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Don't wait

Romantic "Love" does not exist

I feel so sorry hearing this story but the destination pulls enough suspect that he might be into drugs or other illegal business.

On the other hand, he may be innocent on this case as the way judgement is being passed in court is demeaning.

One thing I appreciate about the lady is the fact that she stood by him despite his predicament.

If she marries another guy, her heart would still be divided.

Waiting for him may also have its consequences because people change.

I feel she needs to move on.

After reading this, and how he was sending you money and all that, why didn't you leave at that time? Why now when he needs you the most? Let me tell you something, stick with him, no matter how long it takes. He stuck with you while abroad with all the women there. He lost his father and sister too all because of the stress of working hard though illegally to build for the future for you guys. This is the cross you will have to carry. If you go ahead and marry another person, I promise you, your conscience will never leave you unless he gives you the go ahead. All you can do is Keep convincing him that you are a woman and your time ticks faster than men.

Ask yourself.
Would he wait for you if the tables were turned?

she has refused to tell us what got him jailed for 15 years.

if people like Evans and Don Wanny or whatever his miserable name is can have pretty wives ...... what more can i say.

i can bet with my left testis that he peddled drugs and I know where he is likely from!

xrisdgreat:
God,this is terrible..seeing d name of d country shows d guy was into drugs,he's lucky he is imprisoned cos na death sentence if found guilty NO MERCY!

Igbo people will never listen. Stay away from drug trafficking!

If they had sentenced him to death, would she have waited for him to come back from Hell and impregnate her?

dominique:
Keep loving him, Keep praying, Get pregnant for him and let him pay your bride price yadayadayada. They all seem to be avoiding the big picture here which is, THE MAN IS A FREAKING CRIMINAL!!! None of them even bothered to ask if he is guilty of the crime he was convicted for or not. Abi they didn't read that part ni? The sets of characters that post on this ****ist Facebook group tho, odikwa shady.

I carefully went through the post more than once to see if he was framed or wrongly convicted, nothing of such. So she's very much aware that her lover is a criminal yet she wants to waste 15 years of her life waiting for him because he sends money to her and her mum. The kind of desperation that is eating into our ladies about abroad based men is getting disturbing.

Well said!

STAY! WAIT FOR HIM AT YOUR OWN RISK. AYELENU. O KARE OMO DAADA. CAN HE WAIT IF REVERSE IS THE CASE TOO.?

CaptainJeffry:
Love is a wonderful thing but it'll be foolish for any woman to wait for 15years. A monkey of 15yrs is a already a grandma nau, haba.

I thought they said love no dey see. This your old even ge spare

Speaking from a legal point of view... Indonesia has a high rate of death sentences via lethal injections.
If you go there, you may end up in a prostitution ring and end up just like him.
Before being convicted, he must have been given a fair hearing. For offences racking up to 14yrs and above, he must have committed a serious felony.
You are 29 +15 that's like 44. Almost 1 year away from the menopause mark. You want to spend your life waiting for a felon?
The truth is, yes you obviously love him and would catch that grenade for him but my dear 15years to life is not a grenade. It's a flipping nuclear missile. You fell in love with a man not a criminal. When you look at him, you remember the man not the criminal but in prison, he is a criminal not the man you loved. The high rate of committing an offence in an indonesian jail can make him serve a life sentence.
You don't need prayers for God has given you the tool to sort this out. It is called a BRAIN.
Send him postcards. If he loves you, he will ask you to move on with your life. I know I would. Except if he is selfish.
By the way, 29 is like 1/3 of your life span gone. You want to waste another 1/3 be my guest.
May God give you wisdom.

Madisonsqua:
I think what got him the 15 yrs jail term should be your utmost concern ...and ask yourself if u wanna settle with someone who could commit such crime, let alone risking the most important 15 years of ur life for... immigration offences could not have get him d 15 year jail term...ask him what actually happened if he's gonna be honest....and i can't believe a 29 yr old lady will even be considering waiting for another 15 yrs

And also bear in mind that nobody goes to jail and come back the same.I truly don't know how he plans to get u pregnant from jail and even if he could, Ask yourself how u wanna survive in a country like Indonesia as a single mother with such hardship and poverty in that country or even in Nigeria.

I think your kids would be happier if u tell them u gave birth to them late because u were pursuing a career, citizenship, a better life for them rather than to say u were waiting for a prisoner boyfriend to return. A prisoner will have to start from scratch and u will have to wait another 3 years for him to settle before u marry him. And he will hardly get a job or visa due to his record.

P.S; ABROAD is not a money producing tree,he promised to be back in 2 yrs and now desperation may have led him to committing such crime. God' s time is the best ...Just keep praying but be wise.

She cleverly not mentioned what the boyfriend did to get 15 years in chains ! he is either a yahoo guy or drug dealer! or both!

How can you wait 15 years for a man that will come out of prison with a very thin hope? I don't think this will work

progress69:
she has refused to tell us what got him jailed for 15 years.

if people like Evans and Don Wanny or whatever his miserable name is can have pretty wives ...... what more can i say.

i can bet with my left testis that he peddled drugs and I know where he is likely from!

Alaye, where is he from?

I wonder the set of people that makes up Facebook. Their IQ is so so below average, just take a look at the kind of advice they are dishing out.
15 yrs. I won't advice my sister into doing such.
Its obvious the lady in question is tired and obviously cannot wait for another 15yrs, that's why she vehemently told the guy she couldn't wait any longer disregarding the fact that she once promised the guy she would wait for him for 15yrs. Now, she realised she made a hasty decision she cannot possibly keep.

I pity her sha, and the guy is so selfish for even requesting someone's daughter wait for him for 15yrs. Love cannot stand such heat, believe me, she will definitely cheat, the love will also wax cold due to distance.

Indonesia

Crime doesn't pay.

Dust yourself and move on.

dominique:
Keep loving him, Keep praying, Get pregnant for him and let him pay your bride price yadayadayada. They all seem to be avoiding the big picture here which is, THE MAN IS A FREAKING CRIMINAL!!! None of them even bothered to ask if he is guilty of the crime he was convicted for or not. Abi they didn't read that part ni? The sets of characters that post on this ****ist Facebook group tho, odikwa shady.

I carefully went through the post more than once to see if he was framed or wrongly convicted, nothing of such. So she's very much aware that her lover is a criminal yet she wants to waste 15 years of her life waiting for him because he sends money to her and her mum. The kind of desperation that is eating into our ladies about abroad based men is getting disturbing.

Dominique!!
Shatap!!!!

If he can with g wagon , you would have opening your teeth in front, common go to jail with him.

29+15 = 44


My dear u must definitely have reached your menoupous before he will be discharged and acquitted.

So she should come there, get pregnant and come back here to start catering for herself and the baby alone. This is obsession and not love biko

This no be a romeo and juliet or bonny and clyde.

The body will tell you when to duck out of such mess. Right now shes just playing damsel.

She can wait if she really love him. Love is patient

I can only advice you in camera

The story is fake

If you believe this story then you need a brain upgrade

No lady in her right sense will be considering that option talk more of seeking advice

29 + 15 = 44, just One year before menopause

At 29 she is already late for marriage, talk more of waiting for another 15 years ... Who considers that option biko

The truth is,you won't look the same in 15yrs as you look now. He may come out desiring a much younger girl.
Your life,your choice.

You have HND and your English is this bad.
Grammar no be my language sha.

Anyway the guy is a criminal and thats why he bagged 15 years sentence. I can assure you that he will be deported immediately after the jail term. He will then start afresh.

It is for you to decide if you want to marry a criminal o.

Pray very well about it, I believe God will definitely lead you on what to do....forget going to Pastors or Imam for prayers. Lock yourself up and pray seriously about it....for the fact that you're truthful about it, God will direct you on what to do.[color=#000099][/color]

GindoX:
Alaye, where is he from?

Awon eyan Evans naaanii!

dominique:
Keep loving him, Keep praying, Get pregnant for him and let him pay your bride price yadayadayada. They all seem to be avoiding the big picture here which is, THE MAN IS A FREAKING CRIMINAL!!! None of them even bothered to ask if he is guilty of the crime he was convicted for or not. Abi they didn't read that part ni? The sets of characters that post on this ****ist Facebook group tho, odikwa shady.

I carefully went through the post more than once to see if he was framed or wrongly convicted, nothing of such. So she's very much aware that her lover is a criminal yet she wants to waste 15 years of her life waiting for him because he sends money to her and her mum. The kind of desperation that is eating into our ladies about abroad based men is getting disturbing.

This is the Nigeria we live in now. Nobody is telling that lady the harsh truth. She has not sat down to analyze her future. Yes, Love is sweet and interesting, but it is not marriage and doesn’t pay the bills. 15 years is a long time waiting for a criminal who will be deported back to Nigeria without a dime. If he was truly interested in settling down, he should have gotten a legitimate line of work or business.

What was his offence madam

We need to know