PaperLace:


Hahahaha. I like as you admitted, that's exactly how he admits _and I like him for that. My hubby can go on and on about something, you begin to wonder what he is on about. I had to learn to ignore, I realised two people no dey mad at the same time.

People don't know the power in silence.

This woman was obviously confrontational, so__ I can understand his defence, though taken too far. Maybe if she had dashed into the house and stabbed him, one person will now rest (in peace).

nikkyshyne:
@evaberry easier said to walk away. Men are humans with blood running thru their veins and can get physical when pushed to the wall. They are known to have ego. Woe betide the person who tries to tarnish that image. Bottom line, it only takes the grace of God.

pocohantas:


Why then do you guys think only women are verbally abusive?
I can also write my own story of a verbally abusive man and who was given hot bathe by a wicked wife. I'm sure you all won't support me like this. It'll be women are wicked all through.

Point is, no excuse to hurt your spouse.
Men get their own for body.
Women get their own too.
Dassal.

majekdom2:
many of you are failing to understand the point here. No perfect relationship. Disgreement must always happen as we are human. Ask any 2 friends that have been friends from childhood till old age how many times they have fought, they will tell you uncountable times. But the truth is I am not sure there was any 3rd party involved in settling their fight. If there was they won't still be friends. I am sure they never embarrassed each other in public when they fight. They never revealed each other's secret in public. They got each other's back. Now this is what marriage should be. Fights, yes but not humiliating, embarassing and exposing secrets in public. Many couples are not even friends. I hate scenes, if we must click, you must hate scenes too... .a reason I left a chic

pocohantas:


They don't get it. If this where a thread on a woman doing same to her husband, they won't ask what the man did. I have never seen them ask such. Their detective skills only come on when a woman is the victim.

I'm tired of this recent trend of couples inflicting injuries on each other. When it's more honourable to walk away.

majekdom2:
walking away is a process. you think it is every woman that will accept a divorce even when they know they are the problem. Let's stop being sentimental and face the topic

OkunrinMeta:

Oya let me advise you people

Before hutting wo(man) because s/he provoked you, think of the damage you could do to her face.. Very ugly to imagine...This should help you keep calm. But if you have to exercise this level of restraint frequently, it is time to leave the relationship/marriage. No forgiveness.

If she physically assaults you, run away, and then sue her for physical assault and then divorce her.

If she attacks you with her hands and you cannot run away... and she is not trained killer , enjoy the beating, it is your punishment for marrying a crazy woman. Then sue and divorce her later.

If she does not let you run away and she has a weapon or she is a trained killer, you are save to assume she wants to kill you. So you have two options: Die or fight back, i know what ill choose.

Ayinke93:
I don't judge men that get physical with thier wives until I hear the man's side of d story.. I'm a lady and I'm saying this from my heart.
I grew up having first hand experience of my mum insulting my dad badly, her mouth is very sharp and she insults and slaps him at the slightest provocation. Infact there are times I get very angry and talk to her badly. I grew up seeing my mum very rude and it had a bad influence on our relationship... Even till now, we are not close at all. Although the all scenario made me grow up to be more reasonable with handling issues with men, but it has as some bad influence on me... Sometimes I tend to shout at my bf because that was the only means of communication I saw my mother use growing up..
Women should be calm and learn to briddle your tongues.. My parents are still married today all because of my dad.. He's the calm one but my mom is a story for another day.
Till date I'm still work in progress when it comes to handling issues because I learnt everything I know about character and manners outside home.. Thanks to the good friends I made in school.
A woman should be an home keeper... Men don't just beat unless something triggers them.. Unless of course u married a psycho.

pocohantas:


K once again...

majekdom2:
it's not an argument or trying to win a case. If you reasonable you will understand the point. A woman sees her husband bare foot and starts insulting him. The man disgusts her already. Why has she not taken a walk rather chose to insult and make an innocent man go through trauma. It's not an argument of a woman or man is right.

inkdbetty:


Well, you are right, considering the society we live in and they way people think and take things. But if you do not look at it through the sexist and bias eyes of society, you will realise that both parties are in truth second hand, passed down from one person to another person.

What the woman did was unnecessary sha, (could be her village people sef) the man was provoked and you except nothing of a typical NigeriaN man, they do not enjoy insults and jabs their ego, they will fight you.

Treasuredlove:
thank u o

In my case my mouth is very sharp but I am definitely not abusive and i respect him really well in public. He has learnt to practise the waka pass thing (he will just ignore me) when I am being really rubbish and after 30 mins I would have forgotten what I was fighting about which usually makes me feel really silly.
Violence is not the answer. Has never been and will never be. Be a man, walk away, learn to ignore or just plant a kiss on her nagging mouth...I promise you, she will apologize herself

PaperLace:
Very silly thread that makes it look like men are angels in marriages. While there are women with caustic mouths, there are men wired like that too.

My husband's mouth is corrosive, his subordinates once asked how I cope[b]. He came back asking me if his mouth is that bad.
Something he inherited from his father.[/b]

Maybe I should start dishing him one or two slaps.

Any sensible married person knows how to tactically handle his or her spouse. Majority of people commenting are obviously not married. Silly thread once again.

PaperLace:


Of course I have to be the problem and he is a saint. Going by your wack logic, this man is obviously his wife's problem. Why is no one advising him to calm her down?

Always caused by women my foot.
Tell that to the unmarried and stupid people.
I'm none of the above.

PaperLace:


I will always say it, my husband is a nice man. I have never faulted that, point is _he has a bad mouth! That's the truth that he knows. I have also shared how I contained his bad mouth,without violence.

I remember how you jumped on that comment like you sighted an anticipated prey. You never applauded that, instead you lashed out at me for encouraging the guy to be patient with his wife. I remember how I was a role model wife that day, because I didn't dish him one or two slaps.

Now you are on this one again. Stop mas/tur/bating to my comment. It's irritating.



Answer this question yourself. You have a penchant for typing before understanding.

Treasuredlove:
But sincerely, most of the people I see here commenting and disrespecting women makes me understand why some of their wives turn to parrot at home. You guys just drive her up the wall and she gets frustrated and talks and talks her frustration away...then you claim you married a spirit.
A little secret, very few women properly loved and respected behave like this. Na frustration cause am.
The op only saw the wife calling the man a pig...do u know if he sleeps with their maid? Just pointing out...you don't know what the genesis of the problem is, you just saw the result.

Daeylar:


You even have their time
Is it not nairaland again?

Anyways I do not support any kind of abuse either physical, emotional, verbal but the fact that someone abused you verbally should never make you resort to physical abuse, never, walk away, find a way to deal with it, but never ever physical abuse, so all these useless excuses they keep coming up with, they can keep to themselves.

And if someone ever lays a hand on you (male or female), you can always fight back, damn what societal rules say, after all, it's self defence.

I don't subscribe to this men are bad or women are bad trash which it seems like nairaland wants to perpetuate
It's individuals themselves, people, who are bad, a whole gender should never be labelled because of the actions of silly people.

majekdom2:
the thread isn't about you or who you married. The thread is about you putting yourself in the shoes of both parties... I wonder where you likes keep their sense of judgment when having discussions as this. Ofcourse, I will irritate you as I am pointing out your sillyness. Be constructive in your arguments and criticism. Don't see every post as one against a woman. Obviously, your marriage has been "corroded" from your responses

Treasuredlove:
thank u o

In my case my mouth is very sharp but I am definitely not abusive and i respect him really well in public. He has learnt to practise the waka pass thing (he will just ignore me) when I am being really rubbish and after 30 mins I would have forgotten what I was fighting about which usually makes me feel really silly.
Violence is not the answer. Has never been and will never be. Be a man, walk away, learn to ignore or just plant a kiss on her nagging mouth...I promise you, she will apologize herself

inkdbetty:


Well, you are right, considering the society we live in and they way people think and take things. But if you do not look at it through the sexist and bias eyes of society, you will realise that both parties are in truth second hand, passed down from one person to another person.

What the woman did was unnecessary sha, (could be her village people sef) the man was provoked and you except nothing of a typical NigeriaN man, they do not enjoy insults and jabs their ego, they will fight you.

Treasuredlove:
But sincerely, most of the people I see here commenting and disrespecting women makes me understand why some of their wives turn to parrot at home. You guys just drive her up the wall and she gets frustrated and talks and talks her frustration away...then you claim you married a spirit.
A little secret, very few women properly loved and respected behave like this. Na frustration cause am.
The op only saw the wife calling the man a pig...do u know if he sleeps with their maid? Just pointing out...you don't know what the genesis of the problem is, you just saw the result.

PaperLace:


Hahahaha. I like as you admitted, that's exactly how he admits _and I like him for that. My hubby can go on and on about something, you begin to wonder what he is on about. I had to learn to ignore, I realised two people no dey mad at the same time. Then I talk about it when he is calm. Only a spouse from hell won't change with time.

People don't know the power in silence.

This woman was obviously confrontational, so__ I can understand his defence, though taken too far. Maybe if she had dashed into the house and stabbed him, one person will now rest (in peace).

Evaberry:
very few men are victims of domestic violence. Women always bear the brunt of a man's anger


No matter what a woman says or does, a man should never hit her, a man is physically stronger than a woman so hitting her will inflict serious physical damage, whereas a woman may not cause any real harm to a man.

Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down. when a woman is angry she throws all reason and caution to the wind, it therefore falls on the man to be understanding and reasonable


Engaging in a fisticuffs with a woman is wrong and should be condemned.

PaperLace:


The man married a mad woman with his eyes open, or something led to the digust. If he married her mad _he has to manage her, that's his burden to bear. He also has a choice to do away with her, if her can't bear it again or help her change.

In case you decide to launch a rebuttal as I can see you going about quoting everybody. Please, know I am not intereted. Chose another person for needless arguments. Goodnight.


It'll be nicer if you stop attacking every comment that isn't your line of thought. I don't do third parties. I don't need their commendation or condemnation. My marriage is made up of just two people.



He isn't my husband, I am not his wife. Will my husband willingly marry a mad woman? I don't think so.

imam07:
What surprise me is our women are everyday church goers. They can sleep in church if u allow them. But why are they not putting this biblical teaching into practice in their home. Is like our pastors have failed in this aspect. The pastors are only preaching about tithes and offering in the church. Hmmmmm there is God. Pastors should mostly preach topics on what to strengthen marriage every time. Many pastors too get problem with their wife. Pastor weh never settle his family problem so is he the one that will settle others family issues.

PaperLace:


The man married a mad woman with his eyes open, or something led to the digust. If he married her mad _he has to manage her, that's his burden to bear. He also has a choice to do away with her, if her can't bear it again or help her change.

In case you decide to launch a rebuttal as I can see you going about quoting everybody. Please, know I am not intereted. Chose another person for needless arguments. Goodnight.


It'll be nicer if you stop attacking every comment that isn't your line of thought. I don't do third parties. I don't need their commendation or condemnation. My marriage is made up of just two people.



He isn't my husband, I am not his wife. Will my husband willingly marry a mad woman? I don't think so.



I didn't marry a mad man, if I did, I should expect such actions.
Chose someone else dear ___you're becoming irritating.



You must be done now. Please rest.

kimbraa:
Mr op, this story doesn't add up.

Modified.
Those of you quoting me should get a life. You'll believe anything.

A woman would start calling her husband names from a "Pig" to the "Size of his manhood" just because he walked on barefoot. Use your brains!.

Evaberry:
very few men are victims of domestic violence. Women always bear the brunt of a man's anger


No matter what a woman says or does, a man should never hit her, a man is physically stronger than a woman so hitting her will inflict serious physical damage, whereas a woman may not cause any real harm to a man.

Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down. when a woman is angry she throws all reason and caution to the wind, it therefore falls on the man to be understanding and reasonable


Engaging in a fisticuffs with a woman is wrong and should be condemned.