damichworld:

What is wrong in a woman owning a property to her name solely?

Madam , 100% wrong
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As a man is my duty to guide,provide and secure her wellbeing....No woman under my roof can carryout d act

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I got married 2012, before d wedding my wife informed me about a property(land) she brought which am happy to hear that .Right now am d advising her to start something on it

Marriage is all about understanding and been honest to each other.

Did you by any chance go through what was written before typing this epistle? He never said it's wrong owing a property but the problem is keeping it a way from the husband. She even denied being the owner even when confronted. Please always read to understand, not to respond.

Adamrealman78:
After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

bro quite it and let her go

Love is indeed blind. You mean you couldn't see all these traits before you got married to the biatch?

Adamrealman78:
I see responses saying I feel hurt for not telling me about her project! Wrong, I am happy about her success, but when a woman you support to be a success uses your kindness to elevate herself and wants to run you into penury.be wise,at a time she borrowed 400k for a project and I ended paying the loan,I sold my old car,borrowed another 300k to meet her needs.As a rule to make her feel loved, I never for once in 6yrs requested what I wanted.I made sure my provision for her needs are what she wanted.just imagine, I lost my old job in 2014.even without a job,I sold my assets to take care of the home. After making sure I was broke, she would leave me in the house with N200 to eat till she came back from the shop. When God now gave me a federal appointment in Abuja, she told me to resign and come back to Lagos. This is just the tip of the iceberg, if I talk more.I would break the Internet.

I'm advising you to divorce her, not because of her childlessness but for the fact that she can't sacrifice for you a little as much as you sacrifice for her. She owns a property means she already plan for it. And she can't support you cos she thinks another woman will benefit from it in the end.

Majority of the comments here are from people that are not married, I doubt if the op truly love his wife, from your write I see a lot of lies there and is clear that you've been cheating on her over there in Abuja. If you make a women feel insecure she will do everything on her own without consulting you. Do you truly marry her or you guys are cohabitating? If truly you love and respect her you wouldn't have the gut to take another lady you even called her your new wife. No matter the medical conditions of your woman she needs your help to pull through not torture. And from your write you are a saint while she is a sinner. In marriage it takes two to tango.

NoToPile:


Madaam the madam, the bolded part got me. No be everything be gragra, women have a lot of power we just don't know how to use it.




@topic that lady knew he was cheating

That my point she was not secure in the marriage. The guy Is not faithful to her

Adamrealman78:
,her test results show, blocked fallopian tubes, uterine fibroids and no ovulation.. What magic do you expect I do?

so you have been looking for an opportunity to let her go ThankGod she has a house

vicadex07:


pls avoid that woman at all costs. I know their type. very selfish, evil and diabolic. Maybe her jazz just recently expired. Flee at all costs before she go and renew the jazz subscription.

Are you married?

Adamrealman78:
She can't change. I saw this attitude long ago,but thought pure love and affection could reform her.if I continue in the relationship, she would ruin me into debt.

oga divorce her any woman dat can do such without telling her husband dat woman can kill you divorce is the answer

madridguy:
Divorce is not the answer sir.

It is d only ans! A lot of immature ladies are getting married, let them learn maturity on d streets.


My guys dating divorcees, always sing of d maturity displayed, as reasons for not wanting to let go.

GrammarCheck:


You should be more supportive. I married in 2009, I had multiple cysts, no ovulation as well. I ran from pillar to post. Did all sorts of treatment. Finally, after 5 years my husband said STOP! Let's just STOP and enjoy our lives. My mother in law said STOP, let go and let God. I had a support system that made me feel not having a baby is not the end of the world. Doctors said I should come for IVF, they saw one blocked tube. Hubby said no. Infact, he took me abroad for a long awaited honeymoon, after 5yrs. I came back pregnant, even he wasnt expecting it. He said it was too sudden. Can you imagine After delivery, got pregnant with another baby the following month. My two deliveries were 10months interval. With no ovulation.

My husband refused to touch me after the 2nd pregnancy. Said I was a magnet. Took counselling for him to finally come close. He has been begging me not to get pregnant again, but I want twins
With no ovulation.

As I am, I get a period once in 6mths, without intervention. I only know I'm pregnant because I start vomiting. Because there is no period to say 'I missed my period'.

My point is... Be patient, and work with your woman. Who said God cannot turn around a situation? You have given up on your wife, and that is not Godly.

Can two work together except they agree? You need to put away the strange woman and work with your wife. You have only been married 6 years. There is a lifetime ahead of you. These are just bumps along the way.

If I tell you the one my husband did to me. I asked him to inspect a property. He said it was good, he liked the area, it is something he has been looking for. As a the doting wife, I gave him the money to help me buy it. He bought it in his name. The world has not ended. I was angry, but he has my mumu button.

As we are, I have used sense to collect back the money over time. I never said, give me back my money. But for everything I send a budget for, I inflate the cost. Even money for the schoolchool fees, diapers and food. I am shopping for another property which I will buy in my name. I will tell him, for info purposes only. This life is wisdom. So I should have divorced him because he played a fast one on me?

When I confronted him, he said I am a woman, I should be submissive. Ok, in submission, no problem, we will meet on the bed at night, where he cannot say no to my demands.

My intuition is telling me that you were the person who 'liked' the message. Intuitions can be wrong, though

You have friends, right. Hook me up. It might ultimately 'end up'

Daalu!

Adamrealman78:
She can't change. I saw this attitude long ago,but thought pure love and affection could reform her.if I continue in the relationship, she would ruin me into debt.

Op, u better run as fast as ur kegs can carry u from that useless and selfish woman. U also need to borrow legs to join your own legs to increase the speed. ..
..Or else, u will have a life long regrets... Good luck..
..

Georgeisco2007:


Did you by any chance go through what was written before typing this epistle? He never said it's wrong owing a property but the problem is keeping it a way from the husband. She even denied being the owner even when confronted. Please always read to understand, not to respond.

See how you are confidently believing him like you are in his heart. Have you heard the wife's side of the story to make any sound judgement?

A man that doesn't think it is wrong to make a public ridicule of his wife.. Is that one a man?

A man that has only painted his wife as the wicked and never changing sinner yet h is the saint.. Is that one a man?

I bet if she was your sister, you would not like such wicked treatment meted out to her.

One can easily decipher that the op is just a liar & an immature fellow

The thing pain am sey the lady get foresight. Shior

When she started building that house for herself and only for her, she moved on long ago but you didnt know. What a pity. It obvious you moved on too when you started seeing this other lady while you are still married.
Both of you are wrong. It better you both go your separate ways.

Adamrealman78:
I don't usually talk about my experience with the public, but I beg men in the house. Even when women treat you badly,use wisdom to defeat folly. Never use a bad experience to react in a new relationship. People are intricately different. Life comes with its ups and downs.I thought I would depressed and frustrated but being an optimist, I rose up and moved .no curse,no resentment .the ocean is big enough for all types of fish.karma has a funny way of getting retribution.

bro ur situation might get worse except divine intervention. Be the judge of your situation and determine if the marriage is still worth saving. If it isn't bro it's time to move on. Bros don't kill your self in a marriage that happiness is far from you. The means painful thing is loving a woman who won't reciprocate the same way. such women won't find it difficult to cheat. Do the needful

Adamrealman78:
I don't usually talk about my experience with the public, but I beg men in the house. Even when women treat you badly,use wisdom to defeat folly. Never use a bad experience to react in a new relationship. People are intricately different. Life comes with its ups and downs.I thought I would depressed and frustrated but being an optimist, I rose up and moved .no curse,no resentment .the ocean is big enough for all types of fish.karma has a funny way of getting retribution.

bro ur situation might get worse except divine intervention. Be the judge of your situation and determine if the marriage is still worth saving. If it isn't bro it's time to move on. Bros don't kill your self in a marriage that happiness is far from you. The most painful thing is loving a woman who won't reciprocate the same way. such women won't find it difficult to cheat. Do the needful

I think this is one of the very few people (on this thread) qualified to advice the OP not to divorce his wife.

Also, madam, I am impressed yet terrified by your manipulative skills. I mean this in a positive way.

GrammarCheck:


You should be more supportive. I married in 2009, I had multiple cysts, no ovulation as well. I ran from pillar to post. Did all sorts of treatment. Finally, after 5 years my husband said STOP! Let's just STOP and enjoy our lives. My mother in law said STOP, let go and let God. I had a support system that made me feel not having a baby is not the end of the world. Doctors said I should come for IVF, they saw one blocked tube. Hubby said no. Infact, he took me abroad for a long awaited honeymoon, after 5yrs. I came back pregnant, even he wasnt expecting it. He said it was too sudden. Can you imagine After delivery, got pregnant with another baby the following month. My two deliveries were 10months interval. With no ovulation.

My husband refused to touch me after the 2nd pregnancy. Said I was a magnet. Took counselling for him to finally come close. He has been begging me not to get pregnant again, but I want twins
With no ovulation.

As I am, I get a period once in 6mths, without intervention. I only know I'm pregnant because I start vomiting. Because there is no period to say 'I missed my period'.

My point is... Be patient, and work with your woman. Who said God cannot turn around a situation? You have given up on your wife, and that is not Godly.

Can two work together except they agree? You need to put away the strange woman and work with your wife. You have only been married 6 years. There is a lifetime ahead of you. These are just bumps along the way.

If I tell you the one my husband did to me. I asked him to inspect a property. He said it was good, he liked the area, it is something he has been looking for. As a the doting wife, I gave him the money to help me buy it. He bought it in his name. The world has not ended. I was angry, but he has my mumu button.

As we are, I have used sense to collect back the money over time. I never said, give me back my money. But for everything I send a budget for, I inflate the cost. Even money for the schoolchool fees, diapers and food. I am shopping for another property which I will buy in my name. I will tell him, for info purposes only. This life is wisdom. So I should have divorced him because he played a fast one on me?

When I confronted him, he said I am a woman, I should be submissive. Ok, in submission, no problem, we will meet on the bed at night, where he cannot say no to my demands.

Adamrealman78:
After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

Sorry sir....

Close down the Lagos business and take your wife to Abuja to live with you period

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madridguy:
Divorce is not the answer sir.

So what is the answer? Tell us.

graciously2013:

Are you married?

What difference does it make? So I can't recognize evil because I probably aren't married according to you?

Here is a woman who her husband loved and catered for at all costs even against his family wish only for him to loose his job and wife started giving him n200 daily to sustain from a business he probably set up for her.

After that the Op managed to get another better paying job only for the lady to advice him to resign and relocate back to Lagos for her sake and continue with his n200 daily stipend.

I hope u went through all the ops post very well. Unless the Op is lying, that woman is purely selfish and evil.

Bros, do you think you can solve a problem by creating more problems?
When there is a problem, the best way to start solving it is to start bn neutral. Be rational and fair. Don't start apportioning blame to the other person. Start from sincerely asking yourself if there is/are thing(s) you are doing that might be remotely causing the problem.

Explore every factor that may be contributory to the problem. After this, ask yourself, if I'm in the other person's shoes what will be my reaction in such a situation (considering his/her strength and weakness).

At this point, if u are rational and fair, u may withdraw some of the harsh decision u may have preferred.

For your case my brother, I beliv ur wife is feeling unaccepted by ur family and u are not helping matters. I assume that you may not have given her that hope that you will always be wt her. So, she started on time to secure her future. Mind you, I am not totally supporting her taking such a project outside ur knowledge and consent.

Secondly, u beliv that the inability of her to conceive is solely her making. You may have bn directly or indirectly showing her ur regret for not listening to ur parents when they objected you marrying her. That display is killing that woman u called ur wife. U need to kw this.
Let me also tell u that her childlessness is not that she is barren. The distance between two of u (Abuja and Lagos) is really contributing to that.
How many times do u meet her in a month to enable her conceive? When u will be opportune to visit her, how sure are you that she will be on her ovulation period. Why not try and spend more time with her to see if God will not do it for u.

My brother, u want to divorce ur wife cos she refused to give u 20k wen u knw full well that has enof in her account. Chaiiii.....my brother who is doing dis to u naa. The reason sounds so pathetic. Pls rebuke the devil that want to destroy ur life. I have not seen any good reason for considering divorce. Don't even let her have a wind of this ur tot else you will make her case worst.

Leave that woman alone. Rehabilitate her, groom her into what you want her to be. Give her hope and assurance that you will not forsake her and I bet you, you will enjoy ur marriage.

Adamrealman78:
sorry for yourself, this happened last week Monday, on Tuesday I bleeped my new wife.she is on her way to Abuja to replace the other one.life goes on always have plan b,c,d-z

If u already f**ked a new wife and moved on, why d f**k do u need our advice?

Abi your village people don collect ur sense too?
Tell me u have not been cheating on her.... Because she also made plan bcd&e just as u did, that is why u are pained. U wanted a foolish woman who will stay and be doing mumu crying and begging when u and ur foolish family member come to chase her out of the house bah?

Thank god say she sef wise and she probably knew u were cheating otherwise, how do u explain moving on from a woman u have been married to for six years within two days?

Oga u gat no sinparty from me because u too deserve each other.

Cunny man die, Cunny man bury am

graciously2013:

That my point she was not secure in the marriage. The guy Is not faithful to her

She knows and the fact that she doesn't have a child yet added to her insecurity so she was planning her exit.

She seems to have given up anyway, just check out the combination inlaws that don't want her, she's not finding it easy to have a child and then you add a cheating husband to the mix, too dangerous a combination that can make any woman act like she did.

Brugo:


Also, madam, I am impressed yet terrified by your manipulative skills. I mean this in a positive way.

Don't mind my pokenosing, but why are you terrified? Besides it really is not 'manipulating' in the real sense of it.

Adamrealman78:
After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

Don't divorce her, get a second wife and stop being naive and stupid.

Relationship or marriage? Ayam not understanding

Richy4:
So you have replaced her already... with a new one.. No wonder she built with out informing u.

The daughters of the land are now becoming really wise.. I am impressed.. How can she come out of 6 years marriage with suitcase..

All the best man..

My thoughts exactly. Women are wiser now, no more slow thinking and mumu begging and trying to salvage what cannot be repaired.

I feel he has been cheating and d wife found out.

AAgain Mr. Man, if u have been cheating and ur side chic could not get pregnant for u, it proofs u are d barren one and not ur wife.

Vyolet:
Imagine o, all these men know is to see that a woman suffers and loses in everything.
She has been married to you for 6years,no child, you went ahead to marry another woman which your wife is aware of,as well as all your other escapades all in a bid to father a child, now you expect her to carry you along in all her plans as who exactly? She moved on faster than you and doesn't want to be left behind. It will be her fault when she loses her marriage with no child nor any asset to compensate for the years she wasted with you. African women are getting wiser, the world does not revolve around men alone.

A piece of advice, check again to be sure you are not the one with infertility problem, once you new wife says she is pregnant, be sure to do a DNA test after the delivery.

Abi ooo

Seahawk:
Yes you’re a saint but you have a woman on the side

you are a typical radical feminists, who attack men for practicing patriarchal values,yet still ignore his good woman dominating sides that you hate, and lambast him for not seeing his wife as equal...wives that never saw her husband as equal

Your wife building a house without your knowledge can not be the reason why you are this angry....if you want a child marry a second wife, you are an African for God's sake.