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peacettw:
Kk then.. It's sad that you had to go through all that but surely you can't think all our females are cut from the same cloth..

Jupxter:
It will be fun see them do the give me a husband or i die dance when they hit 91


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It's also fun to watch ladies trim down on expectations



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It's even more fun when they turn 40 still single and become " needless " intercessors



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Oyindidi:

Jupxter:
My dear sister, the thing dey totori you abi ( for lolo voice )

Oyindidi:
As in, too funny.

Good evening derailer!

Jupxter:
The derailment was educative...




It will be fun see them do the give me a husband or i die dance when they hit 91


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It's also fun to watch ladies trim down on expectations



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It's even more fun when they turn 40 still single and become " needless " intercessors



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Oyindidi:
una weldone, I dey side dey watch. Make I mention you and saga for one thread like that.

Jupxter:
Abeg o, males no too much for my family oh... Biko...

Oyindidi:
I want know una take about this

https://www.nairaland.com/4299150/please-advise-me-marital-issue


Cc: sagamite

Jupxter:
Okay, but i over-commented on that thread naa, its a case of she marrying a wrong man, you said i was talking too much, so i vacated the thread na..You see why we had to comment much on this thread, the bad guys are getting the good women, and e dey pain o, e dey pain...That lady married a man who doesn't give too hoots, the man isn't compatible with her..

Oyindidi:
Really? we sabi find trouble sometimes

Jupxter:
Zykod na, the trouble maker

Oyindidi:
Oh, that annoying poster

Jupxter:
Yes, na me be that...

Oyindidi:
if na that moniker you be use, I for talk with you yesterday

Jupxter:
It hurts to see friends fight one another, in all honesty, i blessed the day i met you, Shayebaby is my sister oh, a similar minded person like you if you both weren't in this situation...Jeez..Not fair watching this happen

Jupxter:
Anyways

THIS IS MODERN DAY WOMAN FOR YOU, EXACTLY LIKE YOU STATED IT, ACCEPT ME JUST LIKE I AM NOT GIVING HERSELF TO DEVELOPMENT, WHILE PRESSING AND PRESSING, AND TESTING THE GUY TO SEE IF HE'S DESERVING OF THEM, A FLAWED MYOPIC SELFISH PERSPECTIVE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS....

Sagamite:
Let her go fck herself, men.

I don't do and don't tolerate all that feminist shyt!

All they do is think about their interest and that is all that mattters.



They enjoy testing. It is a challenge and chicken game based on "how desirable am I and how much power do I have with my looks over this guy", which is fun to them.

When it bites them in the ass, they start wondering what happened.

peacettw:
I checked my post again and again and nowhere did I see your name mentioned anywhere in my post. You must think highly of yourself what with all the PMs and shit all serving to inflate the already self inflated ego of yours. Now listen, you little twerp, I only interact with people with some degree of intelligence. Your kind had better find your type as I am sure they are littered somewhere in your glorified PMs. Now run along and be pleased that you got my attention as any typical irritant would. This will be your last. Silly things out there looking for relevance in anything.

shaybebaby:
Elebi part two, your hunger is not letting you too thinking straight abi?

Ewo l'epistle? Does your post tally with any of my previous posts?

Abunu!

Jupxter:
Shyte happens


Ladies shouldn't trust their so-called instincts when seeking a life partner, but seek brothers, men who have sharp,razor blade instincts, na we know ourselves, truth is many good ladies end with the wrong men, i can tell this as a fact.

My mentee now married with kids, i personally screened over 12 guys before we got to the main, she's happily married today, 7 years, no complains...Ladies should draw close to males who they won't have intimations with, for sharp counsel, and them no go miss road, many of these marital threads issues na wrong life partners oh...Wrong ones...

peacettw:
Kk then.. It's sad that you had to go through all that but surely you can't think that all females are cut from the same cloth..and a few bad experiences shouldn't make you treat us all like we are dirt just cos you get better results that way. It is simply not fair...

Oyindidi:
I want know una take about this

https://www.nairaland.com/4299150/please-advise-me-marital-issue


Cc: sagamite

ice4u999:
My brother not all be wrong life partners o. The temptation a lot of marriages go through at times requires God's grace to overcome.
My mentor once told me that not until you have been married for 10-15 years, don't say that you are married. So women or even men go in with the right intent but society, extended families, friends and even children tend to change people.
Counseling to me is a good start but I feel it is over rated because the real lesson starts when both couples says I do. Brother you need to see how some parents will fustrstrate a daughter to pack all the guys money to them. Not caring how this guy is managing his family. Most times most women or even men don't know how to manage this which end up creating this drift between couples.
Imagine I know of a guy that don't even have a say in his home any more because now the wife just do what ever she wants with money. When this guy has a job, he sent almost everything back to Nigeria to help families and the wife warned him, begged him to reduce it but you know, not everyone can stand not listening to a crying mother, father, brothers and sisters calling from home. But today this guy lost his job, has turned into a laughing stock among the same family, wife is angry that they still live in a old house, no investment in Nigeria and now the wife is the bread winner, won't listen to any financial advise from husband and do what ever pleases her. This is just one of many stories.
To cut things short, we all need to God to intervene in today's marriage especially our Nigeria marriages where instead of copying successful marriage, they are busy copying Hollywood and all the garbages from foreign countries.

Sagamite:
Having a read of that, my initial guts is that it falls in the realms of poor selection.

Will respond on the thread.

LadyPresh1:
When you were first married, you probably felt understood, heard, and connected with your husband. You were polite. You didn’t want to hurt him – and he was sensitive to your feelings. But time passes, and the stress of daily life and kids, jobs, money, house, aging parents and health issues take a toll…and you find that you don’t have the time and patience it takes to be polite. This isn’t necessarily a sign your marriage is over – it just means you need to make time and effort to communicate with love and respect. This personal mantras have kept me going in my relationship.

Again, If your husband had an affair and wants to rebuild your relationship, then crack open the champagne and celebrate! The good news is that marriage infidelity by itself to me is not a sign your marriage is over. I know many couples survive marital unfaithfulness, and many have an even stronger bond because of the cheating. But mine is so different, your man brings her home and say it to your face, he is tired of you.

Today is a month, woke up this morning in utter shock that I am actually divorced. I had to say it out loud to sort of remind myself. I am divorced.
Here are the facts: One, I have been living apart from my now ex-husband for a month. Therefore, I’ve had some time to get used to this single life and single parenting thing.
“Is your marriage over?”
Without hesitation, the reply came, “Yes.”
Seriously, in my head, I was screaming, “It is?! Because honestly, deep down, I thought the trigger would never be pulled on this.
So what all this means is, yes, I’ve gotten a bit used to parts of this new life of mine, but oh my word — I didn’t think it was going to actually happen. I’m so far from being healed and ready for my next chapter in life that it’s not even funny.

Do not get it twisted, I've severally on my real account seek for advise on how to resurrect my already sinking marriage. I was able to meet wonderful people here who begged they remain anonymous. Lawyers and welfare officers too who took my case upon their shoulders. I really appreciate. GOD BLESS!
I would give link to my personal account as an evidence to this.
Wouldn't go further with details. I was a fool for attempting suicide three consecutive times in my marriage. When at some point you were told to your face that you were only married to procreate. He brings this lady home, pushes you out and tell you that both you and your people can't do nothing. I've cried and now I'm healed.

You said I should quit school that you would help further my education, you asked I don't do anything and take care of your kids for you. I sneaked to learn trade and on finding out, you abused me of using your money to learn a trade, took my ATM, pin and sent me packing that I'm offensively annoying. Thanks to the good people of this great forum for seeing me through all this. Your words of encouragement to stay for my kids. Heeded to every advice, stayed, but he got worse.
I can't live with another woman in the same house. It was killing me. I was like a slave, became a shadow of my own self. With some little money I was able to gather around, took the courage and filed for a divorce with the help of good people here. Finally, marriage is over.
I’ve had some time to get used to this single life and single parenting thing.
I left with my kids, parents ain't comfortable with my action because of their status. I understand, no wealthy or influential parents would allow a daughter to pass a meagre of what I've passed through. He was my first.

I seize this opportunity to call on good citizen of Nigeria to help me out. I'm Nicodemusly an active member on my other account. Can as well prove or provide any evidence you might need to verify the authenticity of this post.
Want to start the food stuff business. Anything or help at all will be well appreciated. If I can pay for a store and have anything left, would get some food stuffs and start from there. I am a strong woman,

Jupxter:
Its almost always a case of wrong selection...bUt then they deserve it, all the good girls i counseled on marriage that refused to take to my heed all are regretting as of today, the ones that stood out are happy.....good girls dont listen

hungryboy:
it's all about you, your kids , and your happiness.
Dont give a damn about other people's opinion.
Better to be single than stay in sn abusive marriage.


I'll advice you to contact this woman on facebook named Olu Bunmi, she is an anti domestic violence activist based in the UK and she has been helping out many abused women to start afresh.

Search for her on facebook and send her a message.

Sagamite:
Very very few girls are good/nice girls.

The better they look, they more likely they would not be nice. See FACT 2.

https://www.nairaland.com/1568999/why-nice-ladies-get-dumped#20465001

Sagamite:
"Real man", there is nowhere she has mentioned domestic abuse in that post.

peacettw:
@op, how are you doing dear? Once in a while do pitch in.. It's a pity your call for help has been hijacked by simpletons and silly things seeking for relevance. Hang in there, kk? And when you do pitch please mention me. That little luxury will afford me opportunity to sieve out some deluded comments in here. Later dear.