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Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Ladyjumong(f): 9:34am On Dec 28, 2017
ChiefPiiko:
A couple of them, but Piiko has stuck
Oh better. was thinking you went ahead with jumong tongue
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Archangel15: 9:35am On Dec 28, 2017
alexialin:
Op what you say it's true.

Now the question is how do u make a Nigerian man want you, approach you for a long term relationship?
The answer is this:

First lemme do a short intro, so u understand where am heading to:
am an independent career driven Buisness lady. I started my biz my company at the age of 27 and my late mum was my backbone. She was a successful business woman back in the days. I was very businesslike, no nonsense lady back then.

So I noticed truly men don't like to approach such working class successful ladies . I studied their character and I realized they prefer to marry Bimbos, then have us as side chicks to assist them mentally in handling their Buisness.

When I noticed it. I then decided to stop dressing like a serious minded lady. I wear more feminine soft colourful dresses, thank God I own my biz, so I can afford to look inbetween flirty and easy going with my work outfits.

Then 2ndly, I stopped footing my bills, especially 70percent of bills. Thank God the recession helped in that aspect. By low patronage and low sales, so technically I became broke, especially during the first year of buhari Regime. As I became broke , and I have bills to pay? I then transferred my financial demands to my male friends and admirers. They were happy to assist. U can see the pride, the manly look in a man's face when he is paying bills for a female friend or A lady. And when u sweetly thank them, like a pussycat cheesy they are all the more happy to go an extra mile.

Most men love to be incharge in every way possible. So give them the opportunity.

The more u say, u can pay your bills and take care of your needs without asking a dime for them. In their mind, they Wil smile and cancel u as a wife material.. Except fucvkboiz dem.

So successful career ladies, be soft , be flirty, be humble when displaying your intelligence to men.

Let them take charge, it charges up their batteries to 105%, deep down. So women in this category jusy relax and interact with men sweetly, u will notice their choices will then tilt towards soft flirty intelligent career women. wink
U went broke just to impress men? you have problems.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by waveman2: 9:35am On Dec 28, 2017
Men even the ones u give money will not allow u to b d head at home talk less of the financially Independent ones.Arrogance is Der nature so just learn to smile over everything.

Jupxter:
Simple @ We just need women that will allow us be the head at home... THIS IS ALL WE ASK !


EARN ALL THE BILLIONS BUT LET US BE !
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:35am On Dec 28, 2017
Ohh my puppy, my sis named her Elena, but I shortened it to Lena pronounced Lina
Ladyjumong:
Oh better. was thinking you went ahead with jumong tongue
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by humilitypays(m): 9:36am On Dec 28, 2017
frenzyduchess:
True talk, our Nigerian men are so egotistic that intelligent and successful women intimidate them,
it will rob them of their manlines ,you know it's only here that a man will be quick to tell you "do you know I am a man",like WTF, who said you are not a man undecided. They walk around with 20ft shoulder pad of ego on their shoulder, and the worse part is the ones abroad will never dare treat white women the way they treat our ladies here, if not na street them go see their bags grin
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy una get bad mouth o cheesy cheesy
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:37am On Dec 28, 2017
waveman2:
Men even the ones u give money will not allow u to b d head at home talk less of the financially Independent ones.Arrogance is Der nature so just learn to smile over everything.
Really ?


I need to learn tolerance then and learn to overlook things
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by PrickGetSize(m): 9:41am On Dec 28, 2017
There's a married couple in my street, very rich. They met as co-workers in one oil firm before getting married. The wife had to step down for the husband and went on a solo business venture. Eventually, she became very rich, richer and more influential than the husband. Recently, they had a serious quarrel that shook the neighbourhood. It was revealed that the wife built a house in her own name and put in tenants without informing the husband. Meanwhile, the house they live and the other one opposite them were both built by the husband.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by masks(m): 9:41am On Dec 28, 2017
Safiaaa:
This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a woman who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent woman is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.
And this rubbish made front page news....chai! @ op is it just nigerian men or men generally speaking? Besides, I think no research was really done on this thing you put up o! This is really one sided and not reasonable enough to ponder on.....Well,you made front page news....What's nairaland turning into. Gosh!!! what a waste of mb yet again...
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:44am On Dec 28, 2017
humilitypays:
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy una get bad mouth o cheesy cheesy
Na true na, that's why most of them go for near death old White women so they don't have to put up the facade for too long before the old lady kicks the bucket, the ones that marry young white women automatically have brain reset and become house husbands and errand men grin, but when they come back home, they start raising their shoulders and telling anyone who cares to listen that "I am the man" , and I am like "whatever " grin grin grin grin
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:45am On Dec 28, 2017
Realdeals:
It is a two way things, most men gives what they think the female want which is MONEY and the female folk offer SEX because they understand that's what most men that approach them will request.
The issue I have with financially bouyant women is that they tends to be arrogant, only the submissive one are enjoying relationship with their male partners.
You will hardly see a submissive lady.Arrogance has nothing to do with money or gender who is arrogant is arrogant it only takes time before you begin to notice and if you come into a relationship with the mindset of wanting to dominate you would see a revolt.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:45am On Dec 28, 2017
Safiaaa:
Really? Please tell me more, I'm interested.
nice observation safia4short ,,obviously from a lady view of point... but frm men view of point,, women are naturally dependant,, be her broke or money bouyant ! relax lemme xplain what i observe too..
dating an independent woman in naija is really a thing every guy would celebrate ..even ur Gs would envy you on daily basis .... but we all know the bigger her financial status the bigger are luggages... she might not even be demanding ..but "women (90%) wants to be pampered,,spent on,,they crave for this man-ly support" ..
the only reason why its seems like guys are feeling inferior around independent gurls is because they acknowledge the fact "ITs hard to lead someone or control even an animal you donnt feed "
for instance i'm dating a girl wu is alway talkin of millions to expand her business,,me dey earn 50k mnthly .. how can i HELP or for how long do you think i can listen n stay in that r/ship ?? women will alway need there man somehow .. even if it means faking it.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by humilitypays(m): 9:46am On Dec 28, 2017
alexialin:
Op what you say it's true.

Now the question is how do u make a Nigerian man want you, approach you for a long term relationship?
The answer is this:

First lemme do a short intro, so u understand where am heading to:
am an independent career driven Buisness lady. I started my biz my company at the age of 27 and my late mum was my backbone. She was a successful business woman back in the days. I was very businesslike, no nonsense lady back then.

So I noticed truly men don't like to approach such working class successful ladies . I studied their character and I realized they prefer to marry Bimbos, then have us as side chicks to assist them mentally in handling their Buisness.

When I noticed it. I then decided to stop dressing like a serious minded lady. I wear more feminine soft colourful dresses, thank God I own my biz, so I can afford to look inbetween flirty and easy going with my work outfits.

Then 2ndly, I stopped footing my bills, especially 70percent of bills. Thank God the recession helped in that aspect. By low patronage and low sales, so technically I became broke, especially during the first year of buhari Regime. As I became broke , and I have bills to pay? I then transferred my financial demands to my male friends and admirers. They were happy to assist. U can see the pride, the manly look in a man's face when he is paying bills for a female friend or A lady. And when u sweetly thank them, like a pussycat cheesy they are all the more happy to go an extra mile.

Most men love to be incharge in every way possible. So give them the opportunity.

The more u say, u can pay your bills and take care of your needs without asking a dime for them. In their mind, they Wil smile and cancel u as a wife material.. Except fucvkboiz dem.

So successful career ladies, be soft , be flirty, be humble when displaying your intelligence to men.

Let them take charge, it charges up their batteries to 105%, deep down. So women in this category jusy relax and interact with men sweetly, u will notice their choices will then tilt towards soft flirty intelligent career women. wink
lol, the magic of what u did is....u stopped being prideful and pompous and became more ladily than arrogant which repulses all men about a lady.


One way to get men running after u as a lady is to look good physically then wear humility and meekness as clothe.

Don't ignore any guy.... Even if u are not in the mood, politely tell him and every reasonable guy would understand and respect u but unfortunately most financially independent Nigerian ladies the op is talking about are arrogant, pompous, unfriendly and see themselves as a demi god everyone must worship, unfortunately for them, most reasonable Nigerian men don't care about them....they only keep them as side chick or marry them as 3rd wife at best.

Financially independent ladies in Nigeria are meant for gigolo fuckboiz who have 8 packs and tall like iroko, cos that's the only guys that can condone their nonsense attitude wink
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by poik(m): 9:46am On Dec 28, 2017
[quote author=Safiaaa post=63662069]This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a woman who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent woman is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.



You need to understand something.

What strokes a man's ego is not just that he has a lady he can provide for. Its because he can hinge on her financial dependence to call the shots: I am being brutally honest. No man worth his salt would want anything less. Every man wants someone who would do his bidding at some level.

As such, the issue is not that ladies who are financially independent are a scare; it's the haughtiness and nonchalance that goes with it that's the real problem. I have also seen success and humility cold rolled into one in some ladies; matter of fact it's the new definition of wisdom as thangs are now.

I, for one care less about how much a woman earns; I am looking for subservience and humility. She earns a million, she earns a billion, its all my money. Doesn't stop me catering for her normally.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:47am On Dec 28, 2017
humilitypays:
Once a Nigerian lady manages to become financially free either via securing a good job, business or trade, she becomes unruly and prideful to even respond to a normal guy's hello...so how do u expect Nigriran guys who aren't skillful women players to get them talkless of marrying themhuh That's the root of the problem most times.

After the issue of financially independent Nigerian ladies being unfriendly and looking down at any guy who isn't very popular approaching them, they are not usually respectful in marriage because they feel they can do without the man since they can take care of their financial needs.

Ask guys living abroad, especially UK, US, etc, majority of Nigerian ladies over there are not marriageable due to bad character and high rate of sleeping around for the fact that they have financial freedom.

Every man wants a woman that will complete him not one that will compete with him, get ithuh
And women want the one that would be their partners and not the one that will intimidate them or compete with them.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Funkybabee(f): 9:47am On Dec 28, 2017
All what You mentioned her is truth jare.... If you have they go talk,if you don't they will say liability... wonder why they behave like that... But to be frankling speaking Nigerian men like dependant women to cater and said they are responsible for
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by VeeVeeMyLuv(f): 9:47am On Dec 28, 2017
humilitypays:
Once a Nigerian lady manages to become financially free either via securing a good job, business or trade, she becomes unruly and prideful to even respond to a normal guy's hello...so how do u expect Nigriran guys who aren't skillful women players to get them talkless of marrying themhuh That's the root of the problem most times.

After the issue of financially independent Nigerian ladies being unfriendly and looking down at any guy who isn't very popular approaching them, they are not usually respectful in marriage because they feel they can do without the man since they can take care of their financial needs.

Ask guys living abroad, especially UK, US, etc, majority of Nigerian ladies over there are not marriageable due to bad character and high rate of sleeping around for the fact that they have financial freedom.

Every man wants a woman that will complete him not one that will compete with him, get ithuh
Mrs/miss Op, we need you to react to this stellar post,

The message is clear, allow the man to be a man, stop looking for loopholes, weak links, opportunities to deflate his ego or compete with him
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:50am On Dec 28, 2017
Ladyhippolyta88:
And women want the one that would be their partners and not the one that will intimidate them or compete with them.
Brilliant excuse
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Ladyjumong(f): 9:50am On Dec 28, 2017
ChiefPiiko:
Ohh my puppy, my sis named her Elena, but I shortened it to Lena pronounced Lina
lina. nice name. is that her on your profile pix ?
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:51am On Dec 28, 2017
frenzyduchess:
Na true na, that's why most of them go for near death old White women so they don't have to put up the facade for too long before the old lady kicks the bucket, the ones that marry young white women automatically have brain reset and become house husbands and errand men grin, but when they come back home, they start raising their shoulders and telling anyone who cares to listen that "I am the man" , and I am like "whatever " grin grin grin grin
Frenzy duchess I hail o.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:51am On Dec 28, 2017
Maybe some men like to feed their egos by spending money but

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself,
If you find a lady like this send her my way please grin because tbh, despite your lengthy post, these kind are rare
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by humilitypays(m): 9:51am On Dec 28, 2017
frenzyduchess:
Na true na, that's why most of them go for near death old White women so they don't have to put up the facade for too long before the old lady kicks the bucket, the ones that marry young white women automatically have brain reset and become house husbands and errand men grin, but when they come back home, they start raising their shoulders and telling anyone who cares to listen that "I am the man" , and I am like "whatever " grin grin grin grin
finishing cheesy cheesy cheesy

They said no matter how tall a tree is, it doesn't cross border or enter another community o, see leave us alone to show our James Bond attitude in Naija with our amiable Naija ladies, una still love us like that and we love una too lol just that u ladies need to change small kwa nu....make things de coole grin grin

Every Nigerian guy would be glad to date a financially independent lady but the issue is the so called financially independent ladies are only found in Mars, u can never see them in real life cheesy cheesy, and when u see them at all, na pomposity and pride full their body, they will be ignorin guys and forming slay, and when they get home they sob in loneliness lol
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:52am On Dec 28, 2017
Jupxter:
Brilliant excuse
Ah ah oga jupxter nor be lie I talk.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:53am On Dec 28, 2017
Ladyhippolyta88:
Frenzy duchess I hail o.
grin Sisterly what to do na, some of our men need to learn how to treat us better, me I can give kingly treatment to a man that treats me like a queen too o
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:54am On Dec 28, 2017
Ladyhippolyta88:
Ah ah oga jupxter nor be lie I talk.
Seems you don't know there's a new generation of fine men. We don't intimidate ladies oh. We just need you ladies to listen to us without mistrusting us and putting up over-bearing attitude.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by VeeVeeMyLuv(f): 9:56am On Dec 28, 2017
It is disheartening that most females goal in the 21st century relationship is to domesticate the man, I.e make him an errand boy.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Realdeals(m): 9:57am On Dec 28, 2017
Ladyhippolyta88:
You will hardly see a submissive lady.Arrogance has nothing to do with money or gender who is arrogant is arrogant it only takes time before you begin to notice and if you come into a relationship with the mindset of wanting to dominate you would see a revolt.
Dominance in men and submissiveness in women is the nature order. It doesn't just exist in human being but also in other animals. It's because human tends to apply knowledge in tweaking the nature, hence the distortions.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:58am On Dec 28, 2017
It has gone beyond the slay queen issue o, this has been on for a long time, only say na now our ladies dey speak out when we come dey see the way our brothers dey change treat women nicely when dem enter abroad.
If una want make we change, make una sef change na, ,Make all of us change together, so the family system will be come more healthy for the next generation. Na make things better me sef dey grin
humilitypays:
finishing cheesy cheesy cheesy

They said no matter how tall a tree is, it doesn't cross border or enter another community o, see leave us alone to show our James Bond attitude in Naija with our amiable Naija ladies, una still love us like that and we love una too lol just that u ladies need to change small kwa nu....make things de coole grin grin

Every Nigerian guy would be glad to date a financially independent lady but the issue is the so called financially independent ladies are only found in Mars, u can never see them in real life cheesy cheesy, and when u see them at all, na pomposity and pride full their body, they will be ignorin guys and forming slay, and when they get home they sob in loneliness lol
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by lexy2014: 9:58am On Dec 28, 2017
Safiaaa:
Yes some love dependent women. Very few love independent women, realistically speaking. But most if not all of you claim women have nothing else to offer but pussy? Can you please explain this?
how did u do ur research madam?what percentage of men consists of "very few" and what percentage consists of "most"?how did u come 2 this conclusion?
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:59am On Dec 28, 2017
odigbosky:
Live Example....
Few years ago, gat this uncle of mine, he was rich you know, had a wife and 2 kids but still he went after another woman who was doing the same business as he was. He chased her for about 5 years, this lady was financially independent. She was taking care of her younger ones...Now my uncle finally got her.
Then he started making her grow in the business. ...while doing this his own business started dancing skelewu and the woman's own was doing shoki. The woman started raising her head in the house...you will be hearing things like my house, i feed this house, i pay the children's school fees. i do this, i do that...I am not saying she is an evil woman, but i felt insecurity in my uncle....
My uncle had to fight for his pride in the house, luckily for him, his business was now receiving rays of light. Quickly it became a money tussle in the house, my uncle would always remind the wife that he made he survive in the business, she enjoys lots of privileges today in the business because of him and he would make her go back to square one in the business if she doesn't behave herself....
The is very humble, whenever my uncle threatens she withdraws. That is how they live their life...
I came to understand that a man needs a financially independent woman that he can still subdue. A woman that even if she is far wealthier than him, she knows that he is not a right off and he can still survive without her.
These days how many girls can do such....whenever i go visiting i still ponder on how my uncle keeps her in check with all her money. Yes she still brags sometimes about her money at home but i call it healthy bragging because both of them engage in it often...but she knows her boundaries.
My uncle bought a car months back, and she bought her own last week. She cannot drive oooo, na my uncle wn still dy drive the car...i asked her why she did...she said...How can my husband be driving only one car....we will be using one to our work place and the other for strolling out....
We just need women that will allow us be the head at home....
It is not a matter of being the head at home.Some ladies don't like a man that try's to over dominate and control them that is why there is a revolt.If you treat a lady like your best friend and partner I don't think she would revolt against you.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by JonnyConnection: 9:59am On Dec 28, 2017
cheesy
LadyMarionette:
Delightful piece.
Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by humilitypays(m): 10:00am On Dec 28, 2017
Ladyhippolyta88:
And women want the one that would be their partners and not the one that will intimidate them or compete with them.
lol, I don even taya for the matter self grin

Pretty, humble, respectful women control men.

So as a lady, if u want all men to worship you, be humble, be respectful, be friendly and also try and be attractive. With or without being financially independent, men will worship and adore u but if u are disrespectful, pompous, unfriendly, mannerless and arrogant, men will make earth a living hell for u even when u get married, that's the truth
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