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hello romancelanders,i just got a message from a user on my facebook group(fresh stuffs) and from the way she sounded she really did need some advice and so i taught to myself that this could be the best place to get some opinions that might help her!! These where her words "2days 2 my wedding i caught my fiance
having s** with my cos mate please what
should i do? cos am about run maaaad..." though i already told her to calm down,and i will really appreciate any help from you guys,thankyou!!!

Just wed him like that, you should have seen the sign but its already too late.

Just wed his cheating and lying ass like that, you should have seen the sign but its already too late.

Purebeerry:
Just wed his cheating and lying ass like that, you should have seen the sign but its already too late.

Was your first comment too nice?..badt girl.

Nothing To Do...
Run Mad first so That Your Blood Will Calm Down

wed him like that
after cheat with his colleague too

This matter tire me abeg

chynie:
wed him like that
after cheat with his colleague too

you just spoke my mind,but this will not lead her anywhere sha!

DeadRat:
Nothing To Do...

Run Mad first so That Your Blood Will Calm Down

hahahahahaha,bros i said help save a friend,and u want make she mad That na part of saving ni?

freshkpomo:
hahahahahaha,bros i said help save a friend,and u want make she mad That na part of saving ni?

it Depends On Her...some People Will Forgive Him And Go On With The wedding While Some Will End It All... Its All In Your Heart... Choose Your Destiny!

Purebeerry:
Just wed his cheating and lying ass like that, you should have seen the sign but its already too late.

You mean its too late for her to quit?? Wtf are u smoking

Sleep with his best man let him catch you
50.50

go ahead n marry d bi!ch ass nigga
in 2baba's voice nobody holy pass..

DeadRat:
it Depends On Her...some People Will Forgive Him And Go On With The wedding While Some Will End It All... Its All In Your Heart... Choose Your Destiny!

Ahhhh? forget wetin?

That easily...?

It will call for family meeting o...in fact, the Omonoba must hear.

What if the guy had been hammering that particular kpomo for the better part of their entire relationship nko? The forgiveness go get conditions o or killing cow can wait!

Leave him.. Don't go ahead with that scam.. Abeg

Husband scarce now, just marry him to get your kids legal father .you can divorce later if you don't want.

fatymore:
Leave him.. Don't go ahead with that scam.. Abeg

you are so right on,such a guy can never change!but it looks like the girl still love the guy from the way she is sounding!

freshkpomo:
you are so right on,such a guy can never change!but it looks like the girl still love the guy from the way she is sounding!

i know na you form story.. Well done

fatymore:
i know na you form story.. Well done

i had to indicate the name of d group because of people like you,cos una plenty for nairaland,why not go and see on fb for yourself!! Even used her own words without correcting her spellings.

freshkpomo:
you are so right on,such a guy can never change!but it looks like the girl still love the guy from the way she is sounding!

I don't think it's love that is making her to sound that way, it could be the fear of the unknown, fear of what people will say....etc
in this case the guys attitude becomes very important, is he remorseful, what is he saying, do you think he loves you (bcoz cheating on you doesn't mean he does not love you) these and many more are the factors you need to consider before taking any decision.

men are men

I'll advise that you your friend cancels the wedding. A man that can't respect your your friend's dignity isn't worth the title of a husband.

I won't advice her to go ahead with the wedding plan just because he is a guy. If it happened the other way round,most people will tell the guy to forget about her and even call her olosho. If she can bear the heartbreak and pains,let her thank her God for exposing him on time.

freshkpomo:
i had to indicate the name of d group because of people like you,cos una plenty for nairaland,why not go and see on fb for yourself!! Even used her own words without correcting her spellings.

i hear.. Good morning

This harmattan self.. U wil suffer for like 1 hour to make a woman wet and before u could smile, harmattan don dry everything

fatymore:
i hear.. Good morning

morning madam,how body?

sylvez:
I don't think it's love that is making her to sound that way, it could be the fear of the unknown, fear of what people will say....etc
in this case the guys attitude becomes very important, is he remorseful, what is he saying, do you think he loves you (bcoz cheating on you doesn't mean he does not love you) these and many more are the factors you need to consider before taking any decision.

men are men

you are really making alot of sense... I already sent a link to this thread to her,though i dont know if she is on nairaland!

i know its not easy to take a decision such as to call it quits but you may have to do that. i still believe that if you love someone, you would never cheat on them because it hurts badly.

you would think about the wedding plans, money spent, what people would say, what families would do and bla bla bla but my dear, you would be in it for years to come with no one to bail you out. better now than never.

forgive him, forget him, cancel the wedding and move on with your life but if you can condone cheating then go ahead and marry him.

goodluck.

thanks all,i just got a message from her that she have terminated the wedding!! But her second message "D news is now everywhere n am totaly
bewilded,just dnt knw wat 2 do pals. I wnt 2
run away 2 a far distance"..... Though what she is passing through is not easy but i dont know what running away will solve for her!

And so fucking what?

Thank God she left that garbage. Imagine. So from day 1 she will start being an FBI agent? Abeg. Better to be single than enter such one chance.

If I were to be her.......I wed nothing

ilobasama:
i know its not easy to take a decision such as to call it quits but you may have to do that. i still believe that if you love someone, you would never cheat on them because it hurts badly.

you would think about the wedding plans, money spent, what people would say, what families would do and bla bla bla but my dear, you would be in it for years to come with no one to bail you out. better now than never.

forgive him, forget him, cancel the wedding and move on with your life but if you can condone cheating then go ahead and marry him.

goodluck.

This is the best advise so far
Nice one