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chibuike65:
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marisdgreat:
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Ooo my God cant see it

[quote author=Innobee99 post=62083404]Hi Nairalander
I have read alot of relationship issues on this platform and I know many have gotten their solution from here. Am presently in a great confusion about a life time decision.
I met this lady while I was still serving, i.e 2015. I mean during my NYSC days. I love and cherish her so much and she knows. Immediately after my service, I moved to Abuja to find a greener pasture, after being through hell, I finally got a place with an Estate developer. Money wasn't my problem and I do send my babe money as a nice guy. Her birthday came, I did the necessary things a gentleman will do to please his woman.
Fast forward, I lost my job cuz the company was sealed up by EFCC. I started managing my life with the little I saved. My babe started displaying some nasty attitudes like she no longer call unless I call. She now compares me with how other guys are taking good care of their babes. Though I recently got a job with National Open University of Nigeria, and my pay is not too bad. I used my first salary to rent a self contain apartment so I dnt bother my colleague I was initially staying with which my babe knew that was what I used the money for. I haven't gotten salary for last month and I got a text from her telling me how she is tired of my broke as, dryness, poverty, how I have not added any value to her life and many provocative languages beyond my comprehension. Forgetting how I once took good care of her. This lady will only flash me and if I dnt call back due to the fact that I dnt have airtime, all manner of insults will rain on me that day.
Please, my people, is she someone that can really stand by you when things are rough? I love her so much but I dnt want to ever make a life time mistake. She threatens me of going out with other guys if I dnt get her a phone before December.
Should I quit and move on or what do you guys suggest I do as this point.
cc: Lalasticlala[/quote
this story look like cook up story well seasoning, BT in other hand if is true, marrying her will b the life mistake u will made, abeg run for ur dear life, love she did not love you a bit,

chibuike65:
Ooo my God cant see it

i wil resend it again

Look at the text she sent, she does this everytime she insults the hell out of me

Innobee99:
Look at the text she sent, she does this everytime she insults the hell out of me

Brother is she your first love?
I am seeing a situation whereby she will be the one to call off the relationship.
Because from the way it stands now, bro u are no longer in control of your emotion.
I feel for u bro...
Stop uploading chat on here, she might even be on NL & that means more insults for u.

Rubbiish:
Brother is she your first love?
I am seeing a situation whereby she will be the one to call off the relationship.
Because from the way it stands now, bro u are no longer in control of your emotion.
I feel for u bro...
Stop uploading chat on here, she might even be on NL & that means more insults for u.

She's not, just trying to let u know what she always do after a hell of insult on me. U wnt understand, until similar case comes ur way. But i dnt pray. Thanks bro

Innobee99:
She's not, just trying to let u know what she always do after a hell of insult on me. U wnt understand, until similar case comes ur way. But i dnt pray. Thanks bro

You may be older in age but u are a kid. A lady is manipulating you emotional and you are here still asking what to do. I hope she deals with u mercilessly just so u can be admitted to the school of hard knocks.

My advice: This is the time to move on. I was once in this shoe when i was a kid n i left her hating me passionately when she never expected it.

ayando:
You may be older in age but u are a kid. A lady is manipulating you emotional and you are here still asking what to do. I hope she deals with u mercilessly just so u can be admitted to the school of hard knocks.

My advice: This is the time to move on. I was once in this shoe when i was a kid n i left her hating me passionately when she never expected it.

U were in this shoe before and u're sounding this way?

Innobee99:
Hi Nairalander
I have read alot of relationship issues on this platform and I know many have gotten their solution from here. Am presently in a great confusion about a life time decision.
I met this lady while I was still serving, i.e 2015. I mean during my NYSC days. I love and cherish her so much and she knows. Immediately after my service, I moved to Abuja to find a greener pasture, after being through hell, I finally got a place with an Estate developer. Money wasn't my problem and I do send my babe money as a nice guy. Her birthday came, I did the necessary things a gentleman will do to please his woman.
Fast forward, I lost my job cuz the company was sealed up by EFCC. I started managing my life with the little I saved. My babe started displaying some nasty attitudes like she no longer call unless I call. She now compares me with how other guys are taking good care of their babes. Though I recently got a job with National Open University of Nigeria, and my pay is not too bad. I used my first salary to rent a self contain apartment so I dnt bother my colleague I was initially staying with which my babe knew that was what I used the money for. I haven't gotten salary for last month and I got a text from her telling me how she is tired of my broke as, dryness, poverty, how I have not added any value to her life and many provocative languages beyond my comprehension. Forgetting how I once took good care of her. This lady will only flash me and if I dnt call back due to the fact that I dnt have airtime, all manner of insults will rain on me that day.
Please, my people, is she someone that can really stand by you when things are rough? I love her so much but I dnt want to ever make a life time mistake. She threatens me of going out with other guys if I dnt get her a phone before December.
Should I quit and move on or what do you guys suggest I do as this point.
cc: Lalasticlala

Bro, it will be bad if she called it a quit. Call her, tell her u love her and would love to be with her forever but you find out she is not yet ready.
Tell her u are arranging your future and her presence won't help. To this endu, both of you should take a break. Tell her u will call her wen things set well.

Innobee99:
She's not, just trying to let u know what she always do after a hell of insult on me. U wnt understand until similar case comes ur way. But i dnt pray. Thanks bro

@bold u make me laff....
If she is not your first love, then she is the first woman u have had a serious relationship with.
You can't tell me u have dated before her & will still open this kind of thread, it is not possible.
The content of your write up clearly indicates you are still naive when it comes to dating.

ayando:
You may be older in age but u are a kid. A lady is manipulating you emotional and you are here still asking what to do. I hope she deals with u mercilessly just so u can be admitted to the school of hard knocks.

My advice: This is the time to move on. I was once in this shoe when i was a kid n i left her hating me passionately when she never expected it.

Yeah bro
Honestly the op is still a kid in the game of women affair. I wouldn't completely blame him because many of us have pass through that route before. But what distinguished the kids from the men is the ability to move on.

The op clearly is not willing to let her go for now & i seriously feel for him. He will look back one day & regret how a little girl manipulated him emotionally...

Innobee99:
U were in this shoe before and u're sounding this way?

Every nigga who loves u is gonna be hard on u
That is the only way u can get your sense back for now, because love & emotions have beclouded your sense of reasoning. I know u won't be able to stay for two weeks without calling or hearing from her. You will still find a way to do it directly or indirectly....

deafeyez:
Bro, it will be bad if she called it a quit. Call her, tell her u love her and would love to be with her forever but you find out she is not yet ready.
Tell her u are arranging your future and her presence won't help. To this endu, both of you should take a break. Tell her u will call her wen things set well.

Beta talk Jor!

Innobee99:
U were in this shoe before and u're sounding this way?

Because i dealt with my issue personally. I didn't waste time after putting the dot together. You don't sound strong enough to fight the very thing that weakens him. A man must be strong to face his fears or end up being enslaved by it. I am hard on you because that is what u truly need. No time man.

Innobee99:
Hi Nairalander
I have read alot of relationship issues on this platform g
cc: Lalasticlala

From the picture you painted in your story , you sound like one who is perhaps still in his 20's and I believe this is the phase where you would need to focus on your personal development and perhaps still have struggles and hassles in finances , so trust me , you aren't alone ...

I always advise that as a guy or a lady , always enjoy your singleness and don't compromise it for a man/lady who isn't ready to add values or appreciate what you are at the moment ... If a lady can treat you in such manner you have painted , the best advice is to flee , a relationship is supposed to compliment what you are and not to subtract from you ..

If she can be like that when you are going through hard times , then she isn't worth your penny...

There are several girls out there , what you think she feels isn't love because love itself isn't complete without a companion , a companion is one who endures and challenges you to be better , not one who flees at any sight of adversary ....

Why do good men fall in love with hoes?

Don't put ursef under any pressure bcuz of anyone my Broda. Am eyalkin frm experience.

Flee from her and flee very far.

Mannothot:
From the picture you painted in your story , you sound like one who is perhaps still in his 20's and I believe this is the phase where you would need to focus on your personal development and perhaps still have struggles and hassles in finances , so trust me , you aren't alone ...

I always advise that as a guy or a lady , always enjoy your singleness and don't compromise it for a man/lady who isn't ready to add values or appreciate what you are at the moment ... If a lady can treat you in such manner you have painted , the best advice is to flee , a relationship is supposed to compliment what you are and not to subtract from you ..

If she can be like that when you are going through hard times , then she isn't worth your penny...

There are several girls out there , what you think she feels isn't love because love itself isn't complete without a companion , a companion is one who endures and challenges you to be better , not one who flees at any sight of adversary ....

Thanjs bro, I I'll surely get over it soon

if u like follow or no follow d babas hav told u d real fact..die ontop women matter

Drop her like she's hot... No time to check time... wake up bro,it is what it is

Na this kind i dey dump for boro pit

What has she contributed to your life? Has she EVER supported you in your life struggle either by kind encouraging words or advice?

I believe you know what to do... Your search for a wife has just started bro... Leave that woman and look for a woman with wife qualities.

It's not love you feel, maybe lust, but definitely not love, so stop telling yourself you love her, cos you can and will live without her.

Run for your life