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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 2:57am On Jul 04, 2017
MissJoy29:
Op, it has happened to me. Not just with one guy & sadly, they are married now...I attribute it to naivety, immaturity and youthful exuberance. Such costly mistake can't happen again with what I know now about the important attributes to look out for in a marriage patner.

Nice to hear your experience, please better advise your younger ones otherwise Na shiloh sure pass.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 3:00am On Jul 04, 2017
wow.. sweet thread....
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by mamajaz(f): 3:04am On Jul 04, 2017
[quote author=ZarZar post=58085554]OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at then

So, you knew their home nah, you could have dropped in to say hello to them. Chai!!! You no resemble me.
I will never forget those people for as long as I live. ...if not that you're the one telling us now self, Ai for think say nah cock& bull story.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by dan2090: 3:06am On Jul 04, 2017
piroux:

I get you, i like to think i'm older and more mature now. Such shouldnt happen again.

Shakara don end ooo (x3)
Abeg nairalander who still remember that song make eh help me carry am .
Shakara don end ooo aunty piroux !!!

grin grin grin

Make you no worry, if you don't mind I wan give another chance

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by adeniyisamuel59(m): 3:19am On Jul 04, 2017
I love this interesting thread.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by dan2090: 3:31am On Jul 04, 2017
Princessekubo:
I regretted not saying no enough

I'm listening...., I think this one catch my interest. How many No would have Said & did he chak you when you had cold or something? cheesy cheesy
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by profnigga(m): 3:31am On Jul 04, 2017
undecided

Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by pressplay411(m): 3:34am On Jul 04, 2017
slayking:

Reverse psychology.

Funny thing is, you may never meet a man who is as loving and caring as the one you rejected.

Life is all about choices so you better learn how to live with the devil you chose.


She's right though.
She may have loved the wildness of the devil while it lasted only to realize devil has no loyalty.
Now she's the prodigal chic.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Olasigun01(m): 3:35am On Jul 04, 2017
cool
dan2090:


I'm listening...., I think this one catch my interest. How many No would have Said & did he chak you when you had cold or something? cheesy cheesy
cool
dan2090:


I'm listening...., I think this one catch my interest. How many No would have Said & did he chak you when you had cold or something? cheesy cheesy
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by MissRaine69(f): 3:42am On Jul 04, 2017
There is nothing as suffocating as regret. I never regret anything. Because every little detail of your life is what made you into who you are in the end.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 3:48am On Jul 04, 2017
MissJoy29:
Op, it has happened to me. Not just with one guy & sadly, they are married now...I attribute it to naivety, immaturity and youthful exuberance. Such costly mistake can't happen again with what I know now about the important attributes to look out for in a marriage patner.

Not just with one guy? Are u MBGN?
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by aamstih: 3:58am On Jul 04, 2017
May I find love in this journey that I would be embarking on.



Lionessza:





LMFAO, bus love. I met the guy I mentioned in my post on one of those long bus trips . We were coming from the EC , he was going to kempton and me Pta . Lol, we talked the whole trip like we had known each other for years and funny thing when we arrived at parkstation he was supposed to get off but he decided to go with me to pta lol and catch a taxi there to kempton. He was so cute and could hold a conversation on any subject, I felt like I had found a husband even though I wasn't looking for one grin. The following day he visited and we spent the whole day together gallavanting.


Lol , I know someone who is married to her bus trip lover grin so those long trips of ours can really pay lol.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by chiwetel(f): 4:07am On Jul 04, 2017
i did say NO to a guy that seemed all perfect, nice,caring and hopelessly sweet .From the very first day we met,i knew we couldn't work,he was nothing short of an angel, but my instincts and intuition didn't just accept him,something didn't add up.
Fast forward to when we starting really talking and building friendship, he was a complete gentleman,almost did everything in the books,Lol at some point i started doubting his sincerity, guess that's what having bad experiences does to you,you kinda structured yourself into believing good men don't exist. Moving on, we talked and really did become friends this all happened within the period of four months,let me mention most of our conversations were via phone calls. Sadly,he was transferred to another state, so he eventually made arrangements to travel down to see me,which i greatly anticipated, somewhere in my mind i started accepting him,felt like i was trying to grow the love,his consistency made that happen.
It was on a Friday,we were supposed to spend the weekend together,i was a combination of nervous and excited,because it was going to practically be the first time we would spend quality time together physically,unfortunately all my fears were confirmed there was more to his appealing exterior sweetness, i discovered flaws i never perceived before then,our conversations were lifeless,there was zero chemistry worse of all was that,i realized throughout the period we spent together, i couldn't feel myself,i was being too prim and proper to make myself very deserving of this almost perfect man.

Summary is, from day one my whole being said no to him,but i wanted to give it a chance,i was so scared of losing someone that nice and caring,i was even more scared i might never meet anyone better,but deep down i kinda knew he wasn't the one. so basically it taught me to always confirm my instincts and fears and never settle for someone that makes me want to disown myself and pretend to be another,because really true love should accept all of you.


f**k this shii is long.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 4:11am On Jul 04, 2017
chiwetel:
i did say NO at first to a guy that seemed all perfect, nice,caring and hopelessly sweet .From the very first day met,i knew we couldn't work,he was nothing short of an angel, but my instincts and intuition didn't just accept him,something didn't add up.

Fast forward to when we starting really talking and building friendship, he was a complete gentleman,almost did everything in the books,Lol at some point i started doubting his sincerity,guess that's what having bad experiences does to you,you kinda structured yourself into believing good men don't exist. Moving on, we talked and really did become friends this all happened within the period of four months,let me mention most of our conversations were via phone calls. Sadly,he was transferred to another state, so he eventually made arrangements to travel down to see me,which i greatly anticipated, somewhere in my mind i started accepting him,felt like i was trying to grow the love,his consistency made that happen.
It was on a Friday,we were supposed to spend the weekend together,i was a combination of nervous and excited,because it was going to practically be first time we spent quality time together physically,unfortunately all my fears were confirmed there was more to his appealing exterior sweetness, i discovered many flaws i never perceived before then. worse of all was that,i realized throughout the period we spent together, i couldn't feel myself i was being too prim and proper to make myself very deserving of this almost perfect man.
Summary is,from day one my whole being said no to him,but i wanted to give it a chance,i was so scared of losing someone that nice and all,i was more scared i might never meet anyone better,But deep down i knew he wasn't the one. so basically it taught me to always confirm my instincts and fears and never settle for someone that makes me want to disown myself and pretend to be another,because really true love should accept all of you.

f**k this shii is long ��

Which part of the world are u from?

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 4:12am On Jul 04, 2017
chiwetel:
i did say NO at first to a guy that seemed all perfect, nice,caring and hopelessly sweet .From the very first day met,i knew we couldn't work,he was nothing short of an angel, but my instincts and intuition didn't just accept him,something didn't add up.

Fast forward to when we starting really talking and building friendship, he was a complete gentleman,almost did everything in the books,Lol at some point i started doubting his sincerity,guess that's what having bad experiences does to you,you kinda structured yourself into believing good men don't exist. Moving on, we talked and really did become friends this all happened within the period of four months,let me mention most of our conversations were via phone calls. Sadly,he was transferred to another state, so he eventually made arrangements to travel down to see me,which i greatly anticipated, somewhere in my mind i started accepting him,felt like i was trying to grow the love,his consistency made that happen.
It was on a Friday,we were supposed to spend the weekend together,i was a combination of nervous and excited,because it was going to practically be first time we spent quality time together physically,unfortunately all my fears were confirmed there was more to his appealing exterior sweetness, i discovered many flaws i never perceived before then. worse of all was that,i realized throughout the period we spent together, i couldn't feel myself i was being too prim and proper to make myself very deserving of this almost perfect man.
Summary is,from day one my whole being said no to him,but i wanted to give it a chance,i was so scared of losing someone that nice and all,i was more scared i might never meet anyone better,But deep down i knew he wasn't the one. so basically it taught me to always confirm my instincts and fears and never settle for someone that makes me want to disown myself and pretend to be another,because really true love should accept all of you.

f**k this shii is long ��


Hm...
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by chiwetel(f): 4:16am On Jul 04, 2017
gentlemanism1:


Which part of the world are u from?
Lol....The world where i can comfortably be myself and freely enjoy life.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 4:18am On Jul 04, 2017
see what Sleep deprivation is causing oh..
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by placeofallure(f): 4:23am On Jul 04, 2017
I met my husband when I was very very young. We didn't start a relationship straight away, was naive, young. He was patient, nurturing like a mother hen, I didn't or let me say we didn't plan to date, he's just an older friend.When I started dating him, I still felt like I can't be hooked at this time, I had other affairs but I found out nobody has really ever cared about me like him. I was fortunate not to have lost him That would've been the regret if he was no longer available. I think I've been lucky in intimate relationships.

OP, I wish girls will learn. I know a lady, she's like a big sister to me. She's in her Forties now and still a spinster. Way back she was beautiful, upwardly mobile, independent and had classy men at her beck and call. She could've easily married a senator if she wanted but somehow, inexplicably, she let all of them slip away. She's a prayer warrior now. I do pray for her too. Ladies should just learn, you can't slay forever.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 4:26am On Jul 04, 2017
placeofallure:
I met my husband when I was very very young. We didn't start a relationship straight away, was naive, young. He was patient, nurturing like a mother hen, I didn't or let me say we didn't plan to date, he's just an older friend.When I started dating him, I still felt like I can't be hooked at this time, I had other affairs but I found out nobody has really ever cared about me like him. I was fortunate not to have lost him That would've been the regret if he was no longer available. I think I've been lucky in intimate relationships.

OP, wish


at last, a happy ending..


More stories guys,can't sleep o...Sleep Apnea
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Godson201333(m): 4:41am On Jul 04, 2017
doughziay:


I guess you were quite young then and will always think there Is enough time. That's why I like talking to ladies from 25yrs n above. They tend to know what they doing.

Me too...It's so funny to hear ladies remember their silly mistakes..

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 4:47am On Jul 04, 2017
doughziay:


I guess you were quite young then and will always think there Is enough time. That's why I like talking to ladies from 25yrs n above. They tend to know what they doing.


Ladiesabove25 have a knack that would get any man anyday anytime.. Always fun interacting with them likewise..
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by iamtardey: 5:05am On Jul 04, 2017
oya let me lie my own lie too. olosho toast mi, mo ni NO. #100%Regret
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 5:12am On Jul 04, 2017
Aguyhasnoname:
Here to read lies...

Hahahahahahaha....guy take am easy oooo
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 5:14am On Jul 04, 2017
Benita27:
Why will I have regrets when I don't derive my happiness from any guy/man?.


u b Lez
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by NaijaElba(m): 5:16am On Jul 04, 2017
ZarZar:
OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time tongue

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive wink

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple grin I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah grin She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me feel like I was human, yanno.
I love this kinda tory!

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by chigoizie7(m): 5:24am On Jul 04, 2017
Simply fear of the unknown.

We always think it will always be better.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Alphamale2017(m): 5:29am On Jul 04, 2017
IamSINZ:

It must be your birthday by force undecided
HBD angry
Lmaooooooooo. this one weak me
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Desric(m): 5:46am On Jul 04, 2017
For me, I believe most of the traits we exhibit as a people and at various stages in our lifes are possibly characteristics of our zodiac sign, the environment we find ourselves and maybe our experiences both the ones we are told, the ones we read, the ones saw etc. We can't just act beyond this. I've met a lot of people and it seems majority of them if not all are merely playing the script according to their zodiac nature and understanding this fact has fully helped me to appreciate people based on who they really are and not what they do because most times, we only display those natural attribute according to our zodiac and the timing. This has really helped me on how to relate with people and how to handle issues when they start exhibiting their natural traits because it's obviously inevitable.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by habdulafeez(m): 5:51am On Jul 04, 2017
piroux:
Hi, i'v been in a state for the past couple of months and i am wondering if others have ever been through it.

I was a 20 year old in my final year and there was this wonderful guy who was crazy about me. He was nice, sweet, caring, selfless and Godly but.... at the time, i thought i was too young and wasnt ready for a serious relationship and he was.
He was a few years older, also in his final year and was very serious about me. I didnt want to be married too young to my first boyfriend so i lied to him about having another boyfriend sad which i didnt have. He was hurt but he let things be, i later confessed to him when we graduated but he didnt trust me anymore and i let things be. Years have passed and i have met cuter, richer, more intelligent guys but no one has cared about me as selflessly as he did. Now, i find myself thinking what if?
Who knows, i might not be happier or as fulfilled but a part of me wishes i had given him a chance, you know? So share your own stories....
this should be a lesson for ladies who are yet to make up lifelong decisions for themselves. Good opportunities are oftentimes rare to come by.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nicolas94(m): 5:57am On Jul 04, 2017
OK sir
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Lionessza(f): 6:00am On Jul 04, 2017
aamstih:
May I find love in this journey that I would be embarking on.





Hopefully you will. All the best to you grin
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by DavidEsq(m): 6:00am On Jul 04, 2017
IamSINZ:


It must be your birthday by force undecided

HBD angry
In fact make I join u too. Imagine the lie! Shey NL no get edit ni! HBD, OP angry

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