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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by Martin0(m): 4:39pm On Jul 02, 2017
Quinn22:
Op why do I have the feeling you are talking about my life sad

Just go with your heart ❤️ smiley
see u

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by wendy241(f): 4:43pm On Jul 02, 2017
josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by nerus419(m): 4:44pm On Jul 02, 2017
don't even go there. she will turn to a beast in a short-while.

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by Collins87: 4:44pm On Jul 02, 2017
Am in your shoe op. More opinions highly welcomed.

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by Jbleenk: 4:44pm On Jul 02, 2017
A guy 40 fuckeen a 20yr old girl. Is anything wrong in that? Just asking

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by sukkot: 4:45pm On Jul 02, 2017
DejiJ:


So it's only those that have the fear of God that don't stray?

All those pastors that sleep with church members, do they have the fear of God?
obviously they dont. they are wolves in sheep clothing

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by sukkot: 4:46pm On Jul 02, 2017
freedomland:


Hello
hello Sir

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by FamousAbN: 4:47pm On Jul 02, 2017
Just reading comments, �
Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by oshe11: 4:49pm On Jul 02, 2017
josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.

Whatever U do, mk sure U dnt marry her yet bt if U most then make sure she doesnt go to skul again if nt na U go fund her n her bf wen go dey kpansh her everytime, yet na him go carry ur bags wen U go visit her.....


THIS IS EXPERIENCE TALKING

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by haske7(f): 4:49pm On Jul 02, 2017
josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.


Desr brother. Get ready to be very understanding and also accommodation cos we girls at that age are very immature, impressionable and childish. Most of them are looking for wiz kid and davido including fall6the bad guy.so get ready for a bumpy ride bro

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by tabisegroup(m): 4:50pm On Jul 02, 2017
ItalianWine:


never give up on ur dreams ...no matter how seemingly impossible dey appear to be!!! grin grin

Hahahahah now I know ur a troublemaker grin cheesy
But its nice reminding me of dat ..cus it will fuel my intentions kiss

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by ItalianWine(f): 4:52pm On Jul 02, 2017
DejiJ:


O yea.... We are above the prescribed age for this show.

We got the venue laced with all sort of balloons and tiny blue sweets.

The balloons can be worn or blown & the tiny blue sweets, could either be licked or swallowed with fluid...

May the show begin......


Let's Pray it is Sunday

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by ItalianWine(f): 4:55pm On Jul 02, 2017
DejiJ:


And after we pray?

Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by mayormick(m): 4:55pm On Jul 02, 2017
Hmm...seriously like someone said, they will still want to explore life and dat is when u will be having issues with them. Unfortunately base on their level of experience, trust me u will always be miles ahead of them in d relationship. The funniest thing is if they do anything dat look too childish and u correct them, they will see u as someone dat has too much policy. In short, they are just too raw, 'they are like crude oil, u just have to refine them somehow. However, the most painful aspect of it is after spending about 2-3 yrs training them(refining them), they will follow another person comot giving one rubbish excuse or the other. Walai, trust me av been there b4 and not sure I can date a gal in her early twenties for a serious relationship. No be profitable business jare

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by yinkeys(m): 4:56pm On Jul 02, 2017
ikp120:
That's if she doesn't have at least 3 boyfriends already. grin grin grin grin

Bro leave that girl alone. I sense you're a very serious human being. 11 out of 12 of them are not ready for real life.

Only date her if she loves you like crazy.
I think I agree to this. Spot on

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by ItalianWine(f): 4:57pm On Jul 02, 2017
tabisegroup:


Hahahahah now I know ur a troublemaker grin cheesy
But its nice reminding me of dat ..cus it will fuel my intentions kiss

Time is ticking cheesy

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by yinkeys(m): 5:01pm On Jul 02, 2017
ItalianWine:
To groom a lady into a woman you desire is a skill a few men know.


Think about it. There you will find your answer.
I understand your point really well.
But seriously in this hard times, one would be struggling for money & grooming a babe too.

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by tabisegroup(m): 5:02pm On Jul 02, 2017
ItalianWine:


Time is ticking cheesy
Lol..lets connect ..I'll drop my digits ..but I'll delete in 7minutes..
Flash me Wen u copy it..
Write "ok" to confirm dis mgs

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by yinkeys(m): 5:03pm On Jul 02, 2017
TheLastIdiot:
Many Naija babes below 25 years never still get fully developed brain.grin Na wen babe reach 25 she go knw say life no be Aladin and the princess story! grin
Funny

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by OLUJOSHINS(m): 5:04pm On Jul 02, 2017
BUSHHUNTER:
When I was in 300L then i dated my landlord daughter, someone DAT just finished SS3 grin

My landlord get him own apartment inside same building but d man na tourist him wife na businesswoman she hardly stay home.


Mehn! I told her mk she please behave mature n mk she no let anybody suspect...whenever m around d girl go begin act strange so tey ppl begin notice us.


I manage d relationship reach final year cos of free n tight knacking grin


The day I regret myself na wen she get small misunderstanding with one other girl na so dem begin shout for outside say "she no dey shame say she dey fuvk student" God!


I don almost disappear inside room for like 2wks na ghost mode I activate if u wan see me guy! u must wait till 8pm for night grin


My guys con dey ask me why I no dey comot for daytime I just tell dem say I wan scarce small.


Funny enough my landlord seek advice from me whenever he's around...till I leave there d man no ask me anything grin


The landlord mistakingly trusted U

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by sukkot: 5:05pm On Jul 02, 2017
DejiJ:


So how would we know the ones that have the real fear of God?
by staying at home and reading the bible on your own. you dont learn anything in church anyway. its a harlot house

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by Biggers82(m): 5:07pm On Jul 02, 2017
[color=#000099][/color]No point in dating a girl in her early to mid 20's....
...especially if you are looking to settle down. I went to a wedding last weekend, and met several ladies in their late 20's that were either married, engaged, or seriously dating their guys for 5 or more years. The central theme that each woman portrayed to me look somehow.
"I met one Nneka when I was 25 and we've been together 5 years. I didn't really know what I wanted when I met her, but we have a pretty good relationship, you know, its got good days and bad, sometimes more bad than good. I mean, she is really supportive of me, but its sometimes boring. But we have so much history together and I think that's what keeps us together a lot, though.
Gentleman- based on what I saw, and my own experience being married to a woman that you met when she was only 20 or22, I give a resounding don't do it. I understand the appeal- women in their early 20's are obviously sexually attractive, but also confused and trying to figure out what they want. You are going to go on that roller coaster ride with them and probably end up devastated at best, and divorced at worst.
Guy just Stick with 27 and up (which all of these women were). Almost all of these girls, honestly, are ready for a serious relationship, just not with the guy they are with. They aren't bad women- just not in love anymore (which I'm sure at one point they were). Timing is everything. They have outgrown their time. It was so clearly evident.
Chicks in their late 20's and early 30's rock anyway- so much sexier by then they have known what they want.
Unless you want to continue say sorry and begging her till you die .
A wise man learns that anything said negative about or to a woman should always be followed with good and positive stuff. It has to balance and the good should always be the last thing they hear.
That's where many guys screw up. They make negative generalizations and leave it at that. It's basically called failure[b]No point in dating a girl in her early to mid 20's....
...especially if you are looking to settle down. I went to a wedding last weekend, and met several ladies in their late 20's that were either married, engaged, or seriously dating their guys for 5 or more years. The central theme that each woman portrayed to me look somehow.
"I met one Nneka when I was 25 and we've been together 5 years. I didn't really know what I wanted when I met her, but we have a pretty good relationship, you know, its got good days and bad, sometimes more bad than good. I mean, she is really supportive of me, but its sometimes boring. But we have so much history together and I think that's what keeps us together a lot, though.
Gentleman- based on what I saw, and my own experience being married to a woman that you met when she was only 20 or22, I give a resounding don't do it. I understand the appeal- women in their early 20's are obviously sexually attractive, but also confused and trying to figure out what they want. You are going to go on that roller coaster ride with them and probably end up devastated at best, and divorced at worst.
Guy just Stick with 27 and up (which all of these women were). Almost all of these girls, honestly, are ready for a serious relationship, just not with the guy they are with. They aren't bad women- just not in love anymore (which I'm sure at one point they were). Timing is everything. They have outgrown their time. It was so clearly evident.
Chicks in their late 20's and early 30's rock anyway- so much sexier by then they have known what they want.
Unless you want to continue say sorry and begging her till you die .
A wise man learns that anything said negative about or to a woman should always be followed with good and positive stuff. It has to balance and the good should always be the last thing they hear.
That's where many guys screw up. They make negative generalizations and leave it at that. It's basically called failure[/b]No point in dating a girl in her early to mid 20's....
...especially if you are looking to settle down. I went to a wedding last weekend, and met several ladies in their late 20's that were either married, engaged, or seriously dating their guys for 5 or more years. The central theme that each woman portrayed to me look somehow.
"I met one Nneka when I was 25 and we've been together 5 years. I didn't really know what I wanted when I met her, but we have a pretty good relationship, you know, its got good days and bad, sometimes more bad than good. I mean, she is really supportive of me, but its sometimes boring. But we have so much history together and I think that's what keeps us together a lot, though.
Gentleman- based on what I saw, and my own experience being married to a woman that you met when she was only 20 or22, I give a resounding don't do it. I understand the appeal- women in their early 20's are obviously sexually attractive, but also confused and trying to figure out what they want. You are going to go on that roller coaster ride with them and probably end up devastated at best, and divorced at worst.
Guy just Stick with 27 and up (which all of these women were). Almost all of these girls, honestly, are ready for a serious relationship, just not with the guy they are with. They aren't bad women- just not in love anymore (which I'm sure at one point they were). Timing is everything. They have outgrown their time. It was so clearly evident.
Chicks in their late 20's and early 30's rock anyway- so much sexier by then they have known what they want.
Unless you want to continue say sorry and begging her till you die .
A wise man learns that anything said negative about or to a woman should always be followed with good and positive stuff. It has to balance and the good should always be the last thing they hear.
That's where many guys screw up. They make negative generalizations and leave it at that. It's basically called failure

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by feddiferri(m): 5:08pm On Jul 02, 2017
Dating a girl in her early 20 is just a huge amount of fun. I can never forget that moment when i was heading to that hotel.
She was waiting for me and we really enjoyed a lot.
It was really great indeed

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by edeXede: 5:16pm On Jul 02, 2017
angry angry
during the 1990s to early 2000s, dating a 20 year old lady makes sex enjoyable because the puna is still fresh and tight and the breast is still like iya sidis apple..
Fast forward ten years after 2000s, date a 20 year old lady at your own peril

In short, op please have at least two side chics to serve as substitute till when you find out the winch have been cheating on you

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by Acidosis(m): 5:17pm On Jul 02, 2017
The last time I tried to date a girl of that age, I discovered she had an alternate Nairaland acct (which she never disclosed). I was jejely reading some stuffs on Nairaland that fateful day when I stumbled on that strange moniker, I clicked out of curiosity, and alas! I saw the picture of the supposedly single and ready to mingle girl.

On that account, I noticed she runs a powerful Diary where she regularly updates her escapades with the authentic boyfriend, including memories of kisses, movies, visits, even nights together.

grin grin


That was the last time I approached a girl of that age for anything, including friendship. Its been 4 years now though.

@OP, nobody can answer your question as we don't have any tangible information about your girl and her upbringing. I think you should go ahead and date her with your (head), not your (heart). Not everyone wants to "explore", it all depends on her personality . The desire to explore is always there even among married men and women. Maturity is key in order to manage that desire, and maturity in every sense got nothing to do with age.

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by tabisegroup(m): 5:17pm On Jul 02, 2017
ItalianWine:


Time is ticking cheesy
Lol..
Lets connect..we never can tell!
I'll drop my digits buh..I'll delete in 7minutes. Meanwhile write "ok" to confirm u are on standby now.

..flash me Wen u copy it

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by Samadict(f): 5:19pm On Jul 02, 2017
Have you discussed this with her? Does she want what you want? If she does, then let go of your fear and enjoy your relationship. I met my hubby at age 19. He was 27 then. He was scared like you at first feeling I may decide to leave him later for a younger guy after committing himself. I was scared he might later want to go for an experienced older lady. We later realised we were on the same page (want to be his and he, mine). We drove our fears away. People said lot of things (friends, family and neighbors) but last year we got married at ages 26 and 34. I do not regret staying with him. If you both want it, then you both can work it out with God.

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Re: Dating A Girl In Her Early 20's. Experienced And Mature Response Needed. by degelinglacis: 5:22pm On Jul 02, 2017
ikp120:
That's if she doesn't have at least 3 boyfriends already. grin grin grin grin

Bro leave that girl alone. I sense you're a very serious human being. 11 out of 12 of them are not ready for real life.

Only date her if she loves you like crazy.

That's how you people will not let us see husband with your yeye analysis sad. Your age does not determine if you will be responsible. I'm in my early twenties, I was never involved in previous marital sex and I have only dated a guy. I have never double date.

Please op, if she's responsible go for her

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