savvy12:

I dated him cos I had no option.
Thanks for ur advice. I appreciate.

U dated him because u had no option, and u are not attracted to him. I don't understand u o.... were u forced into d relationship when u were 26.... and now u are putting ur trust on someone abroad... if d guy abroad comes and ask u for sex, wat will u do then?

My advice
The devil u know is better than the angel u don't know
Wait for the doctor to call u.... wait for him for as long as dis year continue, if he calls u, tell him ur mind and ask him questions that are disturbing u. If he opens up to u, then u shud know he is ready to settle down with u and if he opens up but u are satisfied, he is still ready for u... he dated u for a year as doctor with pressuring u for sex.... girl see he probably may look old but u shud know dat with his status as a doctor and he is rich u shud know dat he loves u

thatsincerechic:
What advice do you need?
Its obvious the doctor is after the cookie, he doesn't say much because he has nothing to say, he is simply looking forward to sleeping with you.
Are you sure he is not married?
Take you time and study the abroad guy, if it feels right , good luck to you.

he has said much but she hasn't listened because she isn't into him and into some abroad guy. Make dem dey use abroad dey decieve una. The bible says once have you spoken twice have I heard... That's for a listener. She feels the guy is too old. Why lead him on. The abroad guy has " fiancees" too. And may see her as too old or not a much talker. Una go just dey cause problem for una self

savvy12:
Pls guys,I need your advice.
No insults please.

I have two men in my life right now.

The first one is a medical doctor at nauth in nnewi. According to him, he is 37 years old(10 yes older than me) but I still don't believe him cos he looks much older than his assumed age. He looks 40ish. And he is sort of secretive. He doesn't like talking about himself.we started dating last year before I lost my dad.

Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex.

pls note,I'm not a goldigger cos I'm not the type that demand money from guys.He gets angry whenever he offers me money and I refuse.

I am also dating a second guy who is abroad. He lives in Canada. I got his number through his sister who is a friend of mine. We have been chatting for 3months now and he seems like a nice guy. He said he will come back to Nigeria after applying for his citizenship card next year.

I'm confused right now.I don't know whether to forget about the doctor and focus on the abroad guy or should I beg the doc and allow him have sex with me.
I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.

If u don't want sex, Stop having boyfriends or better still become Nun

It's very simple, you can't eat your cake and have it back,before your story is another one of a lady planning to cheat on her husband who abandoned her and has not returned from abroad. You see why I say it's very simple wait for the abroad guy, marry him then he goes to abroad few months than the lane you come back to our humble doctor begging him to do your husbands duty. You see, you might not be too demanding " I won't say not demanding" no woman is innocent of that" but I know our doctor has been spending even if you r not demanding, so where do you expect him to show the man he is? Nigerian should stop making a big deal out of sex but make a big deal out of multiple sexual partners, The abroad guy has not asked for sex cos he is a million miles away and from the current exchange rate he is a nice guy, women sef. From my experience I am currently in love with a girl I met today and had sex with the following day and since then nothing has changed our love grows everyday. But before her I have two friends who keeps denying me sex, I know I will still have it some day then dump cos they delayed and the love I had for them it's no more, a sharp girl has stolen it. Delay is dangerous, find out about other things you need to know and stop age excuses, 27 ain't 17 baby. The best dudes don't talk much, we certainly don't talk much but we got actions. Wish you luck

salmonkas178:
The devil you know is better than the Angel coming from Canada ..he will also demand sex from you

gbammmmm,oya gba ko je,oroburuku toun lafta.forget dat nonsense,u are a golddigger,u date doctor for his money(datz why you were defending not bin after his money),u saying u Date him cos u hav no option is a lie,u have options,now the guy had spent on you con want punna,u con dey run ,and tell us u might lose him,lose wat u rnt attracted to ,ugwanu,i guess we were there wen u were collecting money,abeg ponuzoo.

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

The abroad guy is sleeping with someone else, when he comes back, he will try to sleep with you. You obviously don't know what you want. What's his basis for applying for citizenship? How long has he been there? How are you sure the citizenship is not you as second wife whilst there is another canadian wife over there? Know thyself and what you want. You are confused in my opinion.

savvy12:

The truth is that I'm not attracted to him.
Yeah,he is rich and everything but I don't want to have sex with him right now.
I feel like he is lied about his age and other things.
I want to have sex with him when I'm sure I can trust him.
I requested for his family album the other day and he gave me one flimsy excuse and I was pretty sure he had it.

girlfriend, I'm a student of NAUTH. I will tell you plainly that majority of the doctors there are terrible flirts. A case happened a certain time that a doctor was asking three different girls in the same class out. Another thing you should know is when a guy keeps secrets, he has cobwebs and skeletons in his cupboard. Most NAUTH doctors that flirt are married but they pretend not to be Coz they have evil plans. I'm not saying you should go for the Canadian based brother, but please think twice before you make a move. # peace

Ahmiee:
my dear at 27 your not a bad market. just try to keep yourself busy be open for options. cause your not even sure of the guy abroad. except if u wanto wait for him cause from what i can deduce from your story the guy is not established yet. both serious guys and unserious all want sex. then the doctor bla bla. u said u cant have sex with him cause ur not attracted to him. then why are u dating him if he should propose to u will u marry him?. go out and meet other guys try to know them. share views and definitely u will find someone that matches your taste

Thank you!

A Bird at hand is better than the one in the Bush.If you don't no what i meant ask people who have dated Abroad people. Right now in my office, i have 2 ladies who were desperate about Abroad people.They dated for some years and it did not work out. It does not always work out. I am telling you the gospel and last truth.

The same way i am telling you now was the same way we told the two Ladies but they thought we were deceiving or trying to hinder them from marrying abroad people,after the whole deceit everything did not work out.

savvy12:
Pls guys,I need your advice.
No insults please.

I have two men in my life right now.

The first one is a medical doctor at nauth in nnewi. According to him, he is 37 years old(10 yes older than me) but I still don't believe him cos he looks much older than his assumed age. He looks 40ish. And he is sort of secretive. He doesn't like talking about himself.we started dating last year before I lost my dad.

Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex.

pls note,I'm not a goldigger cos I'm not the type that demand money from guys.He gets angry whenever he offers me money and I refuse.

I am also dating a second guy who is abroad. He lives in Canada. I got his number through his sister who is a friend of mine. We have been chatting for 3months now and he seems like a nice guy. He said he will come back to Nigeria after applying for his citizenship card next year.

I'm confused right now.I don't know whether to forget about the doctor and focus on the abroad guy or should I beg the doc and allow him have sex with me.
I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.

majekdom2:
The abroad guy is sleeping with someone else, when he comes back, he will try to sleep with you. You obviously don't know what you want. What's his basis for applying for citizenship? How long has he been there? How are you sure the citizenship is not you as second wife whilst there is another canadian wife over there? Know thyself and what you want. You are confused in my opinion.

Hmmm you made a good point, I didn't even see this coming. You have to actually marry a Canadian to apply for citizenship. which means he would have 2 wives. unknown to both.

savvy12:
Pls guys,I need your advice.
No insults please.

I have two men in my life right now.

The first one is a medical doctor at nauth in nnewi. According to him, he is 37 years old(10 yes older than me) but I still don't believe him cos he looks much older than his assumed age. He looks 40ish. And he is sort of secretive. He doesn't like talking about himself.we started dating last year before I lost my dad.

Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex.

pls note,I'm not a goldigger cos I'm not the type that demand money from guys.He gets angry whenever he offers me money and I refuse.

I am also dating a second guy who is abroad. He lives in Canada. I got his number through his sister who is a friend of mine. We have been chatting for 3months now and he seems like a nice guy. He said he will come back to Nigeria after applying for his citizenship card next year.

I'm confused right now.I don't know whether to forget about the doctor and focus on the abroad guy or should I beg the doc and allow him have sex with me.
I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.

Why would U date a guy that U are neither in love with or physically attracted to?

savvy12:
Pls guys,I need your advice.
No insults please.

I have two men in my life right now.

The first one is a medical doctor at nauth in nnewi. According to him, he is 37 years old(10 yes older than me) but I still don't believe him cos he looks much older than his assumed age. He looks 40ish. And he is sort of secretive. He doesn't like talking about himself.we started dating last year before I lost my dad.

Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex.

pls note,I'm not a goldigger cos I'm not the type that demand money from guys.He gets angry whenever he offers me money and I refuse.

I am also dating a second guy who is abroad. He lives in Canada. I got his number through his sister who is a friend of mine. We have been chatting for 3months now and he seems like a nice guy. He said he will come back to Nigeria after applying for his citizenship card next year.

I'm confused right now.I don't know whether to forget about the doctor and focus on the abroad guy or should I beg the doc and allow him have sex with me.
I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.

so at 27 n u stil dnt wanna tk risk....u hvnt seen anitin....awon Aunty splinster

correct7:
A Bird at hand is better than the one in the Bush.If you don't no what i meant ask people who have dated Abroad people. Right now in my office, i have 2 ladies who were desperate about Abroad people.They dated for some years and it did not work out. It does not always work out. I am telling you the gospel and last truth.

The same way i am telling you now was the same way we told the two Ladies but they thought we were deceiving or trying to hinder them from marrying abroad people,after the whole deceit everything did not work out.

So she should marry 40 years old man?

kambili999:
girlfriend, I'm a student of NAUTH. I will tell you plainly that majority of the doctors there are terrible flirts. A case happened a certain time that a doctor was asking three different girls in the same class out. Another thing you should know is when a guy keeps secrets, he has cobwebs and skeletons in his cupboard. Most NAUTH doctors that flirt are married but they pretend not to be Coz they have evil plans. I'm not saying you should go for the Canadian based brother, but please think twice before you make a move. # peace

doctors re flirts buh u cnt generalize....is normal wit dem

cruchenutii:


So she should marry 40 years old man?

she said he looks lik...nt dt he is buh she is 27...hw many men out dia settle fr more dn 25

Who else dont know that this lady is a lai mohammed,ur story dont add up, a guy dat demand sex and you didnt collect money,u said yes even wen u arnt attracted and still date another canadian guy behind,he demanded sex ,u didnt give him but u r scared of letting him go,why are u scare if not for his money??,u r nt only a liar but a cheat and also a golddigger,who is the funny mod. who put dis nonsense on the front page sef.

PrecisionFx:


If u don't want sex, Stop having boyfriends or better still become Nun

simple!!!...cz guys must demand fr sex weda u lik it or nt..moreova even though u mt desperate,to dem u desperate at 27

savvy12:

The truth is that I haven't met the abroad guy yet.
Though we have been chatting on whatsapp and he sent me his pics.
He promised to come back next year by easter.
it seems I will consider other options.i dont i will hope on him.I don't really know what will happen tomorrow.
The problem is that the guys that always approach me are not the ones I'm attracted to.
Thanks for d advice.

Which one is the guys that always approach u are not the ones ure attracted to......hmmn..u sure u aren't being too selective?... Just saying�

I am getting married in March next year to a lady I met last year on facebook. we have never had sex because she said no sex before marriage and i know she is going to be my wife. we do every other thing like kiss and romance but not sex. sometimes, during the romance, she feels weak and wants the sex but I know at that point, she is only vulnerable by my actions but that was not what she ask for so i wont do it. Why the rush, she will marry me

savvy12:
Pls guys,I need your advice.
No insults please.

I have two men in my life right now.

The first one is a medical doctor at nauth in nnewi. According to him, he is 37 years old(10 yes older than me) but I still don't believe him cos he looks much older than his assumed age. He looks 40ish. And he is sort of secretive. He doesn't like talking about himself.we started dating last year before I lost my dad.

Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex.

pls note,I'm not a goldigger cos I'm not the type that demand money from guys.He gets angry whenever he offers me money and I refuse.

I am also dating a second guy who is abroad. He lives in Canada. I got his number through his sister who is a friend of mine. We have been chatting for 3months now and he seems like a nice guy. He said he will come back to Nigeria after applying for his citizenship card next year.

I'm confused right now.I don't know whether to forget about the doctor and focus on the abroad guy or should I beg the doc and allow him have sex with me.
I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.

cruchenutii:


Hmmm you made a good point, I didn't even see this coming. You have to actually marry a Canadian to apply for citizenship. which means he would have 2 wives. unknown to both.

people's life are destroyed just because they can't do a simple homework to enhance their knowledge. It is obvious why she is still single... she is moved by sweet words and much talks not some persons that is real. I have met a number of them. A guy tells you he will apply for citizenship and come back next year... on what basis, she didn't ask? A 3 months relationship and she calls him a fiancee and coming to preach she isn't a gold digger... God is just trying to save that doctor from a future bad wife. I am sure he has seen signs and knows what to do.

savvy12:

The truth is that I haven't met the abroad guy yet.
Though we have been chatting on whatsapp and he sent me his pics.
He promised to come back next year by easter.
it seems I will consider other options.i dont i will hope on him.I don't really know what will happen tomorrow.
The problem is that the guys that always approach me are not the ones I'm attracted to.
Thanks for d advice.

u get taste ba? continue nt getting attracted to anyone until u reach 40.

My dear u are tapping palm wine nd at the same time cooking, the end result is either d pot will go black nor the palm tree will stop producing. The fact is u dn't keep 2 men in ur life nd expect marriage,every man hv dis ora upon him so u dn't gamble wit ur life cos u ar young. Wish u well

To me there are two ways to these which are the spiritual and factual way, been spiritual means you have to wait on the lord for the right man and keep praying! but been factual means you have to deal with fact! You said u av been dating him for a year and no sex! And you also say u ar a virgin which i understand how tough it would be for u to just av sex with him! But the question here is how do u want to know if he loves u! you can never knw that unless u try! Sometimes been a virgin can either be a good luck or a bad luck! So u av to knw wat luck it brings u at dat age! Dis is wat i av to say to u
1. keep nursing the guy abroad till you meet the day he told me! And if he keep posting u on different date leave him alone
2. Go out meet other guys! You don't know where u can find ur future! U can find him anywhere church,party,club
3. There is no man u would meet that won't want to have sex with you! The good or the bad they would always want sex! And if u meet any man who don't ask for sex pls run lol
4. If he is been secretive dont force ur self on him!
5. U guys av been together for more dan a year nw! I think u shud giv it a try and know is mind! Becos if u don't u would never knw! But if u at going to do it don't do it for him, do it because u want it! So dat u won't regret if anything happen
6. Marriage is nt a race don't try to rush into it! Is not hw fast is how well! Av seen many married Woman who pray everyday to b single! So pls b careful

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

..my friend u don't no dat u want,at 27 u r old enough to no wat u want..if u giv am sex u go die?u other guy,u tink he wodnt demand for sex,when u cum bak..u r nt attracted to him bcus he demand 4 sex..d 1 wey dey abroad nkor..snce u no u r nt attracted to him,why friend him..women r complicated..am nt trying to condemn u...girl use ur brain

savvy12:

The truth is that I haven't met the abroad guy yet.
Though we have been chatting on whatsapp and he sent me his pics.
He promised to come back next year by easter.
it seems I will consider other options.i dont i will hope on him.I don't really know what will happen tomorrow.
The problem is that the guys that always approach me are not the ones I'm attracted to.
Thanks for d advice.

madam you have boyfriends not fiancees. Has any of them proposed to you? Say boyfriends. You might be in the boyfriend girlfriend status for a long time.

He dnt even luv u at first. he jst wnt to hav his way. dat's all

[quote author=Nuelmatic post=63209436]I am getting married in March next year to a lady I met last year on facebook. we have never had sex because she said no sex before marriage and i know she is going to be my wife. we do every other thing like kiss and romance but not sex. sometimes, during the romance, she feels weak and wants the sex but I know at that point, she is only vulnerable by my actions but that was not what she ask for so i wont do it. Why the rush, she will marry me

sorry to say but u b mumu! Hw can u be pampering her while someone is smahing her out side! Bro i knw u want to marry her but it would stupid of u nt to av sex with her b4 marriage! It's says that one man angel can be another man bitch! Pls b careful girls of nowadays are something else

savvy12:

Nope,he isn't married. I'm sure about that

You are sure about that? I really didn't want to contribute but this your comment pulled me out. My dear, you can never be sure. I have seen men whose wife and children reside abroad and they live life here like complete bachelors.
There was even a case in my office recently. The man's family lives in pH. He pays flight ticket for my colleague to come and see him in Abuja. He has gone to see her family and they have even bought clothes for introduction and traditional wedding! Can anything be more real than these? But she later found out and her heart is in pieces as I write this.
Be wise. Don't make commitment just yet. Don't be in a hurry to give in. The right person will come along. You will have to kiss a few ugly frogs before ur prince charming comes around

savvy12:
Pls guys,I need your advice.
No insults please.

I have two men in my life right now.

The first one is a medical doctor at nauth in nnewi. According to him, he is 37 years old(10 yes older than me) but I still don't believe him cos he looks much older than his assumed age. He looks 40ish. And he is sort of secretive. He doesn't like talking about himself.we started dating last year before I lost my dad.

Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex.

pls note,I'm not a goldigger cos I'm not the type that demand money from guys.He gets angry whenever he offers me money and I refuse.

I am also dating a second guy who is abroad. He lives in Canada. I got his number through his sister who is a friend of mine. We have been chatting for 3months now and he seems like a nice guy. He said he will come back to Nigeria after applying for his citizenship card next year.

I'm confused right now.I don't know whether to forget about the doctor and focus on the abroad guy or should I beg the doc and allow him have sex with me.
I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.

my sister,if the medical doctor wants to have a future with you, he should be patient with you. I dated a girl for 3 years without sex bfore distance became a barrier between us..though I was actually the one that initiated the move. so don't sacrifice your dignity or self respect on the alter of hooking up a marriage. you wrote that he isn't attracted to you, so going back just to please him will dampen the little interest you have for him. that's how infidelity starts. if you still fancy him, let him see reasons why he should be patient with you, if you can't convince him.. nne leave him.

the abroad based guy matter is two sides of a coin. his coming back will depend on if he get the papers, how sure are you that he isn't seeing another girl..cos he may come back and change the tune of the music for you. Don't be too serious about this marriage stuff and don't allow peer pressure or societal influence to put you in an unending agony. you are still good at 27. just be yourself, the right man will definitely come.
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Lmaoooo!! you don't know as much as I know...Before now, I am a master smasher. Yeah, I know you guys here always say bitches aint loyal but I am willing to take the risk for this one

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savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

But you sleeping with other guys who don't have intention of getting married to you? Carry your smelling toto dry do guy for person wey wan manage you.