Benita27:
Most people don't see it that way, they would rather prefer to be told.

Love Machine:
I thank God say i no get horrible past to share.

Benita27:
Are you kidding me?, are couples not committed in courtship?.

Jacksparr0w127:
hmmm true tho. But I hate talking about the past tho. The past is so dirty with lot of black painting

dingbang:
courtship my foot..... I won't be surprised if my future fiancee gets shagged by another guy out of my knowledge and after a while I get to know about it.

Benita27:
I will need to know how much he could handle, that is only achievable on the long-run.

Benita27:
That's why i used "horrible". They just have to be told.

Timing is the issue here.

TheSlyone2:

If you are you much weary of sharing your secret with him, you shouldn't be accept his proposal...

If you like him, and you aren't ready to walk him through your past, make him a close friend (not friend zoning him). In that case, when he eventually find out, he will be able to handle the situation

Benita27:
Reasonable enough.

Benita27:
I guess you'll end the relationship.

SmellingAnus:
Let's say a year and six months into the relationship or when he has proposed... Sinaj.. I have a question for you... A girl that made a sex tape with her ex, will you advise her to tell her fiance? If you were the one in her shoes will you tell your fiance that you made some sex tapes with your ex?

CC: Sinaj (happy New year by the way

dingbang:
i said in my first comment that its a 50-50 chance.... I may end it or I may not end it.. Not you assuming I will end it.. Or is it ur decision?



Tell me, why do u think u ain't dead yet when u sin against God? Although you know he says sinners will perish.. But u have cheated on him.. Yet u still breathe...


Think

Jacksparr0w127:
hmmmm let me read comments

Benita27:


Are you sure about that?.

Amarabae:
If it is so horrible and will pose as a threat to ur relationship, its better you keep it to urself if he did not ask u.
But if he finds out on his own and confront u,then u open up.

Benita27:
For one to have a successful relationship i believe there shouldn't be concealment from both parties. But, some people are caught up in the right time to reveal horrible secrets and how such would be perceived and handled by their spouses. Others made the effort to be open, but ended up losing a "loved one", while before some could their spouses have deliberately become inquisitive and dug out some shocking past. Now, these have propelled me to ask...

When do you think is the right time to tell your gf/bf of your horrible past?.

Benita27:
It's called God's mercies.
Humans are different.

xtiandating:

If revealing a past can cost your marriage, why not reveal it before the marriage?

dingbang:
u are still being presumptuous.... Its a bad habit

Benita27:
Really?.
I get your point.

dingbang:
am still waiting on my girl to admit to what I heard abt her... Else I can't proceed with d rship.. Cuz its just obvious she is denying

dingbang:
mehn.... Have u ever been questioned by a prosecutor in a court?

Benita27:
How would you know if he/she could handle it?.

Nice suggestion.

Benita27:
If she admits to it, what will you do?.

xtiandating:

Being skeptical about his/her handling of the issue is more reason to tell him/her before marriage tomsve yourselves of greater loss. If you are not sure the person can handle it, then tell the person before the marriage.

Benita27:
What if he finds out?.

dingbang:
spot on question.. But sadly enough, u ain't her, so I won't tell u what I will do next

ikp120:


No o. But no be that style of asking questions I dey talk about o. It MUST be romantic na.

Benita27:
Impressive!, thanks for your contribution.