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Jupxter:
Yes mumy

Ladyhippolyta88:
Good boy.

Jupxter:
better date now, no be say when you start to dey earn pay, you say brothers are after you because of your financial resources...Start the process now..How many times i don talk am?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Up to three times,I don hear .

Jupxter:
Although we discussed extensively on and around the subject yesterday, i like to add this final point.

Now financially independent women have a deep innate craving, which is to dominate men, hide it or not, like it or not, their psyche is their financial resources gives them leverage to achieve anything a man can. I can give myself the best treatment, take care of me, and see no need for a man, this is self-delusion, as a result, she goes out, look out for a man she feels she can will her goods to ( less-financially okay guy), the mindset is if i can raise this buddy up, he will be loyal to me and these dudes many times act calm, gentle until they use the chick to hammer, and then run and go settle for less-financially independent lady.

By the time, she learns and becomes wise, she had developed a mindset that all men wants me for my goodies, she becomes introverted, can not establish emotional intimacy to a strong level without insecurities.

This is the story of many financially independent ladies, in the end, they get used by broke guys and dumped, their emotional health is another thing, one moment green, the next light....

They yearn for love, but their insecurities kobalise them, added to this problem is their character flaws, cause as they were tossed from one relationship to the next, they didn't remember to process and work on themselves. Men, i visited quite a few corporate firms this year, and when i look into the eyes of these ladies, i saw the obvious, " loneliness", guys don't go for these kinds. Maybe i should play with some for the short term self...Lol...


They moral of the story is money doesn't buy love, financially independent ladies should hide their financial status and look out for men they can build a bond with, simple things like compassion, care, laughter, smiles, step by step , line by line are the little materials needed to build a relationship and not " money". But oh no, the broke guys that can afford a few wears will keep using them, and there goes the sermon, men are this...Seeing that the average financially independent lady has a bad love history, men avoid them, cause changing their orientation no be small work, it can kill even the strongest man, incidentally, men that want to leave long run away....

But, have you noticed how broke guys chase after financially independent ladies? Lol...it makes me laugh my head off when i see many of them...and them go think say na real love...LMFAO

Martin0:
Damm! How can a men be doing all these which u ve discribed?!

Ladyhippolyta88:
That is not true.

Jupxter:
Although we discussed extensively on and around the subject yesterday, i like to add this final point.

Now financially independent women have a deep innate craving, which is to dominate men, hide it or not, like it or not, their psyche is their financial resources gives them leverage to achieve anything a man can. I can give myself the best treatment, take care of me, and see no need for a man, this is self-delusion, as a result, she goes out, look out for a man she feels she can will her goods to ( less-financially okay guy), the mindset is if i can raise this buddy up, he will be loyal to me and these dudes many times act calm, gentle until they use the chick to hammer, and then run and go settle for less-financially independent lady.

By the time, she learns and becomes wise, she had developed a mindset that all men wants me for my goodies, she becomes introverted, can not establish emotional intimacy to a strong level without insecurities.

This is the story of many financially independent ladies, in the end, they get used by broke guys and dumped, their emotional health is another thing, one moment green, the next light....

They yearn for love, but their insecurities kobalise them, added to this problem is their character flaws, cause as they were tossed from one relationship to the next, they didn't remember to process and work on themselves. Men, i visited quite a few corporate firms this year, and when i look into the eyes of these ladies, i saw the obvious, " loneliness", guys don't go for these kinds. Maybe i should play with some for the short term self...Lol...


They moral of the story is money doesn't buy love, financially independent ladies should hide their financial status and look out for men they can build a bond with, simple things like compassion, care, laughter, smiles, step by step , line by line are the little materials needed to build a relationship and not " money". But oh no, the broke guys that can afford a few wears will keep using them, and there goes the sermon, men are this...Seeing that the average financially independent lady has a bad love history, men avoid them, cause changing their orientation no be small work, it can kill even the strongest man, incidentally, men that want to leave long run away....

But, have you noticed how broke guys chase after financially independent ladies? Lol...it makes me laugh my head off when i see many of them...and them go think say na real love...LMFAO

Martin0:
This is exactly what I ve been telling most ladies but they will never never and never understand,the more reason why I left or leav them to their choice of life and mindset..

Ladies are just some kind of human's that need to be put into lab and understand deeply how their brain function

Ladyhippolyta88:
That is not true.

Jupxter:
Falling in love with a man is a problem for them, because dating many average guys has influenced how they see all men, to date them is to begin to rewire their minds, andit's not small work.

Many times, i feel like blaming anyone, i search myself for fault. If they took time to pause, think and evaluate their decisions, then they will find the right answers. Until then, let them keep buying boys with their money in the name of looking for love. Men, it's time to get this relationship game serious...

Jupxter:




I feel like asking you this question, what's the difference between a companion and a soul mate.....Can these words be used interchangeably ?

Martin0:
We nor dey talk say na only ladies get character's ooo! But will u compare their's to our own?

Jupxter:
I feel like asking you this question, what's the difference between a companion and a soul mate.....Can these words be used interchangeably ?

Martin0:
Na wa for u ooo!
Well as a lady whom u are,it will be difficult for you to accept it..

Martin0:
Exactly...

Waow any wise and serious girl on this thread should please come and see husband material ooo

I ve one babe she told me that she's not going to do relationship anymore that all she need is for me to jus get her pregnant and am done!

But unlucky for her till dat no man wants to get her pregnant and she has the money to even change their life especially the broke guy's like me

Majority allow their past to influence them which is one of the major problem why the seek for a serious relationship is astray

Ladyhippolyta88:
It won't be difficult it is simply not true.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Na una own worst pass.

Jupxter:
Their past experiences influences how they see life and they don't know.
Lol @ husband material. Not marrying is plan A now, if God wills a good lady comes, why not. But dealing with their issues na work o !

Jupxter:
Their past experiences influences how they see life and they don't know.
Lol @ husband material. THE VILLAIN OF THIS FORUM SECTION NA HIM YOU DEY CALL HUSBAND MATERIAL, MAKE DEM CATCH YOU ...Not marrying is plan A now, if God wills a good lady comes, why not. But dealing with their issues na work o !

VERDA:
The OP has a very good point about the insecurity in a lot of men and all,you have a good point too,but I can relate to what the guy said about the arrogance of a lot of working class ladies(not generalizing),I and my aunt were talking about this same issue yesterday,there are a lot of assholes who call themselves men but generally speaking men feel responsible for their woman and act accordingly,a lot of women on the other part turn monsters and start disrespecting their man once they start earning much more,and I am talking about women that were once very humble and homely,its almost like wealth and power is a weakness for a lot of women,especially wen it comes to their relationships,I have seen three or so marriages of my friends parents crumble as a result of this,in my aunt's friends case she started fighting and disrespecting her husband just cos he was not payed salary for a few months,and she had to cater for the home with her small salary,this is a hard working man that paid for her schooling and even built their own house in their early marriage lol...honestly sometimes,the way a lot of women act once they are in a position of wealth and power is scary,most times their relationships suffer wen their is down.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I think a companion can be a friend someone whom the person is close to and can share a lot together.For soulmate I believe it is persons meant for each other and I don't think it can be used interchangeably because a companion could be anybody.

Safiaaa:
If you don't have anything reasonable to say..don't comment on my thread. Noooonsensseee.

Safiaaa:
If you don't have anything reasonable to say..don't comment on my thread. Noooonsensseee.

richythePH:
Aunty i'm certain you must have been observing a very minutescule set of nigerian men albiet the wrong ones too


an average nigerian man is more attracted to a financially independent woman than he is to a financially dependent woman


majority of these financially dependent ladies mostly end up being side chics


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kazyhm:
okay.......the problem really is women cannot handle being superior maturely.......

just pay attention to when a woman is a leader in any place, they tend to be very unreasonable and very sentimental to some very minor issues. they cant withstand real pressure and they can never look the other way when intimidated/bully when they are in control.

in summary women dont have locus of control when she is superior

VERDA:
I get ur narrative and all,but ur beginning to make it seem like in life or relationships,women are supposed to be in a financial race(competition,cos u have used that word a couple of times) with their male counterparts,its suppose to be two people working to further their chosen careers while finding nuture,solace and growth in each other for the tedious journey ahead.