NO MEANS NO.

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Crap... Just can't seem to understand who will have the time to start debating or defending the time interval u said "Yes & No" during sexual intercourse with your partner.

It's an ugly situation here in Nigeria (and probably other African countries as well). It's sad that many of us are still confused about this. We should all be free to decide when we aren't comfortable with something anymore. If we cannot do that, how are we ever supposed to feel safe to engage in the first place?

Agreeing to have sex is not like jumping off a building where regret half-way down is futile. The reason it seems so to many men (and women) is that male sexuality is routinely indulged in Africa (at the expense of women). We believe that a man cannot control himself. But it isn't so much "cannot" as "would not". If a man likes to Bleep around, we say it's in his nature and he gets a pass for promiscuity (it's God's fault for giving him more sperm cells than he knows what to do with). Some guy would guilt a girl into feeling responsible for appeasing his excited dick, just because she's the one who "inspired" it (most of us have heard the myth that a guy would "die" from blue balls). And here again we accept that a man cannot pull out halfway through sex until he cums. They aren't built that way .

I guarantee that this won't fly in this scenario: a man wakes up from sleep to the feeling of another guy's dick in his ass. I bet he won't say "I know your biology prevents you from pulling your dick out of my ass this very minute; but after you've cum, I'll &$@*# ......."

Human beings can all be controlled by their brains. That's our design. The moment that ceases to be true for any particular individual, then he's a mental case and a danger to society. He needs to be removed and rehabilitated.

But in a court of law, however, it would be difficult to establish withdrawal of consent because it's a he-said-she-said situation. I wish we would make progress with 24/7 personal surveillance chips.

that shiit wont fly with ubunja.dont get naked with me if you have doubts.coz im a train and once i start i dont stop.if you play the go stop go stop game, then stay away.you'll get hurt.
if you report me and i go to jail just know when i come out you're saying Goodbye to this world.im not a toy you can press start stop start stop.im not a diildo. i will teach you a lesson you wont have a chance to learn.

nairaland girls. nairaland girls. nairaland girls. How many times did I call u people?

MissWrite:
It's an ugly situation here in Nigeria (and probably other African countries as well). It's sad that many of us are still confused about this. We should all be free to decide when we aren't comfortable with something anymore. If we cannot do that, how are we ever supposed to feel safe to engage in the first place?

Agreeing to have sex is not like jumping off a building where regret half-way down is futile. The reason it seems so to many men (and women) is that male sexuality is routinely indulged in Africa (at the expense of women). We believe that a man cannot control himself. But it isn't so much "cannot" as "would not". If a man likes to Bleep around, we say it's in his nature and he gets a pass for promiscuity (it's God's fault for giving him more sperm cells than he knows what to do with).

How dare you bring in a case of homosexuality in a straight sex scenario and try to use it to gain points? u're unbelievable!

locust:


How dare you bring in a case of homosexuality in a straight sex scenario and try to use it to gain points? u're unbelievable!

What do you mean by this? You make it sound like I shocked you with sudden homosexual content in the middle of your wanking session . Anyway, I didn't "bring homosexuality into a straight sex scenario" I'm not talking about a straight sex scenario, I'm talking about a man's ability to stop sex halfway through a bout. Whether his object is a man or a woman should be immaterial unless you're supposing that a man's ability to control himself would depend on what kind of sex he was having.


And please, this isn't a game. It's not about scoring points (with whom, sef?). These are real issues which need to be addressed.

Dimples129:
NO MEANS NO.

As simple as that.

MissWrite:



What do you mean by this? You make it sound like I shocked you with sudden homosexual content in the middle of your wanking session . Anyway, I didn't "bring homosexuality into a straight sex scenario" I'm not talking about a straight sex scenario, I'm talking about a man's ability to stop sex halfway through a bout. Whether his object is a man or a woman should be immaterial unless you're supposing that a man's ability to control himself would depend on what kind of sex he was having.


And please, this isn't a game. It's not about scoring points (with whom, sef?). These are real issues which need to be addressed.

How you type long sentences without making a valid point or reasonable contribution elude me.

For a moment, my thoughts are with all the sexually unsatisfied women out there.

Men have been, in a sense, withdrawing consent for ages, and this is done as soon as they're satisfied. Though I wouldn't say we're selfish by doing so, it's simply a case of no more energy/strength left.

Think for a moment guys. You are penetrating and all of a sudden, you are pushed off without cuming and a command of some sort is issued, 'time off! Consent withdrawn'?

No be craze plus die be that for bloda ubunja

Hmm. Salute to all them girls deprived of sexual satisfaction. Mbok, be rest assured that we'll stop at nothing until 30s men are cured and empowered to mount non stop!

Erm... but for the meantime, there should be no 'time off! Consent withdrawn!'.

locust:


How you type long sentences without making a valid point or reasonable contribution elude me.

It's not my fault you have trouble keeping up. The best you can do for yourself is stick to comments of your intellectual proficiency. But do you really have to be told?

MissWrite:
It's an ugly situation here in Nigeria (and probably other African countries as well). It's sad that many of us are still confused about this. We should all be free to decide when we aren't comfortable with something anymore. If we cannot do that, how are we ever supposed to feel safe to engage in the first place?

Agreeing to have sex is not like jumping off a building where regret half-way down is futile. The reason it seems so to many men (and women) is that male sexuality is routinely indulged in Africa (at the expense of women). We believe that a man cannot control himself. But it isn't so much "cannot" as "would not". If a man likes to Bleep around, we say it's in his nature and he gets a pass for promiscuity (it's God's fault for giving him more sperm cells than he knows what to do with). Some guy would guilt a girl into feeling responsible for appeasing his excited dick, just because she's the one who "inspired" it (most of us have heard the myth that a guy would "die" from blue balls). And here again we accept that a man cannot pull out halfway through sex until he cums. They aren't built that way .

I guarantee that this won't fly in this scenario: a man wakes up from sleep to the feeling of another guy's dick in his ass. I bet he won't say "I know your biology prevents you from pulling your dick out of my ass this very minute; but after you've cum, I'll &$@*# ......."

Human beings can all be controlled by their brains. That's our design. The moment that ceases to be true for any particular individual, then he's a mental case and a danger to society. He needs to be removed and rehabilitated.

But in a court of law, however, it would be difficult to establish withdrawal of consent because it's a he-said-she-said situation. I wish we would make progress with 24/7 personal surveillance chips.

In other words, we consider them weak. We think their pe.nises are stronger than their brains. Who is the head of the home again?

Mindfulness:


In other words, we consider them weak. We think their pe.nises are stronger than their brains. Who is the head of the home again?

. Good question. The penis.

MissWrite:



It's not my fault you have trouble keeping up. The best you can do for yourself is stick to comments of your intellectual proficiency. But do you really have to be told?

It is not in my nature to banter words with a girl who thinks initiating subtle jabs wins her points. Keep up with your little jabs and feed on them.

locust:


It is not in my nature to banter words with a girl who thinks initiating subtle jabs wins her points. Keep up with your little jabs and feed on them.

Alright, so.....don't. Don't let me tempt you to go against your nature. I shouldn't have that kind of power over you. Just move on; be you... And have a nice day.

arguing with MsWrite is like trying to empty the ocean with a spoon.the sooner you stop wasting your time on her the sooner you attend to more productive things in your life.
going to the toilet to take a shiit would be an even more productive chore than debating this loser.

MissWrite:



Alright, so.....don't. Don't let me tempt you to go against your nature. I shouldn't have that kind of power over you. Just move on; be you... And have a nice day.

Fvck you.

Greene66:


Fvck you.

control yourself.
this is uncalled for.

Greene66:


Fvck you.

. I know.

MissWrite:




. I know.

ha ha ha.
you took it pretty well

MissWrite:




. I know.

Lol apologies.. Just wanted to put an end to your dual with the bro above and also create a diversion to myself.

Yeah.. It's Friday. I'm off work so I got time.

MissWrite:
It's an ugly situation here in Nigeria (and probably other African countries as well). It's sad that many of us are still confused about this. We should all be free to decide when we aren't comfortable with something anymore. If we cannot do that, how are we ever supposed to feel safe to engage in the first place?

Agreeing to have sex is not like jumping off a building where regret half-way down is futile. The reason it seems so to many men (and women) is that male sexuality is routinely indulged in Africa (at the expense of women). We believe that a man cannot control himself. But it isn't so much "cannot" as "would not". If a man likes to Bleep around, we say it's in his nature and he gets a pass for promiscuity (it's God's fault for giving him more sperm cells than he knows what to do with). Some guy would guilt a girl into feeling responsible for appeasing his excited dick, just because she's the one who "inspired" it (most of us have heard the myth that a guy would "die" from blue balls). And here again we accept that a man cannot pull out halfway through sex until he cums. They aren't built that way .

I guarantee that this won't fly in this scenario: a man wakes up from sleep to the feeling of another guy's dick in his ass. I bet he won't say "I know your biology prevents you from pulling your dick out of my ass this very minute; but after you've cum, I'll &$@*# ......."

Human beings can all be controlled by their brains. That's our design. The moment that ceases to be true for any particular individual, then he's a mental case and a danger to society. He needs to be removed and rehabilitated.

But in a court of law, however, it would be difficult to establish withdrawal of consent because it's a he-said-she-said situation. I wish we would make progress with 24/7 personal surveillance chips.

Waking up from sleep to the feeling of another man's dick is tantamount to rape. It's not analogous to a situation where a woman already shows consent after having kissed and engaged in pre-intimacy with a man, but decides that half way through penetration, the man should pull out.

If two gay men begin having sex, after reciprocating an indication of attraction & after kissing and touching, and a minute into intercourse, the guy who is being penetrated tells the other guy to stop. I believe in this instance if the one who is penetrating refuses to stop on the basis of the difficulty of pulling out half way when the gratification he is deriving is so intense, he shouldn't be penalized as a rape offender.

I think the burden of blame should belong to the one(whether male or female) who obviously lacks the quality of decisiveness. If a woman has apprehensions with having sex with a guy, then let her indicate this before the guy puts his dick inside her. I'd even argue that she shouldn't even begin pre-intimacy since she knows where it can lead. Like someone said, a man isn't a toy that you just tell to start and stop whenever you like.

People like you who are making this argument tend to be unemphatic to the plight of a man who is being told to pull out his dick during sex. It's the equivalent of taking the orgasmic plug off a woman as she just begins experiencing orgasm. It's very hard to do this.

Mindfulness:


In other words, we consider them weak. We think their pe.nises are stronger than their brains. Who is the head of the home again?

MissWrite:

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. Good question. The penis.

You women still make the same joystick your priority in this life.

Getting married to joystick

Is that not funny

Greene66:


Lol apologies.. Just wanted to put an end to your dual with the bro above and also create a diversion to myself.

Yeah.. It's Friday. I'm off work so I got time.

Lmao! Apologies accepted. But don't worry, I wasn't offended; it was an appropriate response and funny in the moment.,

MissWrite:



Alright, so.....don't. Don't let me tempt you to go against your nature. I shouldn't have that kind of power over you. Just move on; be you... And have a nice day.

you could have that power over me in bed.. But I wouldn't touch the labia of your vagina with the helm of a pestle.
Have a nice day too..

locust:


you could have that power over me in bed.. But I wouldn't touch the labia of your vagina with the helm of a pestle.
Have a nice day too.

Dude, it's okay; we have settled your matter.

Can't we all just talk about Jesus? Must we always discuss sex?

MissWrite:


Dude, it's okay; we have settled your matter.

cuntlips!

Faxole:


Waking up from sleep to the feeling of another man's dick is tantamount to rape. It's not analogous to a situation where a woman already shows consent after having kissed and engaged in pre-intimacy with a man, but decides that half way through penetration, the man should pull out.

Yes, I agree with you: it's absolutely tantamount to rape. It's the only way to get a hypothetical dick into a straight guy's hypothetical ass. But this is the point: once the dick is in, is it possible to take it out in the midst of his enjoyment when he's asked to remove it? Or would one have to wait it out?

If two gay men begin having sex, after reciprocating an indication of attraction & after kissing and touching, and a minute into intercourse, the guy who is being penetrated tells the other guy to stop. I believe in this instance if the one who is penetrating refuses to stop on the basis of the difficulty of pulling out half way when the gratification he is deriving is so intense, he shouldn't be penalized as a rape offender.

I commend your perspective.

I think the burden of blame should be belong to the one(whether male or female) who obviously lacks the quality of decisiveness. If a woman has apprehensions with having sex with a guy, then let her indicate this before the guy puts his dick inside her. I'd even argue that she shouldn't even begin pre-intimacy since she knows where it can lead. Like someone said, a man isn't a toy that you just tell to start and stop whenever you like.

People like you who are making this argument tend to be unemphatic to the plight of a man who is being told to pull out his dick during sex. It's the equivalent of taking the orgasmic plug off a woman as she just begins experiencing orgasm. It's very hard to do this.

So back to that guy's dick in the straight guy's ass and the justifications you've made for a person who has been given an initial green light: in the moment they're both caught in the same (mechanical) situation. Now in the first instance, I would assume, the guy would be expected to be able to stop immediately his victim wakes up. In the second instance, somehow, he's unable to stop (because he had been given initial consent?). I think that the difficulty to stop would be experienced in both cases. So, I believe that this isn't a question of "can he?" But "should he stop?" in the minds of people who say it's impossible to withdraw consent in this context.


Yes, you're making a solid point when you say that both parties should be comfortable and certain before proceeding. But sometimes a man can read a girl's uncertainty as clear as day, but he's hoping she'll go through with it. He's setting himself up that way. But incidences like the one which inspired this conversation aren't very popular I hope (I don't know): where a girl is into it until she climaxes. That's a rubbish thing to do. Of course we have "users" out there who only need people for their own gratification; tough luck if you end up with one (like guys who don't finish the job on a girl), but it's still no reason to rape someone.