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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by kripen(m): 8:04am On Jul 04, 2017
samyomz:
Shit has happened to me like 3 years ago.. She was my childhood friend, I did almost everything for her, cared for her, left my comfort zone to make her comfortable, made her laugh always etc.. ... We dated for just 2 months tho b4 she left me.... I asked her why and she said because we don't fight lol. I was like wtf, why would we fight? She said sometimes if she wrongs me, I'd be the one to apologize.... she later confessed that she was double dating that she liked the other guy than me... I was down for like a year and later picked myself up and let things go, till now I'm single and probably will be for the next couple of years because of my personality, I've been friendzone a Lotta times I saw it as something abnormal being single among my friends who have dates Bt i later realize that we're different.... I cant coman kill myself.. Lemme just enjoy life..... Moral of the story - fight with your babe once in a while lol

I am a married man, it is not really fighting it is issue of discipline your girlfriend or spouse when issue call for it. An average girl or woman like their bf/husband to be discipline and authoritative, reason be that they look up to him for protection and them being the weaker vessel. My wife girlfriend confess to her that she left her former guy just because he was to weak and too simple in the sense that when she does wrong the guy will still be the one to apologies to her 'what a nonsense' .This goes out to the guys, call a spade a spade because when you finally get married the discipline of your home is in your hands.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by OrireSA(m): 8:06am On Jul 04, 2017
TheLordIsGr8:


Same here. I never had any interest in dating all through university. It was too much of a burden for a care-free guy like me.

Fast forward to NYSC and beyond. Now I think I might be needing a wife sometime soon. So I wanna date.

The moment I look at a woman I decide if I can live with her for the next 20 years, at least. If yes, then I can approach. If no, then I don't even think about dating. I don't want date for the sake of dating. Even when my guys are having girls left, right and center.

But I've been burned time and again.... lol. And I'm seriously reconsidering my position on the issue of dating. I'm beginning to think that sometimes you just have to laugh just for the sake of laughing, not because you heard something funny. cheesy


Enjoy your wife. You deserve it.
hahaha! Thanks.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 8:06am On Jul 04, 2017
Lionessza:



Lol, mine is long and the ultimate nightmare not a pg13 kinda story more like +40 lol. I almost became a Karabo Mokoena a few years back in the hands of some devil from your home town. I mean extreme stuff involved like ambulances , police lol . Some crazy shyt I tell you, I never want to experience something like that again, but it made me know if my life is threatened I would battle it out with van dammne himself and win grin.


Oh soccer stars are the worst of the worst lol.

No maarn! shocked I did tell you they're crazy & you said to stop with the stereotypes tongue Wow, I'm glad you survived that, sana. Those ones bayahlabla nokuhlaba, they don't care whether you're a man or a woman. A guy with that amount of violence is scary. Lol @ you'd battle it out. Chisa! Hahaha.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 8:06am On Jul 04, 2017
TheLordIsGr8:


The reason why girls should talk to their mom once in a while about their relationships. Same goes for the guys.

But problem is, an alarming number of us think we've figured it all out.


I wish I get heart to dash u now.... but.. undecided

I talk to my mum about my relationships, the thing is, the way they did it back then is different from the way its done now.

She said back then, a woman could have a lot of men vying for her and she could keep them all till she decides to choose one she loves best and sees a future with.

These days. They'll call you a cheat and a non committed person.

I felt really bad.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Martin0(m): 8:07am On Jul 04, 2017
Lionessza:



Lol, mine is long and the ultimate nightmare not a pg13 kinda story more like +40 lol. I almost became a Karabo Mokoena a few years back in the hands of some devil from your home town. I mean extreme stuff involved like ambulances , police lol . Some crazy shyt I tell you, I never want to experience something like that again, but it made me know if my life is threatened I would battle it out with van dammne himself and win grin.


Oh soccer stars are the worst of the worst lol.
how well can u prove soccer star's to be worse
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Emanodimo(m): 8:11am On Jul 04, 2017
The valid point in most scenario is lies.... Can one avoid not to tell lies in a relationship?... That's the big question for all...
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Ukalejohn(m): 8:13am On Jul 04, 2017
Benita27:
Why will I have regrets when I don't derive my happiness from any guy/man?.

Modified.
Those of you quoting me should save it. Have never had regrets for losing someone, and I'm not a lesbian. There's always someone else to occupy a vacant space.
This Benita sef
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Martin0(m): 8:15am On Jul 04, 2017
Lionessza:



Lol, I prefer addressing directly the person who asked.
hahahahahaha if ur instinct tells you to direct it to me,tell her I said she's wrong!!!the reason you did so was far far from my thought u know..
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by amakadihot87(f): 8:15am On Jul 04, 2017
ZarZar:
OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time tongue

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive wink

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple grin I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah grin She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me feel like I was human, yanno.
.............................. . ... ...u can still ttrace him since u know his brothers house
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Jelal0007(m): 8:15am On Jul 04, 2017
Amarabae:
Yes. Somadina in my 300level then! He tried all his best to pull me, I just keep turning him down.
Tall, chocolate and handsome.
Very matured,young and yori-yorilicious with swag!
The guy can dress! His fashion style is hot.
He got tired and ignored me, I was single then.
Weeks later, I started regretting and beginning to want the guy.
The crushing on him was getting hot day by day.
I regretted not giving him a chance.
I started to give him a breaklight but he shunned me.
I will not forget the day he shunned me when I called him in a resturant.
Come see embarrasement, many people there saw it.
Mehn that guy occupied my thought for many days.
Nwa di hot. Lolz
Serves you right. Nothing pains like self-deceit and pretence.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by holybabayo(m): 8:20am On Jul 04, 2017
Amarabae:
Yes. Somadina in my 300level then! He tried all his best to pull me, I just keep turning him down.
Tall, chocolate and handsome.
Very matured,young and yori-yorilicious with swag!
The guy can dress! His fashion style is hot.
He got tired and ignored me, I was single then.
Weeks later, I started regretting and beginning to want the guy.
The crushing on him was getting hot day by day.
I regretted not giving him a chance.
I started to give him a breaklight but he shunned me.
I will not forget the day he shunned me when I called him in a resturant.
Come see embarrasement, many people there saw it.
Mehn that guy occupied my thought for many days.
Nwa di hot. Lolz

But you are married now na. Forget this boy.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by amakadihot87(f): 8:24am On Jul 04, 2017
Mpiato01:
,,,I think you need a deliverance, cos u can't tell me u are happier without a man in ur life...will u marry urself.?
.............is it a must that one will get married,if not for procreation and what d society will say.....most babes like me wount consider marriage
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by LarryBeryl(m): 8:25am On Jul 04, 2017
Lionessza:
I have said no to someone who was caring and nice but just didn't do it for me. Do I regret it ? Not at all because after that I said yes to a nightmare or what I would call a devil. The devil was a good experience for me , because without having him in my life I wouldn't have been able to appreciate a good man . So saying no to the angel gave me a chance to experience the worst so that when I meet the best I will know how valuable and precious he is and never to take him for granted .

Very well, but because you eventually got a good man after rejecting the first doesn't mean the first is a devil. Let's be sincere, the playout of relationship largely depends on the acceptability of both parties in the long run. What IF the good man isn't the BEST? but I like the contentment attribute you display towards not feeling bad because you moved on well. Note: its not compulsory to face the evils of relationship to value the the present outcomes. It's luck..... it's just luck finding the appropriate partner!
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Jelal0007(m): 8:26am On Jul 04, 2017
Lionessza:



LMFAO, I was a devil with no care in the world and him being the sensitive nice type I think by the time we would have broken up he would have hated every girl in the world grin grin. He was really lucky I was nice enough to let him go even though he didn't understand it, he dodged a major storm cheesy grin.

Hahaha, yho your sister was a psycho . What did you do to deserve that sort of treatment? grin
Major storm indeed.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by I888(m): 8:28am On Jul 04, 2017
samyomz:
Shit has happened to me like 3 years ago.. She was my childhood friend, I did almost everything for her, cared for her, left my comfort zone to make her comfortable, made her laugh always etc.. ... We dated for just 2 months tho b4 she left me.... I asked her why and she said because we don't fight lol. I was like wtf, why would we fight? She said sometimes if she wrongs me, I'd be the one to apologize.... she later confessed that she was double dating that she liked the other guy than me... I was down for like a year and later picked myself up and let things go, till now I'm single and probably will be for the next couple of years because of my personality, I've been friendzone a Lotta times I saw it as something abnormal being single among my friends who have dates Bt i later realize that we're different.... I cant coman kill myself.. Lemme just enjoy life..... Moral of the story - fight with your babe once in a while lol
You are mister nice guy... that is why. Don't beat yourself too much. That girl is an idiot. Trust me, she will hope to come for you one day but do not accept her. I had an ex who didn't like me for my personality but today, she would give anything to have that nice guy back because she has learned her lessons the hard way. Last time she was the one wooing me... see life? But what she seek is dead and buried... I mean that nice guy that always said yes yes to her request, the one that never gave her headache but try to please her at will.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by LarryBeryl(m): 8:29am On Jul 04, 2017
amakadihot87:
.............is it a must that one will get married,if not for procreation and what d society will say.....most babes like me wount consider marriage

What's the end game of every hustle in life? HAPPINESS!!!

How can one be happy without being loved, cared for and seeing your children happy as you are? I don't get you.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by chibic(m): 8:30am On Jul 04, 2017
ZarZar:
OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time tongue

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive wink

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple grin I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah grin She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me feel like I was human, yanno.
After reading your story, I stopped reading any other person's.

Your story make sense!!

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by robosky02(m): 8:30am On Jul 04, 2017
piroux:
Hi, i'v been in a state for the past couple of months and i am wondering if others have ever been through it.

I was a 20 year old in my final year and there was this wonderful guy who was crazy about me. He was nice, sweet, caring, selfless and Godly but.... at the time, i thought i was too young and wasnt ready for a serious relationship and he was.
He was a few years older, also in his final year and was very serious about me. I didnt want to be married too young to my first boyfriend so i lied to him about having another boyfriend sad which i didnt have. He was hurt but he let things be, i later confessed to him when we graduated but he didnt trust me anymore and i let things be. Years have passed and i have met cuter, richer, more intelligent guys but no one has cared about me as selflessly as he did. Now, i find myself thinking what if?
Who knows, i might not be happier or as fulfilled but a part of me wishes i had given him a chance, you know? So share your own stories....
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by ItalianWine(f): 8:33am On Jul 04, 2017
There is no better way to say this

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Lionessza(f): 8:33am On Jul 04, 2017
ZarZar:


No maarn! shocked I did tell you they're crazy & you said to stop with the stereotypes tongue Wow, I'm glad you survived that, sana. Those ones bayahlabla nokuhlaba, they don't care whether you're a man or a woman. A guy with that amount of violence is scary. Lol @ you'd battle it out. Chisa! Hahaha.


Lol, I know. Yena he was born in my hometown, but his polithifian father moved them to EL while he was still in primary. I should have known ikhona into erongo pha from the first time we met his stares kinda made me uncomfortable , but being young and stupid I thought that was sexy grin grin my cousin was the one who was always like I know he's sweet and fun but ingathi ukhohlakele this guy when he stares and smiles like he knows something we don't lol. Ndayohlala naye anyways and life was superb , I mean ke the guy had it all. Fast forward months later , true colors sana. First problem I found out he's not only a spoilt brat but esitya I coke shocked. Not frequent from what he told me , but in time I found that out to be a huge lie .

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Nobody: 8:34am On Jul 04, 2017
Lionessza:



Thanks lol. I don't understand what you said after " good for you". Please help with that.

shocked shocked shocked see oyibo for NL. shocked shocked shocked

Who dating help?
Its safe to ignore this for the now until you come in the know.


But na u dey dat ur dp?
I want to know if you're the lady in the picture on your profile.


And the guy wen dey behind u, im dey sleep for church or ....
Then about the guy behind, is he sleeping in church or ... undecided


Translation cost is $20 per line.
Account number: AZSSE5466
Bank: 2nd Bank of Nigeria.
Early payment will get you a 10% discount cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Menzy86(m): 8:38am On Jul 04, 2017
Benita27:
Why will I have regrets when I don't derive my happiness from any guy/man?.

Modified.
Those of you quoting me should save it. Have never had regrets for losing someone, and I'm not a lesbian. There's always someone else to occupy a vacant space.
this is the lie u love to tell yourself to enable u sleep well at night. Continue.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Lionessza(f): 8:39am On Jul 04, 2017
TheLordIsGr8:


shocked shocked shocked see oyibo for NL. shocked shocked shocked

Who dating help?
Its safe to ignore this for the now until you come in the know.


But na u dey dat ur dp?
I want to know if you're the lady in the picture on your profile.


And the guy wen dey behind u, im dey sleep for church or ....
Then about the guy behind, is he sleeping in church or ... undecided


Translation cost is $20 per line.
Account number: AZSSE5466
Bank: 2nd Bank of Nigeria.
Early payment will get you a 10% discount cheesy cheesy cheesy

Until I come in the know of what ?


No its Jennifer Hudson, that clip was taken from a movie she did in SA.

Lol, I will make a transfer now .
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Damitism: 8:42am On Jul 04, 2017
ZarZar:
OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time tongue

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive wink

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple grin I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah grin She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me feel like I was human, yanno.
Hmmmmnnn! I'm touched.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Lionessza(f): 8:42am On Jul 04, 2017
LarryBeryl:


Very well, but because you eventually got a good man after rejecting the first doesn't mean the first is a devil. Let's be sincere, the playout of relationship largely depends on the acceptability of both parties in the long run. What IF the good man isn't the BEST? but I like the contentment attribute you display towards not feeling bad because you moved on well. Note: its not compulsory to face the evils of relationship to value the the present outcomes. It's luck..... it's just luck finding the appropriate partner!



Maybe you didn't understand the post. I said I rejected the advances of a good guy because I didn't feel he was meant for me. After that I met and dated an evil dude, and I didn't imagine his evil ways I experienced them first hand. After him I met the person I know is good for me.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Lionessza(f): 8:43am On Jul 04, 2017
Jelal0007:
Major storm indeed.




grin
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by jargo89(m): 8:47am On Jul 04, 2017
ZarZar:
OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time tongue

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive wink

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple grin I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah grin She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me feel like I was human, yanno.
Lovely post.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Menzy86(m): 8:50am On Jul 04, 2017
ZarZar:
OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time tongue

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive wink

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple grin I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah grin She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me feel like I was human, yanno.
Guess you were touched by an Angel. Some contacts should NEVER be lost I must say.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by doughziay: 8:55am On Jul 04, 2017
connectpoint:



Ladiesabove25 have a knack that would get any man anyday anytime.. Always fun interacting with them likewise..

Lol @ Knack
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by Lionessza(f): 8:55am On Jul 04, 2017
Martin0:
how well can u prove soccer star's to be worse




I can't but I've seen them in action and I know people who've had bad experiences with many , and that's enough for me to give this judgement tongue and please don't tell me some don't coz I know that. Same as rappers or Rockstar not all are said to be professional hunters but a good number of them are grin
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Saying No To A Person? Why? by LarryBeryl(m): 8:55am On Jul 04, 2017
Lionessza:




Maybe you didn't understand the post. I said I rejected the advances of a good guy because I didn't feel he was meant for me. After that I met and dated an evil dude, and I didn't imagine his evil ways I experienced them first hand. After him I met the person I know is good for me.

Ok ma, all solved. que sera sera

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