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Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by jaxxy(m): 9:44pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
adam500hr: U problem is complex bt yet simple. U guys just need a frank talk about ur relationship and then marriage. Relationship 1st then marriage 2nd. |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by technicallyrich(m): 9:44pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
You are a big fool for been rich according to you and allow a woman have a say in your house.if I was the one I will use koboko and wipe her arse and then pursue her out of my home.not Even for cheating but for been stuborn.make she go call police na money e. Go chop. Just incase you don't know.women. Dont have say when you are rich .u dey Bleep up 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by messiedidylakes(f): 9:44pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
Acidosis: You said my mind 100% 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by UncleJudax(m): 9:45pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
modelmike7:Sometimes the door is welded, not locked. |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by henryhemon(m): 9:46pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
sisisioge: What's this one saying?? 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by shumuel(m): 9:48pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
adam500hr: Have read your story, have seen the good advises rendered to you, and i am here to add to it because i feel your pain. First of all; don't, no matter what rush into marriage, especially if you know you don't really love the person. Now, from what you have said, the business wasn't succeeding, i am sure that might also be the reason why your wife wants to change location, she is the one handling the business, so i believe she would know better, she probably made the decision for the progress of the business, am sure she had done some research, you should had been calm and reason with her; see things through her own eye, and give her the money if you can afford it but if you couldn't you should had explained that to her calmly instead of rubbing her failure on her face by pointing it out that the business hadn't succeed yet, anyways i understand, N2million isn't childs play, and it probably made you mad knowing you'll have to cough out such an amount again but you should had taken it easy with her, women are very emotional creatures, and one thing i would like you to know is; when someone sets their mind on something(A goal) and feels it so real, if they don't achieve it it would make them surfucate, and this is very common with women, so... In order to stay alive, they find every means posible to get it done, and yes even if it means cheating. Well, i'll advice you sit her down, talk things through and if you can afford the new rent she had demanded, please give it to her or assist her to secure the loan but please only use properties that wont affect you or the family later, incase she was unable to pay back. Now for the ''If'' she had cheated part, look brother i'll tell you clean clear, there isn't any lady out there that wont or isn't cheating, so forget it and let it go, yes i know it hurts but let me ask you; was she a Virgin when you met her, were you yourself a virgin when you both met ? So if the answer is No why be bothered about she cheating now, i know it might sound stupid to you but just think it through. All i want for you is to keep your marriage, and don't allow people who don't know your wife insult her, incase you don't know you are now one and if she is insulted you are also insulted. And as for she being quick to jump into conclusions, come brother we all know divorce is the new trend, married today, divorce tomorrow, i guess thats why she has always been insecured, just let it go, forgive her, support her and love her because either you like it or not, she is your wife. Don't let third parties come in between you both. Have a nice life, regards to your wife 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by isnovic(m): 9:51pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
OP, though it is obvious your wife is cheating on you, what is not known to her is the fact that, you do not know to what extent. What is sure is that, she knows she has goofed big time and the details will make you convulse. For her to already settle her mind to quite easing off means the shit is really big and you will do well not to know the details. However, you are to provide the atmosphere for her to come clean. If it is something you can let go, then forgive but do not forget. If it is something you feel will always be in between both of you due to the graveness of the betrayal then ease her without disgrace for God frowns at it. Remember, he who is without sin should cast the first stone. God help you deal with this as it is can be really energy sapping. 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Originalsly: 9:52pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
I would say your wife is cheating... has been cheating.. and 90% believes you have evidence. Even the suspicions you have... don't ever bring it up...let her remain in the dark. A few nights stay out late.. very late. ...never make an excuse.. give her the cold shoulder. Never say what would happen to the children... tell her she should've known that before she began gallivanting outside the marriage.Part of the money can very well be to pay someone blackmailing her... that's why the desperation.. maybe someone made a video...just saying. |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by CHARLOE(m): 9:52pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
favoured78:Stupid talk frm a pussy nigga! Guy how old are u? 6 Likes |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Luvdk(f): 9:53pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
wristbangle:God forbid I shud date poor men... |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Jesusgirl92(f): 9:53pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
Omotayor123:And she didn't try to defend herself even a lil when he accused her of infidelity?? Nah... I think she's guilty as charged..... Op, if she's willing to change and make things work, please forgive her..... And the 2 million naira I so do not support giving in to her demand especially as she has nothing to show for the first one you gave her.... I pray God gives you wisdom to handle this situation the best way possible.... I really feel for your kids. |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Nobody: 9:54pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
klexycole:so courtship is the way to avoid marital problems abi? yinmu forget courtship is nothing but nonsense 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by SheIsElle(f): 9:54pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
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Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Ericsdm55(m): 9:56pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
Somebody mentioned sth like didn't you people courts and for how long? Believe me I av come to understand that you cannot know you partner except he/she wants you to. My wife hardly talk not to talk of shouting at me at the time were still courting. But now that she's married, she yelled at any slightest provocation. The moment she is not happy or satisfy with any issue at home, she gets out of hands; making gesture with her hands in a very disrespectful manner, shouting at me at the same time.We once had an issue before our marriage and was happy the way we calmly resolved it. I wouldn't say that today. However, we live happily and I have learnt to tolerant her behavior. Most atimes when she sees how matured I often handle her disrespectful behaviors, she regretfully apologized. Such is married; for better for worst. I advised you to talk over this whole issue calmly and maturely by first apologizinf for calling her names and you may be surprise how easier it may turnout. Divorce is never a good option, even if you are on your right. Pray over the issue, call her explain why you didn't give her the money at the time she requested it, give her the assurance that you will give the money. You will notice she starts calming down and focusing more on you, then tactfully bring up the issue. Dialogue is very important in marriage. Wish you well. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by henryhemon(m): 9:57pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
adam500hr: I blame you for going on with your parents advise now who is feeling the pang? You. However e don happen,the way forward brother it's clear she doesn't love you and no matter what you do once a woman is fed up she is fed up.....allow her go please,You will be be faced with more pains and difficulties if she stays put and will further exploit you. Just do it quietly if it's broken trust,it wouldn't be same again ever. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Origin(f): 9:58pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
That woman is not cheating. Zero evidence except from your overactive imagination. Every woman threatens her husband or boyfriend with " I know what to do to get the money o". We also know where your mind will go once we say it. She also knows if you start the cheating allegation. No hope again. All of you will vote for chasing the woman out. Even when you have zero evidence. By the way do BJs costs N2m. Na solid 2 months retreat be N2m based on logistics (movies). She gave you a lie that you can easily forgive. Please see a marriage councillor before you use over imagination to ruin your marriage because of a defiant wife. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by freshbear(m): 9:59pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
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Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Handsomecutepie: 9:59pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
favoured78: Condemn the fact she is messing up her marriage first or keep your freaking advice to yourself. Get the Bleep out of here you lazy ass duncebag. It pains me to see these lazy ass called ladies with sense of entitlement advising an hardworking young men to save their marriages when their fellow baggages called wives are nothing but parasites. These fool(hoes) are over IG shouting domestic violence against women should stop while encouraging their fellow hoes to carry on cheating(Indirectly). What marriage is he saving when it is obvious that the hoe in question will never be satisfied? It baffles me to see these good-for-nothing and economic parasite called 21st century ladies bringing children into their stupidity. Why can she be the one to worry about the children? Don't allow these hoes to hold you in ransom with your children. If you die tomorrow or remain poor, the woman ll dump your ass and take the children along and the funny thing is that the children ll move on without looking back until they attain age of 18 and above...These children ll survive while your life is forever fuckedd. 6 Likes |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by adontcare(f): 9:59pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
adam500hr:. Now I see where ur problems started from. Ingrates are d worst people to live with. Just stand ur ground about d money thing. Apologise for calling her a hoe. If she still insist of leaving, let her go. Give her some space to rethink. She will call u to apologise. If not let her be. She is not suppose to be a waster but to be a helper. |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by wristbangle: 9:59pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
Luvdk: Be careful for what you wish for dear. If you and your husband are financially strong, what stops both of you from exchanging expensive gifts? Besides, I hope you learning from this thread. What makes marriage successful is the bond between husband and wife. It all starts from relationship. Nice dp by the way 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Nobody: 9:59pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
angelTI:is that all you have to say |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Nobody: 9:59pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Adecks01(m): 9:59pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
my dear I think you have to take things easy. 1.Your wife telling you that she was having mouth work and her receiving strange calls is just tricks to intimidate you because of your refusal to give her the money.She probably knows that you're the jealous type who can't stand that. 2.check your consciences yourself because.from your Narration you've not being suspecting her until you declined her demand for money which she is so bend for. I know that right inside you,you always think that as man of the house your decision should stand as pronouncement.which is not suppose to be.In your narration,you never complaint of her being extravagant neither did you demand to know how far with the last shop.It will only be good for you if you reason with your wife on why she desperately needs that money and sort things together,you can even give her better reasons on why you said "NO" and she'll surely understand after reasoning together. 3.as of why your wife is saying you shouldn't make it a showby by exposing her doesn't justify her involvement in Illicit relationship.where you expecting your wife to protest or retaliate when you call her a hoe and other names? How will you feel if she Retaliate in same manner? And what did you think will happen after that? While,if you ask me,I will tell you that you're lucky to have her as a good wife because even your story vindicate her as a virtues emotional woman.Were you not aware that even when some women were being caught with men,they don't tolerate that word "hoe" but yours did and was even pleading for you guyz to amicably resolve things-which is the best way-Lastly Your wife don't want you guyz to traumatise the innocent kids that's why she said " atleast for the sake of the children" If you think your wife is not good change her with love because I know a man that married real ashawo (that had worked for almost 15yrs as prostitute) but have Change her and he's proud of her.He always travel abroad for months but yet,he 100% trust the former prostitute that she can't cheat because he has influenced her with "love" STOP thinking of divorce.THANKs 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Nobody: 10:00pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
The "good" in your last statement doesn't serve any purpose lol. When removed, the statement looks whole! princessayesha: |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by SheIsElle(f): 10:00pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
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Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by messiedidylakes(f): 10:01pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
bettercreature: would you give your wife 2m to rent a shop after spending over 2m in about a year to start up a business for her without any income from the said buisness? don't you think she might ask for another 2m next year? Should the man continue investing 2m on a yearly bases in a white elephant project? I really pity the op if all he wrote here is true then his wife might soon render him broke with her frivoulouse demands. 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Nobody: 10:02pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
I don't comment on social media but this thread is mehn.. @oP Communication is key in business and partnerships. And when intentions are not clear, different things happen and majority of it is speculative. Not taking sides, but your wife probably didn't grow after marriage, and you kept feeding the system that kept demanding for more and all of a sudden, you're trying to cut down the system which you nurtured and raised... Your wife simply asked for status quo and she expected by all means that you obliged. Let's play a game, tell he ou've been thinking and you want peace and you'll help her with the money and see how the whole divorce thingey plays out.. Tell her to give you a week, ask for intimacy within this period several times and watch to see if changes occurs in your intimate sessions and life as a couple.. If you experience some changes, after one week, call her parents and or a counselor. It simply implies she's an extortionists and playing games with you.. After this seek a prophet, hot one, to dig deeper to see if there's a way out..or if there's a deeper problem.. Take this steps and see how it goes, take it step by step, play her game and see how it goes... 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Nobody: 10:02pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
Show me a grateful woman and I'll show you a unicorn. 6 Likes |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by Luvdk(f): 10:03pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
wristbangle:You sound matured 10x! |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by SIRKAY98(m): 10:04pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
Guy cool down first.this not the time to react More observations will do |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by hamzeiy: 10:07pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
sebod:so make the man wait untill the cheat of a wofe decides to walk away?.. thats a spineless advice pls 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage On The Brink Of Crashing, Experienced People Needed Now. by abels(m): 10:08pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
SO MANY PEOPLE ARE GETTING MARRIED TO STRANGERS THIS DAYS 1 Like |
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