ManFromJos:

Babe.. a guy can't 'dump' a lady after dating her the previous day.. there is more to dating than just A day's 'amplified friendship'.. beside's its better that way sef.. at least he didnt waste ur time,.. and no, there's nothing wrong with you, maybe he just feels that he wouldn't get what he wants from u.. or u seem like u'd be willing to give him toO much of what he actually requires.. i believe he just walked away and not 'dumped' you.. they are actually two totally different words.. peace out.. Just Reflect
qdp

I jokingly asked the question tho but I think you made a lot of sense, thank you

JennieCutie4U:

I jokingly asked the question tho but I think you made a lot of sense, thank you

Lol.. ok ma.. you're welcome tho

MissSlimbody:
Who broke your heart

You really need to get over it and move on.

Silly question
Oh.. And by the way... He's married.

guys,leave all these irrelevant topics and go an get your PVC ready for action.
come 2019,we are surely sending some1 to Daura village.
enof is enof

Toks2008:


Here we go again...playing the victim card but when you trolled with your stwpid comment that has no correlation with the title you were so cool.

I repeat,if you don't act intelligently you will soon be dumped and the blame will be on you.Nuff said

Ogbeni, why so subtle. Someone that has been dumped and re-dumped is here making noise on how she has never been dumped...

In a relationship, what matters to me is d "size' of her brain, not how huge d nyansh or boobs are.

Jamariwolff:
So I shud check myself because of a nigga when there are millions of other niggas that will appreciate me and all I have a offer.

Rubbish.

I think you should check yourself, Why you jump from one lady to another like a bag of flies.

U got it wrong.... a Guy date jumps from one hole to another won't date a gal for a year.... if he had no plan for the future.... leaving u after a year or more means he lost hope of d future with u

Jamariwolff:
So I shud check myself because of a nigga when there are millions of other niggas that will appreciate me and all I have a offer.

Rubbish.

I think you should check yourself, Why you jump from one lady to another like a bag of flies.

The 1st one appreciated u initially and later dumped u. So don't be over-carried by the initial gragra.
If a guy dates you, loves u and do not cheat on u and after 1yr he dumped u, my dear u really need to check urself unless if his reason for dumping u is understandable like Blood Group incompatibility. Even at dat he will not dump you. Both of you will mutually agree to terminate the relationship.

Toks2008:


Any thread I create on romance has a deep message only few can understand.

Ppl that are created to understand will definitely understand while those that are pained cos of their situation will try so hard to make the thread a piece of shit.

I don't argue with women. I give them piece of my heart and let them keep ranting. They were created that way.

Toks2008:


Simple logic...there are ladies who are dumped and there are ladies who painfully part ways due to several other issues...

That was why I used the word dump to drive home my point.

Likewise if a woman dumps you after you have dated her for 1 year Check yourself. No woman would dump a good husband material for no good reason. You the man must have a fault and you must be victimised for what happened. If this conclusion makes sense then the Op makes sense too.

ManFromJos:
I think something is wrong with NL commenters...
so if u are sitting with a person on the same pew for over an hour enjoying a conversation,.. and suddenly, he/she gets up and moves to the sit in front of you without any excuse or explanation, wouldn't u be forced to 'count ur teeth with ur tongue?'.. common sense would make u check urself.
Same thing here.. If a guy outrightly dumps u without any reasonable reason, then u really need to check urself.
I wonder how different the comments Here would have been if it were actually refering to the male folks .
Besides, checking ur self (be it a guy or a lady) does not mean u have faults.. it would just foster better changes to ur previous self and enable u to quickly move on..
NB; A girl once told me i wasn't even half as serious as her ex.. She walked away,.. After serious reflection, i realised why she said that.. It has helped me alot.. Made me more matured.. She now even tries to hang out with me sef,. Lol,. Make i just dy laff biko.. #CheckUp .
xf

Help me tell them. One problem wt women is that they don't want to hear that what dey did is wrong. They always want to be praised even wen they are doing the wrong thing.

Tell a girl that what she is wearing or that her make up is not ok. She will likely want to kill you and label u bad belle.
Tell her that she look prettier than the prettiest Angel even wen she look like the worst Calabar masquerade, u will see her smiling like malfunctioning sex doll.

Ekiseme:
you can't be serious

state your reason

you have a point but at the same time you dont, most of this generation ladies this days are just liability looking for who to prey on, yes am a lady I just said that, painful to be against the sisterhood, but the truth needs to be told, most ladies are only creative in bed and thats that, very cheap, hungry for material things, lacks in intellect, non productive and what do we call this set of people by the way? a blood socking pest, who wants that definitely only a stupid and myopic man.



And to the guys jumping from one lady to another I dont blame you much, if ladies choose to be intelligent to know what they can work with rather than spreading legs here and there I bet, u lots won't have a choice than to be morally upright and be of good conduct, meanwhile awoof dey run belly.....what you are jumping from one place to another for, you go soon see am....disgraceful generation, spit.

RuthDaniels:
Oga Toks you are being myopic here, Haba. This is like saying every break up is the woman's fault. Are you saying there are no men who are unsatisfied even with an angel?

Do you mean all men know what they want ? All men are saints? No man will want to chop and go even when a lady is worth staying with? Stop deceiving yourself Biko!

This thread is just to polish your ego, to cover up your flaws and faults. And you know what some shallow minded ones will support you but that won't change the fact that you are wrong!

My dear U still did not understand this post.
Most men come to chop and clean mouth.
Most were not even thinking of getting married at the initial stage.

If a man was able to date a woman for a whole one year and finally wake up one day and leave, my dear the woman need to recheck herself.
If I come to chop and clean mouth and on the process i found out that dis babe is really a nice girl with so many wonderful traits of a good wife material, I bet u, I may consider sticking more with the babe till I have what it takes to marry her. If this girl could not convince me to think outside chop and clean mouth, my dear, I may wake up one day and ask myself...what am I even doing with this babe.

You can create a counter post of this post and we will still tell u the truth why a woman will wake up and dump a man she has bn dating for over a year.
Let us learn to treat an issue fairly irrespective of who will get pained.

Jman06:
Op, stop wasting your mb on advising ladies! They will never change!

Finding a lady with wisdom is a very strenuous task because it is like looking for a pin in haystacks.
Some of them prefer to learn after being wounded while others don't learn at all but would continue to fall over and over again while blaming every other person but themselves.

sometimes an advice that looks good will meet stiff reactions when it is perceived to be given in a condescending manner!!

Toks2008:
I'm not talking about teenage romance but the type you go into when you are in your 20s or older.

Often times ladies play the victim card and they try to always present the guy as a heart breaker but the truth is that most guys who end up as dedicated lovers never planned that from the beginning but along the line,they found a reason to hold on to that lady...

So in most cases,if a man dates you for at least a year and finds no reason to hold on to you then you need to check yourself and ask why..

Don't get it twisted,this is not about a guy cheating on you but a guy outrightly dumping you for another lady. ..

In my opinion,most guys will never dump a lady who can prove to them that she is Worth having.

Don't know if this makes sense.

Am a lady but I sincerely tink this post makes sence,thou it's for ladies to be aware of our flaws and weak point and work towards it.it's just a piece of advice that costs nuttin.don't see y he shud be crucified.

teelady:
you have a point but at the same time you dont, most of this generation ladies this days are just liability looking for who to prey on, yes am a lady I just said that, painful to be against the sisterhood, but the truth needs to be told, most ladies are only creative in bed and thats that, very cheap, hungry for material things, lacks in intellect, non productive and what do we call this set of people by the way? a blood socking pest, who wants that definitely only a stupid and myopic man.



And to the guys jumping from one lady to another I dont blame you much, if ladies choose to be intelligent to know what they can work with rather than spreading legs here and there I bet, u lots won't have a choice than to be morally upright and be of good conduct, meanwhile awoof dey run belly.....what you are jumping from one place to another for, you go soon see am....disgraceful generation, spit.

a morally upright person does not need external motivation to do right.

Yankee101:
Stop making women feel inferior about themselves.

Men are generally scared of commitment

Men won't tell you if you have a fault they just walk away

Men go out to look for the 5% that their lover lacks

If men talk more constructively I think relationships will be better

For women, generally be clean, non talkative, hard working, not overly demanding and love him up.

Bros, I don't beliv that men are scared of commitment.
Rather men try to be very rational once commitment is concerned.
They understand from the beginning what it means to make irrational decision.
Dat is why they may take so much time before getting involved.

When it comes to women, she may go into a very serious commitment just to pls other ppl not even thinking of the danger of taking that decision.
A woman may decide to marry just any man just because her mates are married. She just want to be at par with her mates.

Saintmary:

So, ladies should pity a male divorcee even though he seems to blame them for his present marital status..

Not at all

Toks2008:
I'm not talking about teenage romance but the type you go into when you are in your 20s or older.

Often times ladies play the victim card and they try to always present the guy as a heart breaker but the truth is that most guys who end up as dedicated lovers never planned that from the beginning but along the line,they found a reason to hold on to that lady...

So in most cases,if a man dates you for at least a year and finds no reason to hold on to you then you need to check yourself and ask why..

Don't get it twisted,this is not about a guy cheating on you but a guy outrightly dumping you for another lady. ..

In my opinion,most guys will never dump a lady who can prove to them that she is Worth having.

Don't know if this makes sense.

Naso oo that my Abia babe can nag for Africa, just because I no buy her Saudi gold for last yr Christmas , she just they talk rubbish for mouth, I wonder how my home for b if eventual I come marry her. But I thank JAH cause I don escape from her wahala, because I don tell her make she enter her papa house sitdown...I no do again.

MISTAICEY02288:


Oh yea she's got some attitudes. I actually know she is loyal and doesn't cheat though. But she seems not to be as committed as i am to the relationship. She doesn't call often or send messages. Most times lately, i do the talking first before her. We both might be online on Whatsapp and she wouldn't say a thin until i do that. I believe she loves me actually but i cant continue being the one doing the most. You can imagine having a partner who doesn't call or keep in touch with you whereas some other dude keeps in touch with you more often than your so called partner. Thats exactly whats goin on now. Theres this lady who calls and messages me every moment just to know how i am doing while babe doesn't do that often.

I was once in your shoe too, in fact I planned dumbing her in January, I was going to do that even on December 31 ,2017. I spoke with someone who asked me to take a chill.. I stopped calling, I stopped everything.. Then she called to ask why I snubbed her then I told her I told her how I felt. She later changed, she starts asking me about my job, she started getting involved in matters concerning me. Then she started calling too. Before you take that decision try to bone her first but if within 48hrs she didn't cal u or miss you, then you can go ahead. Some ladies are just too laid back and naturally lazy in some areas. They dont Even learn from the romance movies they watch often, but you just have to lead them some times

Saintmary:

brains don't grow dear, Google it.

It's obvious you are living a "Googled" life and have no thought processes of your own so I don't need to banter with you since my IQ is supposedly higher and not depended on search engines. Even a sexdoll is smarter. Enjoy your robotic life.

skales67:


It's obvious you are living a "Googled" life and have no thought processes of your own so I don't need to banter with you since my IQ is supposedly higher and not depended on search engines. Even a sexdoll is smarter. Enjoy your robotic life.

pained

MISTAICEY02288:


Oh yea she's got some attitudes. I actually know she is loyal and doesn't cheat though. But she seems not to be as committed as i am to the relationship. She doesn't call often or send messages. Most times lately, i do the talking first before her. We both might be online on Whatsapp and she wouldn't say a thin until i do that. I believe she loves me actually but i cant continue being the one doing the most. You can imagine having a partner who doesn't call or keep in touch with you whereas some other dude keeps in touch with you more often than your so called partner. Thats exactly whats goin on now. Theres this lady who calls and messages me every moment just to know how i am doing while babe doesn't do that often.

If that's the only reason u ve for contemplating dumping her, pls do have a rethink.
Consider other ways she make up with this ur assumed flaw.
U said she loves u. She is faithful and loyal. What else do u want in a relationship.
Because u are internet freak and she is not, then u think she is less committed. Bros eehhh.

Let me lend u some sense. U should be happy that she is not as internet freak as u wanted her to be. By the time u push her into all these Whatsapp frequent chat, Facebook, Instagram etc, bros u will be surprise that the loyal babe u used to kw has changed. Abeg cherish that girl.

The other one u want to concentrate on, did she tell u dat she has no boyfriend. Guy u dey mess up oo. Now u think she will leave her bobo come dey follow u. Ok even if he follows you, have u tasted her fidelity and loyalty.
So what you want in a relationship is a woman that will be calling u regularly and chatting with u from morning till night.
I know what ur problem is. U don't have a job that needs ur total concentration. By the time u do, my brother, more that 2 calls a day from ur partner will be like a serious disturbance to u. U wont even have time for that ur Whatsapp.

anybody can get dumped at anytime

Saintmary:

state your reason

being single does not mean that the man doesn't have anything to love,

Is it not better to be single than to in a union that your peace of mind is not guaranteed?

Toks2008:


I have a penchant fir controversial writeups so I always leave it open...I could add few points that will shush most ladies attacking me but I left it out to see if they would raise it but am I surprised that they rather chose to attack the writer? HELL NO...and this is why many of them are dumped in no time...lack of sound IQ...

You are on point bro.
Low IQ
Always thinking that all that men need to stay in a relationship is giving them Bwest and P*ssy.
Men are more dan dat.

Wen they are dumped, u hear them crying "Upon giving him my body for over 3yrs, the idiot had the mind to dump me". Who told you that ur body can tie a man to a relationship?
Whoever that is teaching our women this should better stop.

snowblaq:


Silly question
Oh.. And by the way... He's married.

married ke are you his wife? person way create thread bemoaning his single status don marry?

Toks2008:


Nothing like marine spirit but it's simply about preferences...As I wrote earlier...I have no problem with getting women and I even have them asking but I know what I want and it is important I go for that.

Again for guys of my age,it is not as easy as you think...The Ooni of Ife would have been married after his divorce with all the authority and power coupled with his cuteness yet he is still single...It's more difficult than you think.

Same problem is faced by ladies when they turn 30 and above cos the older you get as an unmarried person the more difficult it becomes.

LaudableXX:


You want to find someone better because of one stupid mistake she made over one weekend? I laugh in Chinese! Are you an angel, yourself?
Haven't you ever gone off with a friend and lost track of time? You chaps need to sit down with real men, and get tutorials on how to conduct yourself as a man, and build meaningful relationships.

You only say this because i failed to mention that i've been tolerant enough. I don't wish to share my ordeals with dt girl, cos people like you will think i'm playing the 'victim' card. Lets just leave it at that. And as for the 'Real Men' thing, all i know is dt 'Real Men' above 30 try to find a suitable date that would lead to marriage.

Jamariwolff:
So I shud check myself because of a nigga when there are millions of other niggas that will appreciate me and all I have a offer.

Rubbish.

I think you should check yourself, Why you jump from one lady to another like a bag of flies.

You will finally check yourself after u must av been dumped by 5 different men

Jamariwolff:
So I shud check myself because of a nigga when there are millions of other niggas that will appreciate me and all I have a offer.

Rubbish.

I think you should check yourself, Why you jump from one lady to another like a bag of flies.

Hmmmmmmmmn una dey always say what will sweet una sha ni..Woman with there yeye brain �