Hi guys, have been dating my gf for 5 yrs now and I love her so much cus shes all dat I need in a woman.....we have been through the ups and downs and we still love each oda very much...am 32 and shes 27....am doing gud business wise and financially ok to raise a family....i stay alone in a 4 bedroom bungalow and currently doing finishing touches to my own personal house am building shes got a gud job too an official car and her own private car....shes has a nice apartment and from a comfortable and respected family.....we ought to get married like 3yrs ago but she keeps telling me she isnt ready for marriage now infact she doesnt want to get married...her family, mom friends even her pastor has talked to her but to no avail.....
I really want to settle and have kids and I love her so much go be my wife but her constantly refusing to get married is killing me.....plz what do I do in this situation?
Some folks are advicing me to look somewhere else but I love her so much.....

She's not ready for marriage and you want to force her?

You may regret marrying someone who doesn't want to get married.
Talk to her family members and if after that she insist on being unmarried, Oga pack your load and loo for someone serious with marriage

Then you my man better love another girl

When women dey find husband to marry na him dis mgbeke dey feel funky dey do yanga... Nna my brother fashi dat love biko and face reality. U ain't getting any younger for goodness sakes

You can get good ladies around you that are willing to settle down with you. Sir, with every passing minute you're getting older. You can still find love in another lady. She's not ready

Well, things have changed. Some women don't see marriage as a priority & would rather have a life time partner with no paperwork involved. Because they feel it jinxes things. What does she say about kids? Does she want any?

Do not marry that girl, not even by mistake. If anything dare go wrong when you guys finally marry each other, she will either pull out without looking back or she go remind you say she no wan marry before but you dragged her into the shiit.

That's her type. Steer clear bro!

Cutehector:
When women dey find husband to marry na him dis mgbeke dey feel funky dey do yanga... Nna my brother fashi dat love biko and face reality. U ain't getting any younger for goodness sakes

lol...brother u got no chill....lmao

ikp120:
Do not marry that girl, not even by mistake. If anything dare go wrong when you guys finally marry each other, she will either pull out without looking back or she go remind you say she no wan marry before but you dragged her into the shiit.

That's her type. Steer clear bro!

true talk sha,,,, am trying to but is very difficult to let go after all dis years..

ZarZar:
Well, things have changed. Some women don't see marriage as a priority & would rather have a life time partner with no paperwork involved. Because they feel it jinxes things. What does she say about kids? Does she want any?

she loves kids...

baranzy:
she loves kids...

Yeah but does she plan on having any?

ZarZar:


Yeah but does she plan on having any?

yes but not anytime soon...

baranzy:
yes but not anytime soon...

There you go then! You can still have your wish of being a dad, if that kind of informal setup appeals to you.

Bro she doesn't lyk u again#fact#

baranzy:
true talk sha,,,, am trying to but is very difficult to let go after all dis years..

You just have to bro

tell her u re moving on...
no
make sure u chop her puna first..

Maybe she has a spirit husband,take her to a genuine church for deliverance

Not everybody likes marriage
Some people just love having fun don't want to get into boundage

Funny life,while some people are @Shiloh praying for a Husband In dis Buharis regime,someone x busy forming Gallant lady....

Chynwe:
Maybe she has a spirit husband,take her to a genuine church for deliverance

like seriously?

Rukkydelta:
Not everybody likes marriage
Some people just love having fun don't want to get into boundage

really? She isnt really fun and out going type...shes very homely, religious and dedicated to her job....she has a kind heart and has all the qualities of a gudwife.....the only problem is she doesnt wana get married...

Hmm

Let her be please

It's not really her fault... After all,she loves kids and also love you too...but she's just scared of marriage...That was the kind of mindset I had back then sha.

she's a career driven woman i bet she's set goals and getting married would somehow slow it down. there's a level she's hoping to attain give her time she'll come around.

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baranzy:
really? She isnt really fun and out going type...shes very homely, religious and dedicated to her job....she has a kind heart and has all the qualities of a gudwife.....the only problem is she doesnt wana get married...

Hmmm
Maybe she's scared of getting totally committed

Just like me scared of getting committed to a particular man for my life time at then he turns to what I don't expect

Unlike most of the comments above, I would like to reason from her perspective. She could have some issues like health related ones (she could've been told by her doctor she won't be able to conceive or one of many other stuff along that line) and she doesn't wanna become a burden to the person going to marry her.
She also could literally not be ready for marriage. You kept mentioning she has a job, car and you're okay yourself but are those the recipes for a successful marriage? I don't think so.
Respect her decision, move on to someone else if you must.
Peace

u no cook d lie well

Your girlfriend is commitmentphobic. Read up about it.

There must be a reason she don't want to get married yet (it could be psychological or something else). If you truly love her, go the extra mile to find out. Wish you luck bro.

The bitter truth is that she don't want to marry you.

What exactly is her reply?.did she say she will marry you later or she doesnt want to marry you at all