logica:
Not quite correct. You described a sociopath or a BPD sufferer. But not all women fit.

95% of women fit, at the minimum. How many times have you seen a woman stop and give money to a beggar? Personally I've never seen. A typical man passes a beggar and regards him with pity. A typical woman passes a beggar, and regards him with disgust. If he dares to approach her, she will respond very negatively in most cases. She will care less about their shared humanity, than about how he might stain her clothes, or ruin her hair. Or dent her image. It's all about HER. Women lack Empathy.

pressplay411:


This line trended back that year. Be more creative, atleast put some effort.
Maureen Ko Afternoon ni.

sorry about that ...creative about what just wanted to know whether you the press play she talks about sorry to bother you

Julietcutie:

sorry about that ...creative about what just wanted to know whether you the press play she talks about sorry to bother you

My bad hon guess I was in a mean-median mode.
For you I can be all you want me to be. But as far as Maureen's go, doesn't ring a bell.
DM for more details.

pocohantas:

There are actually a whole lot more than few on both sides.
It's experience and society that makes people change. I have loved before...I had friends that told me it wasn't worth, because guys done deal with them well well.

Chai! They were finally right. Na your fellow men make us get sense

And with that mentality, you'd b denying yourself the opportunity to experience something wonderful.
You see, this bandwagon mentality of once bitten twice shy is one of the things which makes ours a society of dogs eating dogs. No fire, no passion, no hope all because of so-called past experiences and in the end, still having less fulfilling lives than those who chase after their fairy tales.

caesaraba:


And with that mentality, you'd b denying yourself the opportunity to experience something wonderful.
You see, this bandwagon mentality of once bitten twice shy is one of the things which makes ours a society of dogs eating dogs. No fire, no passion, no hope all because of so-called past experiences and in the end, still having less fulfilling lives than those who chase after their fairy tales.

And who said I have that mentality?

sonofLuci:
True OP, even if you are super cute, all still the same shit, they leave their boyfriend just to be with you because you are cuter and more fun than previous boyfriend, they tell you they love you but it is all a lie, they don't even know they are lying, because it's who they are.

this world is bleeped up

I don't even know if I should proceed with my plans to get married next year.

sexybbstar, what do you think about this write up from op?

That's right. Women DON'T lie. They say what they're feeling at that time.

Rossikki:
You are wrong. Women will never stop and give a lift to a man, even if the man is a cripple. It has nothing to do with fear. Even their fellow women they cannot give a lift. How many times have you seen a woman give money to a beggar on the street?

Na wa oo, I enjoy a ladies lift recently oo

misspineapple:
This write up is saddening..

It is. And do you really want to know what? It's reality. At least, it's close to reality. When I decided to learn about women, that was how I felt at the end of the day – saddened. Most men who find out these things say the same – it’s saddening. What op wrote above isn't all.

FortuneTeller:
@Melonny

It's obvious you are BROKE and probably have an awful personality. I looked at your previous posts and you said you are an introvert. What I have come to realize is that many Nigerian people who use the term introvert, are often on the autism spectrum. If you are on the spectrum, then regardless of the amount of money you have, it will be hard for a woman to truly love you. Sorry but women just don't like your personality and you will have to accept it.

WHY do you think women have a problem loving men on the spectrum? (Or maybe that should be why men on the spectrum have a problem getting women to like them)

unqombothi:

It is. And do you really want to know what? It's reality. At least, it's close to reality. When I decided to learn about women after a nasty experience, that was how I felt at the end of the day – saddened. Most men who find out these things say the same – it’s saddening. What op wrote above doesn’t even scratch the surface.

Most of us have had our own fair share of nasty experiences.I wud not want to argue or try to contraduct wat d op is saying,he made some point tho and i no 4 sure dat we,women,we come wit a lot of baggage..Bt i also no that when a woman decide to dedicate herself to loving someone,she loves 4 real..

FortuneTeller:
@Melonny

It's obvious you are BROKE and probably have an awful personality. I looked at your previous posts and you said you are an introvert. What I have come to realize is that many Nigerian people who use the term introvert, are often on the autism spectrum. If you are on the spectrum, then regardless of the amount of money you have, it will be hard for a woman to truly love you. Sorry but women just don't like your personality and you will have to accept it.

Fatality
Seriously I think you went to harsh on the guy. Stuffs like this can make someone commit suicide.

At op, I think you should concentrate all your efforts into something else. If you are young, have you thought of grad school? Have you thought of doing something for humanity? There are so many NGOs in need of volunteers. Stop making your life revolve around women o.

unqombothi:

WHY do you think women have a problem loving men on the spectrum? (Or maybe that should be why men on the spectrum have a problem getting women to like them)

Because these men are socially awkward. They don't fit in with groups of people. How can you get together with other married couples, when your husband is shying away from everyone? It's embarrassing. Women like men with confidence and such people rarely have it. They often say inappropriate things or say things at the wrong time. So others start to shun them. The only way a man overcome this disability is by making a lot of money. It doesn't mean the woman actually loves the guy, but she will learn to tolerate him because he makes her life easier.

FortuneTeller:


Because these men are socially awkward. They don't fit in with groups of people. How can you get together with other married couples, when your husband is shying away from everyone? It's embarrassing. Women like men with confidence and such people rarely have it. They often say inappropriate things or say things at the wrong time. So others start to shun them. The only way a man overcome this disability is by making a lot of money. It doesn't mean the woman actually loves the guy, but she will learn to tolerate him because he makes her life easier.

On the contrary, I don’t think women find it difficult to truly love men on the spectrum anymore than it is for them to love neurotypical men. Women who stick with spectrum men tend to find them adorable due to their unique attributes – creativity, intelligence, analytical thinking, fidelity, candour, etc. The problem for spectrum men is that it takes only a certain kind of women to like them and they’re probably no more than 10 or 20% of women so the pool is really small for them. This is because, like you said, the majority of women can’t deal. The ones who stick are the ones who don’t see family get-together and that stuff as particularly important. Besides, by adulthood most Aspies can handle themselves well and their social blunders are few and far between, and they tend to compensate for what they lack in other ways. On why spectrum men find it hard to get women to be interested in them, I think it is due to their lack of understanding of the GAME which is MANIPULATION. Too much candour, not knowing what to say, what to hold back—that is the problem. They don’t know how to play her emotions to their advantage.

unqombothi:

On the contrary, I don’t think women find it difficult to truly love men on the spectrum anymore than it is for them to love neurotypical men. Women who stick with spectrum men tend to find them adorable due to their unique attributes – creativity, intelligence, analytical thinking, fidelity, candour, etc. The problem for spectrum men is that it takes only a certain kind of women to like them and they’re probably no more than 10 or 20% of women so the pool is really small for them. This is because, like you said, the majority of women can’t deal. The ones who stick are the ones who don’t see family get-together and that stuff as particularly important. Besides, by adulthood most Aspies can handle themselves well and their social blunders are few and far between, and they tend to compensate for what they lack in other ways. On why spectrum men find it hard to get women to be interested in them, I think it is due to their lack of understanding of the GAME which is MANIPULATION. Too much candour, not knowing what to say, what to hold back—that is the problem. They don’t know how to play her emotions to their advantage.

OK dear. If you say so. I guess I don't know any of that 20%.

pressplay411:


My bad hon guess I was in a mean-median mode.
For you I can be all you want me to be. But as far as Maureen's go, doesn't ring a bell.
DM for more details.

no problem didn't take it to heart ...have a nice day

FortuneTeller:


OK dear. If you say so. I guess I don't know any of that 20%.

You don't need to. But you can find many Spectrum men who are in great relationships and most of them aren't rich. And if you go on Quora or Reddit, you will read countless testimonies from women in relationship with Spectrum men. There are women who actually prefare them.

FortuneTeller:

OK dear. If you say so. I guess I don't know any of that 20%.

Are you really a fortune teller?

misspineapple:
Most of us have had our own fair share of nasty experiences.I wud not want to argue or try to contraduct wat d op is saying,he made some point tho and i no 4 sure dat we,women,we come wit a lot of baggage..Bt i also no that when a woman decide to dedicate herself to loving someone,she loves 4 real..

To be clear, there are loyal women who will stay with their man through anything and won't leave for a "better man". But op's points are valid because they apply to the majority of women. Culture is also a part of it. Around here, women used to stay with a man as long as he is not violent and he provides. But these days you hear, "I don't love him anymore!" Which really means, I've found a better man.

unqombothi:

You don't need to. But you can find many Spectrum men who are in great relationships and most of them aren't rich. And if you go on Quora or Reddit, you will read countless testimonies from women in relationship with Spectrum men. There are women who actually prefare them.

You're forgetting one thing. Reddit is made up of mostly white people who live in the US. The divorce here is very high among them. It's nothing for them to have been married 2 or 3 times. Also many of them will be able to provide something financial that most of the world can't due to their location and race, so that will give their wives a reason to stay put. The black community, including Nigeria, can't afford to be as kind to such people.

That is why it's important for parents to identify the problem early on and put these children on the right career track. I feel this causes a lot of the frustration from men of all color who are on the autism spectrum. These men screaming constantly complain that women only want money and bad guys. It's not that. They don't want an awkward partner. After 7 years of marriage, one of my friends finally divorced her aspie husband. She didn't realize what was wrong with him when they got married, but over the years it became obvious. She just couldn't take the issues he had anymore.

I think I should drop the convo, because I don't want to discourage you. I didn't realize you were an Aspie until I went through your posts. I know you will find a woman who loves you for you one day. Be blessed.

FortuneTeller:


You're forgetting one thing. Reddit is made up of mostly white people who live in the US. The divorce here is very high among them. It's nothing for them to have been married 2 or 3 times. Also many of them will be able to provide something financial that most of the world can't due to their location and race, so that will give their wives a reason to stay put. The black community, including Nigeria, can't afford to be as kind to such people.

That is why it's important for parents to identify the problem early on and put these children on the right career track. I feel this causes a lot of the frustration from men of all color who are on the autism spectrum. These men screaming constantly complain that women only want money and bad guys. It's not that. They don't want an awkward partner. After 7 years of marriage, one of my friends finally divorced her aspie husband. She didn't realize what was wrong with him when they got married, but over the years it became obvious. She just couldn't take the issues he had anymore.

I think I should drop the convo, because I don't want to discourage you. I didn't realize you were an Aspie until I went through your posts. I know you will find a woman who loves you for you one day. Be blessed.

You’re sure you haven’t been reading someone else’s posts? When you go into the dark web and read up on studies 0n this matter and open your eyes you will understand why even NTs are not immune to some of these challenges, assuming I was talking about my own challenges. Even if I were an Aspie you’re forgetting that every Aspie is different and some have fewer problems with dating than others do.

I agree that these things can work differently between a society where women are liberated and a patriarchal one where the man is expected to be “provider”, especially one like Nigeria where a skewed value system ensures undue emphasis on money. But I was talking about WHYS and numbers. It is wrong to say those women stay put because of money. Many of the women actually earn as much. For some of the richer ones, yes – but that is always a risk once you’re rich, whether you’re NT or Aspie.

For the divorcing couple you mentioned, I think it was unfair on the woman if she wasn’t warned beforehand. The man had a responsibility to tell her he was on the Spectrum, educate her about it and ask her to make an informed decision.

As for not discouraging people, I think you should re-read your first response to op. It is almost everything you said in that post that was mean as hell and unjustifiably so, especially coming from someone who knows a thing or two about neurodiverse people. In that post, you, in effect, used your knowledge to hurt rather than seek to heal. The things you have written in response to me are perfectly fine. I think it’s sad you believe that men who are introverted and have difficult social relationships or a disagreeable personality must be on the spectrum, even though this is not supported by studies and experts particularly warn people against drawings these sorts of conclusions.

unqombothi:

To be clear, there are loyal women who will stay with their man through anything and won't leave for a "better man". But op's points are valid because they apply to the majority of women. Culture is also a part of it. Around here, women used to stay with a man as long as he is not violent and he provides. But these days you hear, "I don't love him anymore!" Which really means, I've found a better man.

With stuffz like this,even the few loyal ones wud still b doubted nd put under scrutiny..

misspineapple:
With stuffz like this,even the few loyal ones wud still b doubted nd put under scrutiny..

True, unfortunately.

FortuneTeller:

I think I should drop the convo, because I don't want to discourage you. I didn't realize you were an Aspie until I went through your posts. I know you will find a woman who loves you for you one day. Be blessed.

And this really reminds me of the Pentagon's Aspie diagnosis of Putin a few years ago and the laughter it provoked among some in the psychiatric community.

unqombothi:

And this really reminds me of the Pentagon's Aspie diagnosis of Putin a few years ago and the laughter it provoked among some in the psychiatric community.

Remember Putin is a white man with money and power. He wouldn't be able to socialize with world leaders and strategize based on emotion if he was an aspie. However none of that should stop you from trying to achieve your dreams. I ebcourage you to find a woman who truly loves you. But please do not get frustrated with women if they don't. Just keep searching for your better half.

FortuneTeller:


Remember Putin is a white man with money and power. He wouldn't be able to socialize with world leaders and strategize based on emotion if he was an aspie. However none of that should stop you from trying to achieve your dreams. I ebcourage you to find a woman who truly loves you. But please do not get frustrated with women if they don't. Just keep searching for your better half.

Hahahaha. You're not right about bolded, though. And there's a lot wrong with "keep searching". It condemns some people to perpetual searchers. Anybody that takes from the world should have himself or herself to blame. But I already know how low you think of these people by now and I also know you're a traditional person, so I know where you're coming from even if you are wrong.

unqombothi:

Hahahaha. You're not right about bolded, though. And there's a lot wrong with "keep searching". It condemns some people to perpetual searchers. Anybody that takes from the world should have himself or herself to blame. But I already know how low you think of these people by now and I also know you're a traditional person, so I know where you're coming from even if you are wrong.

Ok dear. As I said before, please do not get angry with women for not wanting you. You can't force anyone to be with you. As long as you keep that in mind, I feel you will be ok. Blessings.

FortuneTeller:


Ok dear. As I said before, please do not get angry with women for not wanting you. You can't force anyone to be with you. As long as you keep that in mind, I feel you will be ok. Blessings.

Tip: If you meet a spectrum person offline, don't try to mentor them. It will be far too disastrous. Only folks who can empathise and reign in their supposed superiority do it well.

unqombothi:

Tip: If you meet a spectrum person offline, don't try to mentor them. It will be far too disastrous. Only folks who can empathise and reign in their supposed superiority do it well.

You don't even realize how much you are behaving like one right now. You can't let things go. You only see it one way. This is why such people can potentially be dangerous to women. I will do the needful so I don't end up in a dangerous situation. Good luck.

FortuneTeller:


You don't even realize how much you are behaving like one right now. You can't let things go. You only see it one way. This is why such people can potentially be dangerous to women. I will do the needful so I don't end up in a dangerous situation. Good luck.

No, I'm not, although it can seem that way to you. I was responding to you. This isn't something many are knowledgeable about around here so things should be cleared up. Thank you. You don't even know what's really dangerous to women. That's why you people get into trouble. And I don't know any Aspie who'd touch someone who thinks they're awful or who advises them patronisingly, so you shouldn't fear any of them hitting on you.

@ OP

I'm sure you've just encountered the RedPill and the half-truths it peddles.

Humans are evil. We've done some of the most attrocious stuff imaginable.

But humans are also kind, loving, compassionate and giving.

It's a spectrum, and we all occupy different positions on this scale.

So it doesn't make sense to paint everyone with the same brush.

Yes, we all have our baser instincts and tendencies. But we also have our "high ideals".

When The Titanic sank in 1912, the wife of the owner of Macy's - one of the richest men in the world then - refused to get on a lifeboat, but instead chose to die with her husband.

Tell me, is this love?

There are also countless stories of women who have donated internal organs to save their husbands' lives.

Does this qualify as love?

I just read a story of a woman who attacked a large tiger that was about to eat her husband with a wooden paddle - a wooden paddle - and managed to scare it away.

There's also another story there of a woman who pushed her husband out of the course of an out of control minivan - getting in the way herself.

She died to save her husband's life.

You can read these stories and more here: https://mom.me/lifestyle/7767-women-who-saved-their-husbands-life/

Everyday, women give up their dreams and aspirations to assuage our insecurities, be our wives and to rise our babies.

Is this "love" enough?

BuddhaPalm:
@ OP

I'm sure you've just encountered the RedPill and the half-truths it peddles.

Humans are evil. We've done some of the most attrocious stuff imaginable.

But humans are also kind, loving, compassionate and giving.

It's a spectrum, and we all occupy different positions on this scale.

So it doesn't make sense to paint everyone with the same brush.

Yes, we all have our baser instincts and tendencies. But we also have our "high ideals".

When The Titanic sank in 1912, the wife of the owner of Macy's - one of the richest men in the world then - refused to get on a lifeboat, but instead chose to die with her husband.

Tell me, is this love?

There are also countless stories of women who have donated internal organs to save their husbands' lives.

Does this qualify as love?

I just read a story of a woman who attacked a large tiger that was about to eat her husband with a wooden paddle - a wooden paddle - and managed to scare it away.

There's also another story there of a woman who pushed her husband out of the course of an out of control minivan - getting in the way herself.

She died to save her husband's life.

You can read these stories and more here: https://mom.me/lifestyle/7767-women-who-saved-their-husbands-life/

Everyday, women give up their dreams and aspirations to assuage our insecurities, be our wives and to rise our babies.

Is this "love" enough?

Great post. Thank you.

Whoever wrote this disgusting shiit is a mediocre piece of shiit. How many women have you been with or observed in a relation to come here and start cackling like a hen in chicken soup? The fact is men and women love according to thier options. Most women have more options, so are more picky. But they too become clingy and needy as they age and thier option is reduced. But to come here and say women are incapable of loving men is as laughable as it is ridiculous because you are invariably saying women do not produce the dopamine and oxytocin hormone thats responsible for bonding and attachment.