well i could depending on things like how much do i love the woman, will the father be a nuisance to our union, does she love me too?

Keneking:


" On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does "

- Useless inquiry

"I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry ."

- Poor sentence construction and useless vocabulary..who do you want to impress

i recognize your strong desire to be funny in order to garner likes but I'd advise you to put such energy into something worthwhile ....however, you're entitled to your stupid opinion .

bobolizim:
i recognize your strong desire to be funny in order to garner likes but I'd advise you to put such energy into something worthwhile ....however, you're entitled to your stupid opinion .

Nonsense comment

well I would say yes only if the child is a female and still not very old, but if the child has good manners I would do my all to make the child happy and forget the circumstances surrounding his/her birth.


but single mothers are difficult, they are self centred and only care about that child even if u are dying the mother would prefer to be with the child and sometimes if you both have kids, she would give preference to that particular child and painting u black

some would not want to go anywhere if that child isn't with them

bobolizim:
It's been long we've checked on each other so I saw her online on Facebook one day and we shared eachother's contact . On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does .

Well, I'd considered asking her out before this occurrence but this answer of hers put me off totally . Anyways, we ended up meeting and during the course of our discussion , I probed again ; at first I wasn't sure of her answer , I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry . She's not with any child but then she asked me whether I could marry a lady with a child or not ? Which I hurriedly said no .

She began to tell me reasons there's nothing bad in doing that using a story of a lady who was raped by a guy she'd never fallen in love with. It's not like she didn't have the person she's dating , it just occurred that she's forced and all. Well, she made it known to her boyfriend, her predicament;hmm, it's a cliche that ''love is blind'',her boyfriend who is madly in love promised to care of her and the baby when delivered of.

Well, i have empathy for such a person but my answer is still no. It's not like I'm selfish but I'd not train a child that'd eventually become someone else amongst ample reason.

Hence, I'd like to know whether you can marry a lady or guy with a child ?

If not why not
i am a lover of kids
children are great blessings from God
i will not make them feel their mother's absence.
My husband is their father i am their mother.

Keneking:
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Waste of space

Na u sabi.


Stop posting thrash. Not cool

iamdynamite:
Why not, see marrying a brand new gal wont guarantee a happy home, so what is the fuss about afterone, as they are popularly called.

she has a child not a disease, so therefore if i love her and she loves me too the child wont be an issue for me.

Oh yes my brother, u are speaking from the mind set. I can do it very well

Yes

Sabrina18:
If I really love the person, I can marry him, even though am the jealous type and I don't like to share.



But it might be tough, babymama drama is not funny and there will always be this connection between your husband and the babymama. E no easy.

asked u to go ahead and confirm my shoe

HERSLEY:
so if I give u, u ll av a rubber on

U 4 no accept rubber ni? ¿

chidichuddo:
well I would say yes only if the child is a female and still not very old, but if the child has good manners I would do my all to make the child happy and forget the circumstances surrounding his/her birth.


but single mothers are difficult, they are self centred and only care about that child even if u are dying the mother would prefer to be with the child and sometimes if you both have kids, she would give preference to that particular child and painting u black

some would not want to go anywhere if that child isn't with them

So true my dear brother

bobolizim:
i recognize your strong desire to be funny in order to garner likes but I'd advise you to put such energy into something worthwhile ....however, you're entitled to your stupid opinion .

Bobolizim

Dis is destruction

Before I would have gladly said yes but I now have my reservations.

Why you may ask?

Recently my cousin lost her husband and she came to stay in our house with her 2 boys.

The first boy she had was out of wedlock and is 14years. Her second boy who is 4years old is the only issue from her late husband.

The first boy is devious though treat him very well.

I even allow access to my phone which he uses to chat on WhatsApp or play games.

The other day I found out 3,000 was withdrawn from my bank account through my ATM. I had been looking for my ATM for close to a week. Interestingly, my money was withdrawn about the time he borrowed my phone saying he wanted to use it search for his phone.

I alerted him some days later that money was removed from my bank account illegally. I noticed hr was jittery but he tried masking it.

The next thing I noticed the next day was that virtually all my First bank alerts were deleted.

I said nothing. I simply requested a video footage of the illegal withdrawal and the result I got today was him in a green shirt at the exact time the money was withdrawn.

In light of this, a stepfather might be visibly irritated by inexcusable lapses he finds in the child and and any form of serious correction will be termed abuse.

Anyone wanting to marry a single parent must first consider whether he is very comfortable with the child and if he or she is truly, truly comfortable, you can take the big step and marry

Yeah, but it may not necessarily be my first wife...most preferably as second wife

adajoe555:
I can everyone got a past

yeske!
but we all should try to make our past beautiful or devoid of negative life changing actions

yes

yes I can cos have dated a single mom for 4years, some are more cool headed and matured after learning from their past mistakes but only if she can prove she have no feelings for the father of the child.

NO. I wouldn't even have a serious relationship with a lady who has a child already.
I just can't fit shout.

;

grandstar:
Before I would have gladly said yes but I now have my reservations.

Why you may ask?

Recently my cousin lost her husband and she came to stay in our house with her 2 boys.

The first boy she had was out of wedlock and is 14years. Her second boy who is 4years old is the only issue from her late husband.

The first boy is devious though treat him very well.

I even allow access to my phone which he uses to chat on WhatsApp or play games.

The other day I found out 3,000 was withdrawn from my bank account through my ATM. I had been looking for my ATM for close to a week. Interestingly, my money was withdrawn about the time he borrowed my phone saying he wanted to use it search for his phone.

I alerted him some days later that money was removed from my bank account illegally. I noticed hr was jittery but he tried masking it.

The next thing I noticed the next day was that virtually all my First bank alerts were deleted.

I said nothing. I simply requested a video footage of the illegal withdrawal and the result I got today was him in a green shirt at the exact time the money was withdrawn.

In light of this, a stepfather might be visibly irritated by inexcusable lapses he finds in the child and and any form of serious correction will be termed abuse.

Anyone wanting to marry a single parent must first consider whether he is very comfortable with the child and if he or she is truly, truly comfortable, you can take the big step and marry

ah , this one strong o

Guys that are saying never. Have you taught of if you didn't give her money to abort the pregnancy or if it was so difficult for the abortion to be successful?


Ladies that are saying never. Have you taught of if you didn't accept to abort the pregnancy for fear of death etc or if it was difficult for the abortion to be successful?


Many people had once been pregnant or got someone pregnant. Now where is the child?

May God not give you a baby mama or baby papa as a partner as He gave Hosea a harlot as wife. It is then you will know that God's plan for us are good and not of evil.


God bring that man you have destined to be my husband even if he has 3 kids already. Your plans for me are perfect.

It all depends like in your story, the rape of a thing won't be her making, if i love her then i can go ahead, but for someone to have a baby with a guy and later dump her while the guy is alive, i wont marry such o.

Depends.
Provided there's a tangible reason for the kid's story........

It depends.

If the. Mother of his child is not married to someonelese? NO

If the mother of his kid is dead? YES

if the mother of his kids is remarried? YES

I would advice against it. Too many complications will arise specially in this our dear Africa. Father's side, mother side's even the person you intend to marry. Life is simple, don't complicate your life

mistel:
bro its not about saying it upfront or not. Wil u leave for work at 7am, return 8pm and the 15yrs old SS2 son is stil wit ur wife in d bedroom & u hv to go to parlour to sit, bath later and hang around outside til d over-pampered bastard is evicted from d room?

I am female.

I don't and I won't have much patience for someone who is capable of over pampering an SS2 student.

I am a single father too,but it depends on the Lady or the guy,

Gmasterp:
yeah i get that alot !!!You lookin chic, DM'ing you.... guessin that ok!!!

hmmmm u eh....u r too fast. Chill

vicspring:



U 4 no accept rubber ni? ¿

not always

You are the smartest guy here.
I have just been looking at people here saying yes!
I almost made the biggest regret of my life when I almost married a lady with a kid. ...


JUST ONE QUESTION I WANT TO ASK THOSE SAYING 'yES' I WILL MARRY ..JUST ONE QUESTION.

..........Considering the fact that your Husband/Wife already has a kid. Do you think He/She would never cheat on you all this years of marriage/relationship.

Are you not a fool for carrying DOUBLE WAHALA for your head..........

You use your hand curse yourself . . . IF U ARE SINGLE WITH NO KIDS (ESPECIALLY A MAN ), TAKE MY ADVICE, NEVER , EVER MARRY A LADY WITH A KID... you ended up being the LAST MUGU in her life.

mistel:
The question is hard for singles to answer as i see they rush to say "YES."
As a married dude i wil advice guys "DO NOT EVEN TRY IT!"
Two things matters, 1. what kind of a child is d child? 2.wat kind of woman is ur wife? U wil never knw til u get married, u wil regret it later in marriage...

HERSLEY:
hmmmm u eh....u r too fast. Chill

lol... Chilling ... In fact that's my middle name!!

HERSLEY:
hmmmm u eh....u r too fast. Chill

i really don't nairaland much, wanted to talk to you on whatsapp....

Factfinder1:
Hell no...no matter how much you try or pretend you will never ever love that child like you love your kids and at some point you will show clear partiality

Dear not everyone ok.if I accepted to marry you then I accepted to take the child as my child too.nothing I repeat nothing will make me treat him different.my children will also know him or her as my first child.