thesuave10:



LOL Trust me, the girl you quoted is a disturbed child

pocohantas:


If you think women are masters in reverse psychology...you have never seen men in action. They'll make you the bad one, and you'll try so hard to prove you're not like every other woman

When they can't get you in this spot, they tag you unsubmissive.

thesuave10:


That's as constructive as your bullshît comment deserves. So swerve bîtch. Get some sense and understanding

ImaIma1:


I was referring to guys using reverse psychology and emotional blackmail on women.
He will make it seem like she doesn't love him or she is not being understanding. "Is it because you gave me money?"...blah blah blah...
I have experienced this OP's situation and my former colleague has too. Both didn't end well.

pocohantas:


Forget that one, im tongue dey very loosed...but somehow he talks other people are the one with issues...

ImaIma1:


Which love? There is no love with the way he is acting. Get ur money if you can and move on. He is not trustworthy.

pocohantas:


Believe me...I know their tricks. They are more skilled at their own, you won't even know what's happening. Unlike women that drop all their ego to beg...men will hold on to their own like oxygen, then you the woman will be looking for a way to fuel it for him. You have to show love na, you have to show you're different from the materialistic Naija women...

Maduawuchukwu:


Hahaha. This women men issue for Naija no be here. I no want this kind wahala. Do you think these male female dynamics we see in Naija i.e no money, no love shit is in every society in the world or Naija na special case?

ImaIma1:


If i am a bitch, so is your mother. Grow up boy. Talk like you have sense. I doubt you can make a statement without vulgarity.

Bîtch FÛCK off

Yoshy:


Well, it's from a guys point of view, maybe you girls understand better.

thesuave10:


Bîtch FÛCK off

thesuave10:



[b]LOL. trust me it's everywhere. It's in every society but it differs from place to place. In the usa it's way worse. Some Asian countries have the lowest but Naija's own I gotta tell you it's very high. I don't blame ladies that much for having that feeling but all of them have blown the stuff out of proportion. The female mind is very easy to understand and very very easy to manipulate. That's why she has flipped so easily from love to no love without hardcore evidence. Like I see these things everyday. She's not the first and she won't be the last. Humans not just women are so easily influenced by stereotype. They think "learn from past experiences means you should shut out the present issue" to many people it's white and black and this is the most stupid way of reasoning. Women are highly irrational so they can't towards a grey area. If it's not white then it should be black like WTF? sha like I said earlier and I'll say it again. MEN MUST MANIPULATE WOMEN BECAUSE THEY DON'T KNOW THEMSELVES. IN SOME CASES NEVER TELL A WOMAN THE HONEST TO GOD TRUTH. WOMEN CAN'T CONTROL THEMSELVES. DON'T LIE BUT DEPENDING ON THE SITUATION NEVER TELL ALL OF THE TRUTH. As I am now nothing a woman says does thinks or acts can surprise me. Women ask me sometimes how I'm able to handle them and get THEM LOL and its simple. I understand them more than themselves. It's your duty as a man to understand your woman Cuz they are like your little babies you must guide. If you neglect a child, the child will go crazy. Same thing with women. Dude fûcked up by not picking her calls but I understand why. It's wrong tho but I understand it and now the lady is making an even bigger mistake(as expected) and that is she is acting on her emotions. This is how ALL women are their emotions always control their heads but if she can just be rational for just this once she'll be grateful [/b]

ImaIma1:


See what parental negligence causes...producing children that are a nuisance to the society.

Who is this ÎMBECILE. Bîtch swerve jare

Yoshy:


Well, it's from a guys point of view, maybe you girls understand better.

thesuave10:


Who is this ÎMBECILE. Bîtch swerve jare

ImaIma1:


Lol @ showing love. I became very alert to things like that. My colleague's ex even moved out of his studio and house after she lent him money and refused to pay. She is still looking for him. And mine, a different story...he is probably in Bermuda triangle cos he just disappeared.

Maduawuchukwu:


Man you are good. U said the truth. I dey plan use this nairaland look for babes for other African countries o like Ethiopia. People there are very conservative about this whole male and female ish. Naija don go gaga.

Daeylar:




Ignore that one quoting you jor, that's how he has been quoting me and everyone else, he is ignored forever let him get the attention he is desperately craving for from else where,

I want a guy to come and say his wife to be who he loaned money is behaving exactly like the guy in this story, I want to laugh at the hypocrisy of most nairaland men. That's the day that you will know that what the guy in this story is doing is wrong.

ImaIma1:


You almost sounded intelligent but your dumbness has been unmasked. You need more vocabulary "Mr Bitch"

Bîtch swerve na

UDIOK:
This is a case of a fiancee she is talking about here not just an ordinary boyfriend ......Wisdom is profitable to direct....the N500K dilema could be a strong test against their sustainability of the relationship if she doesn't handle well

thesuave10:


LOL. it might be hard to find them here sha. Just do a little travelling. Go to facebook or instagram Or tinder Go to their forums as well, I'm sure they'll have some. Be careful tho cuz some might just be after your money. I suggest you try the middle east like Israel and Iran OR Egypt Algeria. Ethiopia, Cameroon, and some European countries like Ukraine. There are still lil Naija ladies that are cool. GET YOURSELF EQUIPPED TO HANDLE WOMEN WITH TIME YOU'LL FIGURE THEM OUT. Take note in as much as women are similar, their INDIVIDUAL differences are important. Now this lady has reacted badly to this. Another woman can react badly but in a different way. It's good to know each woman independently having in mind their similarities . No leave our Naija girls. You must take your time and study them. At first you might be confused but later you'll imbibe. HERE'S ONE OF MY TEN GOLDEN RULES. I LOVE THIS ONE BECAUSE IT APPLIES TO ALL SITUATIONS. IT'S VERY SIMPLE: THINK DEEPLY AND ALWAYS ASK YOURSELF, THE OTHER PERSON AND THE SITUATION QUESTIONS. SMART QUESTIONS

thesuave10:



[b]LOL. trust me it's everywhere. It's in every society but it differs from place to place. In the usa it's way worse. Some Asian countries have the lowest but Naija's own I gotta tell you it's very high. I don't blame ladies that much for having that feeling but all of them have blown the stuff out of proportion. The female mind is very easy to understand and very very easy to manipulate. That's why she has flipped so easily from love to no love without hardcore evidence. Like I see these things everyday. She's not the first and she won't be the last. Humans not just women are so easily influenced by stereotype. They think "learn from past experiences means you should shut out the present issue" to many people it's white and black and this is the most stupid way of reasoning. Women are highly irrational so they can't towards a grey area. If it's not white then it should be black like WTF? sha like I said earlier and I'll say it again. MEN MUST MANIPULATE WOMEN BECAUSE THEY DON'T KNOW THEMSELVES. IN SOME CASES NEVER TELL A WOMAN THE HONEST TO GOD TRUTH. WOMEN CAN'T CONTROL THEMSELVES. DON'T LIE BUT DEPENDING ON THE SITUATION NEVER TELL ALL OF THE TRUTH. As I am now nothing a woman says does thinks or acts can surprise me. Women ask me sometimes how I'm able to handle them and get THEM LOL and its simple./b] I understand them more than themselves. It's your duty as a man to understand your woman Cuz they are like your little babies you must guide. If you neglect a child, the child will go crazy. Same thing with women. Dude fûcked up by not picking her calls but I understand why. It's wrong tho but I understand it and now the lady is making an even bigger mistake(as expected) and that is she is acting on her emotions. This is how ALL women are their emotions always control their heads but if she can just be rational for just this once she'll be grateful

pocohantas:


If you think women are masters in reverse psychology...you have never seen men in action. They'll make you the bad one, and you'll try so hard to prove you're not like every other woman

When they can't get you in this spot, they tag you unsubmissive.

ImaIma1:


I will ignore the child.

Men here are too quick to just attack women even when the man is CLEARLY at fault. They didn't even acknowledge that she gave him the money. I don't know how they think.

Maduawuchukwu:


Lol. Almost all Nigerian men spend nothing less than 20% of their pay on their women and very few talk about it in the open. So Nigerian men no dey cast. There is a reason Kenyan and SA wome dey rush us.

Maduawuchukwu:


I roll well with Nigerian women well because I
am still single and I don't see my parole as do or die but marriage na different rules and expectations. God go help us sha.

LOL marriage is same rules and expectations. You've got to keep on going the same way with a lil spicing here and there. Heaven helps those who helps themselves

kimbraa:
@ embolden, self-agrandisement has eaten deep into this one. Guys your type don't even know how to woo ladies but you glorify yourselves on NL. Delusion of grandeur!.

Your assertion that "Men must play women" is a fallacy. More often than not, in relationships it's usually the party that loves more that gets played, and it's not gender based. You could be wise to a particular lady while in the eyes of another you're a fool and vice versa, so come off your high horse.

Haha . No p. Just pray I don't jam you in the real world


I didn't say men play women more. I said is that men must play women that is, the ideal thing should be men playing women and not the other way round. A man should always be the one playing the woman. As regards which one occurs more which was not my case. Men play more. Women are ten times easier to deceive and manipulate. We have cases were men get played but most times it's usually women and it's a gender thing because that's how women have been programmed. Now back again to my main point which is the IDEAL SITUATION SHOULD BE MEN PLAYING WOMEN

thesuave10:



Haha . No p. Just pray I don't jam you in the real world


I didn't say men play women more. I said is that men must play women that is, the ideal thing should be men playing women and not the other way round. A man should always be the one playing the woman. As regards which one occurs more which was not my case. Men play more. Women are ten times easier to deceive and manipulate. We have cases were men get played but most times it's usually women and it's a gender thing because that's how women have been programmed. Now back again to my main point which is the IDEAL SITUATION SHOULD BE MEN PLAYING WOMEN

MissJoy29:

Really! I didn't know o..it seems I have been meeting the wrong type of guys then.

Maduawuchukwu:

Lol. If I hear. Almost everyman I know gives his girl good money relative to his pocket. How u take be exception?