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Yellowdayzee:
So when the sex was taking place I did not partake and also want it?

It's this kind of attitude that creates such pressure to marry ... So if I'm not married I should kill myself

There's more to life than just waiting around for marriage... creating companionships, traveling, building my career, spending time with my family and just self discovery

So yes if I wish to have sex before marriage... I will ...and trust me I will enjoy it...and when I am meant to marry I will but won't rush at the fear of being called a sex 'object'

Brilliant
And exposed Lady
Can we be friend

RaggedyAnn:
Op, haven't you heard of men that get frustrated in marriage by the fact that their wives never want sex? Libidos vary; and there are some people than can carry on sexless for five years, easy. (And after 5yrs, you begin to think:what's the point). When the Good Book says some men are born eunuchs, it isn't joking. Don't assume everyone itches the same way you do. Some a little more, and some far less. So it isn't a give that women who refuse to marry will still have regular sex.

And if they do, and they do it with single and appropriately aged men/women, then that shouldn't be anyone else's bother. Aren't there enough things going on in your life, that you would worry about the sex life of a stranger or your unmarried cousin/aunt/sister/friend?

By the way, someone who has a full life, contributing meaningfully to society and their own self improvement, and then still eats, showers, sh*ts and has sex to maintain proper homeostasis, can hardly be seen as a sex object. She's a person with valid needs. She isn't being used to satiate the need of her partner, she's satisfying her own. So, deciding who's the object in the scenario is only a matter of perspective.

I hate when people dwell on rare cases to build a notion.

supersystemsnig:
No nae @ schadenfreude...you don take am personal

I disagree with this grammatical structure... quit basking in schadenfreude.

You don't need basking in this sentence, before you pull off a schadenfreude will suffice

No, it's accurate. You're either filled with schadenfreude or immersed/basking in schadenfreude, or displaying schadenfreude. It's a noun. Someone would be described as being schadenfroh (adjective). If I remove 'basking in'; it would have to be: quit being schadenfroh. There isn't a verb form for it. German is my first language.

And, I'm not taking things personal at all. I was still speaking on a general note. You pointed out yourself that you 'feel for' women who are pained by their plight, so it doesn't apply specifically to you that you should quit basking in the joy over other people's misfortune.

Sirgay:
I hate when people dwell on rare cases to build a notion.

Uh huh. I hate when people determine the frequency of an occurrence off the top of their heads, without research.

RaggedyAnn:
Uh huh. I hate when people determine the frequency of an occurrence off the top of their heads, without research.

If you aren't clouded by sentiment then you are truth-phobia. half of the posters on this thread agreed with my notion, I did my home work.

SMH. ...Dumbass! !!
HIV does not know man or woman. Whether single or married...
Poor health does not know who is guy man or sex object...when it comes down to it...
Who loves you unconditionally..who has your back always..who is ready to make sacrifices for you..that is what is important not which hole you enter or how many u have entered.

So take a minute right now and ask yourself, if I'm suddenly sick and bedridden...who do I have in my life that will stand by me? If I lose a body part or get deformed in an accident...who will stay with me no matter what? These are the things every man and woman should dwell on and not illusions of superiority over another gender that is not based on the reality of this life we live..

Sirgay:
If you aren't clouded by sentiment then you are truth-phobia. half of the posters on this thread agreed with my notion, I did my home work.

If half the posters agreed with you, that means the other half did not. That's called an impasse. You cannot be claiming to be the 'speaker of truth' after that.

selflessmaya:

how old r u 12? u really think to find a sperm donor a girl needs to go to a sperm bank? why? when she could just stop taking birth control, travel out of town or abroad, fu<k someone, return pregnant and raise her kid happily without chances of the dude showing up. then there are those who dont care to go far and just invite ppl to their apartments and get pregnant, no one can prove it's his baby so she gets the single motherhood she craves. u really think ppl donated SPERM more in the 80s? more men are donating sperm in 2017 than they ever before, times are harder, ppl are more open-minded, so men are wiser now only applies if u mean they're wise enough to donate more sperm. dude, ppl are selling their kidneys what is sperm?

and lol, there are many sperm banks in private practice, as in many of them, that pay men with very good genes good money to donate sperm. and ppl rich enough to afford these hospitals can use the service or refer their rich friends. there are families where the man is impotent and it's no secret to his wife but a secret to the world, some of them use these services, they go there, find a matching genotype, the wife gets pregnant. they have a baby, they raise it and no one ever has to know the truth, then return 3 yrs later and repeat till they have all the kids they desire. this is fairly common practice. u might also try to argue nigeria does not do IVF or surrogate or cosmetic surgery yet but we have many private clinics that do.
stop fooling yourself, there are MANY ppl out there who never want to deal with kids, LIKE EVER! they dont like them, they consider them a nuisance, they find them messy, noisy, a lot of work and expensive to keep alive. the cry of a child in their house is their biggest nightmare, some just dont want the stress and responsibility of parenthood and opt out of it. i wont argue this with u either cos it's fact not just what "i know".

finally, there are many places where single ppl can adopt kids in nigeria and if u think i'm about to start dropping contacts on a forum like this, then u must be very childish to not know there's certain information that cant be used as an argument. this is not pls recommend me a good primary school. this is "oh we're having an argument and i'm trying to sh!t on u" so drop an address of the place u claim ppl can "get" babies on public forum. adopting is not cool, donating blood is stupid. drop an address of adoption centers(highly sensitive information) to prove a point and i'll phone a friend to verify. dude, you're very childish. i'm done with this conversation.

you should be talking facts not based on sentiment most of what you said has no bases, you said people in Nigeria hate kids so they opt out of having children, because kids are messy so they opt out sister that's a lie.

I didn't say you can't adopt kids, I said show me a place where you can adopt kids as a single parent Nigeria without going there with a partner and showing your marriage certificate before commencing paperwork and affidavit.

even where I am the level of sperm donation has dropped not to talk of in Nigeria, you're saying things with no fact, which sperm bank are you talking about, how much are they paying. Stop saying things to console yourself.

I kind of agree with this

I don't understand what makes Nigerian men think sex is a punishment to the woman. This same men will complain when a woman thinks she is doing them a favour having sex with them.

Where una stand abeg?
Because if you know some women can enjoy the sex like you do, even more than you do. You won't think unmarried ladies are sex objects.

No wonder the pressure to get married. Marry and keep fucki.ng around,just don't get caught...Nigerian men will respect you .

iamJ:
Ann and the kind of topics that draws her interest

, whatcha tryin' to say?

You like long story

The OP should go beat unmarried women if he is so concerned.

pocohantas:
I don't understand what makes Nigerian men think sex is a punishment to the woman. This same men will complain when a woman thinks she is doing them a favour having sex with them.

Where una stand abeg?
Because if you know some women can enjoy the sex like you do, even more than you do. You won't think unmarried ladies are sex objects.

No wonder the pressure to get married. Marry and keep fucki.ng around,just don't get caught...Nigerian men will respect you .

Sterope:
You like long story

The OP should go beat unmarried women if he so concerned.

It's annoying shaAa!

RaggedyAnn:
, whatcha tryin' to say?

trying to say what i said
https://25.media.tumblr.com/eafdf0a92ab7936039943622806820e1/tumblr_mnbbjz2XpF1qdzs7mo1_500.gif

It is. Unfortunately, it is not a war we can win.

pocohantas:
It's annoying shaAa!

I think there are some notable women who didn't tie the knot and also didn't end up as tools for sexual gratification

Yeah, right. What a ridiculously stupid line of reasoning, pardon my language. There are many VERY successful women who didn't get married. Not everyone believes in marriage. Especially in Western countries where the Law makes both parties split everything they own in half in the case of a divorce. It usually affects the man because he's the one that does most of the work, but it gors both ways. So I can understand very well why a successful woman wouldn't want to get married as well. Marriage is nice and fun but its not really as important as everyone makes it out to be. Its just a ritual that we've continued mindlessly for a long time. Op, I ask you, is Linda Ikeji a 'sex object'? What about Oprah Winfrey? Janet Jackson recently got into her first marriage at age 50 and she's out of it. Marriage is not for everyone.

MyNewJackeT:
I'm not talking about you posting links here to advertise what I don't know, tell me the location and I will send someone to go there.

before you adopt you need to be married, and present a certificate.
No kidding here

In the age of information, ignorance is a choice.

iamJ:
trying to say what i said
https://25.media.tumblr.com/eafdf0a92ab7936039943622806820e1/tumblr_mnbbjz2XpF1qdzs7mo1_500.gif

, smart-a*s, I guessed you were going to come back with that.

coolviv:
SMH. ...Dumbass! !!
HIV does not know man or woman. Whether single or married...
Poor health does not know who is guy man or sex object...when it comes down to it...
Who loves you unconditionally..who has your back always..who is ready to make sacrifices for you..that is what is important not which hole you enter or how many u have entered.

So take a minute right now and ask yourself, if I'm suddenly sick and bedridden...who do I have in my life that will stand by me? If I lose a body part or get deformed in an accident...who will stay with me no matter what? These are the things every man and woman should dwell on and not illusions of superiority over another gender that is not based on the reality of this life we live..

You really have a point. But nothing in life is certain.

children abandon parents

spouse can abandon you

mothers abandon children.

That is life.

Peachess:
I'm still very young and ain't thinking of marriage anytime soon. As young as I am, I am not dumb enough to take advice from a nitwit like you. Age is not really maturity cos you reason like a baby.
I pity the lady that'll date a fool like you.

e pain am

Sirgay:
I hate when people dwell on rare cases to build a notion.

actually cases of low libido is not rare.

Peachess:
Old fool, receive sense in Jesus name. Amen

Ugly girl. See as you be like rope

YoungDaNaval:
Ugly girl. See as you be like rope

I'm sorry you're surrounded by ugly obese females like your mum, sisters and your entire family. There's a saying ugly people never see something beautiful.
Mods he started it tho.

oyedepo just announced SHILOH last week.

you all know what happens in Shiloh

AnonyNymous:
Yeah, right. What a ridiculously stupid line of reasoning, pardon my language. There are many VERY successful women who didn't get married. Not everyone believes in marriage. Especially in Western countries where the Law makes both parties split everything they own in half in the case of a divorce. It usually affects the man because he's the one that does most of the work, but it gors both ways. So I can understand very well why a successful woman wouldn't want to get married as well. Marriage is nice and fun but its not really as important as everyone makes it out to be. Its just a ritual that we've continued mindlessly for a long time. Op, I ask you, is Linda Ikeji a 'sex object'? What about Oprah Winfrey? Janet Jackson recently got into her first marriage at age 50 and she's out of it. Marriage is not for everyone.

all those people will be remembered by history,

condoleeza Rice, Oprah winfrey, German chancellor etc.
because they made a name for themselves, and they have enough money to take care of them till old age without any support from kids, like ladies of Nigeria(not all), who go remember them, them go just die and be forgotten. Florence Ita Giwa the widow of Dele Giwa a two time serving senator a mother of bakassi people because she campaigned for them will always be remembered in history even when she has no child.

the others who go remember them.

person like peachess who go remember her

Daeylar:
Another day, another misogynistic article on nairaland.

Hahaha. Isn't this EXACTLY what I was talking about on the other thread? All women must get married by fire by thunder. Lol.

CC. Supersystemsnig

ZandhaZaraZ:
Hahaha. Isn't this EXACTLY what I was talking about on the other thread? All women must get married by fire by thunder. Lol.

CC. Supersystemsnig

Lol, king of monikers, how are you?
Tell the truth you were banned

ZandhaZaraZ:
Hahaha. Isn't this EXACTLY what I was talking about on the other thread? All women must get married by fire by thunder. Lol.

CC. Supersystemsnig

Your brotherly ways had finally caught up with you LMAO

Daeylar:
Lol, king of monikers, how are you?
Tell the truth you were banned

To be honest, I wasn't banned. Just wanted a new shell.

Daeylar:
Your brotherly ways had finally caught up with you LMAO

Errm..... What do you mean?

I find this topic very irritating. The sperm that formed the OP must have been carrying the MOTHER VIRUS of stupidity.

Now, supersystemsni.g can finally understand what I meant by female social conditioning and the stereotypical roles a sexist society is bent on subjecting them to.

I don't think I have the energy to keep repeating the same thing over and over. I would have taken my time to flog the OP to coma. Stupid boy.

ZandhaZaraZ:
Errm..... What do you mean?

I find this topic very irritating. The sperm that formed the OP must have been carrying the MOTHER VIRUS of stupidity.

Now, supersystemsni.g can finally understand what I meant by female social conditioning and the stereotypical roles a sexist society is bent on subjecting them to.

I don't think I have then energy to keep repeating the same thing over and over. I would have taken my time to flog the OP to coma. Stupid boy.

I meant your brotherly ways had finally caught up with you and you were banned
LMAO lol, I know you were banned

It's not only you that's tired jare
Like I said it's the daily misogynistic article dose recommended for nairaland, when they will stop taking this drug is what I really want to know.