chiomababy22:
I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

Caseless:
do not lie. The real man that would love you and your baby will come very soon. Some men love ladies like you.

Specs of the man that's coming: 1. tall(in Nigerian definition)

2: slim
3: quiet.


He's coming....


TB Joshua mood assumed

octopusfreaky:
@tonyebarcanista and tosyne2much, na ur type dey make some people commit suicide. To that guy dat suggested her marrying a 55 years man, God forgive you..To d OP, where is the father of the baby and why cant you go to him. You neeed to give reasons why you cant marry the man.
Ask God for forgiveness and become a worker in the house of God and see God work wonders.
Then, you come back on this same nairaland to give testimony.

TonyeBarcanista:
We are in a world where people tell others what they wish to hear instead of what they Are supposed to hear. Can YOU allow your fresh son to marry a single mother? How many young fresh men out of every 100 thousand will want to settle for an after 1? Don't forget that Nigeria young men even prefer a virgin lady before their "disvirgined" colleagues, not to talk of one that has a kid for another man.

I'm not saying it's impossible but truth is her options are very limited... I wish her well

ghostmist:
She does not choose the men. Men do the picking...if non of those people you specified picked her, what will she do?

Absolutely nothing! Women are often deluded in thinking they have the option of "choice" when it comes to men. However, the grimm reality is that, it is the men who choose...

Also, the number of men that are likely to show interest in them decrease the older they get

TonyeBarcanista:

@first bolded:
Why do humans enjoy dishonest talk just to make people feel good even though it won't solve their problems? If her choice isn't limited as a single mom then what explains the fact that men run away from her each time she make mention of her child? Perhaps, we should understand that harsh truth is better that smooth deception.

Her options are limited to single fathers, divorcees, and a handful of single guys(who are in their super minority). Even at that, some people that falls within the first two groups still prefer a lady with a clean slate.

The lady has to face reality my brother, a reality but that's not to say it is impossible for her to meet a dream man, what is hers shall be hers, just that the probability is slim.

nasha1:


I dont like this place because of teenagers like u.Imagine the sheer ignorance in ur post.
women don't choose? u are the deluded one.You mean any nincompoop can walk up to a girl and she will gladly accept his proposal? why then men always claim that girls are always after already made men? why are these women choosing the richer men than the poor ones? how then women reject men and they commit suicide? why then men kill women who want 2 leave them? are they not choosing?

women have as much option as men do, men do the chasing that is why it seems they have more options, women do the choosing because she must find something in u that will make her accept u, it can be ur pocket, ur level of education,ur look and many more.A broke guy can not just walk to buhari daughter and say i want 2 marry u and she will accept,according 2 u she will marry him. smh at this kind of reasoning.

it is just unfortunate we live in this side of the world where many men are educated illiterate and think women are poo.Those men rejecting her are not even up to the standard of a single girl with no baggage, some girls will reject them too.We have so many fools and lazy bums who call themselves men, many live off women but it's always women that are after money.How many married men can categorically say they take care of their home 100% without the wife contribution? Some men dont even know what is like paying school fees.

Viking007:
His comment though a little harsh is the gospel truth.

donestk:
No offence intended but you seem to come from a broken home for spewing this thrash.

"the right man will come.... Bla bla bla..... " Are all those who cannot handle her babbage simply the "wrong men"?

Marrying a single mom isn't an issue. The issue is the circumstances that led to her having a baby outta wedlock.

How come the op didn't tell us about circumstances that led to her having a baby out of wedlock?

modelmike7:
. . . . . . caseless ma guy!!

the very 1st comment on this post make sense? Help me check am!

chiomababy22:
I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

chiomababy22:
I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

Barzinime:
His comments (backwards mentality) we all talk of we are in Nigeria or Africa & yet we complain why we arent developing....where is the positivity in what he just said? Just partial condemnation...[s]will see what you will do when such happens to your daughter or relative[/s]

nasha1:


I dont like this place because of teenagers like u.Imagine the sheer ignorance in ur post.
women don't choose? u are the deluded one.You mean any nincompoop can walk up to a girl and she will gladly accept his proposal? why then men always claim that girls are always after already made men? why are these women choosing the richer men than the poor ones? how then women reject men and they commit suicide? why then men kill women who want 2 leave them? are they not choosing?

women have as much option as men do, men do the chasing that is why it seems they have more options, women do the choosing because she must find something in u that will make her accept u, it can be ur pocket, ur level of education,ur look and many more.a broke guy can not just walk to buhari daughter and say i want 2 marry u and she will accept,according 2 u she will marry him. smh at this kind of reasoning.

it is just unfortunate we live in this side of the world where many men are educated illiterate and think women are poo.those men rejecting her are not even up to the standard of a single girl with no baggage, some girls will reject them too.We have so many fools and lazy bums who call demselves men, many live off women but its always women that are after money.how many married men can categorically say they take care of their home 100% without the wife contribution? some men dont even know what is like paying school fees.

women dont have the option of choice indee.see reasoning!

Viking007:
Back to Your head. Cos such will never happen to anyone close to me. Kindly stay off my mentions.

Viking007:
Back to Your head. Cos such will never happen to anyone close to me. Kindly stay off my mentions.

chiomababy22:
I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

donestk:
No offence intended but you seem to come from a broken home for spewing this thrash.

"the right man will come.... Bla bla bla..... " Are all those who cannot handle her babbage simply the "wrong men"?

Marrying a single mom isn't an issue. The issue is the circumstances that led to her having a baby outta wedlock.

How come the op didn't tell us about circumstances that led to her having a baby out of wedlock?

Viking007:
Back to Your head. Cos such will never happen to anyone close to me. Kindly stay off my mentions.

samuelson06:


It's only golddiggers that came and quit and it's better they did. True love covers all things - that's why they say love is blind. True love is an unconditional love from the heart. These guys that came and quit never had that for her. It's that simple.

Cc: tonyebarcanista
chiomababy22

Caseless:
e make sense die, bro Mike ! You killed it.

Just go and take care of her and her child. you know what I mean.

ghostmist:
Take a look at the bolded. Have you ever, in your life, walked up to a man to initiate communication and proceeded to tell him how much you want him in your life??
NO...?
And yet, you have the temerity to argue against a demonstrated proof??

Now lemme tell you the truth that you chose to ignore...the only time you ever get the chance to choose is when several men indicate interest. If that does not happen, you can only go along with whoever chooses you. If that option is unpalatable to you, then there is still the option of staying the fvck alone .
Honestly, I do not want to believe that you're slow in the head but you're forcing me to...

kingphilip:
As an anti-abortionist, I'll first of all congratulate you for keeping the child despite all odds that you faced and still facing..

Honesty still pays heavily don't destroy it for a condition that won't last that much

Even if you hide the child from your next relationship there's 100% possibility he'd find out about him/her and I'm sure he might not want to spare you.. He'd either go the way of divorce or probably turn you into a punching bag

Take care of that child of yours really well and hopefully your next relationship may just click

sasko:
What happened to the relationship that produced the child...be honest
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this topic is now on 5th page and Op ignored my simply question. .hope is not what I'm thinking


some ladies willingly opted for baby mama just for material benefits but when the pay check stops flowing they claim victimisation
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chiomababy22:
I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

ghostmist:
Bro, that girl is still a kid...she keeps shouting "teenager, teenager" upandown...like as if anybody here is her mate.

I think Nairaland needs a kiddies section for people like her.