Bornlastnight:
What if the situation was reversed? And Now she is the one who doesn't want the relationship? How would all this nairaland judge react? And why the hell is everyone thinking she is the only one who has something to lose in the relationship? Or she is the only one who invested in the relationship? No be una dey always shout say not all relationship lead to marriage? Why the sudden change of tone? Abeg make una free the guy.

What if she cheated during the course of the relationship? What if she has changed into a monster? What if she was mean to him when he was broke but stayed due to the fact that she thought he might turn out well






All this is for you guys to see the bigger picture

OP if you are tired of her, don't feel bad, it's part of being human and don't let anyone blackmail you into thinking you are a bad person.

However, if she is a good person and you are sure she has and will always being there, then the wise choice for is to reward her loyalty by staying put with her, she is the one for you.

Better to be with the one who loves you than the one whom you love but puts you through emotional torture

Donjazzy12:

Na Boko haram go bomb your own head wicked woman!
Your own heart is worse than wicked.
So you want to force him into a loveless marriage abi?

lelvin:
The painful thing is, most of those emotionally raped guys are the ones insulting the guy. Guys are used and dumped everyday but everyone thinks it's right, while girls go about jumping from one guy to another saying its their happiness that matters.

PMWSpirit:
Reading comments. NL is sweet o. And some people can blow grammar here oo. See ibon as he plenty

Deegeorge:




INTERESTING ... continue gvn him false hope... let call a spade a spade what if that girl was ur sister

Bornlastnight:
What if the situation was reversed? And Now she is the one who doesn't want the relationship? How would all this nairaland judge react? And why the hell is everyone thinking she is the only one who has something to lose in the relationship? Or she is the only one who invested in the relationship? No be una dey always shout say not all relationship lead to marriage? Why the sudden change of tone? Abeg make una free the guy.

What if she cheated during the course of the relationship? What if she has changed into a monster? What if she was mean to him when he was broke but stayed due to the fact that she thought he might turn out well

All this is for you guys to see the bigger picture

OP if you are tired of her, don't feel bad, it's part of being human and don't let anyone blackmail you into thinking you are a bad person.

However, if she is a good person and you are sure she has and will always being there, then the wise choice for is to reward her loyalty by staying put with her, she is the one for you.

Better to be with the one who loves you than the one whom you love but puts you through emotional torture

isaacsegun:
Please fellow nairalanders, Ineed your urgent advice.
We started dating as far back as year 2007, then she was 17 while i was in my early 20s. I'm her first love, in fact, I was the person that deflowered her. I got her pregnant during the course of our relationship in which we aborted, the abortion almost took her life.

Since after the abortion issues that create serious problem between her parents and mine, her parents has kicked against our relationship including mine but she's insisting we must marry even up till today.

Please guys, should i just tell her that we cannot marry because i can see that she's very desperate to marry now as age is not on her side, but I'm afraid to tell her that the relationship cannot work because she can do anything (like attempting to even take her own life)

MrIcredible:

Lol!
And you think you've found an adviser?

Let me help you state the reasons :
1) Not as beautiful as your want
2)
Not as sexy as you want
3) Now has a saggy breastss
4) Not as neat as you want... Etc


Na thunder go fire you

I know your miserable type.
The girl in question may have just slept with you alone or maybe just one other person, but you Have slept with about 10 girls.. .

Oloribu

Your daughters are coming

thesuave10:


Your analogy doesn't even make sense. The marriage won't work so why get into it?

Donjazzy12:

You are a terrible lady to be attacking him like this. It it your entire generation that does not deserve happiness!
What is there to deflower? What of him, didn't she also take his virginity? If it takes ten years to make a good decision, what is wrong with that?

Donjazzy12:

You are a terrible lady to be attacking him like this. It it your entire generation that does not deserve happiness!
What is there to deflower? What of him, didn't she also take his virginity? If it takes ten years to make a good decision, what is wrong with that?

isaacsegun:


this gal in question i can bet my life that shes more beautiful than average gals on this nl.so bro,beauty is not the talking point but what I'm seeing you r not seeing it and you r not in my shoe right nw.so if you don't have any reasonable contribution pls kindly retire to your bed.

Donjazzy12:

You are a terrible lady to be attacking him like this. It it your entire generation that does not deserve happiness!
What is there to deflower? What of him, didn't she also take his virginity? If it takes ten years to make a good decision, what is wrong with that?

Benita27:
Who do you intend leaving her for after 10years of dating with an abortion?. When she was 17 she wasn't desperate, now she's 27 what were you expecting?. You better marry that girl!.

isaacsegun:


this gal in question i can bet my life that shes more beautiful than average gals on this nl.so bro,beauty is not the talking point but what I'm seeing you r not seeing it and you r not in my shoe right nw.so if you don't have any reasonable contribution pls kindly retire to your bed.

isaacsegun:


i ve been reading through people's contributions here but is only few like you that ve been making sense.there are so many reasons i want to back out that i cannot be xplain all on this media.bros pls,can i pm you so that you can have the comprehensive reason

Safiaaa:
We have your picture. Lol try and act up, and don't marry the poor girl after 10 years. You go see. Silly man.

Donjazzy12:

Is not for lesbians like you to say. Focus on your female to female relationships. Please allow normal people to discuss relationship between a man and a woman.

Donjazzy12:

Didn't she also drill his dick? For ten years she ate his money squandered his wealth, what the heck are you talking about? Free this guy abeg.

MissRaine69:
You are a very cruel and callous man. You don't deserve happines. She is good enough to deflower, get pregnant continue to keep sticking your key in her ignition for years and now you mention age and it won't work? Are you serious? It took you 10 years to work that out?

harriet412:
Nawa ooo. This life sef lemme just be reading comment and learning


#TeamNosexTIllmarriage

wunmi590:
Hummm, your matter got me in the corner.

OP, I won't advice you to get married early if you are not fully ready, my definition of fully ready coupled with (financial and maturity).

But be truth be told, if I were you, I would make sure I talk to her to give you more time, remember you disvergined her and she also aborted for you, so you need to always put her in consideration while planing your career.

The best you can just do for her is just let her relax her mind, assure her that you are going to marry her (that's if you intend marrying her), plan het program in your future agenda.

I know the reason why she's desperate to settle down is because of the abortion, so that it won't later have side effect when she gets to a certain age (early 30's or late 30's).

Don't let people push you to what you ate not ready for, so that your future kids would not suffer.