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MhizzAJ:
Ahan...is that one a boyfriend

I hate stingy men
Forget about him and move on with your life

is he her father? stop giving her bad advise. I don't like broke ladies joor

tosyne2much:
[/b] Na you dey talk like this baba.. You should know that unemployment thrives in this country

Its not as bad as that, I tell you. 3 years is enough for a person below 30 to get a decent job with a pay above 50k

Dillusionist:
he will exhaust your airtime but can't do the same for you? ?and he's probably doing all that for another lady
I hate stingy rats occupying space in my life and when it comes to marriage better pick race.

start thinking with your brain intact.

stop advising people. u have nothing reasonable to say.

Ifakiland:
Broke ass biitch....u still have the nerves to threaten to break up, please break up fast and move on Abeg.....help his life and move on....mr eazi doesn't have two head....may God never bring a broke gf like u into my life o....#spits#

Lol.

Maybe the only reason she began dating him is because he's comfortable. Now money is not rolling as she hoped. Love never played any role.
It seems for OP the equation is simple: Money = Love. Without getting money she wants to break up.

Most "love" scenarios in 9ja have nothing to do with love. Mostly a woman wants to just be married, carry her economic load on a man's head, eager to just leave family home, etc.

A whole lot of ladies from poor/modest homes that have never done a day's work want to begin life in a duplex/mansion with a garage full of choice cars, housemaid, sh*t load of money, etc.

From my observation and discussions, some married women secretly accept money and gifts from ex-boyfriends & male friends WITHOUT their hubby knowing. They say it is totally harmless.

The hubby works hard and provides, but some women cannot manage & just want more. From anywhere.

In the OP scenario, some of our typical 9ja women come up with funny stuff like: shebi he sleeps with her he should assist her na, the lady you bang like no tomorrow, you cannot even help her, very stingy man who wants to f*ck for free, yada yada yada. They make it sound like we're talking about a brothel transaction.

No boyfriend owes you any money.

After, spending lots of money on a gf and she moves to the next man with more money, if you come here to rant, it is the same women who will call the man mugu, jjc, useless guy, trying to buy love with money etc.

jashar:
Concentrate on having a source of income and not bother yourself with what your boyfriend does with his money.


No man you're not married to owes you anything....

But, don't marry someone that isn't caring.

Well said. Some men want u to ask first, she may think he should know but he may also feel she is okay.

Communication is key in any relationship

MhizzAJ:
See this retiredmumu

I don't ve any bizness with stingy men. Wetin I want take them do...thank God i ve a source of income.

I pray a good job comes her way.

Hope your babe isn't suffering in your hand all in d name of love.

So u have bizness with generous spenders ABI

So ur income isn't enough for u. Sounds like slaying to me.

Gold msurfing....miner.

tosyne2much:
Don't let anybody fool you that you shouldn't be bothered if he doesn't spend a kobo on you since he's not married to you.

I mean, how then do you express love when the person that claims to love you is not sensitive to your needs? What kind of a man will watch his lady go stranded when he's financially buoyant to bail her out but will keep claiming that money does not equate love?

I will advise you to thread carefully cos love is not expressed with stinginess.. The worst that can ever happen to a lady is to marry a stingy man.

Marry him at your own peril

You said it all

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

He is useless. Period, pls come and marry me

OP, the truth is that a man that will provide for you after marriage will definitely show signs of doing so while you are dating. He will give gifts once in a while, no matter how small. If his concern is that you will demand too much when he starts giving then as a sensible person he will complain if you actually start demanding too much instead of witholding everything to the extent of even burning your airtime.

This man will not change after you marry him so help yourself. He will never give you anything unless you ask or beg and if you complain he will remind you that you knew how he was before you married him so why are you complaining?

He won't change, I know this from first hand experience of my parents marriage. My popsy did same with mom and she stayed thinking he will change after marriage but for where? The only thing he gives her money for is food. He is even stingy towards us, his children while he spends wella on himself and his babes outside.

tosyne2much:
Don't let anybody fool you that you shouldn't be bothered if he doesn't spend a kobo on you since he's not married to you.

I mean, how then do you express love when the person that claims to love you is not sensitive to your needs? What kind of a man will watch his lady go stranded when he's financially buoyant to bail her out but will keep claiming that money does not equate love?

I will advise you to thread carefully cos love is not expressed with stinginess.. The worst that can ever happen to a lady is to marry a stingy man.

Marry him at your own peril

Guy I like this your opinion lol

That means as a lady a man must spend and take care of your needs everytime in a relationship and if he doesn't you move to the one that can... I am surprise because all this bitches are disgrace..

I thought she's someone's daughter

dear poster,in as much as your boyfriend isn't your father.. he shudnt be blind to your needs not to help out when he can...being that he has,whether you ask him or not.three years is too long fr testing you,i dnt think thats what he is doing.he may see it as normal since you havent talkedbto him abt it.chill on the breaking up part for now,sit dwn and have a talk withn him...express yourself to him respctfully..watch his actions n reactions...then and aftrwards...then you ll know the next step to take

tobianthony:
Hmmm...do not get married until you are grounded in your career . Whether he spends on you or not is not even the issue .

The issue is what do you want to accomplish in this life .

Spend on yourself not just with money but with wisdom ...take your time and Sacrifice . Go after your goals do your thing .


Nobody will kill you if you remain single .

Open your mind and be free from the shackles that society have placed on us .

one million likes for you


words of wisdom

Most Nigeria girls na Ashawo.. Na money dy dy follow.. Chai.

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

ask and u shall receive, keep quiet and he shall ignore...nt every guy is dsame.he might feel as u dnt ask u are comfortable. right now u cnt blame him.its wen u ask n he declines i wld knw

tosyne2much:
Don't let anybody fool you that you shouldn't be bothered if he doesn't spend a kobo on you since he's not married to you.

I mean, how then do you express love when the person that claims to love you is not sensitive to your needs? What kind of a man will watch his lady go stranded when he's financially buoyant to bail her out but will keep claiming that money does not equate love?

I will advise you to thread carefully cos love is not expressed with stinginess.. The worst that can ever happen to a lady is to marry a stingy man.

Marry him at your own peril

its a man dat doesn't knw dat his girl is broke..d girl jst assumes he shld knw. d guy might b tinkin ds one dat she doesn't ask maybe she dey gt moni from her parents well...see in ds life u jst have to stop assuming.let her ask d guy first den u wld knw if he is stingy or nt. right now i cnt blame d guy.


gurls want us to do two jobs 1)b a mind reader 2)provide for dem

shege45:
its a man dat doesn't knw dat his girl is broke..d girl jst assumes he shld knw. d guy might b tinkin ds one dat she doesn't ask maybe she dey gt moni from her parents well...see in ds life u jst have to stop assuming.let her ask d guy first den u wld knw if he is stingy or nt. right now i cnt blame d guy.


gurls want us to do two jobs 1)b a mind reader 2)provide for dem

You just can't claim you love someone and won't be sensitive enough to know that the person has no credit to call you

Tolubae1:
sista u try, nd hope u dont owe any guy u r not married to sex all in d name of bf/gf relationship, Boys always say girls like money bt u guys r always attracted to good things, will u date a girl dat's shabby nd smells? Shey no be money she go take buy deodorant? Lmao op jux sha discuss it wit him sha nd knw wot his plans r or rather y He is like dat, sum pple will want u to ask them, dey dont really do anytin until u ask, so sumtimes ask nd it shall be given unto u dr

The only guy I owe sex to is my husband. Look, I know what it means to be broke. I didn't go around looking for a boyfriend. I started selling donut and buns in my mothers shop to have at least small change to buy my basic needs...

tosyne2much:
You just can't claim you love someone and won't be sensitive enough to know that the person has no credit to call you

broda how abeg?der are many reasons for ds e.g some girls jst dnt like calling. i see nt wrong in d guys part. its until d girl ask n he declines i wld knw.
for christ sake let her jst ask, is it a crime?

I will advice u to check yourself
1.Are u faithful to him.
2.Do u CARE 4 him
3.Do u always listen to is need

Op run for your dear life.

I'd rather marry a broke guy I know would give me the world if he could. Than some rich guy who can't give me anything when he has.

He is wicked and does not love you.

Break up now!

Moscow95:
I will advice u to check yourself
1.Are u faithful to him.
2.Do u CARE 4 him
3.Do u always listen to is need

Check herself for what?

She is most likely a side chic but does not know.

you'd be helping him if you break up with him, nobody wants to marry a liability anymore.

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

Aunty kiloruko e, is he the only guy in your life? Tell us now & stop bullsh!ttin

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

Njideka which kind casting come be this bad, you refused to ask me for money so I decided to play along, the day u decide to summon courage and ask me, I would definitely propose to you. After all the casting I still love you coz you re finally getting there

listen ok...no doubt,u av fallen for him..u rilli do love him..it wont be easy for u to leave him just like dat...what u need to do is sit him down and present ur case in an illustration to him..just put another person and not you in d illustration and see his reply...sometimes,pipo need help to see their error or wrong ideas...help him see his view on women anf money is wrong...chally4real@gmail.com.....aka romantic engineer..

tosyne2much:
Don't let anybody fool you or justify stinginess by telling you that you shouldn't be bothered whether he spends a kobo on you or not since he's not married to you.

I mean, how then do you express love when the person that claims to love you is not sensitive to your needs? What kind of a man will watch his lady go stranded when he's financially buoyant to bail her out but will keep claiming that money does not equate love?

Even as a guy, I can't keep friends with a guy who is capable of helping me in times of need but acts like it's none of his business

I will advise you to thread carefully cos love is not expressed with stinginess.. The worst that can ever happen to a lady is to marry a stingy man.

Marry such a man at your own peril

see you... Is her father not alive?,

Divay22:
Just be contented with what you have,live as if he doesn't exist...
I pray you get a job soon...

Best advise ever. I wonder why some ladies think being in a relationship automatically translates to transfer of responsibility. Hopefully you get a job soon but in the interim,ignore him.

Although,he should be a gentleman and take care of his biz but then again,am not in his head to know why he's acting that way.