debspauly:
he is 33 .....and sometimes I feel love for him...sometimes I feel disgusted ..I wanna grow old with someone in my age bracket ..and I dont wanna become a widow at a young age ....

I mean the man that is 20 years older than you. Is he 33?

naturalwaves:

I mean the man that is 20 years older than you. Is he 33?

yes ...but the age gap is actually 15 ...he lied b4 about his age.

debspauly:
he treats me like his age mate ..and we roll well together ...the guy is good in all aspect ..just the age . if he was younger I would have married him sharp sharp.

Age is but a number, dear. if you find someone you flow with like that, don't hesistate.

Emary:


Age is but a number, dear. if you find someone you flow with like that, don't hesistate.

and he is not extremely wealthy ..but the little he has he shares with me without hesitation.

debspauly:
yes ...but the age gap is actually 15 ...he lied b4 about his age.

I see. I think 33 is not too bad if you genuinely love him but my fear is that you are still a bit on the young side being 15 years older than you are which means you are still a teenager and based on that fact, marriage should be a No No for you for now because you should focus on education and setting a good career path for yourself. By the time you focus on all these, the probability of you two being together is very slim.
To be frank with you, I honestly think he is basically playing on your financial weakness and age. You can start by withdrawing what he feels or things he feels his cash and care make you do. I mean things like sex because I am sure a lot of water has gone under the bridge as well. Moreover, you still need to verify his age based on the lies. Try and check his driver's license or something more authentic so that you won't be told another lie subsequently. Cheers!

debspauly:
OK he is 33 ...and the difference is 15

Okay,its much,bt not dat much..So d decision is left to you,u no wat u want

debspauly:
and he is not extremely wealthy ..but the little he has he shares with me without hesitation.

Are you in school or doing your own business? That is the only thing I would like you to make sure you accomplish before getting married. Now is not the time to be overly dependent on a man. If you pray and you are comfortable with him, go ahead. 15yrs is not too much at all. It will be very difficult for you to find a boy of under 20 who wants to get married unless his parents are forcing him.

Emary:


Are you in school or doing your own business? That is the only thing I would like you to make sure you accomplish before getting married. Now is not the time to be overly dependent on a man. If you pray and you are comfortable with him, go ahead. 15yrs is not too much at all. It will be very difficult for you to find a boy of under 20 who wants to get married unless his parents are forcing him.

but ..I wanna get an education first ..like get more aware of my environment ..b4 ..I consider him.

debspauly:
well ..he is very caring
he gives me money every time I need it
he is handsome,tall and has the cutest smile
he truly loves me for me and would do anything for me


but he is 15 yr older than me ..and my family says I should marry him ..

but I want a younger guy ...

but all young guys so far are

self centered
childish
not capable of taking care of me
handsome sha but just too childish

don't know what to do.

U don't need anybody to direct ur path here,u know where ur happiness lies....ideally 15 yrs is nt a joke but if its from God then sis continue but don't do anything dat will make u regret

Wen he is 100 years
u are 80yrs, not to much sha.

Funky123:
U don't need anybody to direct ur path here,u know where ur happiness lies....ideally 15 yrs is nt a joke but if its from God then sis continue but don't do anything dat will make u regret

am so confuse now..

debspauly:
but ..I wanna get an education first ..like get more aware of my environment ..b4 ..I consider him.

The choice is yours, dear, but he might not wait for you to finish school. Just put it in prayer and make sure you meet his family first. They can be a big deciding factor.

Emary:


The choice is yours, dear, but he might not wait for you to finish school. Just put it in prayer and make sure you meet his family first. They can be a big deciding factor.

well his family is OK ..but his mother hates me .

u are still a teenager...u are suppose to be concerned about ur education or have a hand work...Nigeria now is terrible...depends on what he has...after marriage he may not be able to cope with what he bring to d table ...so u can see where u support may be needed now....so watch ur back before someone helps u to watch it

debspauly:
well his family is OK ..but his mother hates me .

Hmmm! Red flag. Try and get close to her and find out if it's something you are doing that is annoying her. It is really not advisable to marry a man whose mother hates you but you can work on the relationship with her. In your case, I would say, give it some time. Don't get married right away. Being a teenager is not an issue. At 18, you are old enough and can have your kids early while still having a career. The issue is just that you need to be careful who you marry because it sets the tone for your whole life.

Emary:


Hmmm! Red flag. Try and get close to her and find out if it's something you are doing that is annoying her. It is really not advisable to marry a man whose mother hates you but you can work on the relationship with her. In your case, I would say, give it some time. Don't get married right away. Being a teenager is not an issue. At 18, you are old enough and can have your kids early while still having a career. The issue is just that you need to be careful who you marry because it sets the tone for your whole life.

she just hates me for no reason and I have tired my best to please but no changes .....am not gonna kill my self right!

debspauly:
well ..he is very caring
he gives me money every time I need it
he is handsome,tall and has the cutest smile
he truly loves me for me and would do anything for me


but he is 15 yr older than me ..and my family says I should marry him ..

but I want a younger guy ...

but all young guys so far are

self centered
childish
not capable of taking care of me
handsome sha but just too childish

don't know what to do.

MrCork:

so you still exist ..hmmm...thought the devil had eaten your cork.

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debspauly:
so you still exist ..hmmm...thought the devil had eaten your cork.

....the good news is I wud like to mate with u....the bad news thou, u will have to wait yorrrr turn..THANK ME LATER!!

MrCork:



....the good news is I wud like to mate with u....the bad news thou, u will have to wait yorrrr turn..THANK ME LATER!!

I rather go nuts than hang out with you so wake up from your dream ..silly dickhead.

debspauly:
I rather go nuts than hang out with you so wake up from your dream ..silly dickhead.

debspauly:
I rather go nuts than hang out with you so wake up from your dream ..silly dickhead.

.. somebody from nairaland have juss bein instructed to fart near yorrr mouth...THANK ME LATER.. eddddiot girl

MrCork:




.. somebody from nairaland have juss bein instructed to fart near yorrr mouth...THANK ME LATER.. eddddiot girl

haha haha haha haha haha haha haha this one sink in well.......



and you ain't my type so just leave me alone abeg.

debspauly:
haha haha haha haha haha haha haha this one sink in well.......



and you ain't my type so just leave me alone abeg.

debspauly:
haha haha haha haha haha haha haha this one sink in well.......



and you ain't my type so just leave me alone abeg.

^^this one is a ilitarratte!!

MrCork:



^^this one is a ilitarratte!!

lolzzz pained ass nigger.

debspauly:
lolzzz pained ass nigger.

I refuse to marry a liability.

debspauly:
well ..he is very caring
he gives me money every time I need it
he is handsome,tall and has the cutest smile
he truly loves me for me and would do anything for me


but he is 15 yr older than me ..and my family says I should marry him ..

but I want a younger guy ...

but all young guys so far are

self centered
childish
not capable of taking care of me
handsome sha but just too childish

don't know what to do.

How far with this ?

KreativGenius:


How far with this ?

what is your own

debspauly:
what is your own

T-T dey scratche yu abi