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MissJoy29:
But her reasons for getting hurt brought about the action she's about to take. I'm not telling her to break up with him.Who says she has to? I only know that once trust is broken, it's difficult to mend. They really have to work hard to scale through this. Trust is VERY important in marriage.

thesuave10:
So she shouldn't take those actions then why have you been arguing? Everyone agrees with the other part of your comment

MissJoy29:
What have I been arguing about Pray tell? Is there anywhere in any of my post that said she should leave the guy? Please show me if there is so I can apologise. I must have been sleeping

P.S...It's none of my business if she decides to leave him.

LOL you left the issue to argue something else. She asked a simple question if she has been duped and the next step forward and you people left her question to argue another thing. I smell bias

PS I don't have strength to go through your post

MissJoy29:
So where are you coming from that you want to settle in the East? Besides, Aba is in the East & not the whole of the East. So, any particular state here in mind?

thesuave10:
LOL you left the issue to argue something else. She asked a simple question if she has been duped and the next step forward and you people left her question to argue another thing. I smell bias

PS I don't have strength to go through your post

thesuave10:
So if only him can answer that why are you so adamant that he is not trustworthy and this is disloyal?

ImaIma1:
For obvious reasons.

Suddenly he is not picking calls or returning them. Has he explained to her. Why is he now scarce? You can't see anything wrong in what tge guy does.
You do not know it all. You don't have to right. Your way is not the only way.
Why are you trying to prove a point to everyone? The guy is wrong!!!! If you borrow money, and you start hiding, your character is questionable.

You're contradicting yourself. You said only him has the answer. And now you believe that there are obvious reasons which may or may not be the same thing with the answer as a strong point to question his loyalty. He is wrong but is he wrong enough to question his loyalty. You said only him has there answer now you're saying there are obvious reasons. My way is the best way because I have not drawn any conclusions like you and your female gang have done

MissJoy29:
She asked how she will get her money back cos she feels she has been duped. And people did their best to proffer solution. I responded cos I saw the men bashing her. One even called her names.

Besides, same thing you are accusing us (the ladies I suppose) is the same thing you (the men) are doing. I still maintain that I didn't tell her to leave him (she could if she wants to) as you are insinuating.

Now, if I may ask, what solution have you proffered? What exactly is your stance on this matter? Cos like you, I don't have strength to go through your posts

thesuave10:
You're contradicting yourself. You said only him has the answer. And now you believe that there are obvious reasons which may or may not be the same thing with the answer as a strong point to question his loyalty. He is wrong but is he wrong enough to question his loyalty. You said only him has there answer now you're saying there are obvious reasons. My way is the best way because I have not drawn any conclusions like you and your female gang have done

ImaIma1:
Only him can answer why he isn't picking. But the point is that he isn't picking up.

Your way cannot be the best way because even if the guy has not lived up to his promise and has not given the lady any concrete response, u will suppprt him as ur male gang.

He borrowed money and he hasn't returned it. Now he is hiding like a debtor that he is

You just stated the facts of the case. You didn't reason on it. If he's not picking is it logically enough to say his disloyal when said there communicating through text. Why are you just biased saying the same crap over and over again. We know he's a debtor I feel you have the inability to reason properly. I'm done with you

thesuave10:
You just stated the facts of the case. You didn't reason on it. If he's not picking is it logically enough to say his disloyal when said there communicating through text. Why are you just biased saying the same crap over and over again. We know he's a debtor I feel you have the inability to reason properly. I'm done with you

thesuave10:
Joy o. I'm tired. I didn't insinuate anything. We have a similar view. How is aba sef?

Maduawuchukwu:
I live in Kaduna and partly Abuja. I am planning to set up my Law firm in Enugu or Abj but preferably Enugu cos obu Alaigbo.

MissJoy29:
Good. It's good you are cos I am too. Aba is good thank you. How's your side? And where's your side?

thesuave10:
Pretty great. Currently in Enugu for like 3 months will be heading back to Abuja later( that's my side And Lagos too)

MissJoy29:
That's good. I like Enugu. Enjoy yourself

thesuave10:
Definitely.by the way.. ......

MissJoy29:
By the way what?

MissJoy29:
Good. Set it up in Enugu. I like Enugu. Plus, o bu ala igbo!

Maduawuchukwu:
Yeah. I have been to Enugu once. Very organised and relatively cheap. I will quote you in another thread. Yeah?

thesuave10:
It has been done

MissJoy29:
Oh! I see..
Lol

Ginaz:
No be small thing, look at his attitude sef, so undeserving and rude. I hope this girl look carefully before marrying this guy. He will frustrate her when it comes to money and financial issues. He won't appreciate things big or small, sacrifice or whatever she will do for him.

Sometimes God has a way of telling us what are about to enter is not the right place for us. They have been going smoothly with no issues, perhaps this is something God wants her to see, the other side of the guy. I hope she listens and see things clearly before she says I do.

pocohantas:
Which men give without expecting pay back? The ones that come crying when the girl refuses to marry them?
The ones that'll feel scammed if they don't have sex with the lady?
The ones that will take the glory of how they INVESTED in the girl, all to massage his ego?

Guy be truthful to yourself abeg!!!

Yea, like he probably didn't pester her before she wire wire the money

veraiyke:
I am a man. I have given without expecting payback. There are some women here who can relate so. I've told u before to stop generalising hastily.

neyobills:
Hope u wont start screaming when u husband find that lady that has (30 billion in her akant) and starts misbehaving last last u go spend pass 500k from one prayer mountain to the other and all sorts to have him back or kukuma marry you 2M smh.......

pocohantas:
I have told you men isn't always generalising. Abeg leave me!!!

pocohantas:
I have told you men isn't always generalising. Abeg leave me!!!

veraiyke:
. Me hold u? I no hold u o. Enjoy ya weekend

MissJoy29:
I don't understand why people especially the men are just attacking her. What's the big deal about explaining to her what's going on? "Business isn't back to normal", TELL HER! "Please give me more time to pay back", TELL HER! "I dont have the money now but will have it soon", TELL HER! Don't just assume she's gonna look right through your mind and know what's going on.He's acting all weird and suspicious for crying out loud. Even if she wanted to give him more time & be more understanding(by hearing his own side), he's making it difficult for her. Why dodge her calls? She probably started feeling like this after a few weeks( not days as some of you insinuated) of not getting the weekly dividend HE PROMISED her. Besides, for those saying she's wicked & all, how come she was still willing to lend out 1 million(in this economy) to this same guy? From what she said, they are both doing well. So she was only trying to help. Same help that most of you here are abusing her for. I will never condemn her for helping out. She's my kind of woman (hardly asks but gives more sef). I don't believe relationships should be one-sided.

...my opinion though...