These girls sef
Be waiting for abroad guy
Guy we she never see

Enjoy your life
Have sex safe sex
Make mistakes
You've only got one life to live


Pls don't quote me
I don't have strength this morning

shugamummy:
Congratulations on dating abroad guy...That shows a gold digger you are...also understand you dont know what you want in life at 27. By 30 you will be just a wash cos guys of 33 below cant settle down with a babe of 30....thats a stark reality....for obvious reasons.....the made guys you will have then will be in the shoot of 40.....so Gold digger decide if you wanna settle down and rough it with a man after ur heart or keep hoping on abroad guy and keep digging.....as far as am concerned,you are not dating anyone....dont come here to cry...he broke my heart....cos sex is the only valuable stuff you have shown you possess

you are totally wrong. I am dating a girl who I am 7months older than. We started dating back in Nigeria before we both went to further our studies abroad. And finally we actually planning getting married come next year. So don't bring rubbish postulations you know nothing about. Note, I am 30 and she is 29 so don't generalize

savvy12:

The truth is that I haven't met the abroad guy yet.
Though we have been chatting on whatsapp and he sent me his pics.
He promised to come back next year by easter.
it seems I will consider other options.i dont i will hope on him.I don't really know what will happen tomorrow.
The problem is that the guys that always approach me are not the ones I'm attracted to.
Thanks for d advice.

Sister we are in the same shoe ooo I mean those who am not attracted to are those on my way right now even pestering me for marriage..only praying God should save us from this condition ..

My advice to you is to leave that doctor because a fool at 40 is a fool forever,he didn't love you....

The second one try and be playing the card, we can't say he might be ur husband....but anytime u guys want to settle make sure u are going to leave with him to canada because I don't want you to be lord of the ring

And also be prayeful because marriage age to we ladies is when devil focus to play.you will not marry another person husband in Jesus name...

Good bless

Be delivered from arrant stupidity. How many wives do you want to marry?

SAY NO TO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. If God helps you to abstain, do it my dear sister, if he can't wait now then your house maid is in trouble when you are not around, your sisters are not safe when you are not around. Don't tie him down with sex. Let HIM GO.

Hi Dear,

If you care to listen and you truly want to be advised, I will tell you that a man the leave you because you deny him sex before marriage not even with the fact that you suspect he’s not sincere about himself will leave you for another woman.

You need to learn how to trust God to bring He’s best to you. Don’t be faster than your steps.

Remember, the pain of discipline is better than the pain of regrets.

If he can dump you at the park because you deny him sex, I can tell you that deep inside of his heart, he knows you are right.

Just leave him for now and take time to think it through but don’t give in for sex because it’s wrong and you are not attracted to him.you don’t want to keep a mirror that make you look urgly on your walls.

Thanks

and the only reason you gave for not sleeping with him is that you not attracted to him and you scared he would leave you after sex.but yet you scared to lose him.if you not in for the money( as you claim ) and you not attracted to him( which also implies you dont love him) then whats the reason you still with him? sounds like you prepared to just settle for him regardless of your complains but yet you still very uncertain and indecisive hence the presence of the other guy...my advice would be to ditch the sex guy because he would always see you an an object or a tool ,he obviously doesnt appreciate you nor respect your values and possibly never will even if by some miracle he does marry you which is unlikely he would definately cheat on you which am sure he is already doin.unless you down with been treated like shiit or less than a woman best you let him walk the plank..you need to tell yourself you deserve better and make your desicions based on such.

Mac2016:

just wondering if you would be able to resist sex to the guy abroad as well. I always pity women sha...sex is a very important ingredient in relationship so u have to follow your heart about it. Cant imagine a relationship without sex...in short, truth be told, I dont even establish any relationship as serious one without sex.

there are still lot of people who can stay in a relationship without sex....till marriage..

Windflower:

Waow,so because sex and relationship is relative then a girl must give sex if he demands for it especially when she is not a virgin. Now my questions
* A man that doesn't have self control,is that one a man
* A man that allows his dick control him,is he worthy being called a man
* will giving out the cookie guarantee that the man would never leave or cheat on his girl
* If she eventually gives him,does it guarantee that she did it because she truly love him or she did it out of coercion
* Does having sex in a relationship guarantee its would lead to marriage
I must say am not surprised with your opinion,especially now when a 16year old girl would have sex and flaunt it on Facebook. Everyone is all about sex now but please stop misleading people,sex/lovemaking should be mutual,it should be because u feel connected to your partner and not just because you want to ease your sex drive.

I never asked her to give her sex if he does not deceive it, let's be honest with ourselves. The basic problem with Africa is life start at 30 while for the white folks, life start at 20. If they have been together for a year and there is still doubt about him playing games on her, please how long does it take to be crystal clear he meant well. Here is a man of 37 years going through life without sex for a year now, when will he be able to get one? That's up to both of them. My saying if she is not attracted to him, if he does not love him, if he is dating the man because he doesn't have option, that's so unfair. My sister age is what? Is she getting younger and won't live to see 37 someday, should the man kill himself because he's 37?

Please let her not waste his time or both of them should not waste each other time, define the relationship and rest the case somewhere.

shugamummy:
Congratulations on dating abroad guy...That shows a gold digger you are...also understand you dont know what you want in life at 27. By 30 you will be just a wash cos guys of 33 below cant settle down with a babe of 30....thats a stark reality....for obvious reasons.....the made guys you will have then will be in the shoot of 40.....so Gold digger decide if you wanna settle down and rough it with a man after ur heart or keep hoping on abroad guy and keep digging.....as far as am concerned,you are not dating anyone....dont come here to cry...he broke my heart....cos sex is the only valuable stuff you have shown you possess

gbam.

U said it already that u don't feel anything for him so what the hell are you doing with him and why would u have sex with someone you don't love or feel nothing for.

My advice is run while u still can because that guy doesn't love you .... as for the Canada guy, be careful so he won't use u to get what he want from canadian Government.

One of your fiancé oo.. How many are they abeg?

Pray hard and ask God to reveal to you which one is your husband among them. If it`s not any of the two, God will bring your own. This is because you don`t know 2morrow. Only God knows tomorrow.

First of d al dear don't b mad abt d negative comments here, na their work.
U know dat doctor's intention already so u nid no advice on wat to do wit him if u re really smart but in case u re not, Bae RUN so hard, he just wants to inject u nd disappear nd wit d guys acting, I think he has a family. D abroad guy don't label him nice already cux 1 natural talent God gave we humans is acting
All i'm trying to say is b careful.. Don't compromise ur love nd body, d deserving 1 wil always come.

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

Hi
Am a guy and we know ourselves better
Don't try it
Run away from that guy, what he need is sex, don't go to his apartment again.
Mix with friends, associate yourself with good friends and forget about him.

He will only use you, enjoy you and run.

Run now, or he run from you.

My sister you need to apply wisdom oooo
You av someone here that you know and do talk to, you denied him for sex and now you are comparing him to the other one that you only chat and call even he's not in this country with you. see if truly you are not a gold digger you need to sit ur Nigeria man down and talk since to him, perhaps he's man or do you expect him to start masturbating while he have a woman around him and if he sheet on you, you will start shouting...........
You don't even trust the one in Nigeria that you see and feel his presence, you now want to go from the one in abroad...
Have a little faith and trust ur man if only he's trustworthy and if not be alone for sometime cos the one in abroad is not the best option for you.......... To me ni oooo.

laughing in Swahili. Why on heart will you deny him sex?? immaturity everywhere. You shouldn't date him in d first place, you are not attracted to him, how on earth will you trust him?? also you said you want to wait till you could trust him before allowing him, seriously ??

Swear to God you are a virgin


Swear to God you never have SEx before


Swear to God no one has inserted bobori 2 urV


Swear to God you are truly not ready

Ourown:
At 27 abi Continue

Is being 27 a crime?

Ourown:
At 27 abi Continue

so because she is 27,she should open her legs for a man who clearly want nothing but sex? Dumb African!

Is he in for the sex alone? That is one thing you need to be sure of.......Truth be told, guys get angry when they know you are not a virgin and you are refusing them sex! Especially if you have agreed to date them and there was no prior agreement that you guys won't have sex till marriage

On the guy in Canada, chatting and physical closeness are two different things that are worlds apart....choose wisely!

Don't be carried away with the word "Canada"

You can decide to take a break and give yourself some time to clear your head and think about the whole issue....for this time, just keep doing your own personal things independent of both of them! My one cent!

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thatsincerechic:
What advice do you need?
Its obvious the doctor is after the cookie, he doesn't say much because he has nothing to say, he is simply looking forward to sleeping with you.
Are you sure he is not married?
Take you time and study the abroad guy, if it feels right , good luck to you.

Some who wants just sex would waste one year dating you ?

How can you date a matured guy for a year without sex and your not a Virgin

Can she stay a year without sex ?

U refused him sex because he's not attracted to u,but whn he marry u he will be attracted baa...continue dey deceive ur self.

At 27 u re yet to get married hmmm
My own device is dat just pray to God Almighty to give u a Good hubby

victorazyvictor:


Are you a virgin to be sincere.

What's her being a virgin got to do with this

Victor warn yaself

man... this is the height of confusion in one story.

you dont like him,
you dont want to give him sex so he doent leave you,
but you are not attracted to him,
you are also not a gold digger,
but you are a serial cheater,
you are confused, you dont know what to do.
you are liking someone youve not seen before,
but you are not attracted to someone you are familiar with...

in Iyanya's voice* I bow for you, I bow for you, only if you gree to be my booo....baby girl i bow for you..

4get about him.

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

Please be mindful of this doctors oo. They are just there because ladies feel they have money or they will never be out of job. And the abroad guy will just marry you and keep you here. Don't be pressured into any relationship because you are 27. It's obvious you are forcing yourself into a relationship.

Take your time, its never late let alone too late.

You refused him sex and he is your fiancee

Is that an issue?

My dear friend, i am speaking from a pastor point of view now. There are so many things going through your head now and you need to be calm.
Please before you make this life handcuff decision, please seek the face of God first and he will direct you.
Secondly, you are already doubting this doctor in Anambara and you don't even trust him.my opinion, run as fast as you can and my reason is this
he just want to eat you and and go. i tell you, if any man is interested in marrying you sex will be the last thing on his mind cos he will have it everyday and even get tired of it. he does not mean well for you at all so please decease from that relationship.
Thirdly, for the guy in Canada, keep your options open with him. don't make hasty promises to him but like i said seek Gods approval concerning him too. i will ask you now to please pray and pray and get your convictions right and you can make your decision...all the best my dear

Don't let sex be a reason the Doc guy will give attention to you. Every woman can give sex, if you decline him, he surely will get it elsewhere. Don't get pressed by his demand and don't let the fear of the unknown allow you make decisions u'll later regret.

To the guy based outside the country, how much do you know him and why do you keep two men to yourself.

Use your discretion. you alone know whom your heart goes with. seek God and he'll lead you.