| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by raydatluvs(m): 9:02am On Jun 30, 2017 |
You have said well... That's why it's important we have a breather before taking certain decisions like if he had sort advice before confronting his 'beloved' wife then he would be privy to many other possibilities. Now he got himself either a forever disgruntled wife or an unfaithful one, terrible place to be. On the flip side, I am very careful with women that lavish endearing words like they mean nothing. White flag!!! cococandy:
Estimated gestational age usually adds two weeks to the actual age of the fetus. So using your mathematical skills may lead you wrong.
However if you have genuine doubt, take her up on the DNA offer.
You'll have to live with the result.
Negative = heartbroken.
Positive= a wife who will forever make you miserable for doubting her faithfulness.
Not doing the test = consistent doubt about the real father of your child.
There's really no easy way out for you here. Just chose the option that you can live with the results.
I wish you and your new family the best of luck. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 9:04am On Jun 30, 2017 |
As Op is busy sleeping with other married women and cheating, so will other randy men sleep with his wife . What goes around comes around. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Psoul(m): 9:11am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Brother, i will like to advice you contrary to what many ppl that commented above said.
I don't kw hw many of the comments came from married ppl. I don't kw how many knows what having a family means.
I don't kw how much you understand what a family means and hw dear your family is to you. I kw many may not be happy with my piece of advice, but I will say it the way i will take it if I am in ur shoes.
Marriage is meant for only matured minds and not for kids. In marriage, u don't pursue issues most time the way they appear to u else u destroy urslf, ur marriage and ur future.
Those issues that will bring about lose of trust in marriage, u treat them carefully and u avoid some certain comments that may stick for a very long period.
My brother, let me tell you that you have already made a very big mistake by confronting your wife with that "I-don't-trust-you-again" kind of questions. That woman is pregnant and need your love and not ur stress. There is a kind of stress u will place her under and she will have complication. If that happens, weda the child is ur or not, u must rally round to save her life and that of the baby.
All you need to do is to hide ur fear and suspicion, let the baby be born, den go for paternity test. This will cure all ur fear and suspicions. By then u can take ur decision as it pleases u.
Let's assume that the baby comes, you do the test and the baby happens to be truly urs, what apology will u render to ur wife?
Do u think she will easily forgive u?
Do u think that u will be able to accuse her any other time u suspect her moves. She will always refer to the time u accused her of the pregnancy which finally proved u wrong. That defense will always make u weak.
My brother, my advice is that u should pls drop discussing the paternity of ur unborn child till this innocent baby is born. Apologize to her for the words u have said to her (dis might be difficult but it is very important). This will put her back in good frame of mind to nurture the fetus she s carrying. Deep inside u, u kw u are doubting her but never let that show. U may be digging ur own hole if u allow this fear show. U may not survive it.
Forget about those telling you to kill her, bury her, dey may not kw what it means to have a family.
Thanks. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by epistleNow(m): 9:12am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Many homes are going through similar issues.
Wives complicating things with male friends.
Guy, just chill (I know that aint gonna be easy)
And watch your steps in the house, Don't get killed emotionally or physically, cos if truly the baby ain't yours, your life is at risk. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by DeLioncourt: 9:13am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? don't fall for the tears. do the f*cking test 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by naturalwaves: 9:17am On Jun 30, 2017 |
EgunMogaji:
Keep deluding yourself.
What if it's your brother or uncle? Hahahaha. God forbid! I got no brother  |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by veraiyke(m): 9:17am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Another reason I'm always uncomfortable with a woman always flirting with a man and going with him and yet says he's just a friend and then the feelings begin to come and one day it will happen and will never stop then the lies will begin. Manipulation here and there. I wonder how a man or woman will be proclaiming undying love for someone and be shagging another person still without conscience. Its no love but wickedness. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 9:17am On Jun 30, 2017 |
I hope the child turns out not to be his. Lesson to cheating men. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Teel012(m): 9:17am On Jun 30, 2017 |
naturalwaves:
Your suspision is most likely right. Forget about all the acting rubbish. That's how most of them do. Some will even cry that you will almost apologise but na lie in most cases. So, don't listen to those saying relax bla bla bla.
Being a tech guy, I once spoofed a lady's MAC address and was following her up and getting all messages just so I know her well before putting my hands in fire. If you see what I saw, the devil himself will be shocked. After I confronted her in a subtle way, she kept on acting for me. More evidences , more acting....all those regular baby, I cannot believe you don't trust me bul.sshhit. Until I reeled out the undiluted chats. They are only sorry when caught.
The truth is that you married a flirt who does not have regard for the institution called marriage. Why would she call some other dude such sweet names when she has a husband. Some women are just heartless. How would she feel when you receive calls from females and call them " my love" , "sweet heart" etc. What is she going to see a gyna for? Just for a 7 week old baby? He even had the guts to say.....how is our baby doing. SMH.
The baby may turn out yours but your wife deserves no respect for disrespecting your marriage. Feel free to give out your numbers too and chat, call freely with females while calling them sweet names in her presence. Maybe she will come back to her senses. . bro, m interested in d Mac address spoofing, can we talk privately? |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Dozi05(m): 9:18am On Jun 30, 2017 |
dont fall for the black mail. Do a paternity test |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by DrogoG(m): 9:18am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? 1. The date number didn't add up. 2. The chat with the guy is a little suspicious. 3. A married woman has NO business whatsoever with having a boyfriend or male friend, especially, one that calls her "luv" and "dearie". 4. She asked for a paternity test and also threatened to make your life hell, if you confirm you're the baby's father. My advice: Agree to conduct a paternity test. You've a genuine reason to know if the baby is yours or not because of the discrepancies in this pregnancy. A good wife who is truthful would understand why you're worried and will gladly want to prove you wrong. A bad wife who got herself knocked up by her secret boyfriend or unsure who's responsible for her pregnancy, will threaten her husband into submission and prevent him from knowing the real father of the baby! This may be what your wife did. When the baby is born, conduct a paternity test immediately. There won't have been any doubt if she didn't behave suspiciously. So it's her fault you're in doubt. If you find out the baby is yours, apologize to your wife and either buy her a gift or take her out or do both. But if you find out the baby is not yours, then it will be up to you to either forgive her and raise another man's baby or end the marriage. I'm a married man and I love my wife. If she cheats (don't even get me started with her having another man's baby) on me, the marriage will be over!! 5 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Marshalxv(m): 9:19am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MicroBox:
Op Are you sure you are old enough to be a husband?
You are expected to quietly play along all through this period, home kit paternity test is available everywhere, Both old and new technology are also available to know 99.9 percent of who the father is.
You have already damage but not destroy your marriage with this suspicion.
When I took my wife for Ultra Sound Scan test, our calculation is far different from the result in-terms of the date she concieve (weeks difference ) but I am keeping cool until....
Though I read that, Ultra Sound Scan result always come with Plus or Minus two weeks.
Please just go tell your wife that you are sorry and make sure she forget about it before putting to bed. Anytime she raise the issue, tell her that you're just so upset about the chat and nothing more. Definitely after she put yo bed, she will immediately ask you to go for the test. Please and please never forget to tell her that you are sorry that she should forget about that....
But Dude, Please secretly collect the specimen, run to the lab and be sure of the baby paternity. I don't think the op needs any other advice after this . your marriage is still very young and from what you said it appears you love your wife ,so I'll advice you don't destroy something you help build by accusing her wrongly cuz she'll never forget that her husband doubted the paternity of their first child. be a gentleman and be in your best behavior,apologize and try your possible best to make her forget ur doubts ,never mention or allow her to mention DNA again after she put to bed,just do as you're advised earlier,secretly go for that DNA test in a far away clinic or hospital that you're sure ur wife does not know. when trust is broken,it can never be restored.May God see you through bro 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 9:25am On Jun 30, 2017 |
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| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Emtol01: 9:34am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Man. The numbers doesn't add up, May 19 and Jun 26 is not even up to 5wks not to talk of 7.6 wks. Just play along with her and never give in to her blackmail and wait till she deliver. Go for DNA test and know the authenticity of her claim and take ur next best action. Best wishes. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 9:34am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Creamymoltenlar, what do you think here |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Runaway: 9:34am On Jun 30, 2017 |
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| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Emtol01: 9:35am On Jun 30, 2017 |
No venue?? |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Gamusgamus: 9:37am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? Guy keep that so called trust aside first and think clearly, the lab timing and yours doesn't add up, only a DNA test can prove you wrong or right, don't be blinded by her sorrowful attics. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by boottaesama: 9:37am On Jun 30, 2017 |
i will have suggested you wait till the baby is born, do a test.
but for your wife to say this ''she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.'' brother start planning for a divorce, separation, i really doubt if there is a coming back from this. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Akwaudene87(m): 9:45am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? brother I will just be honest to you .. you are about to father another man's babe |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by abefe99: 9:55am On Jun 30, 2017 |
sir my suggestion is this please just be calm for now and I want u to know marriage is based on trust besides she and the guy may just be closed without any attach am also a married woman and I know ao it feels if our spouse saw a chart from another man I will advice u talk to her and show her ur evidence like d day u made love last and wat the scan is saying and if she is still insisting DAT she did not do such den let her be till she gave birth after den u take d next step DNA |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Eastwest: 9:55am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? in marriage never confront your partner till you have a valid evident/ proof. the child could be your or another. there is this general belief that first issues are always another Man's child. but as someone says your wife might terminate the pregnancy if she thinks you will not be convinced. i never pray to be in your position man. God will help you.  |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by shophut(m): 9:59am On Jun 30, 2017 |
You have done the maths and arrived at the answer, and you still doubt your calculations. Well, to further add "You are NOT the owner of that unborn baby." Go for a DNA Test to determine the paternity for that baby. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by pweetiedee(m): 10:01am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Dude. Please do not call my wife that. If you got no help to offer, then just read and learn. awwwn...see love. however, eyinjuege advise is the one you should follow. don't bring the matter up again, do DNA test when the baby arrives. you'll know what to do next. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by pweetiedee(m): 10:03am On Jun 30, 2017 |
preciousuweh:
Friends, you are invited to our "THANKSGIVING, DEDICATION AND PROPHETIC ENTRANCE SERVICE" at any LIVING FAITH CHURCH close to you.
DATE: Sunday, 2nd July 2017.
TIME: 1st Service; 7:00 am to 9:00 am.
2nd Service; 9:30 am to 11:30 am.
COME AND EXPERIENCE THE POWER OF THE GOD OF WINNERS IN YOUR LIFE.
"MY CASE IS DIFFERENT"
#winnersfamilyworldwide what has this got to do with the OPs problem |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 10:12am On Jun 30, 2017 |
OP, leave all these single guys threatening fire and brimstone. Marriage doesn't work that way. They don't even know there is a (+2)weeks in pregnancy calculation,yet they are the ones telling you the baby is not yours going by calculation. Which calculation?
You guys are in your early stages, 18mths.
That's the teething stage and flirting is common within that stage till most couples settle into the reality of marriage. The only evidence you have is of her flirting, you shouldn't have voiced the paternity concerns out. Keep it to yourself and do the test when you want.
Your wife is no fool. She can easily abort it if she wanted or still wants to. If the babe turns out to be yours after DNA, you guys can always settle the issue of her flirting and draw boundaries _but you can not restore broken trust easily.
Don't let anyone destroy your home. They will insult your wife and go back to their lives _while waiting for another topic, they don't really care! Sensitive issues should be kept off social media. Also read up more on conception and everything that revolves around it. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Iamdmentor1(m): 10:22am On Jun 30, 2017 |
naturalwaves:
Your suspision is most likely right. Forget about all the acting rubbish. That's how most of them do. Some will even cry that you will almost apologise but na lie in most cases. So, don't listen to those saying relax bla bla bla.
Being a tech guy, I once spoofed a lady's MAC address and was following her up and getting all messages just so I know her well before putting my hands in fire. If you see what I saw, the devil himself will be shocked. After I confronted her in a subtle way, she kept on acting for me. More evidences , more acting....all those regular baby, I cannot believe you don't trust me bul.sshhit. Until I reeled out the undiluted chats. They are only sorry when caught.
The truth is that you married a flirt who does not have regard for the institution called marriage. Why would she call some other dude such sweet names when she has a husband. Some women are just heartless. How would she feel when you receive calls from females and call them " my love" , "sweet heart" etc. What is she going to see a gyna for? Just for a 7 week old baby? He even had the guts to say.....how is our baby doing. SMH.
The baby may turn out yours but your wife deserves no respect for disrespecting your marriage. Feel free to give out your numbers too and chat, call freely with females while calling them sweet names in her presence. Maybe she will come back to her senses. Gerrarahia mehn, you too get sense 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by fohlarp: 10:26am On Jun 30, 2017 |
For her to have been away 4 d past six month,dts wen d friendship started with d woman.dey av bn 2geda,curdled each oda,she's free with him nd relaxed,wldnt say smthg hapnd.she's at fault by d guy calg him sweet names nd she's nt rejctg dem.d baby cld be Urs by dos calctns. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Yesitsme(f): 10:27am On Jun 30, 2017 |
From a gynecologist
Well this is a dicey situation that needs a lot of patience. If she saw her menses on 16th may, then the pregnancy should not be up to 7 weeks and 6 days by June 26th. Unless what she saw was an implantation bleed which means her last normal menses will be in April. But the best time to determine the actual age of pregnancy by scan is between 11 and 1 3 weeks. So I advise a lot of patience from my brother and to repeat the scan with 2 of them present in the next 4 weeks. The scan should be done in a neutral place with the radiologist not aware of any controversy. Pls patience brother!! |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by fohlarp: 10:27am On Jun 30, 2017 |
For her to have been away 4 d past six month,dts wen d friendship started with d woman.dey av bn 2geda,curdled each oda,she's free with him nd relaxed,wldnt say smthg hapnd.she's at fault by d guy calg her sweet names nd she's nt rejctg dem.d baby cld be Urs by dos calctns.but she shd be cautioned. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by coolcatty: 10:28am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Anikpee:
Collect her phone, with or without her notice, chat the guy as if she ( your wife) is the person chatting him, lead the chat towards sex, ask him if he enjoyed you the last time they made love. his response will confirm your suspicion. Though personally, I believe the baby is yours, but confirm it first, try my suggestion, it will confirm the whole issue Collect her phone keh....kai....funny people full this NL....as if we all don't know the woman would have activated all her defense mechanism by now including pass wording her phone and informing her lover on the latest issue at hand. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by jpphilips(m): 10:30am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? Severe sexual contact with her till the child is born, after the paternity test, she either goes home or you come begging. The whole idea of threatening you with "making your life hell" is just to discourage you from doing what needs to be done. be a man and get to the root of the matter, none of its outcome will be worse than taking care of a man's child for the rest of your life. Again, regardless of what you do with the child if it is not yours, the real father can still claim the child legally so you have more to lose if you don't see to that DNA test.
Do the DNA test, damn the consequences, if your wife is faithful, with time she will live with it. 4 Likes |
