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Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Gudfrie(m): 2:35am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Perspectives:Marry your friend for at least 3years of devot friendship |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by NovusHomo(m): 3:00am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Perspectives: M-O-N-E-Y! Your usage of the english language sha! |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by prinzfavian(m): 5:39am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Counsel on how to achieve happiness in the family is offered from all sides. In the West, a never ending stream of self-help books and magazines offer advice. The problem is that human counselors contradict one another, and what is fashionable counsel today may be viewed as unworkable tomorrow. So, Dear where then, can we look for a reliable family guidance? Well, would you look to a book completed some 1900 years ago? or would you feel that such a book is hopelessly out-of-date? the truth is, the real secret of family happiness is found in just such a source. That source is the Bible. according to all evidence, it was inspired by God himself. The Bible itself confirms that when it says at 2Timothy 3:16 that "All scripture is inspired of God and beneficial for teaching, for reproving, for setting things straight, for disciplining in righteousness. I'll encourage you to consider how the Bible can help you prepare adequately well for marriage. If you're inclined to dismiss the possibility that the Bible can help make families happy, why not think of the fact that the One who inspired the Bible is also the originator of the marriage arrangement, so he will have the best advice for since he knows the in and out of it. (Genesis 2:18-25). The post seems long already so I'll continue in my next post about how one can prepare for a successful marriage. 1 Like |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by prinzfavian(m): 6:10am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Preparing for a successful Marriage requires a lot. Constructing a building requires careful preparation. before the foundation is laid, land must be acquired and plans drawn up. however, something else is vital. The Bible records @ Luke 14:28 Jesus' statement when he said: "Who of you that wants to build a tower does not first sit down and calculate the expense, to see if he has enough to complete it? what is true of Constructing a building also applies to Constructing a successful marriage. many say: "I want to get married" but how many stop to consider the cost? ( I must commend you for having such for sight) While the Bible speaks favourably of marriage, it also draws attention to the challenges that marriages presents. (Proverbs 18:22; 1Cor. 7:28) Therefore, those contemplating marriage need to have a realistic view of both the blessings and the cost of being married. Using the principles found in the Bible one should be able to determine the answers to such questions as: Am I ready for marriage?, What should I look for in a mate?, How can courtship be kept honourable? Are you ready for marriage? Getting married seems challenging enough; however, maintaining a marital relationship year after year must also be considered. what does maintaining such a relationship entail? a vital factor is a wholehearted commitment. here is how the Bible describes marriage relationship: "A man will leave his father and mother and he MUST stick to his WIFE and they must become ONE flesh".(Genesis 2:24) Jesus Christ gave the only scriptural basis for divorce with the possibility of re-marriage - "fornication", that is, illicit sex relations outside the marriage. (mathew 19:9) if you're contemplating marriage, bear these scriptural standards in mind. if you're not ready for this solemn commitment, then you're not ready for marriage. Deuteronomy 23:21; Ecclesiastes 5:4,5. Know yourself first. do you find it easy to list the qualities you want in a mate? Most do. however, what about your own qualities? what traits do you have that will help you contribute to a successful marriage? what type of husband or wife will you be? for example, do you freely admit your mistakes and accept advice, or are you always defensive when corrected? are you generally cheerful and optimistic? or do you tend to be gloomy, frequently complaining? ( proverbs 8:33; 15:15). always remember that marriage will not change your personality. if you're proud, oversensitive, or overly pessimistic when single, you will be the same when married. if you learn or find out these changes that needs to be made, work on these before taking steps to marry. |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by prinzfavian(m): 6:17am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Mutual Love and respect will make any marriage last long. In addition, make sure you love the idea of spending the rest of your life with someone you can call your own. True and happy marriage radiates self-sacrifice,respect, passion and trust between partners in a way that's is so beautiful and commendable. In summary, to enjoy fully the benefit of marriage, we just need to see it the way Jehovah it's originator sees it. Thanks. |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 7:55am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 8:25am On Jun 06, 2017 |
daylyt:See rain o |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 8:28am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 8:30am On Jun 06, 2017 |
daylyt: It will cost U know I only think bout work .. so how we go take do am na Baddes |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 8:36am On Jun 06, 2017 |
LalaLushness: All work and no play... finish am You go just find way to do am noni.. Osky of life! |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 8:38am On Jun 06, 2017 |
daylyt:Me wan retire jare u know the ans you just want try again ni |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 8:48am On Jun 06, 2017 |
LalaLushness: Lolzz.. u wan retire early like footballers abi.. you no say I no go gree na!
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Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 9:07am On Jun 06, 2017 |
daylyt:Lol but I said I don't interact outside of the forum though |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 9:08am On Jun 06, 2017 |
1bkaye:November 8th hope u break your rule |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 9:08am On Jun 06, 2017 |
1bkaye: That doesn't mean you can't read your mail na.. Hian! |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by ceeteed(m): 9:10am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Perspectives: Just to Add a Little to the Guide To answer The Who and How Question of choosing a spouse, you may try the under listed. 1. Have an Idea of the type of lady you could marry in mind. 2. Reduce the Qualities that summarizes the person to just 3 that you feel you cannot compromise on (e.g God fearing, Great cook, Natural Home maker, Integrity, Self Driven and Motivated, Hardworking, Simple and down to earth, Thrifty, Native Intelligence, Humorous, Introvert , Extrovert, Fat, Slim, Fair, Dark Skin, First born , Last Born, Middle position etc) 3. If God fearing is critical to you for instance - a. Test the person on this. b. A test i recommend in this area is to ask the person to relate a story of when a friend/somebody has failed her and what her reaction was. c. When you have your take away from the chat run it for validation check from any live instance you observe. d. The take away from this is that if she is vengeful and cannot forgive people who wronged her and move on, that is a class you may find yourself in future if she feels you have committed a cardinal sin against her. 4. Finances - Is the person ostentatious, reasonable in demand, love to share, plan to spend, stingy, spendthrift, wasteful, gluttonous, practical, compulsive, impulsive, materialistic etc. a. if Reasonable in demand and not materialistic (she will support you to build easily) b. if compulsive and ostentatious (she will be a heavy demand on your finances for materialistic things and may not be easily disposed to building with you) Above is just in addition. 1 Like |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 9:21am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Piiko:Lool 1 Like |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 9:21am On Jun 06, 2017 |
daylyt:Is that not interacting outside? Lol |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by 1603yyyy: 9:25am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Be responsible in your marriage make your spouse your best friend |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 9:29am On Jun 06, 2017 |
1bkaye: No joo |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 9:37am On Jun 06, 2017 |
daylyt:Lol sorry |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by beyondwalls: 9:38am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Why did u say call and talk instead of other means? tobianthony: |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by megastu(m): 10:04am On Jun 06, 2017 |
Great piece of advice. tobianthony: |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by athaliya(f): 12:06pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Perspectives: Pray and follow God's direction |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
beyondwalls: Brother when I was engaged ...I made a terrible mistake ...my fiance and I were always chatting ..nothing bad there oh ... But when you chat people do not hear the tone in your voice and they interpret your chats according to their insecurities they feel for you . For instance if you chat her up and ask how she spends her money ...if she feels that you are trying to leave her ...she will interpret that as why are you always asking me for money are you gold digger ... Don't know if I make sense ... For sensitive talks use the phone and always record your arguments go over them and see where you went wrong . |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 12:18pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
tobianthony: Always call and talk to your partner way more than you chat to them |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by ATK4Joy(f): 12:44pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Brother take a deep breath You sound panicked. Look in this life you can't always have it your way even though it make seem other do. You are striving to have a good marriage and a good mother for your future kids too. You are worried she would falter, abandon you or worse. You are over thinking this and its understandable. Confidence helps a lot too that you'd get through rough times and it seems to me that you don't know where to find a good wife from....lessen your standards(beauty, Intelligence etc) that is the beginning of your compromise. If you do pray then pray to God that you make the right decision[/quote] very well said |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 1:19pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
daylyt:Yes o before age 30 na to dey look the wonders of hard work remain Anyway you sure u wanna come down here with all this terror threat biko .. no take connecting flight o |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by Nobody: 2:30pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
LalaLushness: Hian! Wetin man go do na.. I'm covered by the blood of Jesus! |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by beyondwalls: 3:29pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Makes sense. Thanks for sharing. tobianthony: |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by sweetilicious(f): 1:13pm On Jun 07, 2017 |
tobianthony:Is this applicable to only the males? |
Re: If Love Is Not Enough For Marriage, What Is? by onila(f): 2:40pm On Jun 07, 2017 |
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