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chyy5:
I Think Is Right To Walk Away This Time.

The woman I so much love has been taken me for granted.
There is a guy in Malaysia that takes her time all the time.
I have tried severally to stop her from contacting the guy but she still does.
I am not the kind of guy that beats up a lady otherwise I would have beaten her up very well.
The so called Malaysian guy doesn't provide any of her needs.
Infact from their heartbreaking chats I read, there was a time the guy told her she is free to date any other guy for money that she shouldn't depend on him for any benefit.
My gal told him that she's not in for money.
This is a gal I love with all my heart. I've been enduring this for long thinking she will change. I've had heart to heart talk severally with her telling her how pained I am. Yet every night she will be on whatsapp call with this guy for close to 3 hours after work.
Their whatsapp chat breaks my heart each time I intrude to read.
She keep telling the guy that she doesn't have anybody and even when the guy argued she told him he will confirm when he sex her.
It kept me weak yet I continued loving her.
Just last week my cousin that is to travel to the states told me to come over to her place. Meanwhile my gal has been having issues with accommodation. Where she stays isn't really OK and her rent will expire ending of this month. I taught it wise to rent the place for my gal. I took her to the place and we concluded with my cousin; she agreed to leave the place for her and even auctioned all her property for her which supposed to amount over 200k but my cousin decided to collect 150k because of me.
I collected her account details and told her I will transfer the money to her including the house rent so she can pay the landlord to avoid extra agent fee.
As we were going back, my gal was busy apologising to her Malaysian guy why she wasn't able to pick his calls because the guy has been calling when we were there.
She told the guy she went out with her house agent to search for an accommodation. I was mad.
I am now being referred to as house agent.
I forcefully collected her phone to call the guy. She almost died. She throw herself on the bed and was crying pleading I shouldn't call.
I left her house.
Meanwhile she's having issues raising deposits since she's a DSA. As God may have it I have some funds to help her out but due to her behaviour I've decided to move on
She's been calling and pleading but I know is all because of the house and deposits since she's not willing to let the guy go
I love her so much and it breaks my heart.
I have called her severally and pleaded with her how hurtful I feel seeing her chats with that guy yet she continued.
This is a guy that doesn't care about her needs but she kept glued to him.
I've endured much hence I am walking away. It pains, yes it pains but I have no choice.

franchasng:
He is a fool no good heart anything. Some guys are fools!

If u want to know a guy that got a good heart, go check how he treats his mother, his sisters, his cousins, his neighbors and his friends not how he treats a girl that has mastered how to manipulate him knowing fully well that he is an slowpoke, u ladies must stop deceiving foolish men like this one

afbstrategies:
There's something she sees in that Malaysian guy that she is not getting from you. She has probably taken her to 'places' that no man has taken her and you don't understand because you are not a woman! The decision is there for you to make. Put up with her or leave her but remember that she may be the one that hold the keys to your happiness and progress. She may bail you out in the future, even if you don't eventually marry her. Remember that!

Veetee:
Exactly my thoughts. These Nigerian girls are clever. She knows the Malay guy has money. she's using love as a bait to hold him. She wants to eat her cake and have it. I pity the Nigerian lover, a lot of men are in that position. It's not easy to get out. at some point a man must be a fool for love. he should be man enough n stay ahead of the game n be the one to call off the relationship.otherwise if the girl dump him, which she will eventually he might not recover from it

solonubinho:
abi this one is smoking Kwale weed ni?

chyy5:
I Think Is Right To Walk Away This Time.

The woman I so much love has been taken me for granted.
There is a guy in Malaysia that takes her time all the time.
I have tried severally to stop her from contacting the guy but she still does.
I am not the kind of guy that beats up a lady otherwise I would have beaten her up very well.
The so called Malaysian guy doesn't provide any of her needs.
Infact from their heartbreaking chats I read, there was a time the guy told her she is free to date any other guy for money that she shouldn't depend on him for any benefit.
My gal told him that she's not in for money.
This is a gal I love with all my heart. I've been enduring this for long thinking she will change. I've had heart to heart talk severally with her telling her how pained I am. Yet every night she will be on whatsapp call with this guy for close to 3 hours after work.
Their whatsapp chat breaks my heart each time I intrude to read.
She keep telling the guy that she doesn't have anybody and even when the guy argued she told him he will confirm when he sex her.
It kept me weak yet I continued loving her.
Just last week my cousin that is to travel to the states told me to come over to her place. Meanwhile my gal has been having issues with accommodation. Where she stays isn't really OK and her rent will expire ending of this month. I taught it wise to rent the place for my gal. I took her to the place and we concluded with my cousin; she agreed to leave the place for her and even auctioned all her property for her which supposed to amount over 200k but my cousin decided to collect 150k because of me.
I collected her account details and told her I will transfer the money to her including the house rent so she can pay the landlord to avoid extra agent fee.
As we were going back, my gal was busy apologising to her Malaysian guy why she wasn't able to pick his calls because the guy has been calling when we were there.
She told the guy she went out with her house agent to search for an accommodation. I was mad.
I am now being referred to as house agent.
I forcefully collected her phone to call the guy. She almost died. She throw herself on the bed and was crying pleading I shouldn't call.
I left her house.
Meanwhile she's having issues raising deposits since she's a DSA. As God may have it I have some funds to help her out but due to her behaviour I've decided to move on
She's been calling and pleading but I know is all because of the house and deposits since she's not willing to let the guy go
I love her so much and it breaks my heart.
I have called her severally and pleaded with her how hurtful I feel seeing her chats with that guy yet she continued.
This is a guy that doesn't care about her needs but she kept glued to him.
I've endured much hence I am walking away. It pains, yes it pains but I have no choice.

solonubinho:
abi this one is smoking Kwale weed ni?

victorian:
Op, please walk away.
Later she will learn the hard way. Abroad guys do not give a hoot about babes in Nigeria. Especially the ones they claim to be in love with and dating.
They can call for hours, chat for hours even at night monitoring the babe.
But to take of the babe welfare? Hell no! They won't.
It's boyfriend in Nigeria, that spend their hard earned money to take care of girlfriends here.
Few years back I had to cut off any abroad guy wooing me. They are just a waste of space. I pity any lady who takes them serious. They are not worth wasting time on.
Guys in Nigeria are better off than them. But some mumu girls will not understand. Abroad guy will never take you abroad and settle down with you there if he ends up marrying u. But they can lie for Africa, they will take the babe abroad. All na lie and pure deceit.

Babes if you have a Nija guy who cares and takes of your financial and emotional needs who is also loving and caring, Biko hold am well. He's One of the best thing that can come into your life.
As time goes, both of you will grow together and also travel abroad on vacations
Don't let abroad guys use sweet mouth deceive una.

They just get mouth nothing else.

Nothing will make me waste time on abroad guy.

Am perfectly OK with my nija capable and caring rich man. And sometimes we even travel on vacations
So what's the big deal about my guy lives abroad.. Smhhh

chyy5:
I Think Is Right To Walk Away This Time.

The woman I so much love has been taken me for granted.
There is a guy in Malaysia that takes her time all the time.
I have tried severally to stop her from contacting the guy but she still does.
I am not the kind of guy that beats up a lady otherwise I would have beaten her up very well.
The so called Malaysian guy doesn't provide any of her needs.
Infact from their heartbreaking chats I read, there was a time the guy told her she is free to date any other guy for money that she shouldn't depend on him for any benefit.
My gal told him that she's not in for money.
This is a gal I love with all my heart. I've been enduring this for long thinking she will change. I've had heart to heart talk severally with her telling her how pained I am. Yet every night she will be on whatsapp call with this guy for close to 3 hours after work.
Their whatsapp chat breaks my heart each time I intrude to read.
She keep telling the guy that she doesn't have anybody and even when the guy argued she told him he will confirm when he sex her.
It kept me weak yet I continued loving her.
Just last week my cousin that is to travel to the states told me to come over to her place. Meanwhile my gal has been having issues with accommodation. Where she stays isn't really OK and her rent will expire ending of this month. I taught it wise to rent the place for my gal. I took her to the place and we concluded with my cousin; she agreed to leave the place for her and even auctioned all her property for her which supposed to amount over 200k but my cousin decided to collect 150k because of me.
I collected her account details and told her I will transfer the money to her including the house rent so she can pay the landlord to avoid extra agent fee.
As we were going back, my gal was busy apologising to her Malaysian guy why she wasn't able to pick his calls because the guy has been calling when we were there.
She told the guy she went out with her house agent to search for an accommodation. I was mad.
I am now being referred to as house agent.
I forcefully collected her phone to call the guy. She almost died. She throw herself on the bed and was crying pleading I shouldn't call.
I left her house.
Meanwhile she's having issues raising deposits since she's a DSA. As God may have it I have some funds to help her out but due to her behaviour I've decided to move on
She's been calling and pleading but I know is all because of the house and deposits since she's not willing to let the guy go
I love her so much and it breaks my heart.
I have called her severally and pleaded with her how hurtful I feel seeing her chats with that guy yet she continued.
This is a guy that doesn't care about her needs but she kept glued to him.
I've endured much hence I am walking away. It pains, yes it pains but I have no choice.

chyy5:
I Think Is Right To Walk Away This Time.

The woman I so much love has been taken me for granted.
There is a guy in Malaysia that takes her time all the time.
I have tried severally to stop her from contacting the guy but she still does.
I am not the kind of guy that beats up a lady otherwise I would have beaten her up very well.
The so called Malaysian guy doesn't provide any of her needs.
Infact from their heartbreaking chats I read, there was a time the guy told her she is free to date any other guy for money that she shouldn't depend on him for any benefit.
My gal told him that she's not in for money.
This is a gal I love with all my heart. I've been enduring this for long thinking she will change. I've had heart to heart talk severally with her telling her how pained I am. Yet every night she will be on whatsapp call with this guy for close to 3 hours after work.
Their whatsapp chat breaks my heart each time I intrude to read.
She keep telling the guy that she doesn't have anybody and even when the guy argued she told him he will confirm when he sex her.
It kept me weak yet I continued loving her.
Just last week my cousin that is to travel to the states told me to come over to her place. Meanwhile my gal has been having issues with accommodation. Where she stays isn't really OK and her rent will expire ending of this month. I taught it wise to rent the place for my gal. I took her to the place and we concluded with my cousin; she agreed to leave the place for her and even auctioned all her property for her which supposed to amount over 200k but my cousin decided to collect 150k because of me.
I collected her account details and told her I will transfer the money to her including the house rent so she can pay the landlord to avoid extra agent fee.
As we were going back, my gal was busy apologising to her Malaysian guy why she wasn't able to pick his calls because the guy has been calling when we were there.
She told the guy she went out with her house agent to search for an accommodation. I was mad.
I am now being referred to as house agent.
I forcefully collected her phone to call the guy. She almost died. She throw herself on the bed and was crying pleading I shouldn't call.
I left her house.
Meanwhile she's having issues raising deposits since she's a DSA. As God may have it I have some funds to help her out but due to her behaviour I've decided to move on
She's been calling and pleading but I know is all because of the house and deposits since she's not willing to let the guy go
I love her so much and it breaks my heart.
I have called her severally and pleaded with her how hurtful I feel seeing her chats with that guy yet she continued.
This is a guy that doesn't care about her needs but she kept glued to him.
I've endured much hence I am walking away. It pains, yes it pains but I have no choice.

LordKO:
@OP

You've no shame at all! Only small-minded people like you goes to places where they're tolerated. Noble people only goes to places where they're celebrated. The girl isn't to be blamed at all because she's obviously not the pretentious type, you won't say she hid her relationship with the Malaysian based guy (citing your submission) - which is her preference - from you.

Yes, the emotion of love is the strongest of all emotions and this is the reason why it's important for one to lay his/her principles before talk about looking and choosing a companion either for dating/marriage, so that in the event someone you fell in love doesn't possess at least 70% of the important attributes that can complement yours, you use his/her negative attitudes to neutralize the love emotional attachment towards her and automatically untangle yourself from her emotional grip and move on with your life.

Now, go and set your emotional firewall password with goodness and learn to always give same without being servile - and withdraw it from anyone that fails to sustain it with goodness too, but not necessarily in equal measures - and in so doing you will say bye bye to toxic relationship and heartbreak.

Love (and other attributes of goodness) isn't a sign of weakness but strength, however, unprincipled people like you and your ilks always make it to seem so, through actions and inactions like this.

Healthy relationship isn't negotiable.

RuffRuggedRaw:
That is all am saying. Do not generalize. Speak about and of only those you know about. No dey cast people wen you no know. The stories all around me have always been positive. My cousin sef just recently enter naija confirm him wifey, very soon dem go re-unite for him base there.



And the way you strong on top the money aspect. Hmmm, well good sey u don settle yourself. But no go dey use your own spoil other people own oh. If pesin wen get pesin abroad come meet u for advice, use brain give am correct word o!

Godson201333:
I would only like to enlighten you.The reason why someone from Abroad would not want to give you money and take care of you is that the culture is different.Abroad women are very independent and love is never connected with giving,I mean we are not suppose to be buying love right ?? Yeah the guy back home tend to spend more on you because spending on a lady in Nigeria is more or less a competition.If you do not expect any financial assistance from an Abroad guy then i think his love might be real.Do you even know how much it cost to buy a calling card?unless he calls through whatsapp which is probably not always clear.

greatnaija01:
Brooooooooz YOU REALLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE CODE OF CONDUCT FOR DATING NIGERIAN GIRLS..... Let me educate you.

NIGERIAN GIRLS CAN ONLY STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP IF THEY LOVE U MORE THAN U LOVE THEM.

This means MAKE YOURSELF EXPENSIVE and she will leave her marriage for YOU.
Being a GENTLE MAN does not work in naija.... Obeying all the romantic gestures to court a Lady does no good here..... HAVE THE MONEY LIKE MAD AND NEVER LET HER FEEL SHE MEANS THE WHOLE WORLD TO U ELSE SHE WILL RUIN YOUR WORLD.... Always make her know you are after someone BETTER THAN HER so she will keep Chasing after u... Let her know MARRIAGE is not a licence to relax because you can still DUMP her if she DOES NOT UPGRADE....

In this life.... PEOPLE ALWAYS STAY LOYAL TO PEOPLE THEY CAN NOT HAVE...... and PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS CHEAT on those they already HAVE.

Get that into your HEAD and dump this lady as u MOVE AHEAD.

greatnaija01:
Brooooooooz YOU REALLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE CODE OF CONDUCT FOR DATING NIGERIAN GIRLS..... Let me educate you.

NIGERIAN GIRLS CAN ONLY STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP IF THEY LOVE U MORE THAN U LOVE THEM.

This means MAKE YOURSELF EXPENSIVE and she will leave her marriage for YOU.
Being a GENTLE MAN does not work in naija.... Obeying all the romantic gestures to court a Lady does no good here..... HAVE THE MONEY LIKE MAD AND NEVER LET HER FEEL SHE MEANS THE WHOLE WORLD TO U ELSE SHE WILL RUIN YOUR WORLD.... Always make her know you are after someone BETTER THAN HER so she will keep Chasing after u... Let her know MARRIAGE is not a licence to relax because you can still DUMP her if she DOES NOT UPGRADE....

In this life.... PEOPLE ALWAYS STAY LOYAL TO PEOPLE THEY CAN NOT HAVE...... and PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS CHEAT on those they already HAVE.

Get that into your HEAD and dump this lady as u MOVE AHEAD.

victorian:
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At the bolded, I don't need to spoil other people own.
The guy will do the deed by himself

They said experience is the best teacher.

That's all I can say.

The girls go use their tongue count their teeth.
Simple.

Similar thing that happened to the op, happened to one of my male friends. His gf was in love with one Malay guy .
And my guy was so in love with this babe but she's always chatting with the Malay guy, she even turned down my friend marriage proposal to her and cut him off. Saying the Malay guy will soon be in nija to marry her. My friend was heartbroken, he loves her so much. I just told him to move on.

So the Malay guy came of course ,sweet talked her to bring one of her friends along. I think they had three some, then later the girl friend of the babe left them the second day while payingher off, then he spent the weekend with my friend supposedly fiancee. He bleeped her well . Then he left her place.

Later Like 2weeks after my friend got a call from this his babe that bleeped Malay guy. She said she's feeling so sick and she needs him to come take her to hospital and she's the only one at home.
My friend said but shebi uv cut me off, what your abroad guy? She said its a long story and she's very sorry and he should please come, she is very I'll.

He went, as a kind guy who always pities. He said he took her to hospital, paid her bills, and she was looking so emaciated and he felt sorry for her. After hospital he brought her back, prepared dinner for her and he will be there till she get better.

So the neighbors of the girl who saw him hanging her clothes outside. Called him one side and say guy! U don't have wife o.. If u know what your babe did behind your back? U won't be here washing her clothes.

So they told him everything, how a strange guy came to her place and spent the weekend with her and even had party with one of her friend.

Since then, they've not seen the guy again.

That's how. My friend knew about it.

I told him? What kind-of guy are u? And u are still there, doing good guy, abi?

Smmhhhh. I pity u.

U don't know what's good for u.

He then said he asked her about the Malay guy, she started to cry that she's sorry and she's ready to accept being his wife and she made a huge mistake on the abroad guy and please she wants him back.

He then asked me, he's confused, should he go back?

I was like guy! She use jazz for you?

What if she had aids! HIV!
As u said she emaciated.. Don't u love your life?

Abeg bust her side jare. In fact call her family to go take care of her.

What rubbish!

victorian:
Well, I prefer the guy in nija anytime, anyday.

The guy in nija will call, and still assist in case the babe is sick and she doesn't have money for hospital. He takes care of it. But abroad guy will say, don't worry u will get better.. You will be fine.

You say fine? How will she get better? Better how?
By drinking water? Or breathing air? How will she get better? If u don't send money for her hospital bills? Is it by saying don't worry u will get better and she will miraculously become healed.. Really?

Anyways, Working class Girls abroad are more financially ok than girls in Nigeria.

If guys are using girls abroad to compare girls here? Then Biko, stick with the girls abroad. And let the guys here in Nigeria have a smooth relationship with girl here in nija. No need confusing the babes with sweet mouth .

Then. U expect guys here to take of your responsibility abi?

You try.

Anyways I pity babes still listening to. Sweet raps from abroad guys.

Babe! Listen if your abroad guy do not send money for your upkeep? Biko burst his side! No be never ending phone calls u go chop. No be phone calls go pay your hospital bills. And phone calls will not renew your rent .
Anyways body go tell them..
I don't need to say much.

RuffRuggedRaw:
So if a guy is abroad and sends you money all the time, makes sure you are FINANCIALLY okay and tend to your upkeep; then you will be happy with the relationship!? That is all you need to be loyal, patient and not cheat!?

Ladies in the house, una agree!?

RuffRuggedRaw:
This your stories dem sef, be as e get. I cannot relate to any of that because I am used to totally different and happier experiences and stories. I just told you about my cousin who, after years apart, has come from abroad and married his babe. They had their challenges, stood firm and all is well with them. The same with two other pals, all in the last year o!
Clearly the type of advice me and you will give, will be very different. My brother is in the US and his girlfriend is in naija, so are you saying they should not bother to give it a try because their relationship will fail!? Based on wetin na!?

My point is, for you to generalize that ALL abroad based men are shady and are only deceiving naija girls is not proper.

chyy5:
I Think Is Right To Walk Away This Time.

The woman I so much love has been taken me for granted.
There is a guy in Malaysia that takes her time all the time.
I have tried severally to stop her from contacting the guy but she still does.
I am not the kind of guy that beats up a lady otherwise I would have beaten her up very well.
The so called Malaysian guy doesn't provide any of her needs.
Infact from their heartbreaking chats I read, there was a time the guy told her she is free to date any other guy for money that she shouldn't depend on him for any benefit.
My gal told him that she's not in for money.
This is a gal I love with all my heart. I've been enduring this for long thinking she will change. I've had heart to heart talk severally with her telling her how pained I am. Yet every night she will be on whatsapp call with this guy for close to 3 hours after work.
Their whatsapp chat breaks my heart each time I intrude to read.
She keep telling the guy that she doesn't have anybody and even when the guy argued she told him he will confirm when he sex her.
It kept me weak yet I continued loving her.
Just last week my cousin that is to travel to the states told me to come over to her place. Meanwhile my gal has been having issues with accommodation. Where she stays isn't really OK and her rent will expire ending of this month. I taught it wise to rent the place for my gal. I took her to the place and we concluded with my cousin; she agreed to leave the place for her and even auctioned all her property for her which supposed to amount over 200k but my cousin decided to collect 150k because of me.
I collected her account details and told her I will transfer the money to her including the house rent so she can pay the landlord to avoid extra agent fee.
As we were going back, my gal was busy apologising to her Malaysian guy why she wasn't able to pick his calls because the guy has been calling when we were there.
She told the guy she went out with her house agent to search for an accommodation. I was mad.
I am now being referred to as house agent.
I forcefully collected her phone to call the guy. She almost died. She throw herself on the bed and was crying pleading I shouldn't call.
I left her house.
Meanwhile she's having issues raising deposits since she's a DSA. As God may have it I have some funds to help her out but due to her behaviour I've decided to move on
She's been calling and pleading but I know is all because of the house and deposits since she's not willing to let the guy go
I love her so much and it breaks my heart.
I have called her severally and pleaded with her how hurtful I feel seeing her chats with that guy yet she continued.
This is a guy that doesn't care about her needs but she kept glued to him.
I've endured much hence I am walking away. It pains, yes it pains but I have no choice.