₦airaland Forum

pcguru1:
Marry up means when you marry someone above your class e.g a woman marrying a richer man and marry down obviously means the opposite settling with someone less financially buoyant than you and also lesser in terms of class. E.g a wealthy woman marrying someone lower in financial status and also class to some point.

ChiefPiiko:
Nah you haven't reached out in a while and no one can predict when you will pop up next. Hope you good?

Safiaaa:
Most of what you're saying falls back to exactly what I was initially saying. Pride, Ego, Jealousy is a serious issue with our men. Due to these insecurities, our men would interpret the slightest things in the wrong way and would assume the woman is trying to take on their 'role'. Assume she's prideful and all other things related. Anything threatening their 'role' is dangerous to them. The ego is like an egg that constantly needs to be protected. This is the reason why they avoid women in the financially stable category 90% time, they have the 'power' to damage that egg. I wish men would learn to be more realistic and truthful. It's not a crime to prefer financially dependent women, just stop being deceitful about it. I've also realised that Nigerian men like to play the blame game, it's quite sad.

DeeMain:
You raised a great topic and instead of opening up your mind to learn from the debate you are here forming Voltron, defending your own narrow perspective. Very sad.

khiaa:
You really think so?

Safiaaa:
Ma binu.

streamsofjoy:
Kk. Never heard of such expression

Martin0:
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Well I need to convince myself beyond doubt by doing a search on what you ve said coz neither my friends posses such manner of thought as u ve earlier pointed out..

braivheart:
The family way

Martin0:
Please can you tell us exactly how africans or african men love to intimidate ladies!

Coz am ignorant of this which u ve stated!

humilitypays:
you ladies won't kill me with laugh oooo

Safiaaa:
This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a woman who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent woman is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.

Safiaaa:
This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a woman who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent woman is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.

purples25:
Always want their women to beg them for money only to insult them , always love to use them sexually then pile the sexual stigma of non virgins and the like on them , while they run around using more women, to be honest they like their women poor and decrepit so they can run over them, they will always like to shame and insult them, they don't feel like men until women's heads are bowed down in servitude and shame, leader and slave mentality , while other nationalities mostly prefer to work as a team. Don't try proving yourself as a woman cuz mostly Nigerian men connive to prove the woman is nothing by ignoring her if she is successful and defiling her if she is sexually upright, getting her into a situation where it looks like she is lying if she claims she doesn't scrounge for money off guys.

alexialin:
Seriously, you can only vouch for yourself.
It's either they are not financially OK or they are simply stingy .

Safiaaa:
This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a woman who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent woman is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.

Ladyhippolyta88:
What family way I am not understanding please explain.

braivheart:
Don't worry you'll understand on the way. The 9 lane family express way.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Some men not all and It is who has the highest pay that calls the shot.

HeyCorleone:
''A lot of Nigerian men"

In all honesty how many have you met or dealt with in order for you to arrive at such consensus?!

You just have a funny feeling and decide to make up statistics to support your claim..

And I feel the women are also at fault. They are their own problem. You only disrespect something that wants to be disrespected. Nigerian women have placed themselves in a position for so long that only calls for further disrespect. They are the ones who make it seem like their pvssy only goes in exchange for money. Of a truth a good number of them have nothing to offer apart from their vjays.

So tell me why won't such person be disrespected??

babasolution:
it might be he who as the highest pay that calls the shots,but only men generally have the ability to command obedience and authority,a broke man can still dominate his wife,money doesnt guaranty authority in the home,even a weak rich man might not be a to dominate his wife and the wife will do as she pleases as the case with most white men,who are weak towards their wives,their wifes dont submit to them,its only men who still have that core manhood in them that are dominant.Women deceive themselves by assuming if they have more money they will call the shots,its only in movies that happens or if shes married to a docile man,money only guarantees easy divorce for women it doesnt guarantee authority in their homes.that is why women feel men are intimidated or jealous when they are richer than their spouses,a woman earning more usually triggers the male dominance instincts even more,most rich guys do not oppress their wifes,its actually the poor men whose wife earn more that actually oppress their wifes more.I have also come to realize that women do not understand the nature of men,they think men are like themselves and they judge based on their own nature nt realising that men are actually very different from women or try to deduce men from what they see in movies which are usually false representations

Safiaaa:
Yes some love dependent women. Very few love independent women, realistically speaking. But most if not all of you claim women have nothing else to offer but pussy? Can you please explain this?

kazyhm:
i wont allow myself to be led by a woman irrespective whether rich/brilliant or have a career.........women tends to be emotionally attached to some silly stuffs and pay attention to trivial frivolity... they exercise power unnecessarily and always want show off indefinitely

Ladyhippolyta88:
I sincerely disagree and not all women like to be dominated and not all men as well.As for me don't try to dominate me I won't try to dominate you.

pcguru1:
When you say led what do you mean ? You can't work under a female boss professionally ? If so I don't so see any problem with that, if one is good at their job their sex is irrelevant however I also disagree like I said not all women, there are some good women who lead and also bring out the best in you. Not all women are some power drunk, but good number can be though. Where I work the ladies are chilled, though some power wielding announcer still exist there too

babasolution:
i didnt imply women like to be dominated,i only stated the natural occurence of things is that,all men naturally want to dominate women and other men,its a natural inclination,thats why men fight wars and cause unnecessary unrest everywere,men hold back because of the way the world is structured now,that is the origin of male ego,the desire to dominate,but women dont understand this,they think its a male flaw but its not its natural to men,they then try to shame men for being men,its just like the female desire to look good,women cant just help it,because its biological, the male desire to dominate also biological,so men cant just help it,its natural for men to always want to be in charge of their families and call the shots,women think its unfair,but its biological to men,men are also reasonable and dont just go about it in an oppressive manner all the time,any woman that doesnt like that cant live with a man,thats why there is so much disintegration of families,a woman can only have a complete family on the mans terms its just the way nature wanted it,even if women dont like it theres nothing that can change it,except if men stop being men which is what is happening in the western world were most of their men have been completely feminised and are turning effeminate and transgender

DJperdurabo:
Women do not know how to weild 'power'. Men fare better in this respect.

Safiaaa:
I actually cant be bothered to argue. I created this out of boredom. So I have nothing left to say.