donnaD:
The hearts of MEN is desperately wicked.see op ur people must agree to the marriage o.infact she is already ur wife.d fact remains that u don't love her,you are just looking for an excuse to escape from marring her.you are wicked.if I am the lady I will never marry u becuse u are not worth it.becuse it's better u don't marry her than to marry her under duress and frustrate her life with u.may book haream bomb ur head.

isaacsegun:
Please fellow nairalanders, Ineed your urgent advice.
We started dating as far back as year 2007, then she was 17 while i was in my early 20s. I'm her first love, in fact, I was the person that deflowered her. I got her pregnant during the course of our relationship in which we aborted, the abortion almost took her life.

Since after the abortion issues that create serious problem between her parents and mine, her parents has kicked against our relationship including mine but she's insisting we must marry even up till today.

Please guys, should i just tell her that we cannot marry because i can see that she's very desperate to marry now as age is not on her side, but I'm afraid to tell her that the relationship cannot work because she can do anything (like attempting to even take her own life)

Donjazzy12:

Another foolish man.

Who's this lunatic?

handsomebanana:


AT least PERSOn get sense here.

E oWes her absolutely nothing.

IF E won marry her, make e do am, if not, e forget am.


Na Personal Choice.

Pro choice jare. It works both WAYz

Donjazzy12:

Any excuse is an excuse. Bottom line, he doesn't love her again. Simple. Please respect his decision.

EmperorTayo1864:

oh my,this stupid thing qouted me. nw stay off my mention cos i will never exchange words with you that your studity is as vast as the litstosphere nd its depth is as deep as that of an ocean, so Bleep off!!!

livinbygrace:



He no go better for everybody accusing this guy for his decision.If it were to be the girl that dumped the boy,most of you will be supporting her ,saying all sort of nonsense.Most ladies dump guys these days for better offer and heaven did not fall,so if the guy feels she is not good for him he has the right to move on.Moreover most ladies would do worse if they had been in same position.I am talking from experience .So guy move on .

Safiaaa:
No, any excuse is not an excuse. You cannot shoot somebody and say you shot them because you wanted too. Life doesn't work that way. I cannot respect any mans who cannot act rationally. Therefore he deserves any kind of bashing and backlash he's receiving on this thread.

Your analogy doesn't even make sense. The marriage won't work so why get into it?

isaacsegun:
Please fellow nairalanders, Ineed your urgent advice.
We started dating as far back as year 2007, then she was 17 while i was in my early 20s. I'm her first love, in fact, I was the person that deflowered her. I got her pregnant during the course of our relationship in which we aborted, the abortion almost took her life.

Since after the abortion issues that create serious problem between her parents and mine, her parents has kicked against our relationship including mine but she's insisting we must marry even up till today.

Please guys, should i just tell her that we cannot marry because i can see that she's very desperate to marry now as age is not on her side, but I'm afraid to tell her that the relationship cannot work because she can do anything (like attempting to even take her own life)

0b10010011:
OP! Let me 2017 truth!

Re u very rich? If yes. marry her!

If No, Marry her and use her for money rituals. After the did as been done, you can now marry the woman you truly desire and enjoy your wealth with the newest wiffy.

Women that truly love you dont hunt there lovers. #Fact


So be rest assure no spirit will chase you!

I swear none of these curses can ever work

Safiaaa:
No, any excuse is not an excuse. You cannot shoot somebody and say you shot them because you wanted too. Life doesn't work that way. I cannot respect any mans who cannot act rationally. Therefore he deserves any kind of bashing and backlash he's receiving on this thread.

lelvin:
Because a man has no future or what? So his reasons are not cogent simply because he's the guy abi. If it were the girl that said she wanted to breakup for the same reasons, am sure you tell her it's better to have a broken relationship than a broken marriage.

dipznano:
OP, If I have learnt just one thing about life, it then must be 'marriage is about you future, a school you'd never graduate from (if divorce is not an option)'...all that transpired between you and the girl is a thing of the past, don't let it ruin either of your futures...

For the best interests of you both, avoid an unending misery this marriage might bring (if you are sure it won't work), for those who are cursing you for wasting 10 of her years, leave them! I see them as encouraging you to waste more!
They won't be there when your marital crisis looms, some would even tag you confused by the time you get a divorce...

If you must be selfless about the subject, weigh your chances, 'if you can't proceed, then retreat'

REMEMBER, MARRIAGE IS YOUR CROSS TO BEAR, YEAH YOURS ALONE!!! They are here now saying many things, will they be there when your home boils and your BP rises? NO
You'd be ON YOUR OWN!!!


THINK!!! Else you might be cutting short either of your lifespans' by a dozen or two...

grossintel:
You are a big idiot and a kid!!! After almost costing her to loose her life over your carelessness you want to push her away. NIGA GO MAKE MONEY AND MARRY THAT GIRL.

midehill:
this op...if u didn't marry that girl...u will neva ...dnt let me curse u...marry that gel nd Behind her up to ur taste

Donjazzy12:

You are a terrible lady to be attacking him like this. It it your entire generation that does not deserve happiness!
What is there to deflower? What of him, didn't she also take his virginity? If it takes ten years to make a good decision, what is wrong with that?

Safiaaa:
It's a mutual thing. I wouldve said the same thing if it were the other way round. All im trying to say is that it is MORE damaging on the womans side, due to various factors which are irreplaceable. Try to understand ah beg, and stop being difficult.

Nwabundo38:

10 years is nothing to you??
So u can dump a girl after 10 years

Even after 40yrs see this one o

Nwabundo38:

10 years is nothing to you??
So u can dump a girl after 10 years

lelvin:
Baba SHUT DA F*UCK UP. Thank you for introducing yourself...Mr Big ee-diot and Kiddo. I pray you receive sense in your lifetime. Say Amen....

Safiaaa:
It's a mutual thing. I wouldve said the same thing if it were the other way round. All im trying to say is that it is MORE damaging on the womans side, due to various factors which are irreplaceable. Try to understand ah beg, and stop being difficult.

Marshalxv:



Lol,what a calculated and subtle blast