Elder001:



90% of Nigerian ladies are like that ...


stop dating dependent ladies okay?.. there are many independent ladies everywhere.

isoriai. Also know that these so called independent ladies will not take your poo. It comes with a price tag too.

Bro, you ve been dating parasites with breasts and veevee, not females.

Those kinda gals re there to suck your finances dry while you will be doing it based on love n care. Most gals only stay coz of what dey get frm u, if you check well, dey re triple dating.

Itz wrong, bro.

yabas:


Lol, u'r not serious but I AM JUST TIRED OF THE CONSTANT DEMANDS

actually there are two things involved.

it is either you are living in rich man area or a poor msn area.
if you live in a rich man area you are save... but if you live in a poor man area there are two things involved.

you either learn to cope with the demands or you leave... if you leave,

there are two things involved.. you either moved to posh area or you need to go for deliverance

missyadorable:


Does he f^¢K his sisters?

what kind of useless and childish question is this?
so because he fvck you he should be spending on you... are you a prostitute?

Yankiss:

isoriai. Also know that these so called independent ladies will not take your poo. It comes with a price tag too.

I know... real independent ladies are less than 2% in Nigeria

franchasng:
working class my foot! working class ladies are the worst, in fact the more money Nigerian ladies earn, the more they demand from their man. its a shameful habit among our women and its what led guys into practicing hit and run to avoid huge spendings ahead

true... even ladies earning above 100k don't want to spend their money..

smh

franchasng:
bros stop deceiving yourself. there is no independent single lady in Nigeria.

I think the best to date is young girls from rich family background. others are the same; working o, schooling, unemployed o, they all demand from their men

How do Nigerian ladies really feel when they see these posts?
aren't they ashamed?.. Thank God I didn't meet any leech in my life

udemzy101:


Lol.. Even some of those saying naa, never I can't spend on a girl are doing so secretly

All dis people shouting date 28 years old girl bla bla bla...... ,why shld a guy who is in his own 26-29 date a 28 years old lady,abi as a guy na until u reach 30 something before u go start dating,dating also known as courtship shld b done with years and na dis same Nairaland some folks said most girls wey don near 30 years of age wey never marry na cos of runs de did while at younger age,so tell me,WHY SHLD I SETTLE FOR SUCH
THE WHOLE MATTER IS THAT AN AVERAGE NIGERIAN LADY'S BRAIN IS WIRED TO BELIEVE EVERY RELATIONSHIP SHE GETS INTO IS AN UPGRADING FROM POVERTY AND D ONLY THING SHE CAN OFFER IN RETURN IS HER BODY,SHIKENA AND THIS IS WHAT THEY DO UNTIL THEY START GETTING OLD BEYOND MARRIAGEABLE AGE, NA ONLY FEW KNOW HOW LIFE REALLY OPERATES AND SO THERE FOR THEY REASON LIKE IF I WAS IN HIS SHOES,WILL I ACCEPT THIS
AND to b honest,its more frustrating to know that what she could have asked her parent OR even try to manage d little she has while she is single on a norm will now b ur duty,no remorse or whatsoever
DAT ONE NA LOVE,ABEG PARK WELL

Oga, givers never lack

solasoulmusic:
I [s]don’t know how you want to be married but cannot provide for another without feeling somehow selfishness seems easy but the right one will meet you halfway at least men are a bit ungrateful lately some of you are not mentally ready but you want to settle down is this how you will abandon children when they ask you

Please if your not ready to give to the point where you are even insulted for it do not even bother[/s]

you always say shits..
Nobody will complain if the giving is reciprocal or the demands aren't too much.

what you just said up there.. is the man the only one that'll provide for the kids?? abi which man wan marry full time jobless housewife?

dododawa1:
Oga, givers never lack

Boiz keep giving and all they have in return is sex

are you normal at all?

Rosay15:
hello

Trust your day was as great as mine? Am jibade...hope you don't mind we chat privately?

Azam101:
That what makes you a man,but given is part of the relationship but not constant given without reciprocal like given you surprise gift like boxers, perfume, wrist watch,T. shirt even with your money. Note with a focus and determined lady to excel in life with you.

How many Nigerian ladies can purchase sure 40k perfume for their boyfriends?

who boxers help?.. smh

Royaldave200:


Trust your day was as great as mine? Am jibade...hope you don't mind we chat privately?

Na form the babe dey form oh.. all of them are the same

she'll still disturb you for cash if that's the reason you wanna chat her up

Elder001:


Na form the babe dey form oh.. all of them are the same

she'll still disturb you for cash if that's the reason you wanna chat her up

Lol thanks for the heads up bro .....but it's far from that

Funny thing is despite all these many talks..
Today some guys here will still pay house rent pay money for human hair.

Nigerian guys don suffer

Royaldave200:


Lol thanks for the heads up bro .....but it's far from that

You want to die young abi

Learn to say NO some times.
It doesn't hurt.

Elder001:



90% of Nigerian ladies are like that ...


stop dating dependent ladies okay?.. there are many independent ladies everywhere.

Many independent ladies everywhere... with 90% of them dependent on men as you claim. Bros Shey we no plenty pass the 10% wey remain

Elder001:



90% of Nigerian ladies are like that ...


stop dating dependent ladies okay?.. there are many independent ladies everywhere.

Many independent ladies everywhere... with 90% of them dependent on men as you claim. Bros Shey we no plenty pass the 10% wey remain

NaOto:


Many independent ladies everywhere... with 90% of them dependent on men as you claim. Bros Shey we no plenty pass the 10% wey remain

Many independent ladies everywhere... with 90% of them dependent on men as you claim. Bros Shey we no plenty pass the 10% wey remain

Elder001:


Na form the babe dey form oh.. all of them are the same

she'll still disturb you for cash if that's the reason you wanna chat her up

0% serious

Divay22:
Learn to say NO some times.
It doesn't hurt.

They'll die if they say no

why are ladies not claiming feminism here?

All the feminists on nairaland are just quiet..
when it comes to financial responsibility you won't see feminists.

Let any fool say men aren't superior to women on this site again. ..

Elder001:


what kind of useless and childish question is this?
so because he fvck you he should be spending on you... are you a prostitute?

easy.

highqueen:

easy.

These small girls are provoking me

If you are ugly and classless and you use money to attract Nigerian women, you are forgiven.
If you are a handsome fashionista Nigerian guy living in a well furnished apartment and you still spend money to attract Nigerian women, then you need to be diagnosed for ADHD.

Some of these girls have successful brothers who will not give them money and many times would still refer them to their parents.

If I don’t give and the next guy doesn’t give, she would have to Bleep one of us for free when her sexual hormones kick in.

One last message to all you guys tired of been exploited, stop having multitude of babies you can’t cater for on that your 60k Naira/month salary, let’s end the cycle once and for all.

I enjoy good sex in Scandinavia with just a cup of coffee.

fancy4eve:
my frwnd just admit dat u re broke, hate guys dat complains a lot. Y not stay single if u re tired nd stop making mountain outta no hills

my sister, with all due respect, I want to disagree with u, its not true. I don't know his financial status, but don't think or believe that because a guy raised this kind of question means he is broke, I will share my personal experience here for u and others to learn and reason with this op.

You know, I am born into normal Nigerian family; struggling family...grew up not having anything like girlfriend not until towards final year in school which ended when I went for NYSC due to financial issues; I couldn't cope with her financial demands with my NYSC allawee plus the distance, so we ended it against her wish though because she cried and begged but I couldn't continue; no money to foot your frequent requests, no money to transport u to and fro to come visit me in far away place I was serving, so there's no need to continue, we ended it after several dialogue failed. I really liked her cos she was so cute as in lol, and has manners but money, mba

During my NYSC, I met ladies from all tribes and class, thank God where I served lol. I met ladies from rich family who schooled abroad, I had so many options of ladies to date cos I was ladies' man during my NYSC even though I no fine

There was this Igbo chick from very rich family that came to NYSC with a driver, she so liked me and was just waiting for me to say; be my girlfriend, but there were many other chicks; Yoruba, Ibira, Hausa, etc that I was also close to and they were all waiting for me to pop the question, but because I tied myself again with NCCF (born again matter lol), I couldn't have the courage to start dating any.

But this Igbo chick was so into me, I was the only corper she talks with and hangs out with even during CDS. From our closeness, I got to discover she gets monthly upkeep of 100k from her rich parents, but guess what Sometimes she gulps this big money before month end and will be complaining to me....so I sat her down and we made a spending plan for her to cut down her expenses and I removed some unnecessary things from her to-do and to-have list, still who sai

There was this month her parents traveled for vac abroad and she gulped her upkeep before 16th of the month, so she ran to me, I shouted at her, scolded her, told her point blank that its wrong and totally unacceptable, she almost cried and even fell on my arms, I was tempted to begin kissing, I remembered my religious position, I held back and later made a transfer of 20k to her account, towards ending she repaid me though.

I observed her and noticed that I can't cope with her financial needs, so against fellow corpers and friends advice to date this girl o and marry her, I said never because only me knew what I was passing through

From my closeness to some of these ladies, I came to realize that this is a Nigerian women mentality and belief.

Now, back to op's lamentation lol and why I said he might not be broke like u said, I am going to use myself again as example.

Right now, I am not broke, I can't say if I am rich, I am far from it sha....but God is extremely awesome to me, and I am grateful....thats where I stand financially now....so I want to tell u my sister, at a point in every man's life, he do reflects on life, and this is one of the things he reflects on...especially when he is approaching 30yrs plus and still single and looking to settle down.

No reasonable guy with focus and big ambition desires to marry a liability or a financial baggage called a lady in the name of marriage, most that did it are regretting, I have such friends who made such mistakes and are regretting even though they are doing well financially.

My last ex that I nearly fell madly in love with, do u know why I broke up with her This demanding of a thing. Remember, I can foot all her bills, but cmon, its wrong for me considering I want to marry this lady na.

She's is this kind of hot lady that looks almost like Nadia Buari, from a rich family, working and above 26yrs, but she spends more than she earns and her parents are now retired; top civil servants as in directors with CBN and min of edu...

She doesn't ask for money though, but she is a fashionista, she can wear different super clothes everyday for one month...so the spending was on poor me lol...she will send me link of clothes from Jumia, Amazon (she knows my friends will help me get it and send cos I buy stuff a lot from Amazon). She will be like: "hun, check this out, dont u like it, I love it o, get it lets see how's gonna be on ya queen lol', and I couldn't turn down cos I really liked her, some out of say 10 links she sends, I may buy like 5 when in good mood.

It got to a point, I got tired after a friend met an Angel lady, a pretty doctor living in US, and this girl who even came from a poor family has awesome character, respect, manner, hardworking, gosh....I was swept away. Another friend met another angelic lady, as they told me about their lady and I saw with my korokoro eyes, I began to feel bad about my current relationship so I put a test, a financial test, my chick fell into the trap. She loved me yes, she was a virgin, even wanted me to de-v her, I refused cos I wanted to marry her and wanted her to keep it since we lived in far away cities, but i didn't consider all these, I quit angrily, she is still pleading to come back, but I have found another sha


This current one is very okay at the moment and being tipped for the final decision but I observing her on 3D. She seems cool-headed but I won't conclude until she passes all the tests I am about to set cos my childhood friends who are rich have been burnt, an uncle has been burnt too, close family members have, so I can't allow such in my and God will never allow me, baba God I beg o please have mercy, don't let me enter into an unfruitful marriage with a bad wife please father

comshots:
One told me straight that i would spend on her.Another one was indirectly telling her friend in my present that she could only date a guy who would be giving her ₦5k every month after i had asked her out.The other one asked me to lend her ₦5k to help cater for her sick mother.I no say that ₦5k go enter voicemail lastly.Well,i dey avoid them after that statement.There are other mugu to extract money from.

that gf demanding for 5k monthly is still a good pick , go for her

Some guys will say "as a man it's your duty to take care of your woman"

as a man my ass... is a girlfriend your woman?
the same ladies that are claiming equal rights with us abi?

any lady that'll say men aren't superior to women on nairaland.. I swear I'll tell her terrible words that can make her to attempt suicide.


Y'all should just accept men are kings and we can't and will never be equal.

franchasng:
my sister, with all due respect, I want to disagree with u, its not true. I don't know his financial status, but don't think or believe that because a guy raised this kind of question means he is broke, I will share my personal experience here for u and others to learn and reason with this op.

You know, I am born into normal Nigerian family; struggling family...grew up not having anything like girlfriend not until towards final year in school which ended when I went for NYSC due to financial issues; I couldn't cope with her financial demands with my NYSC allawee plus the distance, so we ended it against her wish though because she cried and begged but I couldn't continue; no money to foot your frequent requests, no money to transport u to and fro to come visit me in far away place I was serving, so there's no need to continue, we ended it after several dialogue failed. I really liked her cos she was so cute as in lol, and has manners but money, mba

During my NYSC, I met ladies from all tribes and class, thank God where I served lol. I met ladies from rich family who schooled abroad, I had so many options of ladies to date cos I was ladies' man during my NYSC even though I no fine

There was this Igbo chick from very rich family that came to NYSC with a driver, she so liked me and was just waiting for me to say; be my girlfriend, but there were many other chicks; Yoruba, Ibira, Hausa, etc that I was also close to and they were all waiting for me to pop the question, but because I tied myself again with NCCF (born again matter lol), I couldn't have the courage to start dating any.

But this Igbo chick was so into me, I was the only corper she talks with and hangs out with even during CDS. From our closeness, I got to discover she gets monthly upkeep of 100k from her rich parents, but guess what Sometimes she gulps this big money before month end and will be complaining to me....so I sat her down and we made a spending plan for her to cut down her expenses and I removed some unnecessary things from her to-do and to-have list, still who sai

There was this month her parents traveled for vac abroad and she gulped her upkeep before 16th of the month, so she ran to me, I shouted at her, scolded her, told her point blank that its wrong and totally unacceptable, she almost cried and even fell on my arms, I was tempted to begin kissing, I remembered my religious position, I held back and later made a transfer of 20k to her account, towards ending she repaid me though.

I observed her and noticed that I can't cope with her financial needs, so against fellow corpers and friends advice to date this girl o and marry her, I said never because only me knew what I was passing through

From my closeness to some of these ladies, I came to realize that this is a Nigerian women mentality and belief.

Now, back to op's lamentation lol and why I said he might not be broke like u said, I am going to use myself again as example.

Right now, I am not broke, I can't say if I am rich, I am far from it sha....but God is extremely awesome to me, and I am grateful....thats where I stand financially now....so I want to tell u my sister, at a point in every man's life, he do reflects on life, and this is one of the things he reflects on...especially when he is approaching 30yrs plus and still single and looking to settle down.

No reasonable guy with focus and big ambition desires to marry a liability or a financial baggage called a lady in the name of marriage, most that did it are regretting, I have such friends who made such mistakes and are regretting even though they are doing well financially.

My last ex that I nearly fell madly in love with, do u know why I broke up with her This demanding of a thing. Remember, I can foot all her bills, but cmon, its wrong for me considering I want to marry this lady na.

She's is this kind of hot lady that looks almost like Nadia Buari, from a rich family, working and above 26yrs, but she spends more than she earns and her parents are now retired; top civil servants as in directors with CBN and min of edu...

She doesn't ask for money though, but she is a fashionista, she can wear different super clothes everyday for one month...so the spending was on poor me lol...she will send me link of clothes from Jumia, Amazon (she knows my friends will help me get it and send cos I buy stuff a lot from Amazon). She will be like: "hun, check this out, dont u like it, I love it o, get it lets see how's gonna be on ya queen lol', and I couldn't turn down cos I really liked her, some out of say 10 links she sends, I may buy like 5 when in good mood.

It got to a point, I got tired after a friend met an Angel lady, a pretty doctor living in US, and this girl who even came from a poor family has awesome character, respect, manner, hardworking, gosh....I was swept away. Another friend met another angelic lady, as they told me about their lady and I saw with my korokoro eyes, I began to feel bad about my current relationship so I put a test, a financial test, my chick fell into the trap. She loved me yes, she was a virgin, even wanted me to de-v her, I refused cos I wanted to marry her and wanted her to keep it since we lived in far away cities, but i didn't consider all these, I quit angrily, she is still pleading to come back, but I have found another sha


This current one is very okay at the moment and being tipped for the final decision but I observing her on 3D. She seems cool-headed but I won't conclude until she passes all the tests I am about to set cos my childhood friends who are rich have been burnt, an uncle has been burnt too, close family members have, so I can't allow such in my and God will never allow me, baba God I beg o please have mercy, don't let me enter into an unfruitful marriage with a bad wife please father

I'm telling you... a friend of mine who married a liability in 2012 has sold his Hyundai.. someone that was fair before has turned black because of the burden

lawrence35:

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