these days, husband's may have to put in time if they can't go the old route.
But yes, she needs to calm the Bleep down and work hand in hand with the nice man she has married to help the family work as a single unit. Some women don't get to enjoy half of what this brother is doing for her. Some would even top it with slaps and kicks. She needs to appreciate what she has.

You are very correct....Most of them offering solution here did selective reading...They skipped the part that implies that the woman was a nursing mother.....And jump into "start taking charge as a man bullshit"...I know how babies wakes up at the ungodly time of the night and start raising an alarm... If he wakes up by 5am daily, that means the baby is not that bad in terms of crying....Though I really hate the fact that the woman was totally capitalizing on what the OP was doing by playing the nursing mother card....

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by pocohantas(f): 5:01pm On Jan 26, 2017
truthsayer007:


Inspector general poco hantas cool

I'm at your service Ma ! Welldone
Come and learn work.
Entries would close by next week.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by spencekat(m): 5:56pm On Jan 26, 2017
ojun50:
Were did u meet yr wife?
Does it have any correlation with the issue at hand?
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by kaboninc(m): 6:00pm On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.


Are you a man?
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 6:22pm On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel, you need to man up ASAP, stop doing domestic stuffs for your wife. She is not working so why should you do domestic stuffs? Instead why don't you hire a nanny or house help for her?
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Smhart1(f): 6:25pm On Jan 26, 2017
That woman go soon start to dey beat you

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 6:52pm On Jan 26, 2017
kaboninc post:


Are you a man?



Yes.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Flyingngel(m): 6:57pm On Jan 26, 2017
Catalin post:Flyingngel, you need to man up ASAP, stop doing domestic stuffs for your wife. She is not working so why should you do domestic stuffs? Instead why don't you hire a nanny or house help for her?



Thank u. Well the issue of nanny didn't cross my mind because i have a feeling that when the two of us join hand in taking care of our child, it will draw us more closer and the love will b stronger. May b i was deceiving myself.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by miqos02(m): 8:23pm On Jan 26, 2017
hmm
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by tuscani: 8:24pm On Jan 26, 2017
Make I park here if I can learn one or two things.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 8:25pm On Jan 26, 2017
Quite sad but you should step up as the man of the house, that comes naturally. She should be a homemaker not a home breaker, you can remind her when next you lecture her on the vows you took at your wedding

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by miqos02(m): 8:26pm On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.
bros, are you the wife or husband in this marriage? something tells me you are the wife oh
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Opakan2: 8:26pm On Jan 26, 2017
so you didn't notice she was stubborn before you married her.. medicine after death undecided
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by femi4: 8:27pm On Jan 26, 2017
dingbang:
Please be a man.... Dont allow a woman to be trampling on you like a doormat... Get into d kitchen, cook d food, if she steps in there to eat, give her a hot slap and remind her who d is d man of the house!
grin grin
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 8:27pm On Jan 26, 2017
miqos02:
bros, are you the wife or husband in this marriage? something tells me you are the wife oh
na so dem dey advice?
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by helphelp: 8:27pm On Jan 26, 2017
Get a maid

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 8:27pm On Jan 26, 2017
Opakan2:
so you didn't notice she was stubborn before you married her.. medicine after death undecided
I don't think he mentioned it but no one's perfect
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by soberdrunk(m): 8:29pm On Jan 26, 2017
#stopdomesticabuseagainstmen angry angry

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Phemvin(m): 8:30pm On Jan 26, 2017
Edwinmason:
you have spoken the mind of the elders
good one
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by miqos02(m): 8:30pm On Jan 26, 2017
Tazmode:
na so dem dey advice?
u can decode my advice from that question
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by babseg(m): 8:31pm On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.

I believe you . Unfortunately for you , this is where problems will start someone is going to bend for the other or your marriage is going down the drain.

But if I was in your case that night. I will just dress up and find somewhere nice to eat

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by jo997: 8:31pm On Jan 26, 2017
Wash plate, wash her clothes,,, mba kwa nu... this is highest show of weakness.


On a second thought, since you have been doing this for all time, l think is high time you sit your wife down and discuss this issue outrightly with her..


Although you started it earlier by doing house chores exclusively meant for women irrespective of their standing in the society.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by tommykiwi(m): 8:32pm On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.
Me also get question for U. Na she marry U abi?
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Opakan2: 8:32pm On Jan 26, 2017
Tazmode:
I don't think he mentioned it but no one's perfect

people especially women can hide their true character till they get into a man's house, then they become uncontrollable

Anywaiz I think the OP has been too soft and gentle with the wife, why she is taking him for granted.
Women don't appreciate good, "over loving" men.. most of them want violence and guys they can't predict. it's how they are

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by smart024(m): 8:34pm On Jan 26, 2017
Its in a case like this that my people will begin to ask "why is it that its only people without teeth that their maize use to ripe...?"

To a point I can't eeven take it when another lady is doing it to another fellow man o...
I remember dressing down one lady that even if she use to quarrel her husband, she should wait till I leave the house anytime I visit o...

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by femi4: 8:35pm On Jan 26, 2017
pocohantas:
As at April 4, 2015, you said you guys play like babies. In your words, "we play like babies, running and throwing pillows... Finally we promise ourselves to be happy no matter what.

July 19, 2015...she was pressurising you for marriage and you were confused about marrying her, after dating for 7yrs. She said she'll marry you on her own conditions, because she thinks you'll change when you make money.
What conditions?

Fast forward to few weeks later, you proposed a little before Aug 26, 2015.

You said you're a teacher and she's a part time worker in a hospital.

You got married Jan 2, 2016.
This is Jan 26,2017, a little over 1yr and it has gone this sour.
Her character is despicable, but what changed?
Has she always been like this?

I had to confirm this isn't fiction.
Inspector gadjet of our time....I sight you

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