timilehin007:


I can relate very well blv me...just like you, my cute little daughter is still d reason y I am enduring...
Kó easy rara in my next life, if by chance I come again I would just get a surrogate mother to bear my babies they wouldn't be plan for marriage..not in another life time

is it dah bad? Am getting scared already.

ikezuora4689:
my guy no expperience any of those thing wey dey ur list,they guy they regret why he marry self,before the marriage the guy biz dey burn like fire bt after marriage everything jst off like fire,me i dey fear to marry oo,make one girl no go use her raggae spoil my blues

Making a wrong choice is his fault, sometimes most people get carried away with lust and things of the flesh so tell me why there won't be a problem

Op is not ready for marriage, one does not ask questions about what married people enjoy, should have lived long enough to know that by now.

So chill you aint ready yet.

TinaAnita:


Things aren't always what they seem.

Hmm!

Burgerlomo:


I don't blame you at all because a constant nagging from ozza room spouse can shortening the other spouse lifespan.

Not good at all

Brector:
everybody here is talking about DAUGHTER DAUGHTER are there no more sons again？Hmmmm！Where are heading towards women world

Men generally love their daughters more. This i got to know when my little niece was born.

Getting married is a wonderful adventure, if both parties play by the rules, as simple as it may sound, if followed your marriage will be a bliss.
Man love your wife and woman submit to your husband. The intangible things control the tangible once, so go for the intangible things with respect to marriage and both of you will be happy for life.
One main fact in marriage is that you get what you present. If you expect a good wife, be a good man.

1.Good management of family resources
2. Well kept of the home
3. Warm reception entertain to family and friends
4. Understanding even when their is no adequate income
5. Unconditional love not because of what i have but who I am
6. Unconditional S*X at anytime
7. Good approach to resolving family issues and many more

God Bless my wife..............

Godfullsam:
D only reason why I am still married is because of my beautiful sharp and wonderful daughter.

She is the only joy I have in my marriage right now.

what about your wife?

Destined2win:
Not good at all

Yep

nurshah:




Sir,you are indeed lucky.Women have a PhD in pretense ,a woman pretends to be something else till you marry her. You are there fore lucky you married a woman who appeared peaceful and is indeed peaceful
Do you know Nigeria has one of the highest rates of divorce in west Africa ?am flabbergasted that northgas highest rate of divorce with KANO as number 1 .This boils down to pretense.. How can a society as traditional and " decent " as nortg be ridden with such canker worm?

I AGREE WOMEN PRETEND A LOT, BUT GOD GAVE ME SOME WISE TIPS ON HOW TO NO A WOMAN DAT PRETENDS. SOME OF D WAYS I NO IS BY D FRIENDS SHE KEEPS. WEN I C A GAL I LIKE, I TAKE MY TIME TO STUDY HER. ONCE SHE STARTS D ISSUE OF MARRY ME NOW OR TOMORROW, I WILL FLEE. ANOTHER IS GOING TO HER FAMILY HOME N SPEND SOME TIME DER. EVEN IF SHE'S A GOOD PRETENDER, HER BACKGROUND WILL TELL U A LOT CONCERNING HER. MAKE SURE U OBSERVE EVERYTHING, IF U C ANYTHING U DON'T LIKE, MY BROTHER FLEE. DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO PRESSURE U INTO MARRYING HER OOO. COS WEN D CHIPS R DOWN, NOBODY WILL HELP U, UR ON UR OWN.

I am 31 got married early last year


dear, Marriage is the best thing to ever happen to me... the maturity and sense of belonging will just evolved naturally


Marriage is too sweet most esp when u marry your perfect kind of woman

Shallom!!!

Brector:
everybody here is talking about DAUGHTER DAUGHTER are there no more sons again？Hmmmm！Where are heading towards women world

Daughters are the most precious gift a man can have.. A man can give his life for his daughter
The sons tend to roll with the mothers more, besides they are very independent

A hardened arm robber will lay down his arm on sighting his daughter, but bring any other person, he won't give a fuvk

They(daughters) have a way of softening a man's heart

Societal Respect !!!!

guru03:
1.Good management of family resources
2. Well kept of the home
3. Warm reception entertain to family and friends
4. Understanding even when their is no adequate income
5. Unconditional love not because of what i have but who I am
6. Unconditional S*X at anytime
7. Good approach to resolving family issues and many more

God Bless my wife..............

...and I say Amen!

From this thread, it seems marriages in Nigeria is all Kumbaya.

banmee:


What am i enjoying? Plenty. Been married almost 20 years and it's like we just met yesterday. It's simple really. Just make sure that elements of what you like in your spouse are there before you marry him/her. For me it was kindness, sexual compatibility, and being pleasing to the eye. One very important factor in a marriage is sexual compatibility. As the years go by it gets harder and harder to keep up so you got to spice it up. I love the way my wife still looks almost the same way she did when we met. Flat tummy and all. It's just crazy. She is probably one of the most beautiful women in the world. I am a health nut and so is she. I can run a 2 mile in 15 minute but she does it in 14. That's how fit she is. At 40 fa. Not many 20 years olds can do that. To add honey to the tea, she's gave me 3 strapping boys who are guaranteed to be super models when they grow up if they so choose. Hehehehehe . Seriously though, if i had to do it over again, i'd marry her in a heartbeat.

That being said; we fight on occasion. Marriage is not a bed of roses. The most important thing to realize is that things like that will happen. Think about it; if you can fight with your siblings then you can definitely have one with your spouse. Some days i'd feel like choking her out when she starts pissing me off but when i compare her abnormal days to her normal days it's pretty much 90/10 with 90 being her good days.

Dude
You are blessed

Destined2win:
...and I say Amen!

God bless you too.... and make you the best to your partner.

guru03:
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God bless you too.... and make you the best to your partner.

Thank you Sir.

Marriage is like a public toilet...those out r anxious to get in ..while those in want to get d fvck out quickly

Jaqenhghar:

Dude
You are blessed

Thanks bro.

udumosam23:
I don't have much friends. The few I have are damn good liers and betrayers. I guess I've not been too lucky with friends.

I however, find a good friend in my wife. She is a definition of truth and loyalty. She has a sense of humour, she plays a lot, but even in her jokes, you'll not find falsehood.

I also like good food, and she's made me believe I've been living on junk.

We have made 2 kids, they're so wonderful. The day she left them with me for a whole day, I realize she deserve payment for a full time job. The day she took them along with her I felt free and had a sense of relief for a while.

But later on, I realise I was so lonely and bored. No activity could fulfil my joy.

Brector:
everybody here is talking about DAUGHTER DAUGHTER are there no more sons again？Hmmmm！Where are heading towards women world

my thoughts exactly. Nowadays, couples keep celebrating more daughters than sons. Looks like theres a drastic diminishing in Y chromosome supply

Ncsamuel:
is it dah bad? Am getting scared already.

My brother u may be lucky..but I tell u the ratio of good and fulfilled marriage to the other marriage is 2:6..

5 Desirable Benefits of Marriage for Men (even women too)

Being happily married is not only a joy and pleasure, but in fact it can also include some desirable health benefits! Whether it is physical, emotional or mental health, the benefits of being happily married are undeniable.

The converse is also true, that an unhappy marriage is generally detrimental to one’s health. Ongoing dissatisfaction and unresolved issues tend to have a devastating effect on physical and mental health over the long run. So if good health is your goal, as it surely is for all of us, then consider these five benefits which you can enjoy as you work towards making your marriage relationship as satisfying and rewarding as it can be.

1. The benefit of stability

When you have a happy marriage where both partners are fully committed to one another for life, then there will be the benefit of a sense of stability. You will not be constantly worrying and wondering if or when the relationship is not going to work out. You can relax and concentrate on reaching your mutual and individual goals, knowing that you have the rest of your lives to spend together. This sense of stability tends to lower the tension and stress levels in the relationship which in turn reduces the risk or likelihood of stress-related illnesses or heart attacks and strokes. Those in a stable relationship are also less likely to engage in dangerous or risky behaviour as they have that deep inner resource of responsibility which makes them want to stay safe and healthy for the sake of their spouse and family. The feelings of safety, security and stability, which are present in a good relationship, make a large contribution towards the health benefits of marriage.

2. The benefit of accountability

Accountability often has a negative connotation, but in this context it can certainly be one of the benefits of marriage and long-term relationships. Knowing that there is someone to see whether or not you have that second helping, and whether or not you take your supplements and do your exercises, can be a great incentive and motivation for keeping healthy. It is also more fun doing it together, as you spur one another on at the gym, or on the bicycle, running, swimming, walking or whatever it is you choose to do to keep fit. And if one of you is feeling a sick, the other will notice and get you into bed or to the doctor if necessary. For those of us who are stubborn and insist that “I’m fine” even when we are sick, having a spouse who keeps us accountable can be a real blessing and health benefit. Without this good kind of accountability, it is much easier to let things slip and in turn our health can suffer and deteriorate.

3. The benefit of emotional support

One of the most helpful and important marriage health benefits is emotional support. When one spouse does happen to become ill, the other is there to take care of them and nurse them back to good health. Studies have shown that those who are in a loving marriage relationship generally have a shorter recovery time. Happily married people are also less likely to develop chronic conditions and it has even been suggested that the immune system is improved. Should one spouse require any major surgery or treatment, the trauma of such things can be greatly reduced by knowing that they have a loving spouse at their side, patiently waiting for them when they come through the ordeal.

4. The benefit of peaceful sleep

Sleep is such an essential requirement for good health, and lack of adequate sleep can be the cause of any number of health issues. According to surveys which have been done, happily married women tend to enjoy deeper sleep than their single counterparts. This may certainly be linked to enjoying loving sexual intimacy, which is safe and healthy. In a monogamous relationship where husband and wife are faithful to one another there is no fear of contracting unwanted infections and STD’s. The benefit of peaceful sleep for both spouses is a good foundation for an overall sense of well being and good health.

5. The benefit of ageing gracefully

The beneficial effects of marriage on health have also been linked to longevity and being able to age gracefully, and happily married couples are less likely to die prematurely. The ageing process is inevitable as the years slip by, and besides taking any necessary medications, having a loving and supportive marriage relationship can go an immeasurably long way towards easing that process. So if you want to significantly reduce your medical bills, why not make your marriage relationship a serious priority? As you and your spouse focus on strengthening your marriage, by being loving, faithful, and truthful to one another, you will surely find that your health and happiness will increase accordingly as you enjoy these five desirable health benefits of marriage, and much more.


6. Keep You Out of Trouble
According to a recent U.S. Department of Justice report, male victims of violent crime are nearly four times more likely to be single than married. marriage makes you consider your family before you take any step

7. sexual Satisfy You in Bed

Most unmarried people suffer from various ailments because they lack regular sex. marriage offers you the opportunity to enjoy your spouse sexually without fear of STDs or guilt or committing sin of fornication or adultery . Regular sex has many benefits, as you will learn today.

Yvonne K. Fulbright says “Sexually active people take fewer sick days,” So Oga and Madam stop cheating yourself. Sex is not a negotiation tool in marriage. Have sex with your spouse and be healthy.

Benefit Number i: Improves bladder control for madam- Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.

Benefit Number ii: Lowers Your Blood Pressure- Researchers have proven that sexual intercourse specifically lowered systolic blood pressure.

Benefit Number iii: Boosts Your Libido- For men, having sex regularly with your spouse will give you more vitality and help you last long in bed. For women, having sex ups vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity, she says, all of which make sex feel better and help you crave more of it.

Benefit Number iv: Boosts your immune system- Couples who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers have discovered that couples who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody that protects the body.

Benefit Number v: Sex is Exercise- Sex reduces calories. Also experts say it encourages healthy heartbeats and blood circulation. It also stretches your muscles.

Benefit Number vi: Reduces the risk of prostate Cancer- A recent study shows that men who ejaculated frequently, were less likely to get prostate cancer.

Benefit Number vii: Lowers Heart Attack Risk- Having sex more often may help. During one study, men who had sex at least twice a week were half as likely to die of heart disease as men who had sex rarely.

Benefit Number viii: Eases stress and Improves Sleep- After sex, all your body muscles relax and your system goes into relax mode. You can easily nod off.

Destined2win:
But you and your wife on your dp look good together

There's more to that pix...it is not as if she's worst.. it happens everywhere but not all men can endure that is why we have so many divorce and single mothers around because, unlike me, not all men cherish their child(ren) hence they break up and leave the mother to carry the responsibilities...
Of cause they will definitely be couple of good times together...one of does times is what u seeing in my dp..and presently she is still in her senses..

Marriage is by choice

you can easily decide to make it work by tolerating each other

or you can decide to make it to be an hell to each other

you can decide to decide to love each other or hate

you can decide to see each other as a slave without assisting

timilehin007:


There's more to that pix...it is not as if she's worst.. it happens everywhere but not all men can endure that is why we have so many divorce and single mothers around because, unlike me, not all men cherish their child(ren) hence they break up and leave the mother to carry the responsibilities...
Of cause they will definitely be couple of good times together...one of does times is what u seeing in my dp..and presently she is still in her senses..

Hmm! It is well Sir!

Destined2win:
I really look forward to getting married; currently searching but just like I have read and seen all over the place, marriage comes with a lot of challenges.

A lot of you guys are married and have decided to stay married because of one thing or the other. Now there must be something that has made you to stick to that decision no matter what.

Please I ask that you kindly share so that people here can learn.
What are you enjoying in your marriage that you look at and conclude that you are not going to quit.

Please kindly share. Thanks.

Beloved, I have read some of the responses carefully and I must say that some are beautiful. But, please don't build your home on other people's foundations.

I have been married since December, 2012.
I lost my job the month I started official moves for marriage and things were tough for the first four years. We are still waiting for our first child.
Amidst these, I can tell you that my wife is a great blessing to my life. She stood strongly by me during these years and still standing strong. She has been my consolation in trials and a wonderful companion.

The challenges are only instruments to build us and make us stronger for greater tomorrow. They were actually allowed by God for a temporary preparation.

Just last November, I got two offers from two international organisations. We are still expecting the other side and I am sure it will come.

Summary:
Pray very well before marriage. Ask God to guide you. If you get your own wife, no mountain will be too high for you to climb and together you can do it smiling. You will enjoy everything, including what others will cry about.

Wiretransfer:
I am scared of marriage cos of the responsibilities involved.
I think marriage is an unnecessary burden especially with kids.
It becomes more difficult to achieve your goals and dreams as you are now responsible for others and not yourself alone. Coupled with the economic situation in this country.
I sometimes feel for my married colleagues and friends cos its really not easy.
Family issues, In-laws, Kids, Health, School fees, disagreements with spouse e.t.c
not worth it.

I do not look forward to getting married. I dont even think about it. NOT A THOUGHT

..... You just said many things that made you hate marriage now, you feel for your married colleagues but a time will soon come they will be the one to pity you, they are building now and you are afraid to build, a time will soon come. Then you will know the importance of marriage. Fold your hands well well. I pray you live long so that you will understand me better.

SirBrightoc:


Beloved, I have read some of the responses carefully and I must say that some are beautiful. But, please don't build your home on other people's foundations.

I have been married since December, 2012.
I lost my job the month I started official moves for marriage and things were tough for the first four years. We are still waiting for our first child.
Amidst these, I can tell you that my wife is a great blessing to my life. She stood strongly by me during these years and still standing strong. She has been my consolation in trials and a wonderful companion.

The challenges are only instruments to build us and make us stronger for greater tomorrow. They were actually allowed by God for a temporary preparation.

Just last November, I got two offers from two international organisations. We are still expecting the other side and I am sure it will come.

Summary:
Pray very well before marriage. Ask God to guide you. If you get your own wife, no mountain will be too high for you to climb and together you can do it smiling. You will enjoy everything, including what others will cry about.

Thank you Sir. All your expectations will surely be met. Thanks once again.

helpee:
we were having hot passionate sex this morning. When she was about to come, na so my 2yr old wake up come dey shout, mummy, mummy.....she just said leave me alone, i am fucking your daddy. lol. The girl no gree, she spoilt her parole. She come say na me no do am well early...how e take be my fault. Anyway we promised to continue when the kids leave for school this morning since i be resident doctor with two other doctors working for me this morning so after my ward round with them this morning, the show continues,,,,this is one of our almost daily routine for 9yrs of marriage and 3kids. i come dey wonder why the thing no tire me self since all these years. marriage is sweet brother