This is 2017, only halfwits still consider stuff like tribe, religion, side of the track, color , etc in marraiges.

Honestly no. The complications are just too much.

I think the OP has a point.

As a proud Yoruba nigger, if at all, I consider marriage sometimes in the future, she just has to be Yoruba. Kids are closer to their Moms and I would love to raise 100% Yoruba kids, with 100% Yoruba names and inclinations ... kids who would learn the Yoruba language, culture and ways from their Mom and I ...

Besides, I love speaking the Yoruba language so much. So getting married to a "Non-Yoruba" is definitely not an option.

No apologies ... My life, my choice.

Life's too short, you know. Igba o lo bi orere, Aiye o tan lo bi opa ibon!

Yes it should be encouraged..

I am a "by product" of an inter tribal marriage.Father is Yoruba, Mum is Edo.

Tribe/race should not even be a factor when it comes to marriage. Those are extremely shallow "qualities" to look for.

To those shouting culture but still come here to use a language, which is not theirs and can even speak those languages, better than their so called mother languages. Culture changes CONSTANTLY. There's no such thing as preserving culture. That's what culture is, it is meant to change

@OP

You have a parochial definition of culture. As far as I am concerned, culture isn't the way the dead lived and did their things, but how the living chooses to live and do their things. .

I'm too liberal for culture or any other trivial thing to inhibit me from marrying any lady that tickle my fantasy.

It shouldn't be encouraged abeg! Buhari has scattered our country

LordKO:
@OP

You have a parochial definition of culture. As far as I am concerned, culture isn't the way the dead lived and did their things, but how the living chooses to live and do their things.

I'm too liberal for culture to inhibit me from marrying any lady that tickle my fantasy.

Thank you!

Well, I used to think it shouldn't be encouraged until I had a good example under my nose...great couple they are.

Also, mixing names like Chukwunonso Adepoju or Kikelomo Okafor is kinda cute A tribe is a tribe, a nation is a nation while an individual remains unique to him/herself. Geskia.

You keep saying "lose who we are" or whatever, who do fvck are we but humans? Or you have another identity than that? Mschew.

Yes, because I fosters unity and no, because it cause loss of culture and identity

It should be encouraged but you can't force love ni. The Yoruba babe that we had a mutual feeling objected based on tribe.

The truth is that there are pros and cons of everything under the son no matter how good or bad they are. what the OP said is no different from what you hear from white supremacist who think that there should be no racial mixing in order not to contaminate the bloodline and even though these people and their beliefs are viewed with so much disdain, there are merits to their point of view just like the OP has stated the reasons why he thinks there should be no mixing which includes the fact that children will lose out of either culture as they're more likely to be neutralised from culture. Great point right?

Now, we have to decide what is important to us. Is it preserving our culture as it is now or as it was or uniting the world through the marriages. if the latter is the case then the same argument can be made for sub tribes. For instance, Ijebu people should marry only Ijebu people and it can even be extended to towns and even villages. So, this argument does not hold water because the OP is basing his argument on ethnic groups.

As much as i want our culture to be maintained and i usually prefer Igbo men marrying outside Igboland than Igbo women doing so for the same reason. However, i think creating a world where there will be unity should be supreme in the minds of everybody and inter-tribal and racial marriages will definitely help in this regard.

OrdercityWeb:
I was having a discussion with a few friends yesterday. I told them emotions aside, intertribal marriages shouldn't be ENCOURAGED.
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Why? To preserve our culture, our identity is in our culture. I know alot of products of intertribal marriages that are torn between the question of identity.
I once read where a lady from an intertribal marriage said her mom insisted she married her own tribe as against her dad's.
In many intertribal homes there is this cultural neutrality, and many times there's a power play on the kids among the two in-laws.
Even the bible doesn't encourage intertribal marriage, remeber the instructions Abraham gave to his servant and the fact that Jesus was sent to the jews ONLY initially.
Have you wondered why the Chinese and Koreans do not marry outside their race, why do you think there is that cultural cohesion and reverence with them anywhere they go.
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My take is INTERTRIBAL MARRIAGES SHOULDN'T BE ENCOURAGED.
What's your take? Please be factual and intelligent DO NOT APPEAL TO EMOTIONS.

**modified**
Alot of people are saying "culture evolves". Yes cultures evolve. But fundamentals like identity remains same.
Culture evolves. Identity doesn't. The fact that the Yorubas believe they descended from Oduduwa is UNIQUE TO THEM ALONE AND CAN NEVER EVER EVOLVE.
THE MOMENT IT DOES WE HAVE LOST WHO WE ARE

Op, your arguement is baseless, keep what? I hate typing I would have answered you well, I personally used to have a Korean girlfriend and they are really strong Christians and one of my guy recently married a Chinese, if Nigeria Government were to enact a law one family one interethnic marriage bet me that would solve Nigeria problem 2 decades

I just stopped reading where you said Chinese and Koreans don't marry outside their cultures,.Dude just returned from China so know what you say,Many Chinese are lovely getting married to white men here and there.

lovelygurl:
Tribe/race should not even be a factor when it comes to marriage. Those are extremely shallow "qualities" to look for.

To those shouting culture but still come here to use a language, which is not theirs and can even speak those languages more than their so called mother languages. Culture changes CONSTANTLY. There's no such thing as preserving culture. That's what culture is, it is meant to change

Na so na.

OP do you really need an advice? Do you really want people's opinions? Because it seems to me that you only want an argument to rub your ego. If you had already concluded in your heart, why come out here to disturb our peace by asking questions like you really wanted to learn. All you have done is attack anybody with a different opinion from yours, and that's bad

I don't encourage inter-tribal marriage though its has some advantage you will have some benefit from the both side, gain and learn from both tribe.... but what I detest about it,is being calling person halfie mehn I hate it for example those country you mentioned above Korean is Korean Yoruba is Yoruba but calling person half I don't really like it.......

@Op,shouldn't it be interethnic then.. To the topic, i think its just irrational at this current time and century to still be concerned with issues like this but if you ask me i think there is nothing bad in it what am i even thinking, there is nothing bad in it.

If major brands in the united states and other part of the world can take the productions of their products to china in another continent why then is it a big deal in an interethnic marriage leading to ethnical reproductions?

Our identity is already being lost even without inter tribal marriages....
Is it to talk of children who can't speak their mother tongue apart from English language.. Or the ones who have not been to their villages or towns to know where they come from..

See in the nearest future( 30+ years) culture and all those traditional crap of our fore fathers will almost be extinct

Abeggi,I'm a Yoruba omo Alhaji,married to a Deltan Urhobo over 12 years now still counting wahala free,enjoying my marriage,there is nothing bad with inter tribal marriage,LOVE is the KEY

JuneOctober:


Na so na.

Lol don't mind them. Culture this culture that, yet they have more jeans and suits than agbadas in their wardrobes

One day the so-called culture you want to preserve won't be there anymore, that's a fact!

No it should not be encouraged.

Yoruabs should go and marry their inbreed children and stop trying to pass it off to others.


HausaFulani marry amongst themselves no complain, Igbo do same, y is it always Yoruba carrying intermarriage on their head?

I support inter tribal marriage. It did not take the identity of the offsprings of the marriage away. Rather, it make for more peaceful company

It is useless in Nigeria cos there is no love BTW various ethnic groups. It will be counter productive to give my sister away to u wicked and divided nigerians

My opinion:

I do encourage even though it's has a good side and bad side. It's good when they are able to learn about, embrace and respect each other's culture. The parents will know which language to teach the children first and stuffs like that.

But some cultural beliefs are barbaric even you sef will wonder what your ancestors were thinking when they made those rubbish beliefs.

The english you are typing is it not because of inter tribal marriage!

freecocoa:
You keep saying "lose who we are" or whatever, who do fvck are we but humans? Or you have another identity than that? Mschew.

Lmao. You dey vex for the op o.

Like seriously, some of his excuses are just shallow.
This days, people marry from anywhere. White marry blacks, yoruba marry ibos and vice versa etc.

It should be more than encouraged it is the only way we can all be citizens of the world and nothing more