Benita27:
For one to have a successful relationship i believe there shouldn't be concealment from both parties. But, some people are caught up in the right time to reveal horrible secrets and how such would be perceived and handled by their spouses. Others made the effort to be open, but ended up losing a "loved one", while before some could their spouses have deliberately become inquisitive and dug out some shocking past. Now, these have propelled me to ask...

When do you think is the right time to tell your gf/bf of your horrible past?.

ikp120:
When he asks you a question, give am the answer (plus or minus nothing). If he no ask you, shut the fvck up!

youngdanee:
I'll never tell, it'll kill him
No quote me abeg

Benita27:
What will happen in a situation he never asked but heard from someone?. Don't forget some past could freak someone out.

dingbang:
Ur boyfriend/girlfriend is not Jesus Christ who has mandated you to cast ur burdens on him...



From personal experience its best u do not even let him or her know and pray he or she doesn't even find out..


You only confess when the time arises and whatever happens , you accept it in good faith.. Remember, its always a 50-50 chance.


Peace.

Benita27:
If you don't tell him and he finds out, you come up as a liar, which could make him never to trust you.

Benita27:
What will happen in a situation he never asked but heard from someone?. Don't forget some past could freak someone out.

dingbang:
then u ask him if he will marry you if u confess all to him..

ikp120:


Then he will have himself to blame for not asking deep questions. The guy or girl CANNOT even tell you all the ugly things about him or her except you ask am really terrible probing questions.

Benita27:
Asking him a question like "will you marry me if i tell you of my past?". Will make you seem desperate for marriage.

Not a good idea.

Jacksparr0w127:
Depends on the past you're telling. Some pasts better remain in the past

dingbang:
its not being desperate.. Will u afford telling every tom dick and harry you had a form of rship with in d past and when u both happen to break up, they go on spilling secrets just like I did to barbie.klaus? think...

CaroLyner:
"Horrible" is a rather strong word.

Benita27:
I suppose we're talking of a relationship where both parties are committed.

Marriage is already on the table, transparency is required.

Benita27:
If he/she digs out this past don't you think it backfires?.

Jacksparr0w127:
'Dig' you said. Who dey find go see na.

Sometimes, some secrets are kept from partners out of respect and love. To avoid hurting them

ikp120:


Then he will have himself to blame for not asking deep questions. The guy or girl CANNOT even tell you all the ugly things about him or her except you ask am really terrible probing questions.

TheSlyone2:
The first day he approached you...


I mean it better you let him/her know what's in the river before swimming with him

Benita27:
Is wrong to tell such on first days. I believe is preferable on the long run.

dingbang:
no relationship is a committed relationship until they both take it to the altar!

TheSlyone2:

So you prefer to give someone unnecessary hypertension.. Abi.