“It’s over, but we can still be friends.” How many times have we heard that line? Probably more than we’d like to remember. There’s always that ex who wants to still be friends after the breakup. Maybe they just say that to make the situation better, or maybe they feel bad about breaking somebody’s heart. Or maybe they just want to have some remaining control over the life of their now ex. It’s hard to say what makes people want to be friends after a relationship is over, but no matter what the motive is, it’s a bad idea. We’ll say that again, it’s a very bad idea to stay friends with your ex after a breakup.
There are those people who are strong enough to pull off such an arrangement, and we give kudos to them. However, most people only agree to this friendship after heartbreak arrangement out of the hope that fences could probably still be mended. Like we said earlier, bad idea. We’re not saying you should hate your ex or be sworn enemies, but you need some space to heal and get used to not being with them anymore. It’s not easy to deal with a breakup, but deciding to be close to your ex will make it even more painful.

Here are four reasons why it’s a bad idea to be close friends with your ex after a breakup:

1. It will hurt like relaxer on a freshly washed scalp
No matter how strong you are, you still need time to grieve like a normal person. You’ve just lost the person you love. They don’t love you anymore or you don’t love them anymore. Either way, trying to be close immediately after the breakup will cause you more pain than necessary. Give it some time and space. You owe that to yourself and your heart.

2. It’ll make it harder for you both to move on
Even if the breakup was a mutual decision, which it rarely is, it’s hard for both parties to move on. Insisting on being friends will make it even harder for you to put the relationship behind you. This situation is usually worsened by the fact that one person probably didn’t want the relationship to end.

3. It’ll annoy your new partner
Being friends with your ex will not go down well with your new partner. Before you say “he’ll just have to deal with,” put yourself in his shoes. Would you like that? Uh huh, we thought so.

4. It’s just unnecessary
The world is full of new people you can be friends with. Put the past and your ex behind you and move on. It’s not easy, but you can do it. We believe in you.

Is there any good reason to stay friends with your ex? Share with us below.

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Any body keeping close relationship with an ex is simply seeking a gateway to continue the former relationship

The love of God has been shared abroad in our hearts. Love never dies. Only the selfish human way of loving ends up in hatred. We ought to apply 1 Corinthians 13 as we love in our relationships. That will save us from a lot of problems in our relationships and marriages today.

why should i hate on anyone?
that's outright stupidity.

even some divorced couples still maintain a cordial level of friendship, more esp if they didn't hurt each other much,. they simply keep their mutual visits less frequent

Good points.....I see no reason being close to someone you used to love.
The only thing I do is to text HBD once in a year.
Call regularly at your own risk

I didnt read where it says u should hate ur ex...but fact,if ur still friends with ex then why breakup? Or u prefer him or her as a friend not a lover?

You r so on point, i can Only greet my ex if i spot her anywhere bt will never keep her contact

divinehand2003:
The love of God has been shared abroad in our hearts. Love never dies. Only the selfish human way of loving ends up in hatred. We ought to apply 1 Corinthians 13 as we love in our relationships. That will save us from a lot of problems in our relationships and marriages today.

what are u inisinuating ?

Brooke60:
Good points.....I see no reason being close to someone you used to love.
The only thing I do is to text HBD once in a year.
Call regularly at your own risk

u full of wisdom

Who wants to be friends with a mad or crazy ex? The type all your family sows aso ebi, follow you go church for Thanksgiving when u finally gree break down & up

Your village people still get awoof for u be that

SKhanmi:
Who wants to be friends with a mad or crazy ex? The type all your family sows aso ebi, follow you go church for Thanksgiving when u finally gree break down & up

Your village people still get awoof for u be that

u dey craze walahi

My own ex dey de same compound with me... I swear anitym i sight her na so my heart dey jump. I dey plan on parking out of that compound. I thought it was over until i saw one new guy for de area with her(dnt knw if they are dating oh) but belle no sweet me at all...even me don get another chikala but. Does she feels de same way as i feel?

meneski:
My own ex dey de same compound with me... I swear anitym i sight her na so my heart dey jump. I dey plan on parking out of that compound. I thought it was over until i saw one new guy for de area with her(dnt knw if they are dating oh) but belle no sweet me at all...even me don get another chikala but. Does she feels de same way as i feel?

She might

Ex called outta the blue today, got me reminiscing somewhat. Its gon take a miracle not to cheat on the main, Lord knows I feel it coming.

There is no point being in touch with ur ex, not saying u should keep malice but when you both cross path physically, just say hi and move on, dont even have his/her number or whatsapp, seeing that will bring feelings and temptation, ur ex is your ex, let bygone be bygone.

Cancel a date with a Yoruba girl, u will hear sumtin like "So u make me baff today for nothing?"

Op, delete the jargon u wrote up there and just quote Okafors law!

I don't know for u people o but as for me ,I like being in gud terms with all my ex,they always comes handy if konji come,all u have to do is to pick ur phone,greet them,chit chat with them,and remember to be emotional during the chat,and then invite her for a hot sex

really

I only maintain communication channel. Talk once a while, render assistance when necessary and of course keeping everything in the knowing of the present relationship.

Nice points

Olalan:
Any body keeping close relationship with an excellent is simply seeking a gateway to continue the former relationship

T9/autocomplete

Brooke60:
Good points.....I see no reason being close to someone you used to love.
The only thing I do is to text HBD once in a year.
Call regularly at your own risk

Even texting Hbd could could gradually turn to something else.....

I am talking from experiences...

Never a gud idea

i delete ex number immediately .... my only problem is they chat me up on whats app.... one still pays me a visit till date

Meanwhile okafor's law states that once you've been there before.. You can always check in...

Once de be always de be

I put all my exes where they belong, in the past! I don't care how long we have known each other, or how Much I have spent in the rship, once she is an ex, she is forgotten. Its as simple as that.

When it's over, it should stay completely over.......

Unless if babymama/babypapa has happened.....

That's why people should be condomised at all times in the field of play.....