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lefulefu:
My dad fell in love with my mom the first time he saw her and she did likewise.na wetin dem tell me.so dat was an attraction b/w them before they tied the knot. I certainly can't be with a lady i am not attracted to cos i am with one i will certainly cheat on her.if her character is completely off and she come wowor join join ..omo i don waka be dat. U can only grow in love when certain character of hers attracts u.

Lefulefu are you saying that when a good character attracts you to a girl then the physical beauty dosent matter so much?

Twoclans:
Lefulefu are you saying that when a good character attracts you to a girl then the physical beauty dosent matter so much?

at least she must be ok in appearance na. I am not saying she must look like those overmade up instagram models .but at least she's just ok facially and figure wise. Some ladies really don't care about their appearance. Appearance is still important as well as character cos if her appearance is zero how will the man notice her and talk to her.forget those guys wey go tell u say dem no fashi physical appearance.they are not being honest with themselves.

Is there anything like "growing in love"?.(Just thinking out loud). Because even the word "love" in the context of relationship is confusing me oh.. Is it that, when people grow in love they can probably get to the point of perfect love or pure love on the "love ladder"?.. Now, let us assume that the love was grown to an enviable level on the love ladder, the next question would be, how are we going to sustain this lovely relationship if there were no other levels on the ladder?

If the love is sustained then continue to kiss and enjoy it, what if the love could not be sustained at the highest level? Yea, your guess is right, the love may gradually or rapidly drop off depending on the circumstances and it would be the time for people(reasonable/mumu) with hidden advisory skills to playyy e.g relationship expert, love doctor, marriage chancellor, pastor, OAPs on radio and so on. Now, if love can grow according to the op, then love can decline on my "love ladder". And i asked myself, can love be at "equilibrium", if yes, how do we achieve it? If no, then let us continue to playyy the love game of growing and declining like a pric'k during fvcks and after fvcks.

Don't forget that the 'growing in love' couple may apply every strategy to avoid growing in pains(the fear of losing the lover). So, love is threatened (an opportunity for love coaches) everyday. Can two people reasonably grow in love at the same rate? i doubt, but if you say yes due to your experience or faith then i'll say good for you. Abeg, this "romantic love" matter wey plenty people still dey try to figure am out..

lefulefu:
at least she must be ok in appearance na. I am not saying she must look like those overmade up instagram models .but at least she's just ok facially and figure wise. Some ladies really don't care about their appearance. Appearance is still important as well as character cos if her appearance is zero how will the man notice her and talk to her.forget those guys wey go tell u say dem no fashi physical appearance.they are not being honest with themselves.

LOL at your figure wise, just tell us she must be ukwulicious .

pocohantas:
I can relate. Once I dislike person, it's finished...
Lord forgive me.

I think we fit each other.

do unto others as u want them to do to you ,if u want to b loved then show some love

OP! Doesn't know what real pain is..

sisisioge:
Tokunbo and love/relationship gist na 5&6...may God bless us with our heart desires o.

Amen.
Good morning

lefulefu:
i feel u. U in Europe and white girls are not that appealing to u cos of their ironing board flat booty.

Nah you talk am o.

chronique:
Well, I know I have that problem but there's little I can do about it. Some of us are not just lucky. There's a small girl I like and wouldn't mind settling with. She's not my kind of pretty but there are other things I like about her. My no one problem is that she isn't ready for that life now.

There's another person I like but I fear may turn out to be trouble, due to family background.

Girl three is averagely there,does her own small thing but she has this insecurity/complex issues (from my observation). I don't think I can deal with that.

Girl 4 was introduced to me by an old friend. Average in looks and works+has her own biz. My problem with her is that I fear she'd be troublesome(especially when I hear her speaking my language). I'm not sure I want to even marry from my place.

Girl 5. Hmmm. We met on sm. Had been a friend on Fb for long but we weren't chatting. Lately, we got talking and I realized we connect very well. Pretty, has a nice shape and physique, speaks well, elegant, classy, exposed, intelligent, matured, etc. Turns out she's a single mom but that isn't a problem to me. I'm praying and hoping that if I eventually get very serious with her, the baby daddy wouldn't come back and start picking up from where he left off. I don't need that kind of drama.


From all 5, no 5 and no 1,are currently my favorite picks. I just hope I don't make a mistake.

Nice.... Am learning

I do not fall in love ,neither do i show love.i do not have problem with women or girls or ladies or old women.
its always the other way round.most women or girls who are afraid to tell a man they are in love would begin to have that mind and allow their will emotions and feelings to control them.
The moment a girl is near you as a guy or many girls near u & u never had any mind to marry or date any of them,u had better start serious prayers to commit their mind,will and emotions ,feelings into Gods hands.if u don't u r in soup cos satan wld use them to get to u or bring u down.
in dat case,when they are in love,no mata wat u tell dem,they wld not listen cos of dt thought of marriage satan puts in dm.
when u never pay attention to them& they hv dt mind.prepare 4 trouble.but if u ve 20girls and u r praying 4 them.u r safe.so far ur mind is pure & u bind spirits of lust,fornication,seduction & envy,jealousy.
it is y dey told u women are weaker vessels.
warning.:never ever in your life joke with a womans thought

Twoclans:
LOL at your figure wise, just tell us she must be ukwulicious .

hehehe

Zykod:
Na lie. Big fat lie

I agree, I stayed with someone (circumstances lead to it) for years thinking it will grow, unfortunately it did not, i tried but no way, so I don't believe in 'grow in love'...for me oooo

Toks2008:
You can't understand and I can't spell it out here.

If I'm in Naija it would have been easier.

I'm a faithful guy to the core and the idea of cheating on my wife is appalling which makes it compulsory for me to get my taste...expecially the type that has the exterior dimension I want cos whatever is pleasing to my eyes will inadvertently be pleasing to my soul.

Oga you are absolutely right in that regard. Physical attraction is also very important, as that will take your eyes off chasing or being tempted to chase ladies outside. there is no point settling for something you are not attracted to because at some point you will be tempted to taste that attractive thing outside when the opportunity presents itself. Having good behaviours is great, but as for me i'll rather wait and get the one with good behaviours and physically attractive to me than settle for less.

IBBG:
Oga you are absolutely right in that regard. Physical attraction is also very important, as that will take your eyes off chasing or being tempted to chase ladies outside. there is no point settling for something you are not attracted to because at some point you will be tempted to taste that attractive thing outside when the opportunity presents itself. Having good behaviours is great, but as for me i'll rather wait and get the one with good behaviours and physically attractive to me than settle for less.

Gbam!

It's all about patience... why should I be making love to my wife and fantasizing about another?

In Nigeria it is quite easier and all you need do is go to the village if needs be and get a drop dead sexy lady even if you have to brush her up.

midehi2:
I agree, I stayed with someone (circumstances lead to it) for years thinking it will grow, unfortunately it did not, i tried but no way, so I don't believe in 'grow in love'...for me oooo

Nice boobs