Divay22:

You can do us the honor of getting the man's side of the story....

Since the man is not ready to come out and clear the air, we'll make do with what we have now..which is the side of the woman....

Seriously, and I mean no disrespect, that's f*cked up.

-Lord

ubunja:
on principle i will always support my brother over any one. even if he is wrong.thats what you do for family.i cant let a stranger that joined our family recently break up my older relationship with my brother.as a woman you can divorce my brother if you feel betrayed.but since i cant ever divorce my brother out of my life i choose him over you. nothing personal.its a blood thing. and blood is thicker than water.

You are an embarrassment to say the least . So if your brother kills someone tomorrow, u will sing his praises because he's your brother? It's people like u who set their children up for life of waywardness and still go out to defend them with no remorse. You are really shameless and disgusting (spits)

BabbanBura:


Good luck Aunty Judge, playing God in this case!

Not doing that, what you said is actually right.... I hate to judge base on one side of a story, but now that the man is not coming out to say his own side... What can we den do.

I would really love to hear the side of the husband, based on what the brother in law said

She needs to move the heck on! You can’t use kids to hold anyone. Man or woman. She also will not gain anything by bringing her matter on Facebook and having her friends insult her in laws. That is destroying things more! This man doesn’t give a damn about you, why do you want to force him back home? So he can kill you out of annoyance or what? He doesn’t want again, so move on. She can cry and all, now that she has disgraced that girl, he will marry her.

She needs to beware of voltron friends because they just might be fighting with you to get your husband. I have seen it happen live! They will come and insult in laws and make it more terrible for you, then go behind your back and start sending nude pictures to the man. The wife is a fool.

I don't care what the woman did, I don't care if she was disrespectful or rude or whatever, was the man blind when he married her? Do men not have their own faults? Abandoning your kids for whatever reason is a no-no and in fact unforgivable in my opinion. You have four children and you're camping with a side chic, trust me those children will not listen to your excuses on why you were not there for them or why you ran out on them.

Apina:

You are an embarrassment to say the least

embarrasment to you.
and its OK. who are you that i should waste my time impressing you??

kelechiMarie:
I don't care what the woman did, I don't care if she was disrespectful or rude or whatever, was the man blind when he married her? Do men not have their own faults? Abandoning your kids for whatever reason is a no-no and in fact unforgivable in my opinion. You have four children and you're camping with a side chic, trust me those children will not listen to your excuses on why you were not there for them or why you ran out on them.

This is why people should have something doing and have kids they can take care of. Marriage cannot tie a man or woman to you. Kids also cannot tie a man or woman to you. People can leave and abandon you anytime.

LordAdam16:


Now you can't point it out.

See, if you think that sentimentality sh*t works on me, you're thinking wrong.

I'm not going to lose sleep over the label some a**-faced anonymous fellow places on me because he lacks the ability to comprehend.

-Lord

LordAdam16:


Yh.

But she's the only new member of the family that can tap out whenever she's fed up by way of divorce and cart away whatever the Judge feels is good enough for her.

True, sister- and daughter-in-laws should be made to feel welcome. They should be supported. They should be well taken care of. But don't bring that newcomer/family BS. True family members can't drop the mic. She can.

And that's where his opinion stems from.

-Lord

Sentiments? I only speak fact. You are being sentimental. I told you that true family members also betray trust so tell me more about sentiments between the both of us? In life some people have killed family members for selfish goals or because they are in a fix. I have read about men who butcher their loving mom's because baba told them to bring the person they love most etc.even though they have killed a million others for or because of those family members in the past.

You guys talk with both sides of the mouth, one moment you want a wife to give her all in her marriage because her husband is her new family and new blood but when you people see Kobo Kobo, penny penny you start shouting she is a stranger. Yinmu!!

Divay22:


Not doing that, what you said is actually right.... I hate to judge base on one side of a story, but now that the man is not coming out to say his own side... What can we den do.

I would really love to hear the side of the husband, based on what the brother in law said

It may turn out to be washing their (or her) dirty linen in public. Just imagine if the possibilities i menrioned earlier are true, coming out with them on social media is too dirty for her and even worst for the kids psychologically, may be not now but in the future as the media is the best repository of info, media never forgets.

Some men will rather do what Yusuf (Joseph) chosed to do when he found out that Maryam (Mary) bethroted to him was preganant and it wasn't his.

ubunja:

and neither will my brother forget those family members who betrayed him. we cant please everyone. we just choose who we cant afford to let down.and i can never let my brother down.

I am assuming you are either a Christian or a Muslim. Apologies if I got this wrong.

When you are praying to your God and you are asking for mercy that your sins should be forgiven. .. What you have done, what you have failed to do.... Do you expect to be forgiven for your sins. when you willingly know what you are doing.

Like I keep saying there is Right and there is Wrong no matter how hard we try to dress it up or justify it. Even not saying anything means you condone it. No matter what we should not support evil and speak up . That person may later thank you for being honest.

Rubyventures:


I am assuming you are either a Christian or a Muslim. Apologies if I got this wrong.

When you are praying to your God and you are asking for mercy that your sins should be forgiven. .. What you have done, what you have failed to do.... Do you expect to be forgiven for your sins. when you willingly know what you are doing.

Like I keep saying there is Right and there is Wrong no matter how hard we try to dress it up or justify it. Even not saying anything means you condone it. No matter what we should not support evil and speak up . That person may later thank you for being honest.

its not a moral issue.thats what you all miss.its about a conscious decision we made not to let anyone break our family apart. all the verses in the world wont change that.

delishpot:



Sentiments? I only speak fact. You are being sentimental. I told you that true family members also betray trust so tell me more about sentiments between the both of us?

Where is the "never" in that comment?

I'm speaking on average. It's a bloody universal truth.

Families are one till death, give no conditions, expect no favors (except you're dealing with a sh*thead). And then it doesn't matter if the person is a family member or a stranger--s/he is bad news.

Wives can leave whenever they want. They don't owe you anything.

If a father doesn't take care of you, you're expected to make up with him, and forgive whatever, at least before he passes. Even if it's at his death bed, all the better.

There's no such unwritten rule for wives who leave you. When they're gone, they're gone. Like ex-girlfriends, ex-friends, ex-classmates, ex-colleagues. It means sh*t. Even if she gives birth for you, you're expected to be in good terms with any lady who births your child. She doesn't have to be married to you.

Don't try to act smart when you're dumber than a burrito.

-Lord

ubunja:
bros over hoes

Actually your brother is dying in a 'hoe'

LordAdam16:


Where is the "never" in that comment?

I'm speaking on average. It's a bloody universal truth.

Families are one till death, give no conditions, expect no favors (except you're dealing with a sh*thead). And then it doesn't matter if the person is a family member or a stranger--s/he is bad news.

Wives can leave whenever they want. They don't owe you anything.

If a father doesn't take care of you, you're expected to make up with him, and forgive whatever, at least before he passes. Even if it's at his death bed, all the better.

There's no such unwritten rule for wives who leave you. When they're gone, they're gone. Like ex-girlfriends, ex-friends, ex-classmates, ex-colleagues. It means sh*t. Even if she gives birth for you, you're expected to be in good terms with any lady who births your child. She doesn't have to be married to you.

Don't try to act smart when you're dumber than a burrito.

-Lord

And you are so wise you measured the wisdom in a burritos brain. Like I said, don't look for calamity in a person until they give you a reason even if it is your siblings. Go tell those kids who were left to die in trash cans about forgiving their parents. Blood o, stranger o anyone can betray you and you should not foolishly hug fire because your mom is a dragon. Don't turn a blind eye to evil because it is your family member. No one said you should abandon him or cast him away so I wonder why you just assume that. Unless your brother is a no good piece of shit who block out anybody that calls his attention to his faults and you guys are afraid to tell him the truth. If your brother has this same mentality as you, he will not abandon you simply because you want to reunite his home or because you wish for him to take care of his kids. Seems that family love is only one sided.

ubunja:

our family is not a family of perfect individuals.if we threw every offending member under the bus very soon our family would cease to exist.
family is a limited resource.we forge ahead with our baggage.

Nobody says u should throw anyone away......
But being each others conscience would keep everyonepn the right track......



What use is a foolish brother, anyway?

delishpot:


And you are so wise you measured the wisdom in a burritos brain. Like I said, don't look for calamity in a person until they give you a reason even if it is your siblings. Go tell those kids who were left to die in trash cans about forgiving their parents. Blood o, stranger o anyone can betray you and you should not foolishly hug fire because your mom is a dragon. Don't turn a blind eye to evil because it is your family member. No one said you should abandon him or cast him away so I wonder why you just assume that. Unless your brother is a no good piece of shit who block out anybody that calls his attention to his faults and you guys are afraid to tell him the truth. If your brother has this same mentality as you, he will not abandon you simply because you want to reunite his home or because you wish for him to take care of his kids. Seems that family love is only one sided.

How can you seriously be so senseless?

Like why are you trying so hard to be annoying.

Can you f*cking read?

-Lord

WONDERS001:


Nobody says u should throw anyone away......
But being each others conscience would keep everyonepn the right track......



What use is a foolish brother, anyway?

if he is a foolish brother then my sister-in-law is reaping what she sowed when she married a foolish man.
we were born with him thats our excuse.what excuse does that woman have for uniting with a foolish man??

I will never believe a woman side of the story..NEVER..they are never ever innocent..dig well..there is always more to their stories

ubunja:

if he is a foolish brother then my sister-in-law is reaping what she sowed when she married a foolish man.
we were born with him thats our excuse.what excuse does that woman have for uniting with a foolish man??

And the children too?
They are reaping the reward of what exactly?
I don't think any of those kids are up to 10. If the sweet brother of yours wants out if the marriage fine! No one is forcing him to stay married to a woman he hates.
But what I could read the woman asking was school fees for her triplet.
And yph saying you'll pick your irresponsible brother over innocent kids is dumb.

Don't dance around it. He is responsible fr the kids he sired. And you should never support him to hurt kids. Thats psychotic.

ReinaFarine:


And the children too?
They are reaping the reward of what exactly?
I don't think any of those kids are up to 10. If the sweet brother of yours wants out if the marriage fine! No one is forcing him to stay married to a woman he hates.
But what I could read the woman asking was school fees for her triplet.
And yph saying you'll pick your irresponsible brother over innocent kids is dumb.

Don't dance around it. He is responsible fr the kids he sired. And you should never support him to hurt kids. Thats psychotic.

LMFAOOO just look at how everyone is lining up to be heard speaking their peace.
if my brother wants the kids taken care of they will be taken care of.if he's not interested we are not interested.end of story.
go bersek go mad go mental go religious go crazy go whatever way you feel about it, but nothing is changing. continue wasting your words.

Foolish wives who can’t respect themselves.
Man nor want you and your children, you dey dey cry?

Women need to realize that a MAN can walk away at ANY TIME in a relationship. Children or no children, na your wahala to MOVE ON!

Women! Always stay employed and TAKE CARE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

Hear ye!
Hear ye!

Smh...men and their wahala!

seriously ..does marital crisis now get settled on Twitter... you are seeking for prayers on Twitter instead of u to go to LOrds chosen or mountain of fire.Ministry ....let dem teach u how to pray....huh.. calling dem awt on Twitter wud only worsen d issue...it's a family issue n shud be dealt privately not on social media..... U are only disgracing ursef.... when he comes back to u...WUD u be able to erase this from twitter huh...!!!u said she used charm on you...oh u know... y can't u do better... u are dere crying n calling on ppu.to help u pray.. u ain't serious!!!!

Some men are basically stupid skirt chasers

Abeg ,is time for Ogun (god of iron) wedding. u mess up,u mess ur life.shikena.

ubunja:
on principle i will always support my brother over any one. even if he is wrong.thats what you do for family.i cant let a stranger that joined our family recently break up my older relationship with my brother.as a woman you can divorce my brother if you feel betrayed.but since i cant ever divorce my brother out of my life i choose him over you. nothing personal.its a blood thing. and blood is thicker than water.

chai see your fowl brain

ubunja:
on principle i will always support my brother over any one. even if he is wrong.thats what you do for family.i cant let a stranger that joined our family recently break up my older relationship with my brother.as a woman you can divorce my brother if you feel betrayed.but since i cant ever divorce my brother out of my life i choose him over you. nothing personal.its a blood thing. and blood is thicker than water.

You sound like someone that escaped from an asylum

ubunja:

LMFAOOO just look at how everyone is lining up to be heard speaking their peace.
if my brother wants the kids taken care of they will be taken care of.if he's not interested we are not interested.end of story.
go bersek go mad go mental go religious go crazy go whatever way you feel about it, but nothing is changing. continue wasting your words.

from your comments it seems your mother did your family bad.....

solostar1:
from your comments it seems your mother did your family bad.....

everyone seems determined to cure a disease that doesnt exist.lmfaooo

Casmir14:
You sound like someone that escaped from an asylum

blah blah blah whatever. eat me.

ubunja:

Diva im with my brother in everything.if my brother strays then i support him with his new female.i go with my brother in every choice he makes, thats my duty.
the kids dont matter.my brother is all that matters.
if a woman feels disrespected by my brother then she must just divorce him.but she must not expect my sympathy coz that will divide me and my brother.and i will NEVER allow that.

real bros correct themselves bluntly when they go astray. i wont like to have a bro like you... no offense but your loyalty is misdirected and will lead to doom in your family

No matter what the disagreement might be I will not neglect my kids for any woman. The man should take care of his kids. They should not suffer for all this.