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RaggedyAnn:
This isn't about putting women on the same pedestal as men. Although, I don't see why women should not have a claim to a sexually responsible spouse as well. It would do them the same honor as it does men. But no, this is about arresting the ills which you have pointed out affects women the most: repercussions of abortion, STIs, et al. If this was of true concern, we wouldn't stop at 'advising' women to avoid pre-marital sex. It must be holistic. If men are not equally prohibited (and I mean EQUALLY; with the same vehemence borne out of the 'concern' for women) from engaging in premarital sex, then you are only forcing a catch 22.

Who are these unmarried men going to be sexually active with if not the unmarried women? Prostitution and homosexuality are illegal and hypocritically frowned upon. What kind of superficial method of protecting 'values' is this? It is dishonest, stupid and highly hypocritical. And for all of the good intentions that you have quoted to bear towards women, the only thing that sticks out is the fact that men want women to run around in circles to let them eat their cake and have it too.

Please is anything I wrote a deviation or a lie based on the reality on ground in today's world? Plus what will be the chain reaction of having mostly sexually restrained women in our society today? Incase you haven't realized it means more men will NOT be privy to pre-marital sex and risky sexual behavious anymore unless they wish to start screwing themselves. Guess everything these days is a rebellion by women to measure up in everything because I dont know where u got that "men want women to run around in circles to let them eat their cake and have it too" line from.
In gender issues, psychologically, men have a greater tendency to be polygamous whether u accept it or not! The one that isn't is termed an EXCEPTION. Women on the other hand are more INTUITIVE naturally EXCEPT in unique cases. These are cases well researched and proven.
Do u wonder why marriage is fast losing potency in our generation? It is because both sexes have abdicated their gender roles in all ramifications.

I like your presentation though.

slowbreeze:
And what happens to the men who sleep around before marriage....?? Very foolish post from a foolish man..

Hahaha.. Take it easy nah

MediumStout:
Shut up. If women no gree to open pant who the men wan sleep with? Use ur brain. Reno is right

This is one of the most dumbest things I have ever heard. What happened to men restraining themselves too? I can as well tell you if men stop pestering women for sex who the women wan sleep with?
What if every woman on earth decides to lockup do you think men will cope with that? And men wouldn't decide to have it by force?

2dugged:
I beg to disagree, actually men don't easily show symptoms of an infection compared to women,now as regards hiv, there are many factors involved, so don't just come online and give false hope to people and indirectly promote carelessness. Now back to the topic, people misunderstand equity with equality, even though Reno made very salient points, I must say it's biased in a way, now he said some things about being successful and all, now I want to ask, why not advise both gender to pursue success?, because subconsciously, men don't want women who are more successful than then,cos it will strip them of their dominance, now on sex, yes, the consequences shifts more towards the lady, but my problem here is,society generally think only women need to be trained, only women need to be good, so my question is, what do parents teach their sons?, the breakdown in the family system is because ladies have refused to go through what their mothers went through and men have not been trained on how to be good either. Men naturally have more ego than women that's they key word everyone should know here,that is the only reason a man will be affected by the thought that his wife has had past lovers

You wanna know the truth? Men NATURALLY love and chase sex more than women. And from our parent's time, men hav ALWAYS been sexually hyperactive but u know what checked the prevalence of sexual recklessness back then? The women had STRONG values and BETTER UPBRINGING. I cannot sleep with you UNLESS it becomes rape without your consent for example. The more women close their legs (as our virtuous mother did) the lesser the promiscuity tendency of men. You cannot change the chasing instinct of a man but it can be tamed. Again i'll give u an example with myself. I dated a smashing beauty up till a year ago (with all my sexual activeness) and stuck to th NO SEX agreement for two years before other issues made us break up. It got to a point that not bringing up the sex issue became second nature in the relationship. If I had moved on to d next two ladies for sex (for example) and they too had the inclination of that my girl, my adaptation wld have been better.

Summary, women hold up to 80% stakes when it comes to controllingsexual adventurousness of both sexes.

NB: my aim of using that example wasn't to promote risky behaviour. Was just butressing my point with a FACT of an example.

Menzy86:
You wanna know the truth? Men NATURALLY love and chase sex more than women. And from our parent's time, men hav ALWAYS been sexually hyperactive but u know what checked the prevalence of sexual recklessness back then? The women had STRONG values and BETTER UPBRINGING. I cannot sleep with you UNLESS it becomes rape without your consent for example. The more women close their legs (as our virtuous mother did) the lesser the promiscuity tendency of men. You cannot change the chasing instinct of a man but it can be tamed. Again i'll give u an example with myself. I dated a smashing beauty up till a year ago (with all my sexual activeness) and stuck to th NO SEX agreement for two years before other issues made us break up. It got to a point that not bringing up the sex issue became second nature in the relationship. If I had moved on to d next two ladies for sex (for example) and they too had the inclination of that my girl, my adaptation wld have been better.

Summary, women hold up to 80% stakes when it comes to controllingsexual adventurousness of both sexes.

NB: my aim of using that example wasn't to promote risky behaviour. Was just butressing my point with a FACT of an example.

I am not in anyway disputing what you have said, but how did the so called MORAL UPBRINGING pan out for our mothers?,have you wondered why being a virgin has lost its value?, I know a man who married his wife a virgin but till now he still philanders about, even though he never fails to tell whoever cares to listen of how much he respects his wife for being a virgin, that is why I asked "what do you teach your sons?. so many culture and traditions were anti-women thanks to our misogynistic forefathers,our mothers were actually tamed and dominated under the guise of traditions. And as for me,I don't see myself getting married to a man I have not had sex with atleast once, let's all stop pretending like sexual compatibility is not a vital part of marriage, and in all honesty I can't marry a man who cannot give me organsm, everyone to his own perception

FTBOY:
it still boils down to the warped african mentality that women are inferior to men; but, trust me, everything is changing and will all change with time.

in the past, women were forbidden to wear trousers and short skirts in public. today, a girl who wears skirts below her knees and doesn't put on jean pants is branded "mgbeke".

before, a girl seen standing with a man was booed and called a slut. today, girls and boys can kiss and hold hands in public and nobody cares.

my mom told me they used to sit with their two legs aside on motorbikes so their breasts would not touch the rider. today, girls do not only sit astride a bike but use their breasts to massage the okada man's back.

so, my friend, those people who would mock you for marrying a girl with a bad past are lacking exposure and need to start reading newspapers and magazines. in europe, girls don't even want to be married; they just want a kid or two from different men and spend the rest of their lives clubbing and hanging out with young boys. the way i see it, if swell divorce payouts start in nigeria, many housewives wouldn't mind setting up their husbands with young chics and runs girls.

LOL now compare marriage now from then, Lots of ladies are complaining of not having boy friend not to talk of husband why because of what you just said... Maybe you should also look as the divorce rate in those western world..

I once told my wife if her friend convince her to divorce me tomorrow i will fuc.k that her friend and even marry her and she think am lying, Few days later i started chatting with her friend on whatsapp and even invite her to an hotel that was when she believe me..

95% of ladies will want ladies out of her matrimonial home so as to be like them or to take her place..

FTBOY:
if melania trump was a nigerian, you would call her "oshofree" too. tonto dike, ini edo and funke akindele have gotten their own unfair share of slut-shaming as a result of their failed marriages.

So far did you see me mention Tonto Dike, Funke Akindele, Agbani Darego, etc? Because i did not hear of their past but FFK mock Bianca Ojukwu that he Bleep.ed her back then and he is proud of it. Can Agbani be proud of same thing? Mind you it lead to heart attack for Ojukwu and he died of it..


Now tell me how will you feel a man come to you and said i have Bleep.ed your wife like a dog and show you evidence?

FTBOY:
like i said earlier, i don't like virgins...i don't do them and i won't marry one.

Please how will you feel when a man walked up to you and said i have proof of more than 10 man that have Bleep.ed your wife like a dog?

Menzy86:
Women always wanna put themselves on the same pedestal with men when it comes to assessing the DANGERS of promiscuity which is to say the least a sign of grave IGNORANCE (possibly deliberate). Who is at risk of conditions like cervibal cancer, unwanted pregnancu, HIV and all d numerous STI's around? Let's leave the moral aspect out sef in this matter but which sex obviously bears more of the consequences MEDICALLY? I have a live friend who was sleeping with his girlfriend without protection for about two months before discovering she had HIV but is still negative till today after running series of tests spanning 18 months. Meanwhile that gf who is now positive only played "initial away match" with a uniform man 'assistant boyfriend' and found out through d guy when he did medicals in preparation for promotion.
I hav been helpin a 20year old lady by taking her to c a family doctor who discovered she was suffering advanced symptoms of gonorrhea and chlamydia combined which she cld hardly do anything about because NOONE really cared but me, and she is chronically broke (summary of story). According to d doc, if it had gotten to her womb, she would have been staring barrenness in the face. She didn't know she had such until a very foul smelling brownish discharge started flowing from her vagina. Men on the other hand show strong symptoms merely hours after contracting such STI's and can easily save themselves.

Women MUST understand that this 'gender equality' or 'gender balance' issue shouldn't become a suicide induction course. There are just some things that can NEVER be balanced between men n women.

NB: I am NOT a promiscuous man nor a fan of promiscuity. Just a realist!

Bro, I salute your intelligence

noble2faith:
See finishing! Someone should help me wit a meme

Egbon, the finishing no be here oooo... Mrsphysics really finish the girl ooo

RaggedyAnn:
I know that the point you're trying to make is that, sexual promiscuity by men is culturally acceptable (and this standpoint has nothing to do with health consequences). But society matures over the ages. Several cultures have recognized various hypocrisies and developed themselves in the past; and we can do the same. We no longer do savage things like killing twins, for instance.

On a lighter note, I don't know your father in law, so I don't know for sure how he would react. But I can tell you, my father would not call you. He would tell my mother and she would tell me. Our family dynamics is a little different from standard and we worry more about our inner-circle.

You're only taking from an ignorant viewpoint cos you're not your father so you can't be so sure of his decision

The way men handle crisis is different from the way women handle it.. So you think because your father spotted your husband cheating on you and out of his fatherly love, he would sit you down and explain everything to you? Which father does that? Maturity is far from a father that does that

Next time, please argue what you know. Don't let feminism becloud your sense of reasoning

pryme:
Well, I will tell you one thing. If you find the woman that has all you need in a woman you will have to make decision.

Then, you will choose what the world thinks or your happiness.

I guess you will sacrifice your happiness for what the world thinks.

Am sure you are one of those guys that won't date without sex, if you ask your girl for sex and she declines and say "until marriage" you will get mad. But for the fear of loosing you she agrees to have sex with you just because she loves you and wants to keep you.

But later things don't work out and you guys break up.
You move on, do does she. She meets a new guy the circle starts again.

Well I don't have to explain to you.

If the girl told me about her past, then the blackmail arrived late.

Although, the past sometimes counts too but when a lady doesn't hide her past from you and you see genuinety in her, I think you can leave the society to their rants and stupidity

tosyne2much:
Although, the past sometimes counts too but when a lady doesn't hide her past from you and you see genuinety in her, I think you can leave the society to their rants and stupidity

Exactly

tosyne2much:
Bro, I salute your intelligence

I salute u too tosyn2much

ISTANDWITHBUHAR:
I once told my wife if her friend convince her to divorce me tomorrow i will fuc.k that her friend and even marry her and she think am lying, Few days later i started chatting with her friend on whatsapp and even invite her to an hotel that was when she believe me..

95% of ladies will want ladies out of her matrimonial home so as to be like them or to take her place..

Lol. Another irresponsible man. You told your wife you will cheat on her with her friend and even went as far as actually kick starting the process to drive home your point? You pple think its your ego and your third leg that makes you men. Forgetting that there is something called karma. And you know what? Karma deflates your ego and humbles you 2d barest minimum. Karma brings nemesis dat hits you where the shoe pinches the most. Enjoy your sad life bro. You wont be forever young.

geekybabe:
Lol. Another irresponsible man. You told your wife you will cheat on her with her friend and even went as far as actually kick starting the process to drive home your point? You pple think its your ego and your third leg that makes you men. Forgetting that there is something called karma. And you know what? Karma deflates your ego and humbles you 2d barest minimum. Karma brings nemesis dat hits you where the shoe pinches the most. Enjoy your sad life bro. You wont be forever young.

What an irresponsible lady are you? No wonder your likes in their late 30s will be flooding Shiloh...

LOL your likes will come on social media and be forming nonsense meanwhile in real life we know your likes as oshofree...

next time read and understand someone point before you jump on what you know nothing about.. I have every right to air my view and if you don't like Go and die...


Infact fornication is in my DNA.... Now will you kill yourself.. Amebo oshi..

Ichietome:
Na u I go marry o My super Mario Tantalizing physically U dribble pass Okocha

lolz funny you

Safiaa:
You're indirectly insulting me, claiming that i'm 'loose' . You don't assume what you don't know without facts. It's very silly and uncalled for. I will always defend myself no matter what. I apologise if i insulted you, but be wise when expressing yourself.

Happy Birthday.

Hope you will stop insulting people at age 23, and also double your body count from four to eight.

Wishing you the best

ladies whether we like it or not its a man's world....set ur priorities straight don't sleep around chikena

OlaoChi:
Honestly women won't even care that you have patronised sex workers.

It comes down to their priorities and Sexual history is no priority for most women

Lol....Says who? I refused to sleep with my last bf, he told me he couldn't wait till marriage and i understood and dropped him. But he said he still wants to marry me in future. I dn't know if that will work out but the only condition i gave him is that if he ever wants to slot his joystick in my hole in our future, he must never put that thing in the hole of a sex worker. Some men have lost responsible women because their past was too irresponsible. Guys, pls don't be deceived, we care what you do with your joysticks too.