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Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by sammugbes(m): 8:23pm On Oct 12, 2017
tosyne2much:
It's not every lady that wears skirt that can be addressed as a woman

Laziness and lack of productive minds are the common traits of many ladies of today
sure, that's a nice one but even the men will still love the ladies, the lazy ones or the hardworking ones
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by jashar(f): 8:28pm On Oct 12, 2017
I'm female by God's grace, yet, I don't believe in feminism.

I'm of the opinion that gender shouldn't serve as a barrier or a basis for any achievement. smiley
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by folasayolyn(f): 8:33pm On Oct 12, 2017
Afam4eva:
We're brought up to have divergent views on life. While some think education is paramount, others think that without marriage, they're not fulfilled. We should not always try to force our school on thought on other people. Not every woman will be financially independent. So, let's leave those who think marriage is supreme to follow their heart.


are you sure you are a male on nairaland. super impressed
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 8:44pm On Oct 12, 2017
jashar:
I'm female by God's grace, yet, I don't believe in feminism.

I'm of the opinion that gender shouldn't serve as a barrier or a basis for any achievement. smiley



God bless you ma... tell the feminist all they want is in a healthy relationship and should channel their strengths to meaningful productive relationships..
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by bennymark(m): 8:59pm On Oct 12, 2017
Brugo:
Let us look at this from another viewpoint. Marriage is an achievement to those who view it as so. Don't condemn them.

A girl who grew up in a functional home where the father provides leadership and finance would see it as an achievement to marry someone like her dad.

Also, a poverty stricken but beautiful lady is often inclined to view marriage (to a rich guy) as an achievement even though her only asset is her good looks. Marriage is her one way ticket out of poverty.

It is also an achievement for an enterprising young man to marry a thoughtful, hardworking, high-flier woman.

If you marry a good spouse (someone who gives you peace of mind and support), you would know in your heart that it is a big achievement.


spot on, 2 orijin for you, I am faced with one of the scenario you just explained

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Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 9:05pm On Oct 12, 2017
Afam4eva:

A lot of women have become educated and are pulling their weight just as much as men are, so it's their prerogative of an individual basis to decide what they want to do with their life. Contrary to feminist shenanigans, women are more likely to want to be subservient and cared for. This maybe due to either their nature or a learned skill from patriarchy. Even here in Nigeria, a lot of women who are highly educated are not afraid to leave a career they would have had in a heartbeat for marriage. While some others will pursue career to the detriment of marriage and family. it's a case of personal choice and we should allow people to make their life choices.

wow! just wow! you have a very intelligent mind. your comment is EVERYTHING!
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Daeylar(f): 7:02am On Oct 13, 2017
humanistme you can ignore this mentioñ

Humanistme:


Daeylr I now get your point. I just re-read the original article the Op made it seem like it is the woman 's fault for getting abused just because she is dependent on her husband sorry I misunderstood you.


Cc majekdom2

In addition to the bolded here

Afam4eva:
We're brought up to have divergent views on life. While some think education is paramount, others think that without marriage, they're not fulfilled. We should not always try to force our school on thought on other people. Not every woman will be financially independent. So, let's leave those who think marriage is supreme to follow their heart.

Nice post Afam
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 8:23am On Oct 13, 2017
Daeylar:
humanistme you can ignore this mentioñ




Cc majekdom2

In addition to the bolded here



Nice post Afam
you call it a nice post, I call it a silly post. "Not every woman will be financially independent". How about I say "not everyman will be financially independent".... This is the problem with Africans. Each individual should learn to be responsible for themselves if you truly want equal rights. It's left for the other party to make his decision whether to help you financially but waiting for one man somewhere is very silly in my thoughts. It makes life whole easier. I hope you are not one of them that shout feminism.

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Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by lobiologs(m): 9:59am On Oct 13, 2017
Futureberry:
stop inflicting your opinions on the world,telling them to grow out of their value system is taking their freedom of choice from them...it like me saying you must return back to hunting for foods with leave as your clothing

I understand what you mean, but i'm entitled to my opinion which is what i was trying to put out there, most of these scholars that we got our ways of life from were also stating things from their point of views.

But i also see my fault in trying to sway people from their own path and forcing them to see things my way, i also don't like it when people do that, which is why i don't like churches...

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Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by NiggaBoi(m): 11:31am On Oct 13, 2017
[quote author=Nov6 post=61347853][/quote] Male feminism is more like trying to understand the female psyche from a male's perspective and not just bashing and degrading them with every chance we have.
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nov6(m): 11:40am On Oct 13, 2017
NiggaBoi:
Male feminism is more like trying to understand the female psyche from a male's perspective and not just bashing and degrading them with every chance we have.

thank you,
but i never asked for an explanation.
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by NiggaBoi(m): 1:39pm On Oct 13, 2017
Nov6:

thank you, but i never asked for an explanation.
Lol. Decently savage.
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by NiggaBoi(m): 1:41pm On Oct 13, 2017
row2ray:

I support women being employed and able to afford their own stuff but
This makes me think you are a woman wrapper because even the females aren't female feminists
Hahaha. I'm not a woman wrapper. I just have empathy towards the equality of genders.
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nov6(m): 1:51pm On Oct 13, 2017
NiggaBoi:
Lol. Decently savage.

lol... No hard feelings bruv
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 9:05pm On Aug 15, 2018
Apogee14:
african women dont need feminism. feminism is a western concept because western societies are patriarchal. african societies are matriarchal so its insane to even suggest feminism


It is almost a year later however, do you care to explain?
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by funlord(m): 7:33pm On Dec 16, 2018
Pearl005:
Marriage is what it is to different people, depending on background, personality, enclosure and other factors.



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